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We Are All the Same: Popular Stars Who Were Bullied at School

We Are All the Same: Popular Stars Who Were Bullied at School

Many of us tend to think that celebrities are superhumans. Sure thing! Fortunate enough to be born under a lucky star, they don’t know what the bitterness of life is. In fact, it is far from true. Stars are also people, so nothing human is strange to them. There are many complicated life stories hidden behind a snow-white smile. Some celebrities faced a problem of bullying at school just like you or your kids — and just like many people all over the world. Do you want to hear their stories? If so, get ready to discover some new facts about your favorite stars you had no idea about.

1. Christian Bale

Christian Bale

    Christian Bale got interested in theater at a fairly young age. When he was nine, he was featured in a commercial for the first time. His classmates didn’t like his hobby. They bullied him and beat him up. However, the talented teen didn’t give up. And what happened later? Bingo! He showed up on a TV screen as Batman! This is probably one of the most desired male roles. Today, Bale is a world-famous actor who has received numerous awards including an Oscar and a Golden Globe.

    2. Jessica Alba

    Jessica Alba

      Believe it or not, but a stunning beauty Jessica Alba suffered from bullying at high school. She was victimized for her Texas accent and buck teeth. Also, she was quite an awkward teenager. As a result, her peers taunted her. Alba managed to overcome her clumsiness and become a model. Now she is a successful actress and entrepreneur. And this grown-up girl with buck teeth was ranked number six on “The Most Beautiful Women in the World.”

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      3. Winona Ryder

      Winona Ryder

        Secondary school was the absolute hell for Winona Ryder. She was beaten up by a group of bullies. They shouted some anti-gay words at her and called her a boy. She had a short haircut in those years because of her obsession with the movie “Bugsy Malone.” As the actress recalls, she dropped out of school after one of the beatings. One day, her old bully asked her for an autograph at a cafe. She swore loudly at him. The strength of mind helped Ryder recover from bullying and build a successful career in film industry.

        4. Taylor Swift

        Taylor Swift

          No pain; no gain. Taylor Swift is the living proof of the old wisdom. The singer admitted that high school bullies inspired her to start writing songs. And you know what? These days, people all around the world admire her talent. Swift is a top 10 most followed people on Instagram.

          5. Steven Spielberg

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          Steven Spielberg

            At school, Steven Spielberg was victimized for being a nerd. He stayed away from noisy parties and devoted himself to studies. His peers bullied him for this.

            Life has shown that Spielberg did everything right. His runaway success in movie-making owes a lot to his diligence at school. He is known as a distinguished film producer, movie director, and business person of our age. The sheer fact that Spielberg was ranked second on The Great Living Directors speaks for itself.

            6. Madonna

            Madonna

              You could hardly find a person who hasn’t heard of Madonna. She is a very recognizable person on the modern music stage. But in hindsight, she wasn’t always that well-liked. The Queen of pop music had a tough life at school. She said that boys called her “a hairy monster” and bullied her because of that. So what did she do? She ceased to shave her armpits. This is so typical of Madonna, isn’t it? She is well-known for her rebellious nature. And she has been ranked 43 on The Best Singers of All Time the years after.

              7. Lady Gaga

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              Lady Gaga

                Without a doubt, Lady Gaga has got her style. She began to wear extravagant clothes since school. No wonder her classmates called her a freak and made fun of her. It made her life unbearable. However, the singer managed to pull herself together. She stopped paying attention to all the gossip behind her back. These days, Lady Gaga has dedicated fans all over the globe. She calls them “little monsters” and encourages them to be who they are no matter what. Fortune favors the bold. 

                8. Kate Winslet

                Kate Winslet

                  Some teens get bullied at school because of their weight. Kate Winslet was one of them. She has never been a slender child. Her classmates teased her and called “blubber.” Such offensive nicknames made her feel horrible. But she didn’t give up on her dream to become an actress. Over the years, the ugly duckling turned into a beautiful swan. Currently, we know Winslet as one of the most beautiful women in the world. She also won an Oscar for one of her roles.

                  9. Daniel Radcliffe

                  DANIEL RADCLIFFE

                    During his adolescence, the Harry Potter star wasn’t a popular teen. His class fellows considered him “uncool” and poked fun at him. On one occasion, 14-year-old Radcliffe even put up a fight with his 19-year-old bully. In fairness, it must be said that such battles look spectacular only in the movies. It was a negative experience for both guys since they punched each other for real. Now Radcliffe is the one having the last laugh. At his young age, he is a famous actor and a role model for many teenagers across the globe.

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                    If you are being bullied now, keep in mind that school is just a phase of your life. It won’t last forever. Everything will get better. The next time you feel oppressed, recall those celebrities from the list who experienced bullying as well. If they managed to get through it and pick themselves up, you can do it, too. Your time to shine will come! Make no doubt about it!

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                    13 Tips to Face Your Fears, Grow with Them and Enjoy the Ride

                    13 Tips to Face Your Fears, Grow with Them and Enjoy the Ride

                    Fear. I spend my life talking about fear — fighting fears, fixing fears and understanding fears. And yet I doubt I get 10 calls a year from people saying “Mandie can you help me fix my fear?”

