Advertising
Advertising

What Will Happen When You No Longer Go To The “Top 10 Attractions”

What Will Happen When You No Longer Go To The “Top 10 Attractions”

1. You’ll do less cramming and planning, and do more relaxing and having fun.

Sure a full itinerary seems exciting before you reach your destination. Planning is half the fun right? But once you arrive at your destination, you’ll find yourself over-scheduled and overwhelmed. How can you possibly see everything and do everything in the time that you have? Short answer: you can’t. So let it go, and just focus on seeing the city or town you’re in. Spend your first day in any city simply by being there. Soak up that feeling of being somewhere new, being away from work, your city, and being carefree. Eat different stuff. Talk to strangers. Stop and really see things and their beauty.

Advertising

2. You’ll have time to search out some authentic local experiences rather than visiting places that have been so completely tourist-ized.

Staying away from the most major tourist attractions will also put you in places where more locals are (since they stay away from crowded spots with long lines when at all possible). For instance, staying at an agriturismo or monastery in a small town in Italy, often yields a far more unique and rewarding experience than staying at an expensive hotel in an area crowded with tourists. Moreover, by staying in places a bit off the beaten path, you’ll be able to visit places and take photos without as many people photo bombing all your candid shots.

Advertising

3. You’ll eat better and drink better.

The farther away you stray from the main sights, the better the quality and prices get. Forget plastic menus with photos and low quality food churned out by the bucket to appease un-discerning tourist palates. Head for the shrinking price-tags and dishes you can’t pronounce to get a real taste of the country or city you’re visiting. For example: When I was in Croatia, I befriended a local restaurant owner and asked his advice for great seafood spots (we were in Dubrovnik). He recommended I get away from Dubrovnik completely (overall lackluster restaurants with high price-tags), and visit the nearby small village of Ston (and it’s counterpart Mali-Ston). He had some friends who ran an unofficial ‘restaurant’ from their house. What followed was the best meal I had during my three week vacation in Croatia. Six courses of seafood pulled straight from the sea, a stunning view, no crowds, and a price tag that was a 1/3 of the price my friend and I would’ve paid for 1/2 as much at any restaurant in Dubrovnik. Plus we stumbled across an amazing crumbling 15th century wall and stairs, that led up over mountains on the way back to Dubrovnik. That’s a day we’ll never forget, and we’d never have known those places existed without throwing away our guidebooks and just chatting with the locals.

Advertising

4. To be able to truly say that you have ‘experienced’ a place, it is important to meet and talk with locals and discover things for yourself.

Rather than walk blindly from place to place following your guide book, walk the streets, grab coffee or drinks at random bars, and get lost. Discover things you weren’t looking for. Seeing the same things every person sees, and having no memories other than racing to and from top attractions, standing in lines, buying tickets, and then taking too many unnecessary photos, isn’t the best way to create true and lasting memories. Dare to veer away from the crowds and figure things out on your own. Get lost in a pitcher of good wine on a sunny porch and find yourself leaving a place with only a photo or two of the landscape– only because you had such a good time you forgot, for once, to pose in front of everything. Live.

Advertising

More by this author

How To Get That Travel High Even When You’re Not Traveling What Will Happen When You No Longer Go To The “Top 10 Attractions” Signs That You’re Capable Of Feeling Fulfilled On Your Own Why You Should Be Really Grateful To The Friend Who Always Challenges You Five Websites Solo Travelers Need To Connect With Locals and Other Travelers

Trending in Lifestyle

1 How to Learn Yoga (The Beginner’s Guide) 2 How to Sleep Through the Night and Get Good Rest 3 How to Eat Healthy on a Budget (The Definitive Guide) 4 The 10 Essential Habits of Positive People 5 13 Tips to Face Your Fears, Grow with Them and Enjoy the Ride

Read Next

Advertising
Advertising
Advertising

Last Updated on January 3, 2020

The 10 Essential Habits of Positive People

The 10 Essential Habits of Positive People

Are you waiting for life events to turn out the way you want so that you can feel more positive about your life? Do you find yourself having pre-conditions to your sense of well-being, thinking that certain things must happen for you to be happier? Do you think there is no way that your life stresses can make you anything other than “stressed out” and that other people just don’t understand?  If your answer is “yes” to any of these questions, you might find yourself lingering in the land of negativity for too long!

