Advertising
Advertising

Important Life Lessons To Remind Yourself When Turning 25

Important Life Lessons To Remind Yourself When Turning 25

At 25 you are still young, yet you’re old enough to have picked up some vital life lessons. Here are five things to remember as you pass your quarter-century milestone.

Keep them in mind and you’ll never go far wrong, even when life doesn’t go quite according to plan.

Advertising

1. Time spent on people who don’t appreciate you is time wasted

Life is challenging enough even with the support of positive people, so don’t waste your precious time or energy on those who belittle you, fail to appreciate you, or make you feel bad. Most of us can probably remember a time when we spent weeks, months or even years trying to win over someone who in the end just didn’t deserve us. When you sense that a so-called friend or partner is using you or neglects to show you affection, it’s time to move on. Show yourself some respect and sever ties that damage your emotional health.

2. Identify what you want, and go for it

No-one else can know you better than you can know yourself. By the time you reach your mid-twenties, you will realize that only you can choose the right path for yourself. This applies to the career you pursue, the type of relationships you want, and the skills you develop. It may feel initially scary to take complete responsibility for yourself, but ultimately you will feel completely empowered. It takes courage to look to yourself for guidance, especially if you come from a critical home environment, but doing so is part of being a fully-developed adult. Remember the first time you took a decision that was based solely on your own preferences and values, and how good that felt? Hold onto that memory and use it to bolster your courage when it’s time to chase after your dreams.

Advertising

3. Take no-one for granted

Always remember to value and treasure those who have your back, give you encouragement during the dark times, and offer you their love and help on a regular basis. If you have a good friend you haven’t seen for a while, why not reach out and make contact? Nurture your family relationships too. If you are lucky enough to be on good terms with your parents, remember that they won’t be around forever. Act accordingly by keeping in touch and thanking them for their wisdom and support.

4. You can choose to be happy or miserable. Choose wisely

Sometimes we can’t always control what happens to us, but we can control how we react. As far as anyone knows, we only get one chance to make this journey called life. Think back to a time when you managed to handle bad news or a less-than-desirable outcome with grace and good humor. When life throws you the next curveball (which, of course, it will!), draw on your inner resources and decide to be as happy as possible regardless of what is going on around you.

Advertising

5. Don’t be afraid of your feelings

Whilst it’s preferable to cultivate a positive attitude, sometimes you need to confront your negative feelings and darkest fears. It’s entirely appropriate and natural, for example, to feel sad after a breakup or a sense of disappointment if the job you wanted didn’t work out. At times like these, your feelings can actually be your best friends, because when you carry on under conditions of adversity you prove just how strong you are. This will lay the foundations for a more fearless outlook on life.

Take the above life lessons on board and you won’t just survive your late twenties and beyond, you will thrive! Above all, remember that you are a person of worth and have everything you need to reach your goals and meet life’s challenges head-on.

Advertising

Featured photo credit: Ezra Jeffrey via unsplash.com

More by this author

Jay Hill

Jay writes about communication and happiness on Lifehack.

30 Ways To Treat Yourself No Matter What 3 Things To Give Up If You Want To Take Control Of Your Life All You Have to Do to Sleep Better How Social Media Is Making You Feel Bad about Yourself Every Day The Ultimate Guide: How to Become More Creative Day by Day

Trending in Communication

1 How to Practice Positive Thinking And Change Your Life 2 12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life 3 What Makes a Good Leader? 10 Essential Leadership Qualities 4 How Not to Be Boring (And Start to Be More Interesting) 5 11 Tips for Maintaining Your Positive Attitude

Read Next

Advertising
Advertising
Advertising

Last Updated on September 12, 2019

12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

Even the most charismatic people you know, whether in person or celebrities of some sort, experience days where they feel lost in life and isolated from everyone else.

While it’s good to know we aren’t alone in this feeling, the question still remains:

What should we do when we feel lost and lonely?

Here are 12 things to remember:

1. Recognize That It’s Okay!

The truth is, there are times you need to be alone. If you’ve always been accustomed to being in contact with people, this may prove difficult.

However, learning how to be alone and comfortable in your own skin will give you confidence and a sense of self reliance.

We cheat ourselves out of the opportunity to become self reliant when we look for constant companionship.

Learn how to embrace your me time: What Your Fear of Being Alone Is Really About and How to Get over It

Advertising

2. Use Your Lost and Loneliness as a Self-Directing Guide

You’ve most likely heard the expression: “You have to know where you’ve been to know where you’re going.”

