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What Will Happen When You No Longer Go To The “Top 10 Attractions”

What Will Happen When You No Longer Go To The “Top 10 Attractions”

1. You’ll do less cramming and planning, and do more relaxing and having fun.

Sure a full itinerary seems exciting before you reach your destination. Planning is half the fun right? But once you arrive at your destination, you’ll find yourself over-scheduled and overwhelmed. How can you possibly see everything and do everything in the time that you have? Short answer: you can’t. So let it go, and just focus on seeing the city or town you’re in. Spend your first day in any city simply by being there. Soak up that feeling of being somewhere new, being away from work, your city, and being carefree. Eat different stuff. Talk to strangers. Stop and really see things and their beauty.

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2. You’ll have time to search out some authentic local experiences rather than visiting places that have been so completely tourist-ized.

Staying away from the most major tourist attractions will also put you in places where more locals are (since they stay away from crowded spots with long lines when at all possible). For instance, staying at an agriturismo or monastery in a small town in Italy, often yields a far more unique and rewarding experience than staying at an expensive hotel in an area crowded with tourists. Moreover, by staying in places a bit off the beaten path, you’ll be able to visit places and take photos without as many people photo bombing all your candid shots.

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3. You’ll eat better and drink better.

The farther away you stray from the main sights, the better the quality and prices get. Forget plastic menus with photos and low quality food churned out by the bucket to appease un-discerning tourist palates. Head for the shrinking price-tags and dishes you can’t pronounce to get a real taste of the country or city you’re visiting. For example: When I was in Croatia, I befriended a local restaurant owner and asked his advice for great seafood spots (we were in Dubrovnik). He recommended I get away from Dubrovnik completely (overall lackluster restaurants with high price-tags), and visit the nearby small village of Ston (and it’s counterpart Mali-Ston). He had some friends who ran an unofficial ‘restaurant’ from their house. What followed was the best meal I had during my three week vacation in Croatia. Six courses of seafood pulled straight from the sea, a stunning view, no crowds, and a price tag that was a 1/3 of the price my friend and I would’ve paid for 1/2 as much at any restaurant in Dubrovnik. Plus we stumbled across an amazing crumbling 15th century wall and stairs, that led up over mountains on the way back to Dubrovnik. That’s a day we’ll never forget, and we’d never have known those places existed without throwing away our guidebooks and just chatting with the locals.

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4. To be able to truly say that you have ‘experienced’ a place, it is important to meet and talk with locals and discover things for yourself.

Rather than walk blindly from place to place following your guide book, walk the streets, grab coffee or drinks at random bars, and get lost. Discover things you weren’t looking for. Seeing the same things every person sees, and having no memories other than racing to and from top attractions, standing in lines, buying tickets, and then taking too many unnecessary photos, isn’t the best way to create true and lasting memories. Dare to veer away from the crowds and figure things out on your own. Get lost in a pitcher of good wine on a sunny porch and find yourself leaving a place with only a photo or two of the landscape– only because you had such a good time you forgot, for once, to pose in front of everything. Live.

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Last Updated on February 15, 2019

Why Is Goal Setting Important to a Truly Fulfilling Life?

Why Is Goal Setting Important to a Truly Fulfilling Life?

In Personal Development-speak, we are always talking about goals, outcomes, success, desires and dreams. In other words, all the stuff we want to do, achieve and create in our world.

And while it’s important for us to know what we want to achieve (our goal), it’s also important for us to understand why we want to achieve it; the reason behind the goal or some would say, our real goal.

Why is goal setting important?

1. Your needs and desire will be fulfilled.

Sometimes when we explore our “why”, (why we want to achieve a certain thing) we realize that our “what” (our goal) might not actually deliver us the thing (feeling, emotion, internal state) we’re really seeking.

For example, the person who has a goal to lose weight in the belief that weight loss will bring them happiness, security, fulfillment, attention, popularity and the partner of their dreams. In this instance, their “what” is weight-loss and their “why” is happiness (etc.) and a partner.

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Six months later, they have lost the weight (achieved their goal) but as is often the case, they’re not happier, not more secure, not more confident, not more fulfilled and in keeping with their miserable state, they have failed to attract their dream partner.

After all, who wants to be with someone who’s miserable? They achieved their practical goal but still failed to have their needs met.

So they set a goal to lose another ten pounds. And then another. And maybe just ten more. With the destructive and erroneous belief that if they can get thin enough, they’ll find their own personal nirvana. And we all know how that story ends.

2. You’ll find out what truly motivates you

The important thing in the process of constructing our best life is not necessarily what goals we set (what we think we want) but what motivates us towards those goals (what we really want).

The sooner we begin to explore, identify and understand what motivates us towards certain achievements, acquisitions or outcomes (that is, we begin moving towards greater consciousness and self awareness), the sooner we will make better decisions for our life, set more intelligent (and dare I say, enlightened) goals and experience more fulfilment and less frustration.

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We all know people who have achieved what they set out to, only to end up in the same place or worse (emotionally, psychologically, sociologically) because what they were chasing wasn’t really what they were needing.

What we think we want will rarely provide us with what we actually need.

3. Your state of mind will be a lot healthier

We all set specific goals to achieve/acquire certain things (a job, a car, a partner, a better body, a bank balance, a title, a victory) because at some level, most of us believe (consciously or not) that the achievement of those goals will bring us what we really seek; joy, fulfilment, happiness, safety, peace, recognition, love, acceptance, respect, connection.

Of course, setting practical, material and financial goals is an intelligent thing to do considering the world we live in and how that world works.

But setting goals with an expectation that the achievement of certain things in our external, physical world will automatically create an internal state of peace, contentment, joy and total happiness is an unhealthy and unrealistic mindset to inhabit.

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What you truly want and need

Sometimes we need to look beyond the obvious (superficial) goals to discover and secure what we really want.

Sadly, we live in a collective mindset which teaches that the prettiest and the wealthiest are the most successful.

Some self-help frauds even teach this message. If you’re rich or pretty, you’re happy. If you’re both, you’re very happy. Pretty isn’t what we really want; it’s what we believe pretty will bring us. Same goes with money.

When we cut through the hype, the jargon and the self-help mumbo jumbo, we all have the same basic goals, desires and needs:

Joy, fulfilment, happiness, safety, peace, recognition, love, acceptance, respect, connection.

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Nobody needs a mansion or a sport’s car but we all need love.

Nobody needs massive pecs, six percent body-fat, a face lift or bigger breasts but we all need connection, acceptance and understanding.

Nobody needs to be famous but we all need peace, calm, balance and happiness.

The problem is, we live in a culture which teaches that one equals the other. If only we lived in a culture which taught that real success is far more about what’s happening in our internal environment, than our external one.

It’s a commonly-held belief that we’re all very different and we all have different goals — whether short term or long term goals. But in many ways we’re not, and we don’t; we all want essentially the same things.

Now all you have to do is see past the fraud and deception and find the right path.

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