The following are some tips to keep positive no matter what comes your way. This post will help you stop looking for what psychologists call “positivity” in all the wrong places!  Here are the ten essential habits of positive people.

1. Positive people don’t confuse quitting with letting go.

Instead of hanging on to ideas, beliefs, and even people that are no longer healthy for them, they trust their judgement to let go of negative forces in their lives.  Especially in terms of relationships, they subscribe to The Relationship Prayer which goes:

 I will grant myself the ability to trust the healthy people in my life … 

To set limits with, or let go of, the negative ones … 

And to have the wisdom to know the DIFFERENCE!

 2.  Positive people don’t just have a good day – they make a good day.

Waiting, hoping and wishing seldom have a place in the vocabulary of positive individuals. Rather, they use strong words that are pro-active and not reactive. Passivity leads to a lack of involvement, while positive people get very involved in constructing their lives. They work to make changes to feel better in tough times rather than wish their feelings away.

3. For the positive person, the past stays in the past.

Good and bad memories alike stay where they belong – in the past where they happened. They don’t spend much time pining for the good ol’ days because they are too busy making new memories now. The negative pulls from the past are used not for self-flagellation or unproductive regret, but rather productive regret where they use lessons learned as stepping stones towards a better future.

Advertising

4. Show me a positive person and I can show you a grateful person.

The most positive people are the most grateful people.  They do not focus on the potholes of their lives.  They focus on the pot of gold that awaits them every day, with new smells, sights, feelings and experiences.  They see life as a treasure chest full of wonder.

5. Rather than being stuck in their limitations, positive people are energized by their possibilities.

Optimistic people focus on what they can do, not what they can’t do.  They are not fooled to think that there is a perfect solution to every problem, and are confident that there are many solutions and possibilities.  They are not afraid to attempt new solutions to old problems, rather than spin their wheels expecting things to be different this time.  They refuse to be like Charlie Brown expecting that this time Lucy will not pull the football from him!

6. Positive people do not let their fears interfere with their lives!

Positive people have observed that those who are defined and pulled back by their fears never really truly live a full life. While proceeding with appropriate caution, they do not let fear keep them from trying new things. They realize that even failures are necessary steps for a successful life. They have confidence that they can get back up when they are knocked down by life events or their own mistakes, due to a strong belief in their personal resilience.

7. Positive people smile a lot!

When you feel positive on the inside it is like you are smiling from within, and these smiles are contagious. Furthermore, the more others are with positive people, the more they tend to smile too! They see the lightness in life, and have a sense of humor even when it is about themselves. Positive people have a high degree of self-respect, but refuse to take themselves too seriously!

Advertising

8. People who are positive are great communicators.

They realize that assertive, confident communication is the only way to connect with others in everyday life.  They avoid judgmental, angry interchanges, and do not let someone else’s blow up give them a reason to react in kind. Rather, they express themselves with tact and finesse.  They also refuse to be non-assertive and let people push them around. They refuse to own problems that belong to someone else.

9. Positive people realize that if you live long enough, there are times for great pain and sadness.

One of the most common misperceptions about positive people is that to be positive, you must always be happy. This can not be further from the truth. Anyone who has any depth at all is certainly not happy all the time.  Being sad, angry, disappointed are all essential emotions in life. How else would you ever develop empathy for others if you lived a life of denial and shallow emotions? Positive people do not run from the gamut of emotions, and accept that part of the healing process is to allow themselves to experience all types of feelings, not only the happy ones. A positive person always holds the hope that there is light at the end of the darkness.  

10. Positive person are empowered people – they refuse to blame others and are not victims in life.

Positive people seek the help and support of others who are supportive and safe.They limit interactions with those who are toxic in any manner, even if it comes to legal action and physical estrangement such as in the case of abuse. They have identified their own basic human rights, and they respect themselves too much to play the part of a victim. There is no place for holding grudges with a positive mindset. Forgiveness helps positive people become better, not bitter.

How about you?  How many habits of positive people do you personally find in yourself?  If you lack even a few of these 10 essential habits, you might find that the expected treasure at the end of the rainbow was not all that it was cracked up to be. How could it — if you keep on bringing a negative attitude around?

Advertising

I wish you well in keeping positive, because as we all know, there is certainly nothing positive about being negative!

Featured photo credit: Janaína Castelo Branco via flickr.com

Read Next