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Two Grandmothers Broke The Tradition And Gave Their Grandkids The Best Wedding Blessing Ever

Two Grandmothers Broke The Tradition And Gave Their Grandkids The Best Wedding Blessing Ever

Grandparents are such amazing people that newlyweds Josh and Maggie Wakefield knew they both wanted their grandmothers to have a big role in their wedding.

Instead of opting for the traditional walk down the aisle as the honorary grandparent and being seated first out of the immediate family members, the Wakefields decided to ask their grandmothers to be flower girls instead. While this duty is usually reserved for little girls, these grandmas rocked this role.

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    Joyce Benedict, 75, Maggie’s grandmother, and Drue Fitzgerald, 74, Josh’ grandmother, proudly strolled down the aisle during their grandchildren’s summer wedding in Pennsylvania in June, fulfilling their duty of scattering white rose petals from the woven basket they shared as they walked. The grandmothers loved the smiles they received from wedding guests, who equally loved seeing the grandmothers in their special wedding spotlight. Joyce and Drue even picked out matching formal dresses to wear while they walked.

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      It only surprised the wedding guests for a moment when they saw the grandparents so involved in the wedding. That’s because the couple visits the grandparents quite frequently, sharing meals and shopping together. Joyce even raised Maggie and her older sister, creating an even tighter bond. Joyce’s husband Ronald Benedict, Sr., Maggie’s grandfather, also walked the bride down the aisle. It meant the world to the newlyweds to have their grandparents as involved in their wedding as they were.

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        In fact, because Maggie’s father died of colon cancer in 2013, the couple wanted to have as many loved ones as they could participating with them on their wedding day. To memorialize her father on her special day, Maggie carried a locket in her bouquet that contained a picture of her father, so it was almost as he if was present, helping walk her down the aisle, too.

        The newlyweds were thrilled to see their grandparents have as much fun as they did at the wedding reception, dancing together and laughing. It was a wonderful wedding and reception for both generations.

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          The Benedicts and Fitzgerald have been shocked at the attention they’ve received in their role with the wedding. They giggle and smile about it still today.

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          The Gentle Art of Saying No

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          No!

          It’s a simple fact that you can never be productive if you take on too many commitments — you simply spread yourself too thin and will not be able to get anything done, at least not well or on time.

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          But requests for your time are coming in all the time — through phone, email, IM or in person. To stay productive, and minimize stress, you have to learn the Gentle Art of Saying No — an art that many people have problems with.

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          What’s so hard about saying no? Well, to start with, it can hurt, anger or disappoint the person you’re saying “no” to, and that’s not usually a fun task. Second, if you hope to work with that person in the future, you’ll want to continue to have a good relationship with that person, and saying “no” in the wrong way can jeopardize that.

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          But it doesn’t have to be difficult or hard on your relationship. Here are the Top 10 tips for learning the Gentle Art of Saying No:

          1. Value your time. Know your commitments, and how valuable your precious time is. Then, when someone asks you to dedicate some of your time to a new commitment, you’ll know that you simply cannot do it. And tell them that: “I just can’t right now … my plate is overloaded as it is.”
          2. Know your priorities. Even if you do have some extra time (which for many of us is rare), is this new commitment really the way you want to spend that time? For myself, I know that more commitments means less time with my wife and kids, who are more important to me than anything.
          3. Practice saying no. Practice makes perfect. Saying “no” as often as you can is a great way to get better at it and more comfortable with saying the word. And sometimes, repeating the word is the only way to get a message through to extremely persistent people. When they keep insisting, just keep saying no. Eventually, they’ll get the message.
          4. Don’t apologize. A common way to start out is “I’m sorry but …” as people think that it sounds more polite. While politeness is important, apologizing just makes it sound weaker. You need to be firm, and unapologetic about guarding your time.
          5. Stop being nice. Again, it’s important to be polite, but being nice by saying yes all the time only hurts you. When you make it easy for people to grab your time (or money), they will continue to do it. But if you erect a wall, they will look for easier targets. Show them that your time is well guarded by being firm and turning down as many requests (that are not on your top priority list) as possible.
          6. Say no to your boss. Sometimes we feel that we have to say yes to our boss — they’re our boss, right? And if we say “no” then we look like we can’t handle the work — at least, that’s the common reasoning. But in fact, it’s the opposite — explain to your boss that by taking on too many commitments, you are weakening your productivity and jeopardizing your existing commitments. If your boss insists that you take on the project, go over your project or task list and ask him/her to re-prioritize, explaining that there’s only so much you can take on at one time.
          7. Pre-empting. It’s often much easier to pre-empt requests than to say “no” to them after the request has been made. If you know that requests are likely to be made, perhaps in a meeting, just say to everyone as soon as you come into the meeting, “Look guys, just to let you know, my week is booked full with some urgent projects and I won’t be able to take on any new requests.”
          8. Get back to you. Instead of providing an answer then and there, it’s often better to tell the person you’ll give their request some thought and get back to them. This will allow you to give it some consideration, and check your commitments and priorities. Then, if you can’t take on the request, simply tell them: “After giving this some thought, and checking my commitments, I won’t be able to accommodate the request at this time.” At least you gave it some consideration.
          9. Maybe later. If this is an option that you’d like to keep open, instead of just shutting the door on the person, it’s often better to just say, “This sounds like an interesting opportunity, but I just don’t have the time at the moment. Perhaps you could check back with me in [give a time frame].” Next time, when they check back with you, you might have some free time on your hands.
          10. It’s not you, it’s me. This classic dating rejection can work in other situations. Don’t be insincere about it, though. Often the person or project is a good one, but it’s just not right for you, at least not at this time. Simply say so — you can compliment the idea, the project, the person, the organization … but say that it’s not the right fit, or it’s not what you’re looking for at this time. Only say this if it’s true — people can sense insincerity.

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