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What a Typical Day Is Like for Introverts

What a Typical Day Is Like for Introverts

Hearing the word introvert probably conjures up a person who is shy and not willing to interact with people; however, being an introvert and being shy are two separate personality traits. While some people can be both, many introverts just find a sense of peace being in their own company and indulging in lone pursuits away from others. This doesn’t mean they hate being around people; it just means they need less time in the presence of others.

There are many positive ways introverts contribute to the world around them — they are good observers, and are trustworthy, focused, and thought-provoking. In essence, introverts may come across as shy and reticent but they are just predominantly concerned with their own thoughts and feelings rather than external things.

A typical day for an introvert will vary, but the core inner feelings transcend throughout each day and can shape interaction with others and their choices of activities.

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A Day in the Life of an Introvert

7:00 a.m. — You go for a run.

You enjoy activities by yourself, so going for a run alone is no bother. Putting in your music and setting out for your morning workout is an excellent time to start the day and get your thoughts in check. Introverts are deep thinkers, so a good workout is not only a good opportunity to think about the day ahead, but it’s also a great opportunity to clear the mind of unneeded thoughts that are cluttering your brain.

8:30 a.m. — You enjoy reading your book on the commute to work.

Introverts love being in their own little world and reading is the perfect way to do this. It’s also a way of shutting out anyone around you — not because you are trying to be rude, but because you just enjoy the mindfulness and comfort of being immersed in your book with no distractions.

9:00 a.m. — You notice your co-worker’s new haircut.

Being an introvert, you are very good at making observations, and you are often the first to notice something different like a colleague’s new hair cut or new outfit. This is why introverts can sometimes be recognized as being thoughtful. Being observant also means you pick up on conversations and any awkward moments even if you aren’t involved in the conversation itself.

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12:00 p.m. — You become absorbed in your work.

Time can often fly when you’re an introvert because you get very immersed in whatever you’re doing. You have a knack of focusing well on anything you put your mind to. Introverts tend to be driven and disciplined and can direct their energy well into a project or a goal, especially if it’s something they’re passionate about.

1:00 p.m. — You go out for work lunch but leave earlier than others.

You go out for lunch and enjoy the break with colleagues and friends, but you are more likely to leave lunch much earlier than the others especially if lunch extends longer than usual. This isn’t because you’re trying to be rude or hate the people you’re with, but introverts need a certain amount of time away from people to recuperate mentally. Sometimes being in the company of others can be a bit too much especially if there are dominating personalities around you.

5:00 p.m. — You get invited out for drinks but decline.

The thought of being in a large group and socializing can be okay for an introvert for a certain amount of time, but after a while it can become boring to them. The common notion that being by yourself is lonely and boring without interaction with others is the complete opposite for an introvert. Many people find this hard to understand, but if you’re an introvert, you know exactly what I mean! Because of this, many invitations are declined or plans can be cancelled at the last minute in favor of staying in and enjoying your own company.

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5:15 p.m. — A stranger on the bus makes small talk — and you hate it.

There you are happily reading your book with an empty seat next to you, when someone decides to sit down despite there being numerous other seats they could have chosen. This annoys you a bit but what can you do? However, the person then starts asking you about your book and the dread sets in. You absolutely hate small talk and never know what to say or how to carry on the conversation — the awkwardness ruins your journey and you’re annoyed you didn’t get to finish that last page of the chapter before your bus stop approaches.

5:30 p.m. — You’re happy to be home.

As an introvert, you love being home. Home to you is your safe place and the place where you can truly relax and unwind. This is why you’d secretly love to be able to have a job where you can work from home and just be surrounded by your comforts.

6:00 p.m. — Your friend calls.

You love your friends, and just because you decline invitations and cancel plans sometimes doesn’t mean you don’t love having people in your life. As an introvert, you are more likely to have a small, close circle of friends rather than hundreds of acquaintances that demand your time. You love having interaction with your close friends, but they are the ones who are more likely to call you or initiate a conversation because you can find it hard to muster up the need to call, but this doesn’t mean you love them any less.

