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How Can Travelling Bring Romance To Your Life?

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How Can Travelling Bring Romance To Your Life?

If you’ve read the book ‘Eat, Pray and Love’, you will soon realize that in the topic love, it’s a magical experience that happens while being completely unpredictable. Falling in love is an accident, it’s a surprise just as what travelling entitles. Sometimes couples rekindle their relationship while others find love for the first time. Innumerable romantic movies have based their storylines on the combustible combination of travelling and falling in love

The question is, does chivalry only exists in movies? Does travelling trigger chivalry or is it a cliché many of us still believe? There are many questions that pops up every now and then in our romantic minds.

It’s safe to say that when there’s travelling there’s always room for chivalry.

1. The Strangers Romance.

Growing up in a small town, I for one never believed in a stranger’s romance. I believed that if you’re falling in love, it’s either a huge romantic accident or it’s arranged by fate and parents. Growing up with such a conservative view, I failed to see any possibilities for a romantic chivalrous experience with a stranger until my first travelling experience.

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If you say jumping over a fence, being indulged in a mediocre Indian restaurant with the spiciest curry and ending the night trying to waltz is movie cliché, then this cliché became my Cinderella story. Sweden was where my stranger romance came happened. After continuous travelling for work, I had visited Sweden for the sole purpose of self-discovery.

Hence, if you’re single and looking for an adventure, choose countries you haven’t been in and always be open minded to what you might come across. If you’re heading to Croatia to bask in the sun and enjoy the history, always be open to talking to new people. In a random bar, you might just find someone to sweep you off your feet.

2. Couples Paradise.

I recall my friends complaining that their relationship has gone stale and both of them had been giving each other the cold shoulder. Over time some resort to Tinder for a fling while others consider a painful breakup. However, many fail to realize that one of the major problems in a relationship is the monotonous routine and a spontaneous trip may bring chivalry back into their lives.

For those who practice a constant routine and have an organized life, it’s difficult to be spontaneous. You work, you get back home, you go for a quick dinner date and talk about your problems. Your partner sees you day in and day out which creates a monotonous and un-attractive scenario.

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Therefore, taking a random trip to the land of romance such as France or to the land of mystery such as Japan would give you the sense of adventure your relationship needs. It will bring back the simple arguments and the missing connection, plus both sides will make attempts to be chivalrous and courteous to each other’s needs.

It brings back romance into every relationship and allows you to embrace it.

3. Allows You to Let Things Happen.

In our regular environment, we are rather up tight, and we prefer things being in a certain order. It helps us deal with life and challenges that’s thrown at us. This hinders us to be open to opportunities, we choose to have a checklist for our partners and end being extremely conservative with our choices. This leaves us very little options and leads us to many unpleasant memories.

Hence booking a flight or taking a train to a new place and planning for something spontaneous will give you an opportunity for self-discovery. You’ll discover yourself capable of experiencing a different adventure and being able to open up. You might enjoy a nice wine in Napa or you might enjoy a beautiful seaside view, however the most exciting thing could be meeting someone you find a connection with.

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Even if you know that after this vacation you may not meet each other or make this situation last forever, you will be able to open up and have fun. This emotion creates a fresh atmosphere that gives you a perspective of what you want. You will embrace the unprecedented and those “checklists” will be a forgotten memory.

Travelling allows you to unwind and be yourself, giving you a chance to discover yourself even when you’re back to your own reality.

4. Allows Your Relationship to Grow.

Growth is crucial towards any relationship, it’s an important criteria that ensures a longer lasting relationship. However, being together and being attached to your general lifestyle doesn’t give you the chance to appreciate each other. It restricts your relationship to be chivalrous and special, you adapt and you forget that being appreciated feels wonderful.

However, going on random vacations allows each of you to create surprises for each other and gives you a chance to get to know each other. You might bring her roses or you might take him for a romantic dinner by the beach, but at the end of the day you’ll appreciate each other more. This allows you to understand each other, share and be honest with your feelings. Furthermore, it allows you to be intimate and understand each other, giving you a chance for the impossible ; a close to perfect relationship.

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In a nutshell, in our modern day if you find it hard to be chivalrous, then take a trip somewhere. Change is always good no matter the circumstance. If you’re single, it allows you to explore yourself and if you’re in a relationship, it allows you to find balance.

Therefore, take a trip and make the best out of it.

