“If you don’t impact your surroundings, your surroundings will impact you.”
Have you heard this quote before? Ever thought about it?
If your mind isn’t occupied with reaching a goal or solving a problem on a daily basis, the chances are that you’re in a rut. Being in this state, you start being an embodiment of your surroundings. In this state, you don’t think, you are bored all the time, you lack energy. If you’re in a rut, you’re not going forward — or even worse, you’re degrading. An empty mind will try to get some info from the surroundings to prevent dullness and plain boredom.
When you think about it, it makes sense.
Our homes indeed are a center point of our lives. They are both a primal need and the primary source of comfort. But really, the impact of our surroundings on the quality of our lives is so immense, and it can’t get anymore personal than our home. Our daily lives and jobs are stressful enough, and living this way for years can have a detrimental effect on our health and wellbeing. At the end of the day, we need to have a place that we gladly go back to.
If you lack energy, enthusiasm, creativity, or productivity, altering your home and improving it may change your life in a way that you couldn’t imagine. Just start doing something about it.
This is your little corner in the world, so you should organize and optimize it according to your needs and desires. The question is, what can you do?
Paint your rooms
Decorating your room should be something that you do from time to time. Not all of us are the same, and different people prefer different colors. You should, of course, pick ones that suit you and your personality. But keep in mind to combine the colors carefully so it all looks good in the end.
Selecting the right color combination for your home is probably one of the most exciting things to experience when it comes to working on your interior. Colors can influence your perception of room sizes, as well as the size and shape of your furnishings. After you read a few important details about colors that we have prepared, you will be ready for painting.
First things first, it’s important to know that every color has a value that affects your subconscious. Before you select one, think about how some colors make you feel, here’s a short guide:
It’s been confirmed that the color red can raise your blood pressure, breathing speed, and heart rate.
If you want to use this color in home decoration, we would advise you to use it in your bedroom, where you spend fewer waking hours.
This color does the opposite of red. It will lower your blood pressure, as well as slow down your breathing and normalize it.
The best place to use this color is in your living room or a room where you spend most of your waking hours.
This color resembles the sun, and therefore can make us feel happier. This is an excellent choice for a dining room, kitchen, or even bathroom.
You can apply this color in every room where uplifting and energizing is needed. Also, use it in your halls to create a friendly and welcoming feeling.
Green is considered to be the most pleasant color for the human eye. One of the most-used color combinations for living spaces is green along with blue and yellow.
Having these colors in your home, from the bedroom to the bathroom, will help to improve your mood and even your health.
Once you know the impact of colors on your psyche, we hope that you have a good foundation for choosing the best colors for you and your home.
Improve your bathroom
Painting the walls is not the only thing`that you can do to optimize your bathroom for ultimate health benefits. If you don’t spend a lot of time in your bathroom, then you should replace your bathtub with a shower cabin. By doing this, your bathing time can be decreased by 50%. However, if you enjoy sit baths, stick with the bathtub. Also, putting a few house plants in there would be an excellent idea. Since bathrooms are usually not big, having some plants will help you breathe easier after you steam up the small room with hot water.Advertising
Germs and bacteria are your worst enemies in this room and should be taken care of. Mold around the tub is the first sign of a neglected bathroom. Next, shower curtains can be toxic to your body if you’re using non-nylon ones. Clean faucets, not too many chemicals for cleaning, and chlorine in the water will all affect your mood and your health.
The design of your bathroom elements is another point to focus on. Use your favorite colors or a light blue/white combination. A big, well-lit mirror is a must. The bathroom is the place to get creative if you don’t have much space. Multi-functional, useful details that fit the overall tone will enhance the experience and contribute to your wellbeing.
Upgrade your lighting
When it comes to lighting, it’s best to consult an expert. Most people still have only one lightbulb per room, which results in low lighting and is taxing on the eyes. Today, we have bulbs that expend a lot less energy, so you can feel free to use more of them.
Lightning can be a big reason behind a great mood or a bad mood. It affects us on a subconscious level as we perceive light as a source of emphasis and energy. A dark room is good for movie nights — that’s it. Humans are visual beings, and today’s interior designers make wonders with rooms just by changing the lighting.
A reason to seek assistance from an interior designer is that it’s not easy to put 3 or 4 lightbulbs in a room and make it look good. Professionals know the right spots to place the lighting so that you get the most amount of light and a pleasant atmosphere.
