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8 Things That Can Hugely Undermine Your Attractiveness, According To Science

8 Things That Can Hugely Undermine Your Attractiveness, According To Science

We all do things that we think are going to increase our attractiveness and make us feel good. We go to the gym to make positive changes to our body, we dress in a way that we want to be perceived. But, have you ever wondered, “is there anything I’m doing that is making me unattractive?” According to our friends in the lovely world of science, the answer is most certainly yes.

In this article, we’ll be going over a few things that actually decrease your attractiveness, how to stop before you completely sabotage your sex appeal and how to be attractive.

1. Not Enough Sleep

Who would’ve thought, right? Not enough sleep actually decreases our attractiveness. Back in 2010 researchers took photos of people who had not slept for 31 hours and those who had gotten at least 8 hours of sleep the night prior to the photos. The participants in the study then rated those in the photos on different criteria. In their conclusion, they discovered that those who had been sleep deprived actually looked less attractive, more sad, and less healthy.

Although it may be hard to do because of well, life, try to make sure you’re getting your full eight hours of sleep every night to ensure you wake up refreshed every day.

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2. Not Being Nice

We’ve all heard the saying, “nice guys finish last”. But is that actually true? According to science, maybe not. A 2014 Chinese study took photos of people with a neutral expression on their faces. Below the photos they would put a certain word such as decent, honest, mean or evil. In addition, other photos were not given any information at all. The study found that those with the words mean and evil under the photos were found to be less attractive by the participants rating the photos.

To avoid this, it really is quite simple, just be nice. No one likes being around a person who is constantly miserable and mean to everyone. But we all are allowed to have our days where we just aren’t happy. Try doing things to boost your mood by being active or doing other activities that you find enjoyable.

3. Being overstressed

Chill out ladies, you may appear much more attractive. A 2013 study had shown that high levels of a stress hormone called Cortisol in women were found to be less attractive by men. Although there is no concrete proof to back it up, the researchers believe that high levels of Cortisol are indications of health and fertility.

I know, as a woman especially, we just can’t help but stress about…everything. I think we are truly wired to think, overthink and stress about every possible little thing. Have a glass of red wine, go to the gym, practice yoga, meditate. Do it for the sake of your sex appeal, and your own well-being.

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4. Where’s Your Sense Of Humor?

We hear it all the time when talking to our buddies about what we like and dislike when it comes to talking about what we are and are not attracted to. Everyone wants someone funny. I mean, if someone can’t make you laugh, what’s the point anyway? It should come as no surprise then that back in 2009 a study found that having no sense of humor, or even an average one was found to be less attractive in comparison to those with a great sense of humor. Gender absolutely doesn’t play a role here so practice up on your jokes boys and girls.

You have to remember, trying too hard is a real thing though. Remember to just be yourself, you may actually be surprised as to how funny you are when you can just relax and be true to you.

5. Being Lazy

Nothing about being lazy is something either sex finds attractive. Whether it be aspirations, physical activity, what have you, it’s important to get up and get moving. Laziness and motivation go hand in hand. What you do, and what you don’t do says a lot about the type of person you are. If you choose to be lazy with yourself and your goals, one may believe that you will be lazy when it comes to a relationship. Life is beautiful and exciting, but you can’t experience it from a couch.

At times, we can find ourselves in a slump where we just don’t want to do anything at all. We do just what we have to do to get by and that’s about it. It’s important though, to not remain in that stagnant state. Make a list of the things you want to get done each day a post it up somewhere where you’ll see it and cross off each thing as you complete it. There’s nothing more satisfying than completing tasks and other things that need to get done. Plan your day backwards. Act as though your day ends at 5:30 and you plan your day to get done what needs to be done in that time frame.

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6. Dishonesty

This is a given. If you can’t tell the truth you’re definitely not on the right road when learning how to be attractive. A dishonest person is always viewed as a person who is unreliable. When a person is dishonest, they almost always have other negative qualities that can and surely will turn a person off.

Just be honest. It’s been said that honesty is the best policy and there are fewer things truer than that.