                    Why is this so critically important to you?

                    The realization for me is that fear is not the fundamental driving force in your life it’s what regardless of whether I’m talking to a doctor, a teacher, a CEO’s, a senior citizens or teenager – every single one of those conversations has a direct correlation with your world.

                    Fear can range from the overwhelming desire to look away or stop in your tracks to literally fleeing your country and the life you knew. In this article, I will share you with 13 tips to face your fears and enjoy the ride.

                    1. Know That Fear Is Real, but Can Be Overcome

                    Right now around the world people are facing fear — real fear. Fear that I pray my children and I will never experience. Does that lessen my fears or your fears in your relativity safe 21st century life?

                    When I look at the world we all live in, I find that fear like so many other emotions can mean so many different things to so many different people:

                    • The child who has to be physically dragged to their first day of school.
                    • The man facing the judge.
                    • The woman with her hand poised over the buttons over her phone because she has to walk down a dark corridor late at night alone.
                    • The man as the surgeon says “count backwards from 10 Mr Smith.”
                    • The woman that’s told “We are sorry, we can’t help you.”
                    • The man that faces the empty circle of a gun and prays for his very existence.

                    These and a million more (Portrayed in every kind of movie, book or song you could imagine) are what make us human. We face fear and somehow move forward or are stopped in our tracks.

                    Like the rabbit in the headlights of the car that veers off through the field away from the tyres of the car or stays still praying for salvation. Like someone will save them. Sound familiar?

                    Fear is huge. Fear is everywhere and yet fear can be overcome, controlled and can even be a power for good.

                    2. Accept Your Fear

                    Firstly if you aren’t facing the barrel of the gun, atrocities that make the news or impeding death, that’s a good start. However it doesn’t mean your fear is any less real.

                    We are quick to say “I can’t moan, my life is not as bad as X.” While in theory, that’s honorable your appreciation of Mr. or Mrs. X’s horrific life won’t change anything directly. So accept your fear is relative to you.

                    And here’s what can be done.

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                    3. Get Some Perspective

                    I found myself asking anyone that would answer “what is your worst fear”. The answer that intrigued me the most came from my daughter (15 years old and she usually has a copy of Fight the Fear – my book – in her school bag so she can help someone else be as positive and confident as her. No matter what life throws up.)

                    And her fear, surprised me — heights. I pointed out that we live in a sprawling bungalow (one storey) and the highest she goes is two storeys’ at school! She laughed but added, fear isn’t like that Mum. I know it’s not a real fear, but it’s like when you stand on a chair and feel unsafe.

                    That girl will go far. Because she truly gets fear.

                    We know something is scary and yet we still do it. Why? Because we have a perspective to the fear. When you lose perspective, it can feel too big, and too scary.

                    So look around you to get some perspective on your fear:

                    • Are you really at risk?
                    • Will this kill you?
                    • Which leads us on to..
                    • If the worse was to happen what would it be?

                    4. Hold a Hand

                    As a coach, it is my job to holds someone’s metaphorical hand and help them face a fear.

                    Like the child petrified of the thunder storm or the teen that can’t get back in a car again after failing their test, your job as a parent is to reassure, encourage, enable and motivate someone to face something that ideally they never would choose to again.

                    We know many of our fears aren’t real. However, it is only when someone guides us with love, respect, lack of judgement and safety are we able to get through fear. And trust me, you can get through your fears. I’ve seen it so many times.

                    Ask yourself:

                    • If the worse were to happen, what would that be?
                    • Could that really happen?
                    • If the worse did happen, how would you recover?
                    • If the worse were to happen, what would you need to do next?

                    By seeing fear as not the end destination but part of being human, you can see through it’s wily evil ways and move forward.

                    5. Know Whose Hand You Hold Either Physically or Emotionally

                    This helps with fears for the rest of your life.

                    Think of someone you can always rely on (and ideally you won’t just answer yourself because that adds a lot of pressure to your existence!) And you will find that you’ve already found a way to get through fear.

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                    The beauty of this is that it means that fear becomes part of life not something to be feared and shied away from.

                    It means you know you can turn to your friend, partner, colleague, parent, sibling and say “Right I need to deal with this, and I’m going to need you to help me.”

                    For one moment, think about it from the other person’s view point. When we get to help other people we feel valued, loved, respected and lots of other positive emotions and we get a good dose of positive chemicals setting off in our bodies too.

                    Your fear, and your determination to fight it, helped someone else too. Now that’s cool right?

                    6. Understand That There Are Some Things Fear Will Never Touch

                    I like to find role models in life — people who have faced heroism, history changing moments, war, atrocities, miracles, life saving inventions.

                    Not everyone was looking for greatness, however they all found it. And one of my favourite books to date is written about Alistair Urquhart, the forgotten highlander. If this doesn’t get turned into a film in the future, then no man’s story is likely to.