Take care of air humidity
Air dryness can cause some troubles, especially for people who have problems with their sinuses. When the air that you breathe is too dry, your mucus won’t flow properly, and therefore your sinuses won’t drain as well as they should.
Humidity can be dangerous as well – it can be the reason for those “mysterious” headaches that come without reason. Developing mold and fungus can stimulate our allergy receptors, resulting in a developing allergy which can worsen quality of life significantly. During the hot months of the year, humidity can be very unpleasant. Both low and high humidity can make your life miserable without you even knowing it or looking for a solution.
An air humidifier is the perfect solution for your lodging. It will maintain the proper levels of humidity and remove all the potential threats to your health. The main reason to get one of these devices is the health of your respiratory organs and overall health. In order to get the best air humidifier, you need to inspect the different models and types in detail. Look for the perfect coverage and power, while following up with functions and advanced modes as well.
Get yourself a robot vacuum cleaner
If you are working five days a week and don’t have much time to clean your house, the weekend is surely not the time when you want to do this. Cleaning can be a huge problem, but it’s necessary to maintain your hygiene and health. Having someone to help you with these duties is more than welcome, and here’s an interesting idea: get a robot vacuum cleaner.Advertising
These robotic devices rely on GPS mapping to clean your house and they are built to cover as much area of the house as possible. Areas under furniture often contain a lot of dust and spider webs, simply because people don’t clean under them a lot. Robotic cleaners like this are able to go under furniture and wipe everything clean.
The best thing about these vacuum cleaners is that they’re easy to set up and prepare for vacuuming. Once they are done, all you have to do is put them back in their place. The only flaw is that they can’t go up and down the stairs. But hey, once it’s done cleaning one floor, you need only a few seconds to move it to another. If you feel that you could benefit from one of these devices, research robot vacuum cleaner buying tips to get the best bang for your buck.
Improve your yard
What makes a perfect yard? A swimming pool, a wooden table, and comfy chairs? Sure it sounds good, but adding a few plants could greatly benefit your health and sanity. Plants like English ivy, bamboo palm, peace lily, and lady palm can help you relax and provide you with shade to lay in.
Nothing’s better than a perfectly trimmed, organized yard. By working on your yard, you’ll have a sanctuary to escape to while feeling stressed. To have the perfect yard, you’ll need some tools.
- Lawn Mower – a fundamental tool for maintaining the perfect lawn. Here’s more on which lawn mower to buy.
- Garden Rake and Lawn-and-Leaf Rake – for handling leaves, soil, and grass. You can get them anywhere.
- Grape Hoe – for more demanding work.
- Pruning and Lopping Shears – to handle stubborn and problematic 1-1/2-inch-thick branches.
- Trowel – efficient for digging holes while planting seeds.
- Air Blower – for general cleaning and clearing. Here’s more info on getting the best air blower.
- Chainsaw – wood cutting, bigger works, and making wider cuts are impossible without this tool. Here’s more info on getting the best chainsaw.
- Pole Saw – branches high from the ground will be much more reachable with a 12-foot pole mini-chainsaw. A very practical and useful tool. Here’s how to choose the best pole saw for your yard.
- String Trimmer – a finer cutting along lawn edges is much more efficient with a string trimmer. Here’s how to choose a perfect string trimmer.
A lot of tools may be required depending on your yard — it all depends on the yard size and the complexity. The above-mentioned tools make for a well-equipped setup, which can get you ready for every possible situation that you might have. Along the way, you’ll start to love your yard more and more. It will become “your place.”
Let more daylight into your living room
The psychological benefits of a proper amount of the natural light are more than positive. By using daylight, you will save money on your energy bills. When it comes to health, sunlight can reduce production of some bacteria and dangerous microorganisms that could infest your house.
Besides being a natural disinfectant, it can also boost your white blood cell counts, help you sleep better overnight, raise your energy, and much more.
On a psychological level, bringing more sunlight into your room brings more enthusiasm and endorphins into your system. Humans are made to enjoy light, so try to have it as much of it as possible. If possible, broaden your windows. It will enhance your life significantly.
Make your bed every morning
Even though it may sound silly, this makes all the difference in the world. It is proven that establishing a habit of making your bed each morning will make you more productive during the day. Just think about it like this: you wake up in the morning, make your bed, and after turning around, you notice a pile of laundry in your bedroom. Now you will be motivated to move it to the hamper. Once you do that, you might see some laundry already inside, which will make you start your load.Advertising
That is how the chain of motivation starts — from smaller to gradually bigger tasks during your day. If you are in a rush, you might not have time to make your bed perfectly. Just tossing the covers up will make it look good, and this will still give you motivation for upcoming tasks.
