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Important Life Lessons To Remind Yourself When Turning 25

Important Life Lessons To Remind Yourself When Turning 25

At 25 you are still young, yet you’re old enough to have picked up some vital life lessons. Here are five things to remember as you pass your quarter-century milestone.

Keep them in mind and you’ll never go far wrong, even when life doesn’t go quite according to plan.

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1. Time spent on people who don’t appreciate you is time wasted

Life is challenging enough even with the support of positive people, so don’t waste your precious time or energy on those who belittle you, fail to appreciate you, or make you feel bad. Most of us can probably remember a time when we spent weeks, months or even years trying to win over someone who in the end just didn’t deserve us. When you sense that a so-called friend or partner is using you or neglects to show you affection, it’s time to move on. Show yourself some respect and sever ties that damage your emotional health.

2. Identify what you want, and go for it

No-one else can know you better than you can know yourself. By the time you reach your mid-twenties, you will realize that only you can choose the right path for yourself. This applies to the career you pursue, the type of relationships you want, and the skills you develop. It may feel initially scary to take complete responsibility for yourself, but ultimately you will feel completely empowered. It takes courage to look to yourself for guidance, especially if you come from a critical home environment, but doing so is part of being a fully-developed adult. Remember the first time you took a decision that was based solely on your own preferences and values, and how good that felt? Hold onto that memory and use it to bolster your courage when it’s time to chase after your dreams.

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3. Take no-one for granted

Always remember to value and treasure those who have your back, give you encouragement during the dark times, and offer you their love and help on a regular basis. If you have a good friend you haven’t seen for a while, why not reach out and make contact? Nurture your family relationships too. If you are lucky enough to be on good terms with your parents, remember that they won’t be around forever. Act accordingly by keeping in touch and thanking them for their wisdom and support.

4. You can choose to be happy or miserable. Choose wisely

Sometimes we can’t always control what happens to us, but we can control how we react. As far as anyone knows, we only get one chance to make this journey called life. Think back to a time when you managed to handle bad news or a less-than-desirable outcome with grace and good humor. When life throws you the next curveball (which, of course, it will!), draw on your inner resources and decide to be as happy as possible regardless of what is going on around you.

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5. Don’t be afraid of your feelings

Whilst it’s preferable to cultivate a positive attitude, sometimes you need to confront your negative feelings and darkest fears. It’s entirely appropriate and natural, for example, to feel sad after a breakup or a sense of disappointment if the job you wanted didn’t work out. At times like these, your feelings can actually be your best friends, because when you carry on under conditions of adversity you prove just how strong you are. This will lay the foundations for a more fearless outlook on life.

Take the above life lessons on board and you won’t just survive your late twenties and beyond, you will thrive! Above all, remember that you are a person of worth and have everything you need to reach your goals and meet life’s challenges head-on.

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Last Updated on November 15, 2018

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

The Success Mindset

Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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How To Create a Success Mindset

People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

2. Look For The Successes

It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

3. Eliminate Negativity

You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

4. Create a Vision

Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

An Inspirational Story…

For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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