                    Alistair went through the most horrific experiences in the 2nd world war. If you think of one of the awful things that happened back then in our world, Alistair went through at least 3 of them! Asked afterwards how did you cope? He talked about how whatever they did to his body, no matter how they starved, tortured, threatened or mocked him, they couldn’t have his mind. In his mind he was free.

                    Of all the people’s voices I’ve heard in my head over the years, this is one of those statements that reminds me anything is possible if you have faith and hope.

                    Look for the things in life that fear can’t touch. They will create confidence and faith for the future, whatever you face. And they will give you a sense of why being you is awesome.

                    Of all the billions of people on this planet, no one will have an answer identical to yours!

                    7. Process Your Fears to Carry on with Life

                    Being brave is not about sticking your chest out and smiling regardless of what hell you endure. It is about finding a way to emotionally process your fears to be able to keep going.

                    I have a tool kit of things I can rely on – tools, strategies, techniques. They include people to hug or talk to, music. hobbies, walks on the beach and even my favourite food. It sounds mad but at the times where I have questioned “how will I get through this?” I’ve found immense joy in doing the most unlikely of thing that makes me smile.

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                    It may be a short lived moment of happiness. However, it reminded that nothing stays the same and I can find away.

                    One client told me that it was crazy when it felt like their world was falling around their ears to run a bath to the brim (you don’t waste water) get the best bath oils, light too many candles, lock the door and drink a glass of bubbly (champagne is only for special occasions.)

                    Did that moment fix the disaster that my clients life felt? No, however it gave them a moment of calm and the brain is far quicker to find solutions, resolve and motivation to keep going when you do that.

                    It may feel like madness to do something you love, however it can be a powerful way to help you find solutions to the fears you face in life.

                    8. Assume the Worse

                    If you read the statement from the client above. Notice how they assumed it was wrong to fill the bath up to the top? How bubbly is only for special occasions?

                    Think how naughty they felt to be doing something that was not allowed?

                    • Think about what age it may have made them feel?
                    • Think about how they feel about champagne?
                    • What special moments it’s been a part of in their lives?

                    And you can see how the assumptions they made about their “right” to have these things was not healthy.

                    When I drag the assumptions out of people’s words for them to see, they are often struck by how negative the words make them feel.

                    Don’t assume your words aren’t impacting on you. You can go through fear and actually enjoy the ride when you take the time to understand how you are letting words get to you.

                    9. Take a Fear That Feels Insurmountable Right Now.

                    If you were to repeat it to me out loud, what would you say?

                    Would you have blame on yourself in there? Would you assume others can do it and it’s just you? Would you feel small, unsuccessful, useless, unworthy?

                    Usually, when you do this exercise, you are able to spot the untruths that run wild in your head convincing you that you are doomed. And rarely when we are faced with our assumptions is there is a lot of evidence to them.

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                    10. You Are Not Defined by Your Fear

                    One fear does not define your life – be mindful of that. It is likely to lead you to thinking of all the times you’ve succeeded and bring a moment of calm, confidence and faith back to you.

                    11. Go with Fear

                    When you learn to go with fear, you could find yourself actually having fun, no seriously – having fun.

                    I have a few amazing clients I’m working with right now who would describe themselves as life long worriers, or pessimists. In the past that has served them well, enabling them to keep safe, steer clear of risks and even develop strategies in the event of disasters. However, now they find it’s becoming hard to break the cycle and they really want to because it’s holding them back.

                    Notice how they’ve found their hidden fears and want to face them?

                    One client said “I knew this was going to be tough, and I knew I couldn’t fight it alone and I knew you would be the one to help me.” Before I sat an incredibly successful, confident, capable business owner with a family and a social life to die for.

                    However, I’ve learned that the most successful looking lives can hide things that impact on life, success, love, happiness and business.

                    We didn’t start with the fear that they felt was holding them back, we broke the fear down, and found lots of little obstacles that had been deemed as “life” and “unchangeable” and “that’s just the way it is” by developing awareness to the little steps on the road to their obstacles to happiness and success they were able to tackle them in a different way.

                    12. Discover Great Skills in Your Scary Moments

                    And in that clients words “I came here to work with you to grow my company, and my own personal skills. I didn’t expect to get the children to be cleaning up after themselves and my partner being more attentive! It all feels a little magic.”

                    The moral is that out of the scariest of moments, we can find great skills we didn’t know we had. Find better, healthier, happier ways to live and find ways to enjoy life more. (And have a bit of magic!)

                    What a great place to be in ready for the next fear that thinks it’s going to get in the way of you, right?

                    13. Own Your Fear

                    Think back over these tips and come up with at least one example for each one. Write them down. Put them on your phone. Turn them into a piece of art. Turn them into a poem. Frame them. Go for a fast walk across the fields, beach, down town and repeat these things in your head to the sound of your feet on the ground.

                    We rarely take the time to appreciate how far we have come, how much we can achieve or what we are capable of – by really owning the tips in this article you will have given your brain a big fat dose of “Damn right I can do this!” and the motivation and accountability to say “Let’s find a way” through any fear.

                    You can’t help but feel good when you see that can you? And fear doesn’t stand a chance, does it?

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