7. Body Language

Body language can exhibit quite a few unattractive traits such as weakness, nervousness, insecurity, discomfort and more. The way you sit and stand may come off more unattractive than you realize. By standing with your arms folded you can give off an impression that you are closed off and uncomfortable. This alone can make you seem unapproachable.

Research was conducted in 2016 where it was discovered that contractive body language can make you appear less attractive. Researchers used a dating app to evaluate different contractive positions. In one set of profiles, participants had their arms crossed or hunched their shoulders. In the other set of profiles, the same group of men and women had pictures taken in expansive positions, such as holding their arms in a upward position or reaching out to grab an object. The results concluded the those pictured in expansive positions were found to be more attractive.

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It’s important to pay attention to your body language. Make sure to stretch every day, avoid sitting down for too long, and strengthen your core muscles. All of these will help to improve your posture.

8. Being Too Proud or Happy

Being happy is a good quality to have, but according to science being too happy may actually decrease your attractiveness. Back in 2011 researchers conducted experiments on well over 1,000 men and women. They had shown them photographs of people of the opposite sex and went on to ask them how attractive the people in the pictures were.

Generally speaking, women who are happy tend to appear to be more attractive, whereas women do not prefer men who are “too happy”. In addition, pride is usually more attractive on men, however men do not prefer women who look too proud.

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Last Updated on September 10, 2019

7 Morning Rituals to Empower Your Day And Change Your Life

7 Morning Rituals to Empower Your Day And Change Your Life

Most of your reality is not a given. It is shaped by your expectations, beliefs and thoughts you have formed about it. A big chunk of these beliefs and expectations are encoded into habits you integrate in your daily life.

Yes, some of these habits are formed unconsciously and can be counter-productive or limiting but conversely, you can consciously form positive habits that will transform and empower your life significantly.

This is a powerful point of departure that more and more people are becoming aware of. The most common trait of highly successful people is the recognition of the power they have in co-creating their reality through changing the way they think, believe or expect their reality to be.

One of the most effective ways of changing our belief patterns is through practising and maintaining daily rituals. Ancient traditions had clearly understood the power of rituals in reinforcing habits and changing the way we see and create our reality a long, long time ago.

Once again, if you look into the life history of any highly successful individual, you will find some form of ritual in their daily routine. Some of these rituals may seem banal or eccentric but don’t be deceived by appearances. Rituals are one of the most effective self-empowering tools freely available at the practitioner’s disposal – that is, you!

Below are some the easiest yet life-changing morning rituals you can do every day. Of course, you can have your own afternoon or bed-time rituals but morning rituals are extremely effective in empowering your day since they help you charge yourself before it all starts.

1. Gratitude

Feeling gratitude and appreciation for those little signs and moments of joy happening in your life is probably one of the most overlooked or underestimated rituals. It is a perfect morning ritual to start your day on a very positive key.

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The real power of gratitude is that it makes you pick out and focus on what is working in your life – what is in tune with your being as a whole. It is selectively positive. It reinforces happiness and positivity by shedding light on those awesome things, small or big, that grace your everyday living.

Quite often, we just pick out the pain points, the problems, the bottle necks, whatever it is that is not working in our life and causing friction, anxiety and unhappiness. This is like constantly rewriting the script of your life with a negative or tragic overtone. Your subconscious mind follows faithfully that script you write whether it is a negative or positive one.

So feeling gratitude is undoubtedly an immensely empowering ritual. Start your day by being thankful for those positive things that happened the previous day or throughout the week. It could be something really petty and small. It doesn’t matter. You might be grateful for an unexpected visit from an old friend, a beautiful encounter with a kind stranger, a new opportunity or whatever it is that shines your way. Do it every morning and see what happens during the day.

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    2. Writing Down Your Most Important Tasks

    This is a very practical ritual. Start your day by identifying and writing down from one to three of the most important tasks you need to complete during that day. These tasks are ones which support important long term goals that are aligned to your purpose, passion or general direction in life.

