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Your Sensitivity May Be Inherited And It Enhances The Way You See The World

Your Sensitivity May Be Inherited And It Enhances The Way You See The World

We live in a society that has lost all sense of itself. A world that wakes up everyday and immediately sets to judging everyone around us for no real reason at all. In a world that has become so backwards, is it really surprising that we tend to harsh all over certain traits? But then again, don’t we do it just because we don’t see the benefit immediately?

Being sensitive, especially in young men, tends to be one such trait. It tends to be something most people don’t see as beneficial, when in fact it can be one of the most useful traits on the planet. In fact, those who are sensitive often times have a different or enhanced view of the world.

The Scientific Evidence

There was a study done back in 2015, in which they gathered 39 participants. 21 of these carried a specific gene variation called ADRA2B which, according to Professor Rebecca Todd, influences the neurotransmitter norepinephrine area of the brain. In layman’s terms, it affects and increases the way we feel emotionally towards positive and negative influences.

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Those with the gene variant are more sensitive to positive and negative emotional stimulants. The best part? It’s an inherited gene! That means that you being sensitive is something that was built into your DNA.

More then that, the study has shown in all 21 participants that their reactions were more enhanced to the stimulants. Not in any negative way, they were just stronger reactions! Essentially, they had the opportunity to see things in a more vivid way to the subtly emotional situation. The area of the brain that was being stimulated, is the part that discovers and translated emotional pleasure and pain. This gives those people a stronger ability to detect and understand these emotional passages.

The reason why these passages are so vivid is something that’s being investigated further. What’s important is to know now is the fact that you have such an emotional advantage over those around you. When you feel like you’re being sensitive, it’s not that you are over-reacting to anything. The way you DNA is made up has dictated that you are able to detect and understand emotional stability.

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You, as a person, are built and crafted in such a way that it’s only natural for you to know when something’s wrong. As a result it makes you more aware of when something amazing or upsetting is happening.

You Aren’t Just Being “Sensitive”

It’s not a matter of you just being overly sensitive to everything. Often times if that’s the case, you realize that and adjust quickly. If it’s something that is truly frustrating, your sensitive mind will alert you to the fact that something isn’t right.

More then that, you’ll often be aware of any inconsistencies in people’s emotions quicker as a result of this variant. You can train yourself to become aware of people who are being incongruent with you, saying one thing with their mouths but their body language is saying something completely different.

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Those periods where you think that something is wrong and its bothering you, but you’re not sure if your right? That’s your body telling you that it’s something to be aware of and watch. Right now, it may even feel as if you’re just pushing everything away until you explode and get into a massive argument.

Because your reactions to emotional situations are so prominent, it basically turns you into a beacon to help guide people to emotional stability. It gives you the chance to make sure that people are emotionally healthy, because you’ll react to the emotions in the room. You become the person that can easily pick up when things are going wrong, simply because your mind is built for that reason.

When you detect things are wrong, then you have the ability to help and support those who need it. Being the support system someone may not even be aware they need? That sounds like a heck of a bonus to being sensitive.

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Last Updated on May 21, 2019

How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

For all our social media bravado, we live in a society where communication is seen less as an art, and more as a perfunctory exercise. We spend so much time with people, yet we struggle with how to meaningfully communicate.

If you believe you have mastered effective communication, scan the list below and see whether you can see yourself in any of the examples:

Example 1

You are uncomfortable with a person’s actions or comments, and rather than telling the individual immediately, you sidestep the issue and attempt to move on as though the offending behavior or comment never happened.

You move on with the relationship and develop a pattern of not addressing challenging situations. Before long, the person with whom you are in relationship will say or do something that pushes you over the top and predictably, you explode or withdraw completely from the relationship.

In this example, hard-to-speak truths become never- expressed truths that turn into resentment and anger.

Example 2

You communicate from the head and without emotion. While what you communicate makes perfect sense to you, it comes across as cold because it lacks emotion.

People do not understand what motivates you to say what you say, and without sharing your feelings and emotions, others experience you as rude, cold or aggressive.

You will know this is a problem if people shy away from you, ignore your contributions in meetings or tell you your words hurt. You can also know you struggle in this area if you find yourself constantly apologizing for things you have said.

Example 3

You have an issue with one person, but you communicate your problem to an entirely different person.

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The person in whom you confide lacks the authority to resolve the matter troubling you, and while you have vented and expressed frustration, the underlying challenge is unresolved.

Example 4

You grew up in a family with destructive communication habits and those habits play out in your current relationships.

