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4 Things You Can Do To Feel More Positive

4 Things You Can Do To Feel More Positive

An average person can have anywhere from twenty five thousand to fifty thousand thoughts during just one day, and if you’re a pessimist or if you’re having a bad period this seems like a huge amount of darkness, doesn’t it?

Anxiety and stress are not taken seriously enough. People simply continue to give into negativity because they don’t feel concrete consequences, but the harsh truth is that it will negatively affect you in your old days, if not sooner. Another not-so-bright exit after a longer time period when you’re feeling caged in by your thoughts is depression. Dealing with mental disorders is often more challenging than with physical ones.

Here’s a simple test that will allow you to find out whether or not you should do some work on your overall mood. Ask yourself, when was the last time you felt true happiness. If your answer isn’t satisfactory, and I’m sure this is something you can estimate by yourself, you should know that you’re the one responsible for the quality of your life. You should take control.

1. Understand where Negativity Comes From

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    In order to eliminate or cure something, you need to determine its source, because you won’t have much success otherwise – it would be just like trying to fight an enemy you don’t see by randomly swinging your hands in the dark. So – who or what is the source of your anxiety?

    Many people have problems they believe are impossible to tackle in any way, like having a huge debt left by their parents, being completely dissatisfied with a career, or getting over a tough break up. Sure, these are all situations without a clear “bad guy” to point your finger at, but that doesn’t mean you can deny their negative energy.

    Instead of being angry with everyone in your office because you don’t even like being there, you should use your free time to find another job you’ll actually like. Getting over a breakup doesn’t have to be that bad, because you can and should meet new people and use this newfound time to learn more about yourself. And as far as the money goes, everyone has issues with it – you should develop a long-term plan for dealing with yours and stop thinking negatively about it.

    2. Change Your Routine

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      I’m a strong advocate of comfort zones – they allow me to think clearly, I feel safe whilst in one and the chances of feeling anxious are practically non-existent. Although I support and understand people who like theirs, there’s one thing I’d like to put out there – life shouldn’t be predictable 24/7. We are all slaves of our habits and that’s not the way to live your life because it has so much more to offer.

      Not all of us are good at being adventurous and spontaneous; some people simply aren’t cut out for that. However, you can hang out with people who are and allow your spirit to be wild and unpredictable. Routines are comfortable because they provide us with stability, but enjoying life and being open-minded is how you create memories.

      Learn about yourself and experiment by trying new things. It doesn’t have to be about the big stuff, you know – you can try new meals or exotic foods and it doesn’t matter if you don’t like them. Listen to your mind and body,  and allow yourself to appreciate small things because that’s what being alive is all about.

      3.    Failure Isn’t the End

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        Negativity comes in many forms and frustrations are one of the most common shapes of it we encounter on a daily basis. A lot of people out there have real difficulties with failure and even if its smallest forms, like having your plans ruined by the weather.

        One piece of advice from highly successful people seems to be very repetitive when it comes to their advice on staying positive; it doesn’t matter how many times you fall, because your success will be a reflection of how many times you’re able to pick yourself up.

        Therefore, failure isn’t the end, it’s actually a new beginning. In times of trouble and dark thoughts, we often wish for a clean slate and that is exactly what’s in front of us. If you’d just change your point of view, you could change your pessimistic nature and become a cheerful optimist – all it takes is a bit of will.

        Make Yourself Useful

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          A certain way to feel good about yourself is that you feel capable and needed. Confidence is one of the first things that goes as negativity claims its reign over your mind, and you should work on increasing your confidence levels because it will definitely make you feel better.

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          I’m sure you have a project or two (or a dozen) that you’ve been planning to conduct for ages now, and this is the perfect time to begin. As far as I’m concerned, doing something around your home should be your choice here, because the chances are you have a bathroom that needs remodeling or a roof that needs fixing, and you should focus your energy on that exactly. Even those small and boring household chores like washing dishes can help you become more focused and relaxed. Even if you’re passive and you lack the willpower right now, it will all change as soon as you start, and once you’re done, you will be aware of the fact you have done something beautiful to make your surroundings even more comfortable.

          Another way to feel good about yourself is by helping a fellow human. It doesn’t have to be anyone in particular. Being there for a member of your family is the most rewarding feeling in the world, but if your loved ones are currently problem-free, you should help out a charity or volunteer in a soup kitchen. Either one you choose, I’m positive you’ll be positive about yourself.