Don’t be a hoarder
Many of us have a drawer or a closet filled with stuff that needs sorting. For some people, it’s memorabilia from their youth, for others, it’s old magazines, and there are some that will even save old yogurt containers. Always take out your trash on time, and throw out the things that you do not need as soon as possible. If they can be used again, donate them.
How can collecting old stuff can be bad for you? More things will attract more dust and harm your breathing, but it can also lead to depression. Also, it endangers your house because even a small spark can set everything ablaze — especially if you have a bunch of old papers. If you notice symptoms of hoarding with yourself or your loved ones, we advise you to get some medical help.
Take care of dust
House dust is one of the biggest causes of allergies today. To minimize the problems dust can produce, besides vacuuming, you should pay attention to places that you can’t reach with the vacuum cleaner.
For example, windows, under the lamp, behind the TV, under the desk, and so on. If you breathe in a lot of dust, your nose cannot filter it all, and some particles will end up in the lungs. After a while, these dust particles will stack up and have a negative impact on your health. You should clean your home every two or three days to keep it dust-free.
Doesn’t sound too complicated, right? There is no real reason for you not to start working on your ideal home today. Satisfaction and the fulfilling feeling of accomplishment will accompany you along every step of your home-improving journey. Some tasks are harder than others, but the fruits of your labor will be there for you to enjoy in the long term.
When you make your personal paradise a reality, your life changes
Picture this: you are home from work, you lay on your comfy couch and sink into the cozy atmosphere of your living room. There is not a thing that bothers you, and you are peaceful beyond words.
The best thing of all is that you made it happen.
You are the one who is responsible for these positive changes. Seeing how much joy you got just from fixing up your home might inspire you to make the same effort in other areas of your life that need some work.
A journey of a thousand miles begins with one step. It’s a cliché, but it is legitimate. Stop wishing and start doing, because to truly live means to be in action.
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Last Updated on August 12, 2019
How To Start a Conversation with Anyone
The hardest part of socializing, for many people, is how to start a conversation. However, it is a big mistake to go about life not making the first move and waiting for someone else to do it [in conversation or anything].
This isn’t to say you must always be the first in everything or initiate a conversation with everyone you see. What should be said, though, is once you get good at starting conversations, a lot of other things will progress in the way you want; such as networking and your love life.
Benefits of Initiating a Conversation
First thing is you should acknowledge why it is a good thing to be able to initiate conversations with strangers or people who you don’t know well:
- You’re not a loner with nothing to do.
- You look more approachable if you are comfortable approaching others.
- Meeting new people means developing a network of friends or peers which leads to more knowledge and experiences.
You can only learn so much alone, and I’m sure you’re aware of the benefits of learning from others. Being able to distinguish the ‘good from bad’ amongst a group of people will help in building a suitable network, or making a fun night.
All people are good in their own way. Being able to have a good time with anybody is a worthy trait and something to discuss another time. However, if you have a specific purpose while in social situations, you may want to stick with people who are suitable.
This means distinguishing between people who might suit you and your ‘purpose’ from those who probably won’t. This can require some people-judging, which I am generally very opposed to. However, this does make approaching people all the more easier.
It helps to motivate the conversation if you really want to know this person. Also, you’ll find your circle of friends and peers grows to something you really like and enjoy.
I don’t have many rules in this life, for conversation or anything; but when it comes to approaching strangers, there are a few I’d like used.
- Be polite. Within context, don’t be a creepy, arrogant loudmouth or anything. Acknowledge that you are in the company of strangers and don’t make anyone feel uncomfortable. First impressions mean something.
- Keep it light. Don’t launch into a heartfelt rant or a story of tragedy. We’re out to have fun.
- Don’t be a prude. This just means relax. This isn’t a science and conversation isn’t a fine art. Talk to people like you’re already friends.
- Be honest. Be yourself. People can tell.
Who To Talk To?
I’m of the ilk that likes to talk to everyone and anyone. Everyone has a story and good personalities. Some are harder to get to than others, but if you’re on a people-finding excursion, like I usually am, then everyone is pretty much fair game.
That said, if you’re out at a function and you want to build a network of people in your niche, you will want to distinguish those people from the others. Find the ‘leaders’ in a group of people or ask around for what you’re looking for.