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How to Overcome the Fear of Public Speaking (A Step-by-Step Guide)

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How to Overcome the Fear of Public Speaking (A Step-by-Step Guide)

You’re standing behind the curtain, just about to make your way on stage to face the many faces half-shrouded in darkness in front of you. As you move towards the spotlight, your body starts to feel heavier with each step. A familiar thump echoes throughout your body – your heartbeat has gone off the charts.

Don’t worry, you’re not the only one with glossophobia(also known as speech anxiety or the fear of speaking to large crowds). Sometimes, the anxiety happens long before you even stand on stage.

Your body’s defence mechanism responds by causing a part of your brain to release adrenaline into your blood – the same chemical that gets released as if you were being chased by a lion.

Here’s a step-by-step guide to help you overcome your fear of public speaking:

1. Prepare yourself mentally and physically

According to experts, we’re built to display anxiety and to recognize it in others. If your body and mind are anxious, your audience will notice. Hence, it’s important to prepare yourself before the big show so that you arrive on stage confident, collected and ready.

“Your outside world is a reflection of your inside world. What goes on in the inside, shows on the outside.” – Bob Proctor

Exercising lightly before a presentation helps get your blood circulating and sends oxygen to the brain. Mental exercises, on the other hand, can help calm the mind and nerves. Here are some useful ways to calm your racing heart when you start to feel the butterflies in your stomach:

Warming up

If you’re nervous, chances are your body will feel the same way. Your body gets tense, your muscles feel tight or you’re breaking in cold sweat. The audience will notice you are nervous.

If you observe that this is exactly what is happening to you minutes before a speech, do a couple of stretches to loosen and relax your body. It’s better to warm up before every speech as it helps to increase the functional potential of the body as a whole. Not only that, it increases muscle efficiency, improves reaction time and your movements.

Here are some exercises to loosen up your body before show time:

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  1. Neck and shoulder rolls – This helps relieve upper body muscle tension and pressure as the rolls focus on rotating the head and shoulders, loosening the muscle. Stress and anxiety can make us rigid within this area which can make you feel agitated, especially when standing.
  2. Arm stretches – We often use this part of our muscles during a speech or presentation through our hand gestures and movements. Stretching these muscles can reduce arm fatigue, loosen you up and improve your body language range.
  3. Waist twists – Place your hands on your hips and rotate your waist in a circular motion. This exercise focuses on loosening the abdominal and lower back regions which is essential as it can cause discomfort and pain, further amplifying any anxieties you may experience.

Stay hydrated

Ever felt parched seconds before speaking? And then coming up on stage sounding raspy and scratchy in front of the audience? This happens because the adrenaline from stage fright causes your mouth to feel dried out.

To prevent all that, it’s essential we stay adequately hydrated before a speech. A sip of water will do the trick. However, do drink in moderation so that you won’t need to go to the bathroom constantly.

Try to avoid sugary beverages and caffeine, since it’s a diuretic – meaning you’ll feel thirstier. It will also amplify your anxiety which prevents you from speaking smoothly.

Meditate

Meditation is well-known as a powerful tool to calm the mind. ABC’s Dan Harris, co-anchor of Nightline and Good Morning America weekend and author of the book titled10% Happier , recommends that meditation can help individuals to feel significantly calmer, faster.

Meditation is like a workout for your mind. It gives you the strength and focus to filter out the negativity and distractions with words of encouragement, confidence and strength.

Mindfulness meditation, in particular, is a popular method to calm yourself before going up on the big stage. The practice involves sitting comfortably, focusing on your breathing and then bringing your mind’s attention to the present without drifting into concerns about the past or future – which likely includes floundering on stage.

Here’s a nice example of guided meditation before public speaking:

2. Focus on your goal

One thing people with a fear of public speaking have in common is focusing too much on themselves and the possibility of failure.

Do I look funny? What if I can’t remember what to say? Do I look stupid? Will people listen to me? Does anyone care about what I’m talking about?’

Instead of thinking this way, shift your attention to your one true purpose – contributing something of value to your audience.

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Decide on the progress you’d like your audience to make after your presentation. Notice their movements and expressions to adapt your speech to ensure that they are having a good time to leave the room as better people.

If your own focus isn’t beneficial and what it should be when you’re speaking, then shift it to what does. This is also key to establishing trust during your presentation as the audience can clearly see that you have their interests at heart.[1]

3. Convert negativity to positivity

There are two sides constantly battling inside of us – one is filled with strength and courage while the other is doubt and insecurities. Which one will you feed?