Because you have never stopped to ask why you communicate the way you do and whether your communication style still works, you may lack understanding of how your words impact others and how to implement positive change.

If you find yourself in any of the situations described above, this article is for you.

Communication can build or decimate worlds and it is important we get it right. Regardless of your professional aspirations or personal goals, you can improve your communication skills if you:

  • Understand your own communication style
  • Tailor your style depending on the needs of the audience
  • Communicate with precision and care
  • Be mindful of your delivery, timing and messenger

1. Understand Your Communication Style

To communicate effectively, you must understand the communication legacy passed down from our parents, grandparents or caregivers. Each of us grew up with spoken and unspoken rules about communication.

In some families, direct communication is practiced and honored. In other families, family members are encouraged to shy away from difficult conversations. Some families appreciate open and frank dialogue and others do not. Other families practice silence about substantive matters, that is, they seldom or rarely broach difficult conversations at all.

Before you can appreciate the nuance required in communication, it helps to know the familial patterns you grew up with.

2. Learn Others Communication Styles

Communicating effectively requires you to take a step back, assess the intended recipient of your communication and think through how the individual prefers to be communicated with. Once you know this, you can tailor your message in a way that increases the likelihood of being heard. This also prevents you from assuming the way you communicate with one group is appropriate or right for all groups or people.

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If you are unsure how to determine the styles of the groups or persons with whom you are interacting, you can always ask them:

“How do you prefer to receive information?”

This approach requires listening, both to what the individuals say as well as what is unspoken. Virgin Group CEO Richard Branson noted that the best communicators are also great listeners.

To communicate effectively from relationship to relationship and situation to situation, you must understand the communication needs of others.

3. Exercise Precision and Care

A recent engagement underscored for me the importance of exercising care when communicating.

On a recent trip to Ohio, I decided to meet up with an old friend to go for a walk. As we strolled through the soccer park, my friend gently announced that he had something to talk about, he was upset with me. His introduction to the problem allowed me to mentally shift gears and prepare for the conversation.

Shortly after introducing the shift in conversation, my friend asked me why I didn’t invite him to the launch party for my business. He lives in Ohio and I live in the D.C. area.

I explained that the event snuck up on me, and I only started planning the invite list three weeks before the event. Due to the last-minute nature of the gathering, I opted to invite people in the DMV area versus my friends from outside the area – I didn’t want to be disrespectful by asking them to travel on such short notice.

I also noted that I didn’t want to be disappointed if he and others declined to come to the event. So I played it safe in terms of inviting people who were local.

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In the moment, I felt the conversation went very well. I also checked in with my friend a few days after our walk, affirmed my appreciation for his willingness to communicate his upset and our ability to work through it.

The way this conversation unfolded exemplified effective communication. My friend approached me with grace and vulnerability. He approached me with a level of curiosity that didn’t put me on my heels — I was able to really listen to what he was saying, apologize for how my decision impacted him and vow that going forward, I would always ask rather than making decisions for him and others.

Our relationship is intact, and I now have information that will help me become a better friend to him and others.

4. Be Mindful of Delivery, Timing and Messenger

Communicating effectively also requires thinking through the delivery of the message one intends to communicate as well as the appropriate time for the discussion.

In an Entrepreneur.com column, VIP Contributor Deep Patel, noted that persons interested in communicating well need to master the art of timing. Patel noted,[1]

“Great comedians, like all great communicators, are able to feel out their audience to determine when to move on to a new topic or when to reiterate an idea.”

Communicating effectively also requires thoughtfulness about the messenger. A person prone to dramatic, angry outbursts should never be called upon to deliver constructive feedback, especially to people whom they do not know. The immediate aftermath of a mass shooting is not the ideal time to talk about the importance of the Second Amendment rights.

Like everyone else, I must work to ensure my communication is layered with precision and care.

It requires precision because words must be carefully tailored to the person with whom you are speaking.

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It requires intentionality because before one communicates, one should think about the audience and what the audience needs in order to hear your message the way you intended it to be communicated.

It requires active listening which is about hearing verbal and nonverbal messages.

Even though we may be right in what we say, how we say it could derail the impact of the message and the other parties’ ability to hear the message.

Communicating with care is also about saying things that the people in our life need to hear and doing so with love.

The Bottom Line

When I left the meeting with my dear friend, I wondered if I was replicating or modeling this level of openness and transparency in the rest of my relationships.

I was intrigued and appreciative. He’d clearly thought about what he wanted to say to me, picked the appropriate time to share his feedback and then delivered it with care. He hit the ball out of the park and I’m hopeful we all do the same.

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