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7 Signs You Were A Spirited Child And That’s Really Great

7 Signs You Were A Spirited Child And That’s Really Great

Spirited children are wonderful. It’s like a gift. Strength, independence and an understanding of the world around you.

Were you a spirited child? If so, it has likely enhanced many areas of your adult life in ways you probably don’t even realize. Creativity, passion and imagination are mere examples of the potential unlocked by your spirited lifestyle. Teachers may have been annoyed at your wandering mind, parents could have been frustrated at your constant questioning, and friends may have shrugged at your suggestions. But with curiosity and energy comes intelligence.

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Here are 7 signs that prove you were a spirited child:

You were busy exploring all the time

A spirited child doesn’t just sit on his or her hands. They explore the environments available to them; looking under rocks for new insects, searching the new house in its entirety, swimming to the bottom of the lake, breaking away from the excursion group to see what’s behind the ‘do not pass’ sign. Limitations bore a spirited child. Exploration unravels secrets, opens up new possibilities and allows you to become reliant on yourself rather than others.

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You don’t conform easily, you would debate a lot

Some children believe everything they hear…but not you. Curiosity sparked questioning, which in turn built learning and intelligence. If a statement sounds untrue to you, you’ll debate it with all the relevant points you can think of. Challenging others and believing in your own views makes you an individual. And if there’s a group building? You don’t just conform and fall in line. You question them; why should I join you? What do you stand for? What are the alternatives?

You could be easily distracted

Sitting in class, seeing that spider try to squeeze through the window while your maths teacher rabbles on about algebra. The outside world offered so much more than the blackboard, so distractions as a child were a constant. A spirited child grows bored with repetition, seeking something new to analyze. This has stemmed into your profession as an adult. There’s no way you’ll be someone like an accountant, because you need more stimulation than that. Creative fields such as the arts allowed you to make your own fun, and removed the ease of distraction. But listening and watching other people tell you what to do didn’t resonate.

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You had unlimited energy

Who needs 8 hours sleep when there’s so much to do and see? Red Bull and coffee wasn’t needed to run around the house at top speed, pretending to be your favorite animal. Sugar hits weren’t necessary to play in the backyard all day with your pets. Having unlimited energy meant you didn’t miss an opportunity; you were never ‘too tired’ to take an adventure. And when you look back now, you can only dream of that energy, and how amazing it was to have those natural levels.

You were very rich in emotions and cry quite a lot

Emotions can be sold as a negative during childhood, but an early understanding of emotions benefits your progression into an adult. It builds empathy, it creates a base of knowledge on how to react in certain situations and it helps you deal with the problems in your life. A movie, or a song, or a book may have reduced you to tears, because of the characters feeling more real than the people around you. Anger, fear, sadness; they are all elements of the spirit, and you felt them