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4 Ways to Find Love in The Millennial World

4 Ways to Find Love in The Millennial World

We have all been there, we have all walked the path of loneliness and missing that special someone holding our hands while hopping around next to us. We stay awake all night, scanning our Tinder’s and swiping left and right. However, we have all been there and you know exactly what I’m talking about. That’s right, we have all been single at one point in our lives.

Growing up can prove to be a hassle, as we are all nurtured to be the best at everything. We strive for greatness and we work hard for our career, academic, and health. Often times we neglect some part of our lives and this usually ends up being our relationship life. We sacrifice our dating life for a chance of success, financial stability, and an unlimited amount of Netflix.

Sometimes we head out on blind dates to boost our confidence but deep down we know that nothing beats true companionship. Therefore, we hold on to the idea of a fairytale where a charming prince or princess will fall down our path. However, as everything in life, relationships need work and effort.

This is why I decided to combine my knowledge of personal tinder experience and fairy tales together into 4 points that might change your situation in the dating world.

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1. If you’re short on time, try online dating.

In this millennial world, we are all short on time as we run to catch the next train, flight, or bus. During the weekends, we often look forward to crashing in our comfy beds and beautiful couches with some Netflix and peanuts. Walking out to a bar or to a restaurant and hunting for that special someone seems like another busy day. So we often reject such complications and stick with the routine.

However, thanks to technology and the new age smartphone century; we are all walking around with a dating app at our arm’s length. The most famous and dominating app, Tinder, allows us to find our match by swiping right and exclude the false matches by swiping left. This saves you time, energy, and money by giving you a close to perfect list of matches.

Over the years we have had our fair share of experience with broken hearts and failed dates, we have met our set of creeps and our pairs of mismatched people. Tinder and other online dating sites help reduce such stress and leads you to the right direction. Furthermore, if you’re a person who’s generally shy then this would the perfect way for you to start socializing.

Remember, traditions change and we are no longer in the era of Marilyn Monroe.

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2. There are no rules in dating.

Do you remember the times where we were given the rule book of dating? We were told that girls shouldn’t ask first and boys should be mean to show their interest. Over the years, this has created a huge anxiety among many in the dating culture. We walk pass someone in our office or on the street, we hesitate until the opportunity is eventually gone.

Guess what, there are no rules in dating. Dating is a form of self-expression, you express yourself to your partner. Always wear your confidence on you as a badge of pride and project this personality in your dating life. This becomes the turning point for you and the person you’re interested in as it allows you to communicate and enjoy each others company.

Furthermore, when you realize that there are no rules, you give yourself credit for every successful and failed attempt at finding the right match. Self-love and self-confidence are the first step when you have no rules. Therefore, make sure to take full control of it.

3. Be vibrant and create your own personality.

When you flip through any magazine or any article about dating and relationship choices, you find a list of things you have to be. Some say you have to practice a mysterious and sultry demeanor while others say practice a mature and jovial demeanor. How do one keep up with all the worldly expectations?

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The answer to that question is, you never can keep up with the changes of time and changes of expectations. My favorite example would be an awkward bird, the Ostrich. It’s an odd comparison, however, the ostrich’s dance and runs around in the most awkward position to impress their partner. They dance and parade around to woo their partner, the sense of confidence and passion is what makes their personality so attractive.

Create that same passion and confidence that those birds have, this will give you an interesting edge compared to those magazines. People are bored of repetition, therefore, be yourself and create your own personality. Being vibrant is never a bad thing therefore always try to keep a bright and open mindset.

BIG and Bold is never bad.

4. Focus on the likes compared to the dislikes.

Pessimism is part of human life, it’s easier to focus on the bad than the good. We practice the concept of “Let’s Check What’s Wrong”, and we focus on the worse part of life, personality and perspective. We eliminate and push away people and opportunity that comes forward in an imperfect form.

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However, have you wondered what it would be like if you stop focusing on the flaws of a person and only focus on their best qualities? How would it be like? Wouldn’t it be easier for us to accept another person?

Next time if you’re talking to someone, try focusing on their best qualities and give the person a chance. Try not to focus on their flaws, try not imposing your ideology or perspective towards the other person, and finally accept them for who they are. It may be difficult at first however soon you would realize it’s an accurate decision. We are all flawed humans, accepting it is the best way to find love in life.

In a nutshell, most times we may be rejected and most times the tips above may not be successful. However, in a long run, it will give you the confidence and morale needed to make the best of your dating life. Finding love is an amazing feeling because the best parts of life come in comfy packages.

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Last Updated on December 3, 2019

10 Life Lessons You’d Better Learn Early on in Life

10 Life Lessons You’d Better Learn Early on in Life

There are so many lessons I wish I had learned while I was young enough to appreciate and apply them. The thing with wisdom, and often with life lessons in general, is that they’re learned in retrospect, long after we needed them. The good news is that other people can benefit from our experiences and the lessons we’ve learned.

Here’re 10 important life lessons you should learn early on:

1. Money Will Never Solve Your Real Problems

Money is a tool; a commodity that buys you necessities and some nice “wants,” but it is not the panacea to your problems.