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7:30 p.m. — You take your dog for a walk.

Introverts — whether single, in a relationship, or married with a family — love to spend time with their pets. This is because animals don’t talk and just keep you company in a silent and non-judgmental way. You sometimes think you relate more to animals than people — or at least like the quiet company more. Having a pet like a dog is a good excuse to take yourself out of situations with people and be by yourself by taking them for a nice, quiet, reflective walk.

Featured photo credit: Reading by Alexander Lyubavin via flickr.com

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Published on October 7, 2019

4 Types of Toxic People and How to Deal with Them

4 Types of Toxic People and How to Deal with Them

Can a person really be toxic? Well, a toxic person does not refer to those who are affected by the virus or toxic. To be precise, toxic people are those who are very unsupportive, abusive and unhealthy in nature. Their behavior is filled with venom and you will not feel any sort of gentle breeze in their words.

In this article, you will learn how to spot out a toxic person, and what you can do to deal with them.

Signs of Toxic People

To make it more obvious, I have added some signs of toxic people below.

Manipulative Behavior And Fabricated Mind

Toxic people are unable to deal with the bitter truth firmly. If you are going to blurt out their fabrications with proof, they will try to change the whole matter with their manipulative behavior. They will titillate you with sensitive words or they will try to frighten you to get rid of the problems.

Inhuman And Merciless in Nature

We know that sharing our thoughts with friends will keep us in good mental state. But, if you are not getting fruitful outcomes, you have to understand that you are spending time with toxic friends.

Toxic people do not know how to put themselves in other’s shoes. They just put on a mask of simplicity. But, in reality, they don’t have feelings for you. Therefore, you should stop sharing your valuable time with them as you will get nothing except annoyance and silence.

Hypocrisy at Its Best in Their Nature

Toxic people have a great hunger for respect, adoration, and fidelity. After dignifying them with these valuable elements, you will get nothing; you will be cheated, manipulated and criticized by them. And, if you are not willing to listen to them, you will be controlled by guilt-tripping.

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Emotional Outburst And Pathological Excuses

Toxic people always want to see themselves in the positive end. Therefore, to get their job done, they always have an emotional outburst and emotional excuse to make an impulsive impression upon you.

We do mistakes and it is our duty to accept those mistakes. But, toxic people have their own rules, they have a tendency to present themselves rationally even after committing a mistake. If someone tries to expose themselves with facts, they show no embarrassment and use emotional excuses as a shield.

Play with Your Emotion And Gradually Erode It

Toxic people always try to condescend you with critical jokes and when you try to elicit your thoughts, they just burst out laughing. Teasing becomes an important element in your relationship with toxic person. They even give you backhanded compliments to belittle you.

Thus, using their toxic mindset, they just gradually diminish your abilities as well as intelligence. And you will have nothing left in your hand other than putting up with these things to maintain the silence.

Well, you probably might have not seen all these signs in one person as there are different types of toxic people roaming around you.

4 Types of Toxic People

To understand it better, I’m mentioning the different types of toxic people here.

1. Conversational Narcissist

There are some toxic people who do not know how to give importance to others. They will talk about themselves but never ask you about your condition; they will only recall you when they need you or they are facing some sort of problems.

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2. Emotional Vampires

These vampires do not suck your blood but dissipate your emotion. They always talk negatively about everyone and compel you to think in the same pattern that they follow. They mask themselves in such a way in front of you that you gradually start giving importance to them. But, ultimately, you will not get any positive outcome from them.

3. Monsters with Green eyes

As discussed earlier, toxic people will give you backhanded compliments. Basically, these are called monsters with green eyes. These monsters feel happy when you feel sad. Therefore, they will always try to belittle your achievements, intelligence, and strengths. Along with it, they give compliments with some negativity in it.

