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4 Countries To Visit If You’re In Asia

4 Countries To Visit If You’re In Asia

Being on a plane or on a train, they will always bring upon new memories and interesting adventures. For a traveler it feels like being on a constant treasure hunt. Despite the mainstream reasons of self-discovery and liberation, travelling encompasses even more.

Being half Asian and half African gave me a chance to enjoy various cultures plus growing up in Malaysia, I was in the center point for all Asian countries. From a very young age I was constantly exposed to travelling and different cultures hence change never surprised me.

However, I recently realized the difference in opinions and skepticism regarding travelling to other continents. It was surprising hence I thought I would shed some light to one of my favorite continents regarding a few countries one should visit.

Its summer and if you’re looking for a cheap getaway then this is it.

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1.Japan- Land of Food, Culture and Nature.

Japan has been a country famous for its outrageous style, beautiful nature, freshest of fish and anime’s. That nation has been an example for hard work, perseverance and success throughout history. Tokyo, the capital of this wonderland is the home for the new generation of fashion and style while also becoming the nation’s capital for food and culture.

Fugu one of the most delicate cuisine is served by the highly qualified chefs of Japan. These Chefs are from the highest class and belong to the 35% of those who passed. Fugu being the most dangerous yet sought after dish in the world is among the arrays of Japanese cuisine and fishes. If you’re a fan of fish, food and people this is one place to visit and if you happen to pass by the Harajuku train station make sure to visit the Michelin Star sushi restaurant, even if you don’t get to enjoy the meal at least you can watch him preparing one.

Sakura’s or Cherry Blossoms have been the highlight of Japanese culture for years, we see them in brochures, advertisements, movies and anime’s. It’s been embedded in our souls that Japanese is surrounded by this beautiful romantic flowers and this has aided to the large Japanese wedding industry.  Every Spring has become an attraction for people from all around the world to have their dream kimono wedding beneath the sea of Sakura’s. Hence, even if it’s too late to watch the Sakura’s be sure to catch the beautiful view from Mount Fuji and all the scenic nature.

So if you’re planning to head to Japan this year, make sure to enjoy your adventures with a fine glass of Sake.

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2.Taiwan – The Bridge Between Wild Night and Wild Life.

Individuality depends on one’s perspective, it defines us and defines our principals, likes and dislikes. This same concept defines our preferred vacation and what we would like to see. When you speak of Asia, you’ll find a huge bridge between the young and the old. You’ll notice the wild souls of the young doesn’t match the calm and centered souls of the old.

In a world where taboos are the dividend within culture, Taiwan has surpassed all the odds and bridged both the old and new together. Taipei the nation’s capital has become the hub spot of the latest night life and entertainment. It allows the young to enjoy a cultural form of night life and fun. Therefore, becoming the colorful neon city we have all known it for.

On the other side, for those nature enthusiasts there are amazing rainforest and beautiful mountains to take upon a hiking challenge. Among the countries national treasures are its amazing flora and fauna as well as its beautiful temples. For many this temple becomes a meditation spot and a place of self-discovery.

Therefore, if you’re heading to Taiwan make sure to indulge in the street cuisine before heading for a wild adventure.

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3.India – An Alice in Wonderland.

Alice’s Wonderland is the perfect description for India. For those who are planning to travel to India, then the time between April till the end of August is a terrible idea for a visit.as the heat and humidity will make your travel a nightmare. So always plan your trip to India a year ahead.

However, despite the heat and humidity and its imperfections, India has one of the most welcoming population in the world. From its Kumbha Mela in Varanasi where you get to see all form of holy processions till it’s beautiful mountain tops, India will definitely guarantee you an adventure. However, one must always remember India offers different experience in each state, the states in the North offer a more quiet, mature and historic experience while the states in the South from Kerala to Chennai offer a variety of colors, music, spiciness and intuitive adventure.

You’ll find women tying sari’s cook the most divine food and street cuisine as equivalent as a 5 Star meal. Hence if you’re heading to India, make sure to enjoy the spicy food as much as you enjoy an adventure. As you reach the end of your trip, you might have just been part of a whole new wonderland.