‘What if I mess up this speech? What if I’m not funny enough? What if I forget what to say?’

It’s no wonder why many of us are uncomfortable giving a presentation. All we do is bring ourselves down before we got a chance to prove ourselves. This is also known as a self-fulfilling prophecy – a belief that comes true because we are acting as if it already is. If you think you’re incompetent, then it will eventually become true.

Motivational coaches tout that positive mantras and affirmations tend to boost your confidents for the moments that matter most. Say to yourself: “I’ll ace this speech and I can do it!”

Take advantage of your adrenaline rush to encourage positive outcome rather than thinking of the negative ‘what ifs’.

Here’s a video of Psychologist Kelly McGonigal who encourages her audience to turn stress into something positive as well as provide methods on how to cope with it:

4. Understand your content

Knowing your content at your fingertips helps reduce your anxiety because there is one less thing to worry about. One way to get there is to practice numerous times before your actual speech.

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However, memorizing your script word-for-word is not encouraged. You can end up freezing should you forget something. You’ll also risk sounding unnatural and less approachable.

“No amount of reading or memorizing will make you successful in life. It is the understanding and the application of wise thought that counts.” – Bob Proctor

Many people unconsciously make the mistake of reading from their slides or memorizing their script word-for-word without understanding their content – a definite way to stress themselves out.

Understanding your speech flow and content makes it easier for you to convert ideas and concepts into your own words which you can then clearly explain to others in a conversational manner. Designing your slides to include text prompts is also an easy hack to ensure you get to quickly recall your flow when your mind goes blank.[2]

One way to understand is to memorize the over-arching concepts or ideas in your pitch. It helps you speak more naturally and let your personality shine through. It’s almost like taking your audience on a journey with a few key milestones.

5. Practice makes perfect

Like most people, many of us are not naturally attuned to public speaking. Rarely do individuals walk up to a large audience and present flawlessly without any research and preparation.

In fact, some of the top presenters make it look easy during showtime because they have spent countless hours behind-the-scenes in deep practice. Even great speakers like the late John F. Kennedy would spend months preparing his speech beforehand.

Public speaking, like any other skill, requires practice – whether it be practicing your speech countless of times in front of a mirror or making notes. As the saying goes, practice makes perfect!

6. Be authentic

There’s nothing wrong with feeling stressed before going up to speak in front of an audience.

Many people fear public speaking because they fear others will judge them for showing their true, vulnerable self. However, vulnerability can sometimes help you come across as more authentic and relatable as a speaker.

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Drop the pretence of trying to act or speak like someone else and you’ll find that it’s worth the risk. You become more genuine, flexible and spontaneous, which makes it easier to handle unpredictable situations – whether it’s getting tough questions from the crowd or experiencing an unexpected technical difficulty.

To find out your authentic style of speaking is easy. Just pick a topic or issue you are passionate about and discuss this like you normally would with a close family or friend. It is like having a conversation with someone in a personal one-to-one setting. A great way to do this on stage is to select a random audience member(with a hopefully calming face) and speak to a single person at a time during your speech. You’ll find that it’s easier trying to connect to one person at a time than a whole room.

With that said, being comfortable enough to be yourself in front of others may take a little time and some experience, depending how comfortable you are with being yourself in front of others. But once you embrace it, stage fright will not be as intimidating as you initially thought.

Presenters like Barack Obama are a prime example of a genuine and passionate speaker:

7. Post speech evaluation

Last but not the least, if you’ve done public speaking and have been scarred from a bad experience, try seeing it as a lesson learned to improve yourself as a speaker.

Don’t beat yourself up after a presentation

We are the hardest on ourselves and it’s good to be. But when you finish delivering your speech or presentation, give yourself some recognition and a pat on the back.

You managed to finish whatever you had to do and did not give up. You did not let your fears and insecurities get to you. Take a little more pride in your work and believe in yourself.

Improve your next speech

As mentioned before, practice does make perfect. If you want to improve your public speaking skills, try asking someone to film you during a speech or presentation. Afterwards, watch and observe what you can do to improve yourself next time.

Here are some questions you can ask yourself after every speech:

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  • How did I do?
  • Are there any areas for improvement?
  • Did I sound or look stressed?
  • Did I stumble on my words? Why?
  • Was I saying “um” too often?
  • How was the flow of the speech?

Write everything you observed down and keep practicing and improving. In time, you’ll be able to better manage your fears of public speaking and appear more confident when it counts.

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