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Science Says If You’re Happy In A Relationship, Your Weight Will Change

Science Says If You’re Happy In A Relationship, Your Weight Will Change

We all have that one friend whose gained weight since they met “the one.” Maybe you are that friend. Happy couples no longer focus on their weight, but on their significant other. Here’s why:

  • They don’t have to impress anyone new
  • They skip the gym to spend more time together
  • They pick up bad eating habits from each other
  • They aren’t as active, opting to “stay in” with a pizza and Netflix.
  • They’re too happy to notice their pants no longer fit.

The Research

A new study from the Research on the National Center for Biotechnology has discovered being happy in love makes you gain weight. Researchers followed 169 couples over the course of four years. The couples were weighed twice a year, and provided details about the overall satisfaction of their married life. The study showed that the couples who reported happy marriages gained weight, while those in unhappy marriages stayed slim, and ultimately broke up.

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The explanation for this, per the study, is people in stable, happy relationships have already found their mate, and don’t need to impress them anymore. They are confident that their mate will stick around for the long haul. On the flip side, the couples who were unhappy were more likely to remain attractive, as they have the potential to seek a new mate.

Psychologist Andrea L. Meltzer, who led the research, said that couples should pay attention when it comes to their weight gain, because it can lead to health consequences such as diabetes and cardiovascular disease.

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“By focusing more on weight in terms of health implications as opposed to appearance implications, satisfied couples may be able to avoid potentially unhealthy weight gain, over time in their marriages,” she said.

Below are some tips to help you and your partner maintain a healthy weight (and have some fun in the process).

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Keep doing activities that were important to you before you were in a relationship.

Don’t stop your office softball team, or weekly yoga class just because you’re in a relationship. Even if it takes time away from your partner, giving it up may lead to eventual resentment, as well as extra pounds. Even if giving up your sport or activity doesn’t bug you at first, it can eventually lead to resentment as well as extra pounds.

Make working out together fun.

You don’t have to run, or lift weights at the gym. It could be a walk in the park, or ballroom dancing. Find something you both love and make it a date.

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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