4.Bhutan- Being Calm Is a Way of Life.

Our lives are filled with hassle and stress, despite various articles suggesting otherwise, the truth is we are all stressed to a certain extent. We all want to achieve certain things in life and motivational quotes makes us push harder and faster. We never stop to catch a breath until we are absolutely forced to take one.

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If that’s the case, then Bhutan is the place to be. Bhutan is a land locked country with around 700000 to 800000 inhabitants. It’s a country is small in size but huge in character and beliefs towards calmness and balance of the universe. Interestingly, they are also the biggest followers of the Phallic religion, which features the male genitalia. It represents fertility, growth and prosperity hence if you’re lucky you might catch the once in a life time parade.

Apart from that, you’ll also be able to enjoy beautiful nature and interesting cuisines, that represent their culture and heritage. However, do keep in mind to always respect their traditions and beliefs as it’s the core of their lives.

Asia is an amazing continent, full of surprises, good food and various culture hence this places are a handful of names from my experience. However, if you would prefer to visit other parts of Asia there are various channels that could offer you great help.

Travelling is an amazing feeling, do experience it to the fullest.

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How to Let Go of Toxic People in Your Life

How to Let Go of Toxic People in Your Life

“Entitlement is an expression of conditional love. Nobody is ever entitled to your love. You always have a right to protect your mental, emotional, and physical well-being by removing yourself from toxic people and circumstances.” -Dr. Janice Anderson & Kiersten Anderson

It’s not always obvious if you have someone toxic in your life. A toxic relationship is one that is harmful to you. A toxic person can create distress to the degree you feel inadequate and isolated. So, what makes a toxic person?

A toxic person has toxic behavior, meaning it’s not that the whole person is toxic[1]. It’s what they do that counts. Most toxic people run from accountability and misrepresent reality to you. They misrepresent your worth and your ability to heal from them can be stifled the longer you keep them in your life. You have a role to play with it as well; if your values are dismissed by them and you don’t act on it, you have allowed room for toxicity to grow.

When you are in a toxic relationship, you feel less than. You feel as though you are not worth anyone’s time or effort. You feel unheard, and sometimes you feel unsafe. You don’t feel good about yourself in a toxic relationship, whether it be with a partner, friend, or family member.

You may stay in a toxic relationship for a number of reasons. You may believe yourself to be a burden, have a lack of boundaries, resist change, fear conflict, try to be a people pleaser, find yourself codependent, or are partially stuck in a pattern or unhealthy cycle of abuse.

Letting go of toxic people may not be easy. In order to do so, you have to know why or how they are toxic to you and read between the lines that they do not have your best interests in mind.

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Letting go of toxic people is hard because you are good and want to see the good in others. You think their apologies are authentic. You have trouble believing they are being dishonest. You don’t spend time healing from it. You get pulled back into the pain because you don’t want it to end. However, if you feel like something isn’t right, it probably isn’t right.

You should walk away from a toxic person because you need to preserve your peace. You need to feel like yourself again. And you need better support.

Letting go of toxic people can involve four major steps.

1. Recognize the Red Flags

Red flags are signs a person is being toxic. It’s when someone shows characteristics that you should feel caution about. It’s when you feel any level of dissatisfaction and distrust. Trust your gut. When you recognize red flags, you can evaluate whether a person is trying to manipulate you or not. This gives you some level of control over what you allow in your life. The earlier you detect these behaviors, the better off you will be.

Red flags can include:

  • They always put themselves first.
  • They point out imperfections and sabotage your self-esteem.
  • You may feel drained or used when you’re around them.
  • What you give isn’t reciprocated. They don’t return the goodness you provide as a friend.
  • They ignore your boundaries and get angry when you tell them “no.”
  • You catch them in half truths or outright lies when you confront them about anything.
  • You are the villain; they are the victim.
  • Second chances always lead to repeated patterns of behavior.
  • They may engage in abuse.

