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4 Out-Of-The-Box Birthday Ideas For Your Older Boyfriend

4 Out-Of-The-Box Birthday Ideas For Your Older Boyfriend

If you’re a millennial with an older boyfriend, there’s a good chance you struggle to pick out gifts for your partner. Men can be difficult to shop for, and an older boyfriend is likely far more financially secure than you are. Anything he wants, he probably has.

So what do you do when his birthday or a holiday rolls around? It’s tempting to fall back on old cliches like cologne and neckties, but you know in your heart that he doesn’t want that. Nobody wants that.

When you’re thinking about gifts for older men, throw out materialism. He doesn’t want a thing. Don’t get him a thing. Get him something that produces a specific emotion, get him something with a purpose. Useful gifts, or ‘experiential’ gifts, are the name of the game.

A shave

Chances are your man shaves daily or near-daily. A shave doesn’t seem like the most fun gift to give. But the gift of a shave doesn’t mean purchasing him a shaving kit or performing it on him yourself—it means making a reservation with a local barber for a spa-like shaving session. There is a reason that personal grooming is one of the most popular gifts for the over 40s.

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This gift will be received well by most older men. It’s something they likely rarely, if ever, splurge on for themselves, and offers many of the benefits of a spa visit without the feminine associations. His masculinity can remain intact while he relaxes.

Barbers use straight razors, which make for a smooth, clean, long-lasting shave, and your boyfriend will appreciate the gesture and the chance to indulge.

Wet bar equipment

Okay, chances are, if your boyfriend is a grown man, he has a wet bar at home already. Don’t go out and buy him stuff he already has, by any means. However, almost no one has a fully equipped wet bar.

Take a look at his collection, and see what’s missing. Does he have a muddler? A shaker set? Maybe he needs a cabinet to organize it in, or a decent set of cocktail glasses. Whiskey stones can help keep a good whiskey cool without diluting it, and also make an excellent addition to any wet bar.

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Something that spruces up his wet bar and adds value and function to it would be an excellent gift. It helps him entertain, has long-lasting benefits and allows him to splurge, again, on something he likely is neglecting.

Alcohol

This is an easy one, but it’s true. A good-quality wine, liqueur or spirit will make an excellent gift for older men, particularly if you put in the effort to figure out what kind of alcohol he’d like.

It’s important to do research before picking up a gift in this category, both on your boyfriend and on alcohol in general. If he’s a wine drinker, a good bottle of wine will be far more helpful than a bottle of vodka, but if he prefers cocktails then something stronger is better.

Put effort into finding the perfect alcohol for him. Consider incorporating some sentimentality—my mother secretly purchased wine from a vineyard my parents had visited some years back for a Father’s Day gift one year. It was thoughtful, delicious and something he never would have purchased on his own.

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Put thought into this gift. He can buy alcohol on his own—it’s the meaning that makes this gift special.

Power tools

Not all men like power tools. But if your boyfriend’s a handyman, he absolutely does. Get him something missing from his collection, something he might have fun using. Some men are still thrilled by the sheer force of a chainsaw and consider that an absolute blast.

Get him a nail gun, which can open up a whole new world of projects. Or a circular saw, or a complete tool box if the one he has is getting worn down. This is objectively the least exciting gift to get someone, but you’d be surprised how much joy a man can feel with a saw in his hands.

If you’re shopping for your boyfriend and absolutely stumped, try to think about gifts in terms of two categories: practical, and emotional. If there’s no emotional component or practical component to the gift, it’s probably a waste of time.

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It’s hard to shop for men, especially men who seem to have everything. But a bit of thought and effort will lead you to the perfect gift for your partner, no matter what the occasion.

Featured photo credit: Vladimir Pustovit via flickr.com

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Last Updated on April 9, 2020

How to Think Positive Thoughts When Feeling Negative

How to Think Positive Thoughts When Feeling Negative

Positive thinking can lead to a lot of positive change in your life. Developing an optimistic outlook can be good for both your physical and mental health.

But sometimes, certain situations arise in life that makes it hard to keep a positive outlook. Take steps to make positive thinking become more like your second nature and you’ll reap the biggest benefits.

Here are 10 ways to make thinking positive thoughts easy:

1. Spend Time with Positive People

If you surround yourself with constant complainers, their negativity is likely to rub off on you.

Spend time with positive friends and family members to increase the likelihood that their positive thinking habits will become yours too. It’s hard to be negative when everyone around you is so positive.

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Learn How to Surround Yourself With Positive People.

2. Take Responsibility for Your Behavior

When you encounter problems and difficulties in life, don’t play the role of the victim. Acknowledge your role in the situation and take responsibility for your behavior.

Accepting responsibility can help you learn from mistakes and prevent you from blaming others unfairly.

3. Contribute to the Community

One of the best ways to feel good about what you have, is to focus on what you have to give.

Volunteer in some manner and give back to the community. Helping others can give you a new outlook on the world and can assist you with positive thinking.

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4. Read Positive and Inspirational Materials

Spend time each day reading something that encourages positive thinking. Read the Bible, spiritual material, or inspirational quotes to help you focus on what’s important to you in life. It can be a great way to start and end your day.

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5. Recognize and Replace Negative Thoughts

You won’t be successful at positive thinking if you’re still plagued by frequent negative thoughts. Learn to recognize and replace thoughts that are overly negative. Often, thoughts that include words like “always” and “never” signal that they aren’t true.

If you find yourself thinking something such as, “I always mess everything up,” replace it with something more realistic such as, “Sometimes I make mistakes but I learn from them.”

There’s no need to make your thoughts unrealistically positive, but instead, make them more realistic.

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6. Establish and Work Toward Goals

It’s easier to be positive about problems and setbacks when you have goals that you’re working toward. Goals will give you motivation to overcome those obstacles when you encounter problems along the way. Without clear goals, it’s harder to make decisions and gauge your progress.

Learn to set SMART goals to help you achieve more.

7. Consider the Consequences of Negativity

Spend some time thinking about the consequences of negative thinking. Often, it can become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

For example, a person who thinks, “I probably won’t get this job interview,” may put less effort into the interview. As a result, he may decrease his chances of getting the job.

Create a list of all the ways negative thinking impacts your life. It likely influences your behavior, your relationships, and your feelings. Then, create a list of the ways in which positive thinking could be beneficial.

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8. Offer Compliments to Others

Look for reasons to compliment others. Be genuine in your praise and compliments, but offer it frequently. This will help you look for the good in other people.

9. Create a Daily Gratitude List

If you start keeping a daily gratitude list, you’ll start noticing exactly how much you have to be thankful for. This can help you focus on the positive in your life instead of thinking about all the bad things that have happened in the day.

Getting in the habit of showing an attitude of gratitude makes positive thinking more of a habit. Here’re 40 Simple Ways To Practice Gratitude.

10. Practice Self-Care

Take good care of yourself and you’ll be more equipped to think positively.

Get plenty of rest and exercise and practice managing your stress well. Taking care of your physical and mental health will provide you with more energy to focus on positive thinking.

Learn about these 30 Self-Care Habits for a Strong and Healthy Mind, Body and Spirit.

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