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How Can Travelling Bring Romance To Your Life?

How Can Travelling Bring Romance To Your Life?

If you’ve read the book ‘Eat, Pray and Love’, you will soon realize that in the topic love, it’s a magical experience that happens while being completely unpredictable. Falling in love is an accident, it’s a surprise just as what travelling entitles. Sometimes couples rekindle their relationship while others find love for the first time. Innumerable romantic movies have based their storylines on the combustible combination of travelling and falling in love

The question is, does chivalry only exists in movies? Does travelling trigger chivalry or is it a cliché many of us still believe? There are many questions that pops up every now and then in our romantic minds.

It’s safe to say that when there’s travelling there’s always room for chivalry.

1. The Strangers Romance.

Growing up in a small town, I for one never believed in a stranger’s romance. I believed that if you’re falling in love, it’s either a huge romantic accident or it’s arranged by fate and parents. Growing up with such a conservative view, I failed to see any possibilities for a romantic chivalrous experience with a stranger until my first travelling experience.

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If you say jumping over a fence, being indulged in a mediocre Indian restaurant with the spiciest curry and ending the night trying to waltz is movie cliché, then this cliché became my Cinderella story. Sweden was where my stranger romance came happened. After continuous travelling for work, I had visited Sweden for the sole purpose of self-discovery.

Hence, if you’re single and looking for an adventure, choose countries you haven’t been in and always be open minded to what you might come across. If you’re heading to Croatia to bask in the sun and enjoy the history, always be open to talking to new people. In a random bar, you might just find someone to sweep you off your feet.

2. Couples Paradise.

I recall my friends complaining that their relationship has gone stale and both of them had been giving each other the cold shoulder. Over time some resort to Tinder for a fling while others consider a painful breakup. However, many fail to realize that one of the major problems in a relationship is the monotonous routine and a spontaneous trip may bring chivalry back into their lives.

For those who practice a constant routine and have an organized life, it’s difficult to be spontaneous. You work, you get back home, you go for a quick dinner date and talk about your problems. Your partner sees you day in and day out which creates a monotonous and un-attractive scenario.

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Therefore, taking a random trip to the land of romance such as France or to the land of mystery such as Japan would give you the sense of adventure your relationship needs. It will bring back the simple arguments and the missing connection, plus both sides will make attempts to be chivalrous and courteous to each other’s needs.

It brings back romance into every relationship and allows you to embrace it.

3. Allows You to Let Things Happen.

In our regular environment, we are rather up tight, and we prefer things being in a certain order. It helps us deal with life and challenges that’s thrown at us. This hinders us to be open to opportunities, we choose to have a checklist for our partners and end being extremely conservative with our choices. This leaves us very little options and leads us to many unpleasant memories.

Hence booking a flight or taking a train to a new place and planning for something spontaneous will give you an opportunity for self-discovery. You’ll discover yourself capable of experiencing a different adventure and being able to open up. You might enjoy a nice wine in Napa or you might enjoy a beautiful seaside view, however the most exciting thing could be meeting someone you find a connection with.

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Even if you know that after this vacation you may not meet each other or make this situation last forever, you will be able to open up and have fun. This emotion creates a fresh atmosphere that gives you a perspective of what you want. You will embrace the unprecedented and those “checklists” will be a forgotten memory.

Travelling allows you to unwind and be yourself, giving you a chance to discover yourself even when you’re back to your own reality.

4. Allows Your Relationship to Grow.

Growth is crucial towards any relationship, it’s an important criteria that ensures a longer lasting relationship. However, being together and being attached to your general lifestyle doesn’t give you the chance to appreciate each other. It restricts your relationship to be chivalrous and special, you adapt and you forget that being appreciated feels wonderful.

However, going on random vacations allows each of you to create surprises for each other and gives you a chance to get to know each other. You might bring her roses or you might take him for a romantic dinner by the beach, but at the end of the day you’ll appreciate each other more. This allows you to understand each other, share and be honest with your feelings. Furthermore, it allows you to be intimate and understand each other, giving you a chance for the impossible ; a close to perfect relationship.

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In a nutshell, in our modern day if you find it hard to be chivalrous, then take a trip somewhere. Change is always good no matter the circumstance. If you’re single, it allows you to explore yourself and if you’re in a relationship, it allows you to find balance.

Therefore, take a trip and make the best out of it.

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Last Updated on December 3, 2019

10 Life Lessons You’d Better Learn Early on in Life

10 Life Lessons You’d Better Learn Early on in Life

There are so many lessons I wish I had learned while I was young enough to appreciate and apply them. The thing with wisdom, and often with life lessons in general, is that they’re learned in retrospect, long after we needed them. The good news is that other people can benefit from our experiences and the lessons we’ve learned.

Here’re 10 important life lessons you should learn early on:

1. Money Will Never Solve Your Real Problems

Money is a tool; a commodity that buys you necessities and some nice “wants,” but it is not the panacea to your problems.