There are a great many people who are living on very little, yet have wonderfully full and happy lives… and there are sadly a great many people are living on quite a lot, yet have terribly miserable lives.

Money can buy a nice home, a great car, fabulous shoes, even a bit of security and some creature comforts, but it cannot fix a broken relationship, or cure loneliness, and the “happiness” it brings is only fleeting and not the kind that really and truly matters. Happiness is not for sale. If you’re expecting the “stuff” you can buy to “make it better,” you will never be happy.

2. Pace Yourself

Often when we’re young, just beginning our adult journey we feel as though we have to do everything at once. We need to decide everything, plan out our lives, experience everything, get to the top, find true love, figure out our life’s purpose, and do it all at the same time.

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Slow down—don’t rush into things. Let your life unfold. Wait a bit to see where it takes you, and take time to weigh your options. Enjoy every bite of food, take time to look around you, let the other person finish their side of the conversation. Allow yourself time to think, to mull a bit.

Taking action is critical. Working towards your goals and making plans for the future is commendable and often very useful, but rushing full-speed ahead towards anything is a one-way ticket to burnout and a good way to miss your life as it passes you by.

3. You Can’t Please Everyone

“I don’t know the secret to success, but the secret to failure is trying to please everyone” – Bill Cosby.

You don’t need everyone to agree with you or even like you. It’s human nature to want to belong, to be liked, respected and valued, but not at the expense of your integrity and happiness. Other people cannot give you the validation you seek. That has to come from inside.

Speak up, stick to your guns, assert yourself when you need to, demand respect, stay true to your values.

4. Your Health Is Your Most Valuable Asset

Health is an invaluable treasure—always appreciate, nurture, and protect it. Good health is often wasted on the young before they have a chance to appreciate it for what it’s worth.

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We tend to take our good health for granted, because it’s just there. We don’t have to worry about it, so we don’t really pay attention to it… until we have to.

Heart disease, bone density, stroke, many cancers—the list of many largely preventable diseases is long, so take care of your health now, or you’ll regret it later on.

5. You Don’t Always Get What You Want

“Life is what happens while you’re busy making other plans.” – John Lennon

No matter how carefully you plan and how hard you work, sometimes things just don’t work out the way you want them to… and that’s okay.

We have all of these expectations; predetermined visions of what our “ideal” life will look like, but all too often, that’s not the reality of the life we end up with. Sometimes our dreams fail and sometimes we just change our minds mid-course. Sometimes we have to flop to find the right course and sometimes we just have to try a few things before we find the right direction.

6. It’s Not All About You

You are not the epicenter of the universe. It’s very difficult to view the world from a perspective outside of your own, since we are always so focused on what’s happening in our own lives. What do I have to do today? What will this mean for me, for my career, for my life? What do I want?

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It’s normal to be intensely aware of everything that’s going on in your own life, but you need to pay as much attention to what’s happening around you, and how things affect other people in the world as you do to your own life. It helps to keep things in perspective.

7. There’s No Shame in Not Knowing

No one has it all figured out. Nobody has all the answers. There’s no shame in saying “I don’t know.” Pretending to be perfect doesn’t make you perfect. It just makes you neurotic to keep up the pretense of manufactured perfection.

We have this idea that there is some kind of stigma or shame in admitting our limitations or uncertainly, but we can’t possibly know everything. We all make mistakes and mess up occasionally. We learn as we go, that’s life.

Besides—nobody likes a know-it-all. A little vulnerability makes you human and oh so much more relatable.

8. Love Is More Than a Feeling; It’s a Choice

That burst of initial exhilaration, pulse quickening love and passion does not last long. But that doesn’t mean long-lasting love is not possible.

Love is not just a feeling; it’s a choice that you make every day. We have to choose to let annoyances pass, to forgive, to be kind, to respect, to support, to be faithful.

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Relationships take work. Sometimes it’s easy and sometimes it’s incredibly hard. It is up to us to choose how we want to act, think and speak in a relationship.

9. Perspective Is a Beautiful Thing

Typically, when we’re worried or upset, it’s because we’ve lost perspective. Everything that is happening in our lives seems so big, so important, so do or die, but in the grand picture, this single hiccup often means next to nothing.

The fight we’re having, the job we didn’t get, the real or imagined slight, the unexpected need to shift course, the thing we wanted, but didn’t get. Most of it won’t matter 20, 30, 40 years from now. It’s hard to see long term when all you know is short term, but unless it’s life-threatening, let it go, and move on.

10. Don’t Take Anything for Granted

We often don’t appreciate what we have until it’s gone: that includes your health, your family and friends, your job, the money you have or think you will have tomorrow.

When you’re young, it seems that your parents will always be there, but they won’t. You think you have plenty of time to get back in touch with your old friends or spend time with new ones, but you don’t. You have the money to spend, or you think you’ll have it next month, but you might not.

Nothing in your life is not guaranteed to be there tomorrow, including those you love.

This is a hard life lesson to learn, but it may be the most important of all: Life can change in an instant. Make sure you appreciate what you have, while you still have it.

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