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5 Secrets To Success From An Army Ranger

5 Secrets To Success From An Army Ranger

Have you ever met that person that is quiet and subdued then, you get to know them a little more you find out that they are quite the bad ass? Well, I had the opportunity to sit down with a friend a mine, Tom, recently and I asked him about his life as an Army Ranger and what lessons he was able to take with him. Let me briefly pause here to thank all of you who serve or have served in the armed forces. I am truly in awe how you risk your lives for our freedom. Thank you, thank you, and thank you.

Okay, back to Tom. As I listened to the stories Tom was telling me, some of which I know I couldn’t do, I couldn’t help but think, ‘man, this is one bad ass dude’. You’d never know it when you meet him, but trust me, he is. As recalled the lessons he had learned, this is what he taught me.

Be Prepared

Tom recounted some of the training he went through and it’s no secret how hard these men and women train, especially at the elite levels of the military. What did make me stop and think is that it’s way more than just the physical training but the mental training.

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Do you take the time to mentally prepare for what you are about to face each day or do you head into battle without a plan? Knowing what I’ve seen throughout my career, many just go with the flow and end up getting wrapped up in the riptides of life. Set yourself up for success and prepare yourself, every day.

Trust

Tom’s life was, literally, in the hands of his brothers as were theirs in his. He explained how deep the level of trust went within the team and part of their preparation was to trust each as though their lives depended on it, because it usually did. Do you trust your preparation and the plans you make or do you doubt yourself and your team? If you have thought through your plan and taken every precaution to ensure your success, you need to trust and go for it.

I’ve seen far too many people get caught up in self-doubt and stop executing on a successful plan. I’m talking about myself here as well. Trust in what you’re training and preparation.

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Don’t Quit

We’ve all hear that you should not quit, but we also know this is easier said than done. Through his training and missions, Tom found out that he had a greater resolve than he thought possible. There were times when he wanted to quit but at first his team wouldn’t let him, then he learned to not allow himself to quit. Over time, a sense of responsibility was instilled in him which would never allow him to quit.

Do you stick with your goals and see them through or do you stop and start and never finish what you started. You owe it to yourself to NEVER GIVE UP – as Winston Churchill said.

Create a Sense of Responsibility

Tom quickly knew and felt a sense of responsibility to his team. He knew that they were only as strong as the weakest link. Because he also knew that the weakest link could mean the difference between life and death, he took his responsibility seriously. He wasn’t about to quit and more than that, he was going to do whatever it took to ensure the success of the team so they all came back alive.

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Thankfully, many of you won’t have to risk your lives, but you will be responsible for the livelihood of others, whether they are your family or you employees and coworkers. Does this sense of responsibility burn inside you to the point where come hell or high water, you too will do whatever it takes?

Take Action

Finally, Tom shared; you just have to take action. Much of the time fear surrounded him. However, he knew if he didn’t take the necessary action he, or his team, may be killed. Are you sitting on the sidelines waiting to make a decision or are you taking the necessary action to do the thing you need and were meant to do? If you are doubting yourself, don’t. If you are doing something of significance you will have fear.

The difference between those that think of doing something great and those that do something great is the action they take. So get out there and take action. YOU ARE WORTH IT!

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Featured photo credit: Elliott Plack via flickr.com

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Last Updated on June 24, 2019

Why Social Media Might Be Causing Depression

Why Social Media Might Be Causing Depression

A study [1] published in Depression and Anxiety found that social media users are more likely to be depressed. This was just one of the huge number of studies linking social media and depression[2] . But why exactly do platforms like Facebook and Instagram make people so unhappy? Well, we don’t know yet for sure, but there are some explanations.

Social Media Could Lead to Depression

Depression is a serious medical condition that affects how you think, feel, and behave. Social media may lead to depression in predisposed individuals or make existing symptoms of depression[3] worse explains[4] the study above’s senior author Dr. Brian Primack. So, the problem may not be in social media per se, but how we use it.

Signs You’re Suffering From “Social Media Depression”

If you feel like social media is having a negative impact on your mood, then you may be suffering from “social media depression.” Look for symptoms like:

• low self-esteem,

• negative self-talk,

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• a low mood,

• irritability,

• a lack of interest in activities once enjoyed,

• and social withdrawal.

If you’ve had these symptoms for more than two weeks and if this is how you feel most of the time, then you are likely depressed. Although “social media depression “is not a term recognized in the medical setting, social media depression seems to be a real phenomenon affecting around 50% of social media users. As explained in a review study[5] published in Cyberpsychology, Behavior, and Social Networking, if a person has a certain predisposition to depression and other mental disorders, social media use may only worsen their mental health.

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Social Media Could Crush Self-Esteem

We know that social media and depression are in some way linked, but why is this so? Well, according to Igor Pantic, MD, Ph.D.[6], social media use skews your perception about other people’s lives and traits. To explain this further, most people like to portray an idealized image of their lives, personal traits, and appearance on sites like Facebook and Instagram. If you confuse this idealized image with reality, you may be under the false impression that everyone is better than you which can crush your self-esteem and lead to depression. This is especially true for teens and young adults who are more likely to compare themselves to others. If you already suffer from low self-esteem, the illusion that everyone has it better off than you will just make you feel worse.

Causing Social Isolation and Other Negative Emotions

Another commonly cited reason for the negative impact of social media on mental health is its link with social isolation. Depressed people are more likely to isolate themselves socially and chose only to interact indirectly through social media platforms. But communication online tends to be superficial and is lacking when compared to real-life interaction explains Panic. What this means is not that social media leads to isolation but the other way around, possibly explaining why we find so many depressed persons on these sites.

Lastly, social media use may generate negative emotions in you like envy, jealousy, dislike, loneliness, and many others and this may worsen your depressive symptoms.

Why We Need to Take This Seriously

Both depression and social media use are on the rise according to epidemiological studies. Since each one has an impact on the other, we have to start thinking of healthier ways to use social media. Teens and young adults are especially vulnerable to the negative impact of social media on mental health.

Advice on Social Media Use

Although these findings did not provide any cause-effect explanation regarding Facebook and depression[7], they still do prove that social media use may not be a good way to handle depression. For this reason, the leading authors of these studies gave some suggestions as to how clinicians and people can make use of such findings.

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One suggestion is that clinicians should ask patients about their social media habits. Then they can advise them on how to change their outlook on social media use or even suggest limiting their time spent on social media.

Some social media users may also exhibit addictive behavior; they may spend too much time due to compulsive urges. Any compulsive behavior is bound to lead to feelings of guilt which can worsen depressive symptoms.

Having Unhealthy Relationship with Social Media

If you feel like your relationship with social media is unhealthy, then consider the advice on healthy social media use provided by psychology experts from Links Psychology[8]:

Avoid negative social comparison – always keep in mind that how people portray themselves and their lives on social media is not a realistic picture, but rather an idealized one. Also, avoid comparing yourself to others because this behavior can lead to negative self-talk.

Remember that social media is not a replacement for real life – Social media is great for staying in touch and having fun, but it should never replace real-world interactions.

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Avoid releasing personal information – For your safety and privacy, make sure to be careful with what you post online.

Report users who bully and harass you – It’s easy to be a bully in the anonymous and distant world of social media. Don’t take such offense personally and report those who abuse social media to harass others.

The bits of advice listed above can help you establish a healthy relationship with social media. Always keep these things in mind to avoid losing an objective perspective of what social media is and how it is different from real life. If you are currently suffering from depression, talk to your doctor about what is bothering you so that you can get the treatment you need to get better. Tell your doctor about your social media use and see if they could give you some advice on this topic.

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