There are a great many people who are living on very little, yet have wonderfully full and happy lives… and there are sadly a great many people are living on quite a lot, yet have terribly miserable lives.

Money can buy a nice home, a great car, fabulous shoes, even a bit of security and some creature comforts, but it cannot fix a broken relationship, or cure loneliness, and the “happiness” it brings is only fleeting and not the kind that really and truly matters. Happiness is not for sale. If you’re expecting the “stuff” you can buy to “make it better,” you will never be happy.

2. Pace Yourself

Often when we’re young, just beginning our adult journey we feel as though we have to do everything at once. We need to decide everything, plan out our lives, experience everything, get to the top, find true love, figure out our life’s purpose, and do it all at the same time.

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Slow down—don’t rush into things. Let your life unfold. Wait a bit to see where it takes you, and take time to weigh your options. Enjoy every bite of food, take time to look around you, let the other person finish their side of the conversation. Allow yourself time to think, to mull a bit.

Taking action is critical. Working towards your goals and making plans for the future is commendable and often very useful, but rushing full-speed ahead towards anything is a one-way ticket to burnout and a good way to miss your life as it passes you by.

3. You Can’t Please Everyone

“I don’t know the secret to success, but the secret to failure is trying to please everyone” – Bill Cosby.

You don’t need everyone to agree with you or even like you. It’s human nature to want to belong, to be liked, respected and valued, but not at the expense of your integrity and happiness. Other people cannot give you the validation you seek. That has to come from inside.

Speak up, stick to your guns, assert yourself when you need to, demand respect, stay true to your values.

4. Your Health Is Your Most Valuable Asset

Health is an invaluable treasure—always appreciate, nurture, and protect it. Good health is often wasted on the young before they have a chance to appreciate it for what it’s worth.

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We tend to take our good health for granted, because it’s just there. We don’t have to worry about it, so we don’t really pay attention to it… until we have to.

Heart disease, bone density, stroke, many cancers—the list of many largely preventable diseases is long, so take care of your health now, or you’ll regret it later on.

5. You Don’t Always Get What You Want

“Life is what happens while you’re busy making other plans.” – John Lennon

No matter how carefully you plan and how hard you work, sometimes things just don’t work out the way you want them to… and that’s okay.

We have all of these expectations; predetermined visions of what our “ideal” life will look like, but all too often, that’s not the reality of the life we end up with. Sometimes our dreams fail and sometimes we just change our minds mid-course. Sometimes we have to flop to find the right course and sometimes we just have to try a few things before we find the right direction.

6. It’s Not All About You

You are not the epicenter of the universe. It’s very difficult to view the world from a perspective outside of your own, since we are always so focused on what’s happening in our own lives. What do I have to do today? What will this mean for me, for my career, for my life? What do I want?

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It’s normal to be intensely aware of everything that’s going on in your own life, but you need to pay as much attention to what’s happening around you, and how things affect other people in the world as you do to your own life. It helps to keep things in perspective.

7. There’s No Shame in Not Knowing

No one has it all figured out. Nobody has all the answers. There’s no shame in saying “I don’t know.” Pretending to be perfect doesn’t make you perfect. It just makes you neurotic to keep up the pretense of manufactured perfection.

We have this idea that there is some kind of stigma or shame in admitting our limitations or uncertainly, but we can’t possibly know everything. We all make mistakes and mess up occasionally. We learn as we go, that’s life.

Besides—nobody likes a know-it-all. A little vulnerability makes you human and oh so much more relatable.

8. Love Is More Than a Feeling; It’s a Choice

That burst of initial exhilaration, pulse quickening love and passion does not last long. But that doesn’t mean long-lasting love is not possible.

Love is not just a feeling; it’s a choice that you make every day. We have to choose to let annoyances pass, to forgive, to be kind, to respect, to support, to be faithful.

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Relationships take work. Sometimes it’s easy and sometimes it’s incredibly hard. It is up to us to choose how we want to act, think and speak in a relationship.

9. Perspective Is a Beautiful Thing

Typically, when we’re worried or upset, it’s because we’ve lost perspective. Everything that is happening in our lives seems so big, so important, so do or die, but in the grand picture, this single hiccup often means next to nothing.

The fight we’re having, the job we didn’t get, the real or imagined slight, the unexpected need to shift course, the thing we wanted, but didn’t get. Most of it won’t matter 20, 30, 40 years from now. It’s hard to see long term when all you know is short term, but unless it’s life-threatening, let it go, and move on.

10. Don’t Take Anything for Granted

We often don’t appreciate what we have until it’s gone: that includes your health, your family and friends, your job, the money you have or think you will have tomorrow.

When you’re young, it seems that your parents will always be there, but they won’t. You think you have plenty of time to get back in touch with your old friends or spend time with new ones, but you don’t. You have the money to spend, or you think you’ll have it next month, but you might not.

Nothing in your life is not guaranteed to be there tomorrow, including those you love.

This is a hard life lesson to learn, but it may be the most important of all: Life can change in an instant. Make sure you appreciate what you have, while you still have it.

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