In a more general environment, like at a bar, you will want to do the same sort of thing. Acknowledge what you actually want and try to distinguish suitable people. Once you find someone, or a group of people, that you want to meet and talk to, hop to it.
Think of a few things you might have in common. What did you notice about their dress sense?
The most important part of initiating conversation is, arguably, having confidence. It should be obvious that without any amount of self-esteem you will struggle. Having confidence in yourself and who you are makes this job very easy.
If you find yourself doubting your worth, or how interesting you are, make a few mental notes of why you are interesting and worth talking to. There is no question you are. You just have to realize that.
What do I do? What is interesting about it? What are my strong points and what are my weak ones? Confident people succeed because they play on their strengths.
Across the Room Rapport
This is rapport building without talking. It’s as simple as reciprocated eye contact and smiles etc. Acknowledging someone else’s presence before approaching them goes a long way to making introductions easier. You are instantly no longer just a random person.
In my other article How Not To Suck At Socializing, there are things you can do to make yourself appear approachable. This doesn’t necessarily mean people are going to flock to you. You’ll still probably need to initiate conversations.
People notice other people who are having a blast. If you’re that person, someone will acknowledge it and will make the ‘across the room rapport’ building a breeze. If you’re that person that is getting along great with their present company, others will want to talk to you. This will make your approach more comfortable for both parties.
When it comes to being social, the less analytical and formulaic you are the better. Try not to map out your every move and plan too much. Although we are talking about how to initiate conversation, these are really only tips. When it comes to the approach, though, there are some things you should keep in mind.
Different situations call for different approaches. Formal situations call for something more formal and relaxed ones should be relaxed.
At a work function, for instance, be a little formal and introduce yourself. People will want to know who you are and what you do right away. This isn’t to say you should only talk about work, but an introduction and handshake is appropriate.
If you’re at a bar, then things are very different and you should be much more open to unstructured introductions. Personally, I don’t like the idea of walking directly to someone to talk to them. It’s too direct. I like the sense of randomness that comes with meeting new people.
However, if there is rapport already established, go for it. If not, take a wander, buy a drink and be aware of where people are. If there is someone you would like to talk to, make yourself available and not sit all night etc.
When someone is alone and looks bored, do them a favor and approach them. No matter how bad the conversation might get, they should at least appreciate the company and friendliness.
Briefly, Approaching Groups
When integrating with an established group conversation, there is really one thing to know. That is to establish the ‘leader’ and introduce yourself to them. I mentioned that before, but here is how and why.
The why is the leader of a group conversation is probably the more social and outgoing. They will more readily accept your introduction and then introduce you to the rest of the group. This hierarchy in a group conversation is much more prevalent in formal situations where one person is leading the conversation.
A group of friends out for the night is much more difficult to crack. This may even be another topic for discussion, but one thing I know that works is initiating conversation with a ‘stray’. It sounds predatorial, but it works.
More often than not, this occurs without intention. But if you do really want to get into a group of friends, your best bet is approaching one of them while they are away from the group and being invited into the group.
It is possible, like everything, to approach a group outright and join them. However, this is almost an art and requires another specific post.
Topics Of Conversation
Other than confidence, the next thing people who have trouble initiating conversations lack is conversation! So here are a few tips to get the ball rolling:
- Small talk sucks. It’s boring and a lot of people already begin to zone out when questions like, “What do you do?” or “What’s with this weather?” come up. Just skip it.
- Everything is fair game. If you are in the company of someone and a thought strikes you, share it. “This drink is garbage! What are you drinking?” “Where did you get that outfit?”
- Opinions matter. This is any easy way to hit the ground running in conversation. Everyone has one, and when you share yours, another will reveal itself. The great thing about this line of thought is that you are instantly learning about the other person and what they like, dislike etc.
- Environment. The place you’re in is full of things to comment on. The DJ, band, fashions; start talking about what you see.
- Current events. Unless it’s something accessible or light-hearted, forget it. Don’t launch into your opinion on the war or politics. If your town has recently hosted a festival, ask what they think about it.
Although I’d like to write a full post on exiting strategies for conversations you don’t want to be in, here are some tips:
- The first thing is don’t stay in a conversation you’re not interested in. It’ll show and will be no fun for anyone.
- Be polite and excuse yourself. You’re probably out with friends, go back to them. Or buy a drink. Most people will probably want to finish the conversation as much as you.
Likewise, you could start another conversation.
If you’d like to learn more tips about starting a conversation, this guide maybe useful for you: How to Talk to Strangers Without Feeling Awkward
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