2. Set Boundaries

There are emotional boundaries that one can set, but there are also physical ones[2]. You can leave any time. Setting boundaries is also an important part of self-care.

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You shouldn’t walk on eggshells. Tell them how you feel. Are they respecting you, fulfilling your needs, and listening to you? If not, it’s time to set up a healthy emotional distance and start letting go of toxic people around you.

There are levels to this. You have your inner circle, which could include family, and then you have acquaintances and strangers. If a toxic person is in your inner circle, it’s time to pull back and put up some boundaries for them to follow. If they can’t hear you out, you can cut off the connection completely.

You can give second chances, but you have to be careful. If someone knows they can get away with something, they will do it again. If there’s any chance for the relationship, they have to know not to cross certain lines.

3. Invest in Yourself

You deserve to know you are worthwhile. Try to remember that things will get better and that anything is possible. How do you do so? Invest in yourself.

This means self care, goal setting, surrounding yourself with positive support, and feeling a sense of peace. Your greatest ambition should be to love yourself. Without self-love, letting go of toxic people will be difficult.

Every relationship is a risk, but if you know yourself and what you will allow, toxic people will have less of a hold over you. If you are a giver or people pleaser, you are most at risk to being in a one-sided relationship. You shouldn’t be punished for caring, but sometimes trust needs to be earned. If you have self-love, you are treating yourself the best way possible. You know that others need to meet your standards; otherwise, they don’t get to be a part of your life.

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It’s possible that you can love yourself and still not see the signs. It can be difficult for some to be aware that toxic people exist. However,, if you know how much you mean to others in your life and what you are worth, you will be less likely to take on a relationship that is harmful to you or repeat negative patterns. Self-love is how we get out of toxic relationships, but it’s also how they never begin.

4. Know When Forgiveness Is Possible

There are times a person will prove their worth to you. They may make a mistake that makes them seem like a horrible person. They may forget to be good to you because of their own issues. They may just have no example of what a healthy relationship looks like. They may have an inflated ego that really comes from insecurity. The list goes on.

If they apologize, that’s a start. Look at their actions. Are they changing for the better because they really want to change or just seeming to in order to manipulate you? A person may control others with their image or perceived personality, but if you see through them, you may be able to discern the degree to which they are willing to be there for you.

If they start to do the right thing, you may begin to trust them again. Don’t start forgiving them until time has passed and you are sure there is growth, even if they show vulnerability or remorse. You can give a second chance if they truly have an awakening. Otherwise, it’s best to get out. Don’t let them walk all over you; let them walk out the door.

If you do give a second change and they still refuse to change, you have every right to remove them and continue the process of letting go of toxic people. The moment you even want to leave may also be a good time to get out. You don’t have to compromise yourself in order to care for them.

Forgiveness is the release of resentment or anger[3]. Forgiveness doesn’t mean reconciliation. You have to go back to the same relationship or accept the same harmful behaviors from someone. You don’t have to let them back in. You don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do.

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Remember, forgiveness is ultimately for you, not them. You don’t need that person in your life in order to forgive them, and if you give them a second chance, proceed with caution.

Final Thoughts

Recognize the red flags, set boundaries, invest in yourself, and know when forgiveness is possible. This is how you cope with a toxic person impacting your life. You have power in the direction of your life and the people who accompany you as you move forward. Use it.

If a person is worthwhile, they will prove themselves through their actions, not their words. If they cross certain lines that really harm you, you owe them nothing. You have every right to feel what you feel and to be upset. Honor your feelings and communicate them because it’ll only continue to keep happening if you don’t.

If this is happening to you, it’s time to put a stop to it. It’s time to take control. It’s time to live for yourself, not for what others say about you. It’s time to set your standards higher than they’ve ever been before. And most of all, it’s time to let go.

Resource reminder: A physically abusive relationship is ALWAYS toxic. There are resources for you. Always speak up.

If you are in such a cycle or domestic violence or abuse reach out for help. For example, there is The National Domestic Violence Hotline (https://www.thehotline.org/) which can be reached at 1−800−799−7233. There are other ways to get help if you simply ask for it. 

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