    For example, if writing a book or building an online community are important long term goals which are aligned to your personal growth, then an important task for the day might be finishing off a particular page or two of the book or coming up with fresh content ideas for the online community.

    What is important with this ritual is that you identify these tasks and complete them as early in the day as possible. Of course, you will have other tasks apart from the ones you will write down but, these are tasks which can be tackled later or batched up and carried out in one go.

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    Writing down your most important tasks in the morning helps you focus your day and life according to what is essential. It helps you prioritize and manage your time better. As a result, you simplify your life by applying your focus and energy on what really counts for your overall life progress.

    3. Affirm Your Goals in Writing or Drawing

    This is similar to the previous idea but different in its application and purpose. Writing down your most important tasks of the day is a way to have a concrete structure of action to follow. Affirming your goals, on the other hand, is a very powerful way of crystallizing your vision and goals in life into your everyday mental space.

    Writing down or doodling your goals on a piece of paper helps you externalize those goals by giving them form. In return, they are reflected back in your subconscious mind and thus, reinforcing them and integrating them more wholly.

    An example of this would be writing down “I am achieving greater success in my career” or “I am becoming healthier and stronger through my exercise.” Notice the present tense being used as a way to tell yourself you are in the process already. Remember the life script we subconsciously follow? You are basically modifying the script to be applied now in the present.

    Drawing or doodling can be equally, or even more, effective  (if you are more of a visual person) as it summarizes a graphical representation of your goals. For example, if your goal is to build a new house or live in another country, you can draw the house or draw things that symbolise the country you want to live in.

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      4. Practice Qi Gong Exercises

      According to Chinese philosophy, Qi (pronounced ‘Chee’) means the life force or energy inherent in all things;[1] and Qi Gong is the practice to cultivate and circulate that energy in your body. This may sound esoteric or complicated but actually, Qi Gong is really a set of simple exercises aimed at increasing your health and vitality.

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      There are numerous forms and practices available for free through the online media. As a morning ritual, I recommend following these simple exercises by Qi Gong master Lee Holden:

      5. Drink Hot Water with Lemon

      Simply add a slice of lemon in a glass of hot water and drink one every morning. This is a very simple ritual I follow faithfully every morning.

      Apart from being a good source of vitamin C and a great way of flushing out toxins in the morning, it balances and maintains the PH levels in the body, reduces pain and inflammation in joints and knees and helps nourishing brain and nerve cells. Here are some more benefits of drinking hot water with lemon.

      6. Rise Earlier

      The practical advantages of waking up early are obvious.

      For example, you gain more time for doing exercise such as walking, cycling or Qi Gong as suggested above. You gain more time to be with yourself to reflect, meditate or, more importantly, carry out the other morning rituals.

      So rising early can be seen as a foundation for all the other morning rituals. Many, like myself, find that they are more productive in the early hours of the day.

      Also, various studies have shown that there are many other benefits from waking up an hour or two earlier in the morning. Sleeping early and waking up early helps the body attune with the earth’s circadian rhythms thus, promoting more restorative sleep. Other curious results from such studies show, for instance, that early risers tend to be more optimistic and can anticipate and solve problems more efficiently than the norm.[2]

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      7. Listen to Uplifting Music

      Uplifting music can have a direct impact on our mood, especially in the morning. It charges us emotionally and tunes us into a more positive outlook of the day ahead.

      Most people wake up to music or listen to music as they commute to work. Very often, however, they tune in to a radio or randomly pick a playlist from their device. Being more selective and conscious of the music you listen to in the morning can have a great impact on your day and life in general.

      It’s funny how we try to choose music according to our mood. For example if you are feeling down or disappointed by something, you are more prone to listen to music that reflects that mood – for instance blues, sad songs or downtempo music. This has the effect of reinforcing that mood. What you need to do is the exact opposite and retune your mood by listening to music that beats to a different tune than that mood.

      Try to listen to more uplifting music in the morning even if, or especially if, your mood does not dictate so.

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      Reference

      [1] Live Science: What Is Qi Gong
      [2] Harvard Business Review: Defend Your Research: The Early Bird Really Does Get the Worm

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