4. Black-Eyed Cats

These cats always do mew-mew and try to control everything around them. They love to be pampered but, they do not like if someone goes against them.

If you are in a relationship with such persons, you will be nagged until you are giving them complete satisfaction. In a nutshell, it must be said that you have to align yourself with them if you want to live with them. But, ultimately, you will lose your mental, conversational and emotional freedom.

How to Deal with Toxic People

Living with problems is more convenient than living with toxic people. But, toxic people are parasites and therefore, you will see these monsters rambling around you wherever you go.

However, if you know how to deal with them, it would be very helpful for you and your life would be much easier to live. We have added some tips to assist you, just check these out.

Get Rid of Intermittent Reinforcement

We are very optimistic in nature and over the time, this optimism has reached to such a level that we can happily put up with the ‘close losses’ instead of trying to catch the ‘near wins’.

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B.F Skinner once did an experiment with three rats. He put them in different cages attached with levers. The lever delivered food when it was pressed. In the 1st cage, the lever always delivered food when the rat pressed it. In case of the 2nd cage, food was never delivered by the lever even after pressing it, therefore, the rat understood the lesson and never tried to get food. But, in the third cage, the lever delivered food randomly and as a result, the rat was completely hooked and fixated. He constantly pushed it but didn’t get the food always.

Well, this is called intermittent relationship and the same thing happens in human relationships where toxic people give you intermittent reinforcement and your heart gets pumped up with optimism. As a result, you will be hooked and your life will be fixated at some point with toxic people.

You should learn to move on without them and live your life happily because random happiness cannot bring permanent relief.

Never Make Too Many Allowances And Pardons

Well, sympathetic attitude is very good and it is also a fact that sometimes toxic people suffer from genuine depression, physical as well as mental illness. But, you have to set a boundary and you cannot allow people to get away with anything so easily.

If you make too many allowances as well as pardons, it would not be good for you in the long-term. Yes, there are some people who are facing extreme hardships and they are not even toxic in nature. But, all you can do is show some genuine compassion keeping yourself within the boundaries.

Always Try to Ignore Their Toxic Traps

Demotivational words are the primary weapon that they frequently use in their implications to detract you. Along with this, they throw words in such a way that you start feeling guilty. Well, you must understand that these are just toxic traps and you should not step on it.

Always remember that you will have full access to freedom if you stop taking things personally. They not only do this with you but also with everyone. You just have to keep in mind that these toxic words are not based on truth but on their own mental reproduction. So, you just have to ignore this and focus on your work.

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Show Them Your Beautiful Smile Not the Curves on Your Forehead

Toxic people have an aptitude to attack mentally, mock disgracefully and diminish shamefully. But, you will not be affected if you don’t surrender yourself. Show them that you are not getting belittled or insulted.

We all have our problems and we also know that we are capable of solving these problems. Therefore, the matter entirely depends upon us and if we don’t allow these vampires to enter into our life or play with our emotions, they cannot suck our happiness. So, I’d suggest you show your beautiful smile when they buzz around you.

Don’t Suppress Yourself

Toxic people will intimidate, bully, pass guilt, and forcefully take money from you to get their job done. They know very well that they are doing wrong and at the same time, they are acquainted with the concept that we are incapable of doing anything against them.

Most of the time, we keep ourselves quiet until someone speaks up. And because of this suppressive mindset, we are gradually being dragged into their mind games.

Well, we have to change this concept as it infuses courage into them. We need to obstruct them with firm minds and make them realize the negative consequences of their behavior.[1] If they are upsetting you, just tell them directly. Your direct statement might open a new gate of opportunity that will allow you to help them if they are suffering from genuine problems.

So, why are you still tolerating these toxic people? Follow the tips mentioned above and deal with them in the right way.

Featured photo credit: Devin Avery via unsplash.com

Reference

[1] Tips for Grooming: Change Your Fixed Negative Belief

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