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4 Things To Keep In Mind If You’re A Millennial

4 Things To Keep In Mind If You’re A Millennial

Over the years, the baby boom age has transcended to the millennial boom age: where most of us are either entering into college, graduating, job searching or forging our own business to the way of life. We grew to become humans who aren’t only fighting to survive, but fighting to leave a mark, a legacy and becoming someone to be looked on as an inspiration.

However, many obstacles stand in our way such as finances, responsibilities, loans and commitments to others and ourselves. This leads to many weird decisions, sometimes rash and irrational, bringing on many unexpected consequences. Unfortunately, no one ever gave us a guideline on how to navigate the 21st-century millennial boom. We were given books of knowledge and wisdom, but not the guidelines to understanding this century.

To be able to navigate the maps, you need to understand the geography and its components. Here are some tips to navigate the millennial jungle. I hope this can help many overcome the various obstacles ahead of them.

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1. Adapt Your Steps to Deal With The “Now”.

Growing up with parents, teachers, guardians or anyone from the 90’s always leads to the advices of what worked in their times. Unfortunately many have failed to realize that many of these advices don’t work in this 21st century. When we are taught to continuously follow the old ways of life, we find it hard to leave the past behind and adapt to the new. This leads us to be left behind in the dust of our competitors.

We need to accept and understand that the old methodology and advices aren’t viable for our present world. We are here to make our own rules and forge our way to the future. Creativity and leadership may be scary, however; these are the principles that will eventually get you ahead.

2. Being An All Rounder Is A Good Thing

Have you ever been told to calm down, to chill and that you don’t need to know everything? If you have, then you’re not the only one. Over the years, many have been advised it’s better to be the master of one than to be the jack of all. However, in today’s world, knowing a little of everything will help you navigate through the seas of the unknown.

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If you’re in the field of marketing, it’s definitely useful for you to know about the latest on Kim Kardashian, the teams in EURO2016, the best restaurants in the world, the techniques of make pasta, the skills of Photoshop and so much more. This increases your knowledge and makes you a more interesting person .

However, you should also be open to listening to others and their opinions, because knowledge is power.

3. Learn To Manage Your Finances Smartly

One of the biggest problems millennial’s face these days is managing their finances. Most of were not given any financial education while growing up. So we lacked financial literacy when we entered the world of adulthood. We jump upon the wrong deal and make poor choices. This leads us into losing money or being in a bigger debt.

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Read and understand about investment and money. Recently in many countries, various independent banks have been formed with the sole purpose of helping millennials. They help manage your finances as well as give you the savings plans needed to ensure a secure future. Research and make a smart decision before committing to anything financially.

4. Do Not Take Big Bites Too Early

The biggest mistake millennials do these days is to take on a huge commitment before even being ready for it. When we graduate and move out on our own, we aim for a proper apartment and a car on a mortgage. However, we fail to realize that when we are at the beginning of our career and our lives, it is risky to take on big financial responsibilities.

Before spending on a car or apartment, take a step back and organize the timeline for your lives. Cut back on the unnecessary costs and investments identified. Do not bite more than you can chew. Use public transport and if you’ve got to move in with your parents for a short while, take that opportunity to save some money.

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one-step at a time when it comes to money and investments. You’ll eventually be able to live comfortably on your own. These tips will definitely help many to live successfully and could help prevent some unexpected setbacks along the way.

When life offers you lemons, use these recipes to make a killer lemonade.

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Last Updated on July 15, 2020

How to Let Go of Toxic People in Your Life

How to Let Go of Toxic People in Your Life

“Entitlement is an expression of conditional love. Nobody is ever entitled to your love. You always have a right to protect your mental, emotional, and physical well-being by removing yourself from toxic people and circumstances.” -Dr. Janice Anderson & Kiersten Anderson

It’s not always obvious if you have someone toxic in your life. A toxic relationship is one that is harmful to you. A toxic person can create distress to the degree you feel inadequate and isolated. So, what makes a toxic person?

A toxic person has toxic behavior, meaning it’s not that the whole person is toxic[1]. It’s what they do that counts. Most toxic people run from accountability and misrepresent reality to you. They misrepresent your worth and your ability to heal from them can be stifled the longer you keep them in your life. You have a role to play with it as well; if your values are dismissed by them and you don’t act on it, you have allowed room for toxicity to grow.

When you are in a toxic relationship, you feel less than. You feel as though you are not worth anyone’s time or effort. You feel unheard, and sometimes you feel unsafe. You don’t feel good about yourself in a toxic relationship, whether it be with a partner, friend, or family member.

You may stay in a toxic relationship for a number of reasons. You may believe yourself to be a burden, have a lack of boundaries, resist change, fear conflict, try to be a people pleaser, find yourself codependent, or are partially stuck in a pattern or unhealthy cycle of abuse.

Letting go of toxic people may not be easy. In order to do so, you have to know why or how they are toxic to you and read between the lines that they do not have your best interests in mind.

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Letting go of toxic people is hard because you are good and want to see the good in others. You think their apologies are authentic. You have trouble believing they are being dishonest. You don’t spend time healing from it. You get pulled back into the pain because you don’t want it to end. However, if you feel like something isn’t right, it probably isn’t right.

