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I Don’t Need You To Do Big Things For Me, I Just Want The Little Things

I Don’t Need You To Do Big Things For Me, I Just Want The Little Things

Love isn’t just about finding the right person and embarking on a beautiful star-crossed adventure. Love isn’t about fancy dates at snazzy restaurants or expensive honeymoons on private islands. Love isn’t just about eternal promises, blissful kisses, and endless nights of happiness. Sometimes, love is all about the little things.

All meaningful relationships are built on mutual empathy. It is not the big things that you do for me that matters, but those little moments of love, thoughtfulness, and affection that make a relationship fulfilling. You might shower me with diamond necklaces and luxury clothes, but if you forget to wish me on a happy birthday, chances are that the marriage is going downhill.

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Whether it is sharing the last chocolate left in the fridge or preparing hot coffee when I need an instant recharge, it is these little acts of kindness that ultimately make my day.

It doesn’t matter if the restaurant is famous or not, your full mental presence is what makes me satisfied

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    I don’t need expensive presents, I like the gifts that fit my needs

    Angela & Alex-30

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      I don’t need you to stay with me all the time, I love the moments when you tell me you are missing me

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        I don’t need you to get rich, I just love your smile and confidence

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          It doesn’t matter if you’re a communication expert, I just appreciate when you listen patiently without interrupting

          Misha and Matt

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            The strength of a relationship lies in the small ways we show our love every day. Whether it’s kissing my cheek before leaving for work, preparing a scented hot bath after a tiring day, or simply texting an ‘I love you’ when I’m all alone, it is the little things that make life and love beautiful.

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            Last Updated on October 16, 2019

            5 Powerful Ways for Building Fulfilling Relationships

            5 Powerful Ways for Building Fulfilling Relationships

            We all have relationships. We have acquaintances, relatives, colleagues, neighbors and friends. However, for a large percentage of us, many of these relationships are not fulfilling.

            They are unfulfilling because they lack real strength; and they lack real strength because they lack real depth.

            Unfortunately, in today’s society, we tend to have shallow, superficial relationships with others, and it’s extremely hard for this kind of relationships to provide anything more than faint satisfaction.

            I’d like to show you, based on my experience as a communication and confidence coach, how you can add a significant amount of depth, and thus strength, to your relationships and make your social life a whole lot more meaningful.

            Here’re 5 simple yet powerful ways for meaningful relationships building:

            1. Meet More People

            This is an apparent paradox, but the quality of the people you meet has considerably to do with the quantity of people you meet.

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            If you don’t know a lot of people and you barely meet one or two new people every season of the year, considering the variety of individuals out there, you won’t meet very often people who are a good match with you in terms of personality, interests and values.

            And since this natural match plays a huge part in building strong relationships, you’ll just as seldom have the opportunity to develop strong relationships.

            Conversely, if you go out a lot, you meet a lot of new people and you constantly expand your social circle, you’re much more likely to meet people you match up well with, and these people have a tremendous potential to become good friends, reliable partners, etc.

            This is why it’s important to meet more people.

            2. Talk about the Things That Matter To You

            A relationship becomes the strongest when two people discover they believe in the same things and have similar interests. It’s these commonalities regarding values and interests that create the strongest emotional connection.

            I’ve noticed that many people keep conversations shallow. They talk about trivial stuff such as the weather, what’s on TV, the lives of various movie stars, but they rarely talk about what really matters to them in life. This is a mistake from my perspective, because it’s the perfect method for a relationship to not develop.

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            Talk about the things that truly matter to you and give others a chance to know what you care about and what you believe in. If they believe in the same things and they care about the same things, they’ll eagerly let you know. Thus you’ll find meaningful common ground and you’ll feel more connected.

            3. Express Vulnerability

            Many people try to come off as perfect. They don’t talk about their failures, they hide their shortcomings and they never say anything that could embarrass them.

            This is all just a facade though. You may appear perfect to some, but you know you’re not perfect and they know that too. You’re only human and humans have flaws.

            However, by hiding your flaws, what you do succeed in is appearing cold and impersonal. You seem like a marble statue rather than a real person. And this makes it very hard for anyone to connect with you emotionally.

            Humans connect with other humans, not with ideals. Keep this in mind and don’t be afraid to let your vulnerability and your humanity show. This is what takes a relationship to the next level.

            Take a look at this article and find out Why Showing Vulnerability Actually Proves Your Strength.

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            4. Have Integrity

            Integrity, as I see it, is the alignment between your thoughts, your words and your actions. When you say what you think and you do what you said you’ll do, you have integrity.

            This is a crucial trait because if you have integrity, people can trust you. They can trust you to give them an honest feedback, even when it’s hard to shallow, and they can trust you to keep your promises.

            This trust is one of the central pillars of a strong relationship, both in your personal and your professional life. So, as challenging as it can be sometimes, always try to have integrity.

            Be honest with the people around you, even when this will initially hurt them. It’s more important for them to trust you than to not feel hurt. And always do what you promised. Even better, think twice before you promise anything, and only promise what you really can and you are willing to do.

            5. Be There for Others

            Another central pillar of strong relationships is support. Connections between people grow sturdy if they can rely on each other for support when it’s needed, whether that support means a few kind words or several massive actions.

            Of course, you can’t be there for everybody, all the time. Your time, energy and other resources are limited. But what you can do is identify the genuinely important people in your life and then seek to be there as much as possible, at least for them.

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            Your support will help them practically, and it will comfort them emotionally; which makes one hell of a difference in a relationship.

            The Bottom Line

            With the right mindset and the right behavior, you can strengthen a wide range of relationships in your life and advance them as far as they can be advanced.

            And with strong relationships, not only that you feel more fulfilled, but you feel more connected to the entire world. You feel that your life has real value, you have more fun and you live in the moment. An entire world of opportunities opens up in front of you.

            Then your task is to simply walk through the open doors.

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