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8 Reasons People Who Like Spending Time Alone Are Smarter and Stronger

8 Reasons People Who Like Spending Time Alone Are Smarter and Stronger

Today’s society encourages us to spend as much time as possible with other people; even when we are alone, we are texting, emailing, phoning, and Skyping each other. We are always expected to be doing something or going somewhere, but there are actually lots of benefits to spending time alone.

Solitude isn’t very popular in our constantly connected world, and often people who spend time alone are assumed to be lonely or sad. However, this is rarely the case; lots people enjoy spending time alone because it benefits them psychologically. Spending time alone is actually good for us, and it gives us the chance to relax and recharge.

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1. Spending Time Alone Will Make You More Confident

Unconfident people often rely on others to help with decisions, but spending time alone encourages you to make decisions for yourself. When you are alone, you can ignore other people’s opinions and ideas so that you can really focus on your own thoughts. You get the opportunity to weigh up all of the pros and cons so that you make the best possible decision, which helps to inspire confidence within ourselves.

2. Spending Time Alone Will Boost Your Productivity

When we are around other people, we often become distracted from our goals and priorities. When we are alone, we get the chance to really think about what matters to us, from work to family to money. This helps us to decide our goals and it also motivates us to work towards achieving our goals.

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3. Spending Time Alone Helps You to be Creative

Everyone is creative in different ways, but when we are around other people, we are more likely to do what the rest of the group is doing. When we are alone, outside influences are removed and we can do exactly as we please. Some people enjoy drawing or painting, and others might enjoy cooking, reading, writing, or making music. There are lots of different ways to be creative, and when we are alone we get the chance to explore our individual interests and abilities.

4. Spending Time Alone Will Clear Your Mind

Our society is filled with information and we often overload on the endless stream of information coming from work, social media, and our friends and family. Sometimes it is essential to take a break from the stream of information so that we can think about our lives and assess everything that is happening. Spending time alone allows us to clear our minds, which makes us happier and more relaxed.

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5. Spending Time Alone Will Help You to Solve Problems

The best solutions often come to us when we are alone and reflecting on our problems. Spending time alone helps us to work through a problem as we get the chance to really think about it. We can think about what caused the problem, as well as all the different ways we can do to solve the problem. We also get the opportunity to think about what we really want, which helps us to think of effective solutions.

6. Spending Time Alone Will Help You to Get Things Done

Most people have a list of things that they need to do, but it is difficult to tick anything off the list when you are always with people. When you are alone, you get uninterrupted time to work on your to-do list, and we often achieve a lot more when we are alone as there are no distractions. Even if it isn’t fun to work through the list, you will feel happy and productive when you finish working.

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7. Spending Time Alone Relieves Stress and Anxiety

Lots of people today suffer from stress and anxiety, and spending time alone helps us to de-stress and relax. When we are alone we don’t have to listen to other people’s problems or issues; we can just relax and do as we please.

8. Spending Time Alone Encourages You to be More Independent

One of the main benefits to spending time alone is that it inspires us to be more independent. When we are alone we can focus on personal progress, problem solving, and enjoying ourselves, which all encourage independence and self-love.

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The Gentle Art of Saying No

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No!

It’s a simple fact that you can never be productive if you take on too many commitments — you simply spread yourself too thin and will not be able to get anything done, at least not well or on time.

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But requests for your time are coming in all the time — through phone, email, IM or in person. To stay productive, and minimize stress, you have to learn the Gentle Art of Saying No — an art that many people have problems with.

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What’s so hard about saying no? Well, to start with, it can hurt, anger or disappoint the person you’re saying “no” to, and that’s not usually a fun task. Second, if you hope to work with that person in the future, you’ll want to continue to have a good relationship with that person, and saying “no” in the wrong way can jeopardize that.

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But it doesn’t have to be difficult or hard on your relationship. Here are the Top 10 tips for learning the Gentle Art of Saying No:

  1. Value your time. Know your commitments, and how valuable your precious time is. Then, when someone asks you to dedicate some of your time to a new commitment, you’ll know that you simply cannot do it. And tell them that: “I just can’t right now … my plate is overloaded as it is.”
  2. Know your priorities. Even if you do have some extra time (which for many of us is rare), is this new commitment really the way you want to spend that time? For myself, I know that more commitments means less time with my wife and kids, who are more important to me than anything.
  3. Practice saying no. Practice makes perfect. Saying “no” as often as you can is a great way to get better at it and more comfortable with saying the word. And sometimes, repeating the word is the only way to get a message through to extremely persistent people. When they keep insisting, just keep saying no. Eventually, they’ll get the message.
  4. Don’t apologize. A common way to start out is “I’m sorry but …” as people think that it sounds more polite. While politeness is important, apologizing just makes it sound weaker. You need to be firm, and unapologetic about guarding your time.
  5. Stop being nice. Again, it’s important to be polite, but being nice by saying yes all the time only hurts you. When you make it easy for people to grab your time (or money), they will continue to do it. But if you erect a wall, they will look for easier targets. Show them that your time is well guarded by being firm and turning down as many requests (that are not on your top priority list) as possible.
  6. Say no to your boss. Sometimes we feel that we have to say yes to our boss — they’re our boss, right? And if we say “no” then we look like we can’t handle the work — at least, that’s the common reasoning. But in fact, it’s the opposite — explain to your boss that by taking on too many commitments, you are weakening your productivity and jeopardizing your existing commitments. If your boss insists that you take on the project, go over your project or task list and ask him/her to re-prioritize, explaining that there’s only so much you can take on at one time.
  7. Pre-empting. It’s often much easier to pre-empt requests than to say “no” to them after the request has been made. If you know that requests are likely to be made, perhaps in a meeting, just say to everyone as soon as you come into the meeting, “Look guys, just to let you know, my week is booked full with some urgent projects and I won’t be able to take on any new requests.”
  8. Get back to you. Instead of providing an answer then and there, it’s often better to tell the person you’ll give their request some thought and get back to them. This will allow you to give it some consideration, and check your commitments and priorities. Then, if you can’t take on the request, simply tell them: “After giving this some thought, and checking my commitments, I won’t be able to accommodate the request at this time.” At least you gave it some consideration.
  9. Maybe later. If this is an option that you’d like to keep open, instead of just shutting the door on the person, it’s often better to just say, “This sounds like an interesting opportunity, but I just don’t have the time at the moment. Perhaps you could check back with me in [give a time frame].” Next time, when they check back with you, you might have some free time on your hands.
  10. It’s not you, it’s me. This classic dating rejection can work in other situations. Don’t be insincere about it, though. Often the person or project is a good one, but it’s just not right for you, at least not at this time. Simply say so — you can compliment the idea, the project, the person, the organization … but say that it’s not the right fit, or it’s not what you’re looking for at this time. Only say this if it’s true — people can sense insincerity.

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