You should walk away from a toxic person because you need to preserve your peace. You need to feel like yourself again. And you need better support.

Letting go of toxic people can involve four major steps.

1. Recognize the Red Flags

Red flags are signs a person is being toxic. It’s when someone shows characteristics that you should feel caution about. It’s when you feel any level of dissatisfaction and distrust. Trust your gut. When you recognize red flags, you can evaluate whether a person is trying to manipulate you or not. This gives you some level of control over what you allow in your life. The earlier you detect these behaviors, the better off you will be.

Red flags can include:

  • They always put themselves first.
  • They point out imperfections and sabotage your self-esteem.
  • You may feel drained or used when you’re around them.
  • What you give isn’t reciprocated. They don’t return the goodness you provide as a friend.
  • They ignore your boundaries and get angry when you tell them “no.”
  • You catch them in half truths or outright lies when you confront them about anything.
  • You are the villain; they are the victim.
  • Second chances always lead to repeated patterns of behavior.
  • They may engage in abuse.

2. Set Boundaries

There are emotional boundaries that one can set, but there are also physical ones[2]. You can leave any time. Setting boundaries is also an important part of self-care.

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You shouldn’t walk on eggshells. Tell them how you feel. Are they respecting you, fulfilling your needs, and listening to you? If not, it’s time to set up a healthy emotional distance and start letting go of toxic people around you.

There are levels to this. You have your inner circle, which could include family, and then you have acquaintances and strangers. If a toxic person is in your inner circle, it’s time to pull back and put up some boundaries for them to follow. If they can’t hear you out, you can cut off the connection completely.

You can give second chances, but you have to be careful. If someone knows they can get away with something, they will do it again. If there’s any chance for the relationship, they have to know not to cross certain lines.

3. Invest in Yourself

You deserve to know you are worthwhile. Try to remember that things will get better and that anything is possible. How do you do so? Invest in yourself.

This means self care, goal setting, surrounding yourself with positive support, and feeling a sense of peace. Your greatest ambition should be to love yourself. Without self-love, letting go of toxic people will be difficult.

Every relationship is a risk, but if you know yourself and what you will allow, toxic people will have less of a hold over you. If you are a giver or people pleaser, you are most at risk to being in a one-sided relationship. You shouldn’t be punished for caring, but sometimes trust needs to be earned. If you have self-love, you are treating yourself the best way possible. You know that others need to meet your standards; otherwise, they don’t get to be a part of your life.

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It’s possible that you can love yourself and still not see the signs. It can be difficult for some to be aware that toxic people exist. However,, if you know how much you mean to others in your life and what you are worth, you will be less likely to take on a relationship that is harmful to you or repeat negative patterns. Self-love is how we get out of toxic relationships, but it’s also how they never begin.

4. Know When Forgiveness Is Possible

There are times a person will prove their worth to you. They may make a mistake that makes them seem like a horrible person. They may forget to be good to you because of their own issues. They may just have no example of what a healthy relationship looks like. They may have an inflated ego that really comes from insecurity. The list goes on.

If they apologize, that’s a start. Look at their actions. Are they changing for the better because they really want to change or just seeming to in order to manipulate you? A person may control others with their image or perceived personality, but if you see through them, you may be able to discern the degree to which they are willing to be there for you.

If they start to do the right thing, you may begin to trust them again. Don’t start forgiving them until time has passed and you are sure there is growth, even if they show vulnerability or remorse. You can give a second chance if they truly have an awakening. Otherwise, it’s best to get out. Don’t let them walk all over you; let them walk out the door.

If you do give a second change and they still refuse to change, you have every right to remove them and continue the process of letting go of toxic people. The moment you even want to leave may also be a good time to get out. You don’t have to compromise yourself in order to care for them.

Forgiveness is the release of resentment or anger[3]. Forgiveness doesn’t mean reconciliation. You have to go back to the same relationship or accept the same harmful behaviors from someone. You don’t have to let them back in. You don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do.

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Remember, forgiveness is ultimately for you, not them. You don’t need that person in your life in order to forgive them, and if you give them a second chance, proceed with caution.

Final Thoughts

Recognize the red flags, set boundaries, invest in yourself, and know when forgiveness is possible. This is how you cope with a toxic person impacting your life. You have power in the direction of your life and the people who accompany you as you move forward. Use it.

If a person is worthwhile, they will prove themselves through their actions, not their words. If they cross certain lines that really harm you, you owe them nothing. You have every right to feel what you feel and to be upset. Honor your feelings and communicate them because it’ll only continue to keep happening if you don’t.

If this is happening to you, it’s time to put a stop to it. It’s time to take control. It’s time to live for yourself, not for what others say about you. It’s time to set your standards higher than they’ve ever been before. And most of all, it’s time to let go.

Resource reminder: A physically abusive relationship is ALWAYS toxic. There are resources for you. Always speak up.

If you are in such a cycle or domestic violence or abuse reach out for help. For example, there is The National Domestic Violence Hotline (https://www.thehotline.org/) which can be reached at 1−800−799−7233. There are other ways to get help if you simply ask for it. 

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