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Your Sensitivity May Be Inherited And It Enhances The Way You See The World

Your Sensitivity May Be Inherited And It Enhances The Way You See The World

We live in a society that has lost all sense of itself. A world that wakes up everyday and immediately sets to judging everyone around us for no real reason at all. In a world that has become so backwards, is it really surprising that we tend to harsh all over certain traits? But then again, don’t we do it just because we don’t see the benefit immediately?

Being sensitive, especially in young men, tends to be one such trait. It tends to be something most people don’t see as beneficial, when in fact it can be one of the most useful traits on the planet. In fact, those who are sensitive often times have a different or enhanced view of the world.

The Scientific Evidence

There was a study done back in 2015, in which they gathered 39 participants. 21 of these carried a specific gene variation called ADRA2B which, according to Professor Rebecca Todd, influences the neurotransmitter norepinephrine area of the brain. In layman’s terms, it affects and increases the way we feel emotionally towards positive and negative influences.

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Those with the gene variant are more sensitive to positive and negative emotional stimulants. The best part? It’s an inherited gene! That means that you being sensitive is something that was built into your DNA.

More then that, the study has shown in all 21 participants that their reactions were more enhanced to the stimulants. Not in any negative way, they were just stronger reactions! Essentially, they had the opportunity to see things in a more vivid way to the subtly emotional situation. The area of the brain that was being stimulated, is the part that discovers and translated emotional pleasure and pain. This gives those people a stronger ability to detect and understand these emotional passages.

The reason why these passages are so vivid is something that’s being investigated further. What’s important is to know now is the fact that you have such an emotional advantage over those around you. When you feel like you’re being sensitive, it’s not that you are over-reacting to anything. The way you DNA is made up has dictated that you are able to detect and understand emotional stability.

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You, as a person, are built and crafted in such a way that it’s only natural for you to know when something’s wrong. As a result it makes you more aware of when something amazing or upsetting is happening.

You Aren’t Just Being “Sensitive”

It’s not a matter of you just being overly sensitive to everything. Often times if that’s the case, you realize that and adjust quickly. If it’s something that is truly frustrating, your sensitive mind will alert you to the fact that something isn’t right.

More then that, you’ll often be aware of any inconsistencies in people’s emotions quicker as a result of this variant. You can train yourself to become aware of people who are being incongruent with you, saying one thing with their mouths but their body language is saying something completely different.

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Those periods where you think that something is wrong and its bothering you, but you’re not sure if your right? That’s your body telling you that it’s something to be aware of and watch. Right now, it may even feel as if you’re just pushing everything away until you explode and get into a massive argument.

Because your reactions to emotional situations are so prominent, it basically turns you into a beacon to help guide people to emotional stability. It gives you the chance to make sure that people are emotionally healthy, because you’ll react to the emotions in the room. You become the person that can easily pick up when things are going wrong, simply because your mind is built for that reason.

When you detect things are wrong, then you have the ability to help and support those who need it. Being the support system someone may not even be aware they need? That sounds like a heck of a bonus to being sensitive.

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The Gentle Art of Saying No

The Gentle Art of Saying No

No!

It’s a simple fact that you can never be productive if you take on too many commitments — you simply spread yourself too thin and will not be able to get anything done, at least not well or on time.

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But requests for your time are coming in all the time — through phone, email, IM or in person. To stay productive, and minimize stress, you have to learn the Gentle Art of Saying No — an art that many people have problems with.

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What’s so hard about saying no? Well, to start with, it can hurt, anger or disappoint the person you’re saying “no” to, and that’s not usually a fun task. Second, if you hope to work with that person in the future, you’ll want to continue to have a good relationship with that person, and saying “no” in the wrong way can jeopardize that.

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But it doesn’t have to be difficult or hard on your relationship. Here are the Top 10 tips for learning the Gentle Art of Saying No:

  1. Value your time. Know your commitments, and how valuable your precious time is. Then, when someone asks you to dedicate some of your time to a new commitment, you’ll know that you simply cannot do it. And tell them that: “I just can’t right now … my plate is overloaded as it is.”
  2. Know your priorities. Even if you do have some extra time (which for many of us is rare), is this new commitment really the way you want to spend that time? For myself, I know that more commitments means less time with my wife and kids, who are more important to me than anything.
  3. Practice saying no. Practice makes perfect. Saying “no” as often as you can is a great way to get better at it and more comfortable with saying the word. And sometimes, repeating the word is the only way to get a message through to extremely persistent people. When they keep insisting, just keep saying no. Eventually, they’ll get the message.
  4. Don’t apologize. A common way to start out is “I’m sorry but …” as people think that it sounds more polite. While politeness is important, apologizing just makes it sound weaker. You need to be firm, and unapologetic about guarding your time.
  5. Stop being nice. Again, it’s important to be polite, but being nice by saying yes all the time only hurts you. When you make it easy for people to grab your time (or money), they will continue to do it. But if you erect a wall, they will look for easier targets. Show them that your time is well guarded by being firm and turning down as many requests (that are not on your top priority list) as possible.
  6. Say no to your boss. Sometimes we feel that we have to say yes to our boss — they’re our boss, right? And if we say “no” then we look like we can’t handle the work — at least, that’s the common reasoning. But in fact, it’s the opposite — explain to your boss that by taking on too many commitments, you are weakening your productivity and jeopardizing your existing commitments. If your boss insists that you take on the project, go over your project or task list and ask him/her to re-prioritize, explaining that there’s only so much you can take on at one time.
  7. Pre-empting. It’s often much easier to pre-empt requests than to say “no” to them after the request has been made. If you know that requests are likely to be made, perhaps in a meeting, just say to everyone as soon as you come into the meeting, “Look guys, just to let you know, my week is booked full with some urgent projects and I won’t be able to take on any new requests.”
  8. Get back to you. Instead of providing an answer then and there, it’s often better to tell the person you’ll give their request some thought and get back to them. This will allow you to give it some consideration, and check your commitments and priorities. Then, if you can’t take on the request, simply tell them: “After giving this some thought, and checking my commitments, I won’t be able to accommodate the request at this time.” At least you gave it some consideration.
  9. Maybe later. If this is an option that you’d like to keep open, instead of just shutting the door on the person, it’s often better to just say, “This sounds like an interesting opportunity, but I just don’t have the time at the moment. Perhaps you could check back with me in [give a time frame].” Next time, when they check back with you, you might have some free time on your hands.
  10. It’s not you, it’s me. This classic dating rejection can work in other situations. Don’t be insincere about it, though. Often the person or project is a good one, but it’s just not right for you, at least not at this time. Simply say so — you can compliment the idea, the project, the person, the organization … but say that it’s not the right fit, or it’s not what you’re looking for at this time. Only say this if it’s true — people can sense insincerity.

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