Loneliness also serves as a life signal to indicate you’re in search of something. It’s when we’re in the midst of solitude that answers come from true soul searching.

Remember, there is more to life than what you’re feeling.

3. Realize Loneliness Helps You Face the Truth

Being in the constant company of others, although comforting sometimes, can often serve as a distraction when we need to face the reality of a situation.

Solitude cuts straight to the chase and forces you to deal with the problem at hand. See it as a blessing that can serve as a catalyst to set things right!

4. Be Aware That You Have More Control Than You Think

Typically, when we see ourselves as being lost or lonely, it gives us an excuse to view everything we come in contact with in a negative light. It lends itself to putting ourselves in the victim mode, when the truth of the matter is that you choose your attitude in every situation.

No one can force a feeling upon you! It is YOU who has the ultimate say as to how you choose to react.

5. Embrace the Freedom That the Feeling of Being Alone Can Offer

Instead of wallowing in self pity, which many are prone to do because of loneliness, try looking at your circumstance as a new-found freedom.

Advertising

Most people are in constant need of approval of their viewpoints. Try enjoying the fact that  you don’t need everyone you care about to support your decisions.

6. Acknowledge the Person You Are Now

Perhaps you feel a sense of loneliness and confusion because your life circumstances have taken you away from the persona that others know to be you.

Perhaps the new you differs radically from the old. Realize that life is about change and how we react to that change. It’s okay that you’re not who you used to be.

Take a look at this article and learn to accept your imperfect self: Accept Yourself (Flaws and All): 7 Benefits of Being Vulnerable

7. Keep Striving to Do Your Best

Often those who are feeling isolated and unto themselves will develop a defeatist attitude. They’ll do substandard work because their self esteem is low and they don’t care.

Never let this feeling take away your sense of worth! Do your best always and when you come through this dark time, others will admire how you stayed determined in spite of the obstacles you had to overcome.

And to live your best life, you must do this ONE thing: step out of your comfort zone.

8. Don’t Forget That Time Is Precious

When we’re lost in a sea of loneliness and depression, it’s all too easy to reflect on regrets of past life events. This does nothing but feed negativity and perpetuate the situation.

Advertising

Instead of falling prey to this common pitfall, put one foot in front of the other and acknowledge every positive step you take. By doing this, you can celebrate the struggles you overcome at the end of the day.

9. Remember, Things Happen for a Reason

Every circumstance we encounter in our life is designed to teach us and that lesson is in turn passed on to others.

Sometimes we’re fortunate enough to figure out the lesson to be learned, while other times, we simply need to have faith that if the lesson wasn’t meant directly for us to learn from, how we handled it was observed by someone who needed to learn.

Your solitude and feeling of lost, in this instance, although painful possibly, may be teaching someone else.

10. Journal During This Time

Record your thoughts when you’re at the height of loneliness and feeling lost. You’ll be amazed when you reflect back at how you viewed things at the time and how far you’ve come later.

This time (if recorded) can give you a keen insight into who you are and what makes you feel the way you feel.

11. Remember You Aren’t the First to Feel This Way

It’s quite common to feel as if we’re alone and no one else has ever felt this way before. We think this because at the time of our distress, we’re silently observing others around us who are seemingly fine in every way.

The truth is, we can’t possibly know the struggles of those around us unless they elect to share them. We ALL have known this pain!

Advertising

Try confiding in someone you trust and ask them how they deal with these feelings when they experienced it. You may be surprised at what you learn.

12. Ask for Help If the Problem Persists

The feeling of being lost and lonely is common to everyone, but typically it will last for a relatively short period of time.

Most people will confess to, at one time or another, being in a “funk.” But if the problem persists longer than you feel it should, don’t ignore it.

When your ability to reason and consider things rationally becomes impaired, do not poo poo the problem away and think it isn’t worthy of attention. Seek medical help.

Afraid to ask for help? Here’s how to change your outlook to aim high!

Final Thoughts

Loneliness and a sense of feeling lost can in many ways be extremely painful and difficult to deal with at best. However, these feelings can also serve as a catalyst for change in our lives if we acknowledge them and act.

Above anything, cherish your mental well being and don’t underestimate its worth. Seek professional guidance if you’re unable to distinguish between a sense of freedom for yourself and a sense of despair.

More About Finding Yourself

Featured photo credit: Andrew Neel via unsplash.com

Read Next