          Being trapped in a particular mindset isn’t an easy thing to deal with or to escape, but you can do it. The bottom line is that no one and nothing should stand in your way of happiness – not even your own mind. Positivity isn’t a goal that’s unreachable. So, change your filter and start looking at the world as if you are seeing it for the very first time.

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          Last Updated on December 9, 2019

          5 Simple Ways to Relieve Stress Effectively

          5 Simple Ways to Relieve Stress Effectively

          Everyone experiences mental stress at one time or another. Maybe you’re starting a new career, job, or business, or you feel incredibly overwhelmed between work, parenting, and your love life (or a lack of it). It could even be that you simply feel that you have way too much to do and not enough time to do it,  plus, on top of everything, nothing seems to be going the way it should!

          Yup, we all experience mental stress from time-to-time, and that’s okay as long as you have the tools, techniques and knowledge that allow you to fully relieve it once it comes.

          Here are 5 tips for relieving mental stress when it comes so you can function at your best while feeling good (and doing well) in work, love, or life:

          1. Get Rationally Optimistic

          Mental stress starts with your perception of your experiences. For instance, most people get stressed out when they perceive their reality as “being wrong” in some way. Essentially, they have a set idea of how things “should be” at any given moment, and when reality ends up being different (not even necessarily bad), they get stressed.

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          This process is simply a result of perception and can be easily “fixed” by recognizing that although life might not always be going as YOU think it should, it’s still going as it should—for your own benefit.

          In fact, once you fully recognize that everything in your life ultimately happens for your own growth, progress, and development—so you can achieve your goals and dreams—your perception works in your favor. You soon process and respond to your experience of life differently, for your advantage. That’s the essence of becoming “rationally optimistic.”

          The result: no more mental stress.

          2. Unplug

          Just like you might need to unplug your computer when it starts acting all crazy, you should also “unplug” your mind.

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          How on earth do you unplug your mind? Simple: just meditate.

          It isn’t nearly difficult or complicated as some people think, so, if you don’t already meditate, give it a try. Whether you meditate for 5 minutes, 30 minutes, or 2 hours, this is a surefire way to reduce mental stress.

          Meditation has been scientifically proven to relax your body (resulting in less mental stress), while also reducing anxiety and high blood pressure.

          3. Easy on the Caffeine

          Yes, we know, we know—everyone loves a nice java buzz, and that’s okay, but there’s a fine line between a small caffeine pick-me-up and a racing heart and mind that throws you into a frenzy of mental stress.

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          Try giving up caffeine for a while and see how you feel. And, if that’s completely out of the question for you, at least try to minimize it. You might find that lots of your mental stress mysteriously “disappears” as your caffeine intake goes down.

          4. Attack Mental Stress Via the Back Door

          That’s right: your body and mind are part of the whole being, and are constantly influencing and affecting each other. If you’re experiencing a lot of mental stress, try to reduce it by calming your body down—a calm body equals a calmer mind.

          How do you calm your body down and reduce physical stress? A  great way to reduce physical stress (thereby reducing mental stress) is to take natural supplements that are proven to reduce stress and anxiety while lifting your mood. Three good ones to look into are kava-kava, St John’s wort, and rhodiola rosea:

          • Kava-kava is a natural plant known to have mild sedative properties, and you should be able to find it at your natural health food store or vitamin store. It’s available in capsules or liquid extract form.
          • St John’s wort is a natural flower used to treat depression. Again, it’s found at your local health store in capsules or liquid. Because it uplifts mood (enabling you to see the brighter side of all experiences) it helps relieve mental stress as well.
          • Rhodiola rosea is a natural plant shown to reduce stress and uplift mood, and Russian athletes have been using it forever. Like the other two supplements mentioned, rhodiola rosea can be found at your natural health store in capsule or liquid form.

          While these supplements are all natural and can be very helpful for most people, always check with your health care provider first as they can cause side-effects depending on your current health situation etc.

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          5. Good Old-Fashioned Exercise

          This tip has been around forever because it works. Nothing relieves mental stress like running, kickboxing—you name it. Anything super-physical will wipe out most of your mental stresses once the exercise endorphins (happy chemicals) are released into your brain.

          The result: mental stress will be gone!

          So, if you’re feeling overwhelmed or just plain stressed, try using some of the above tips. You can even print this out or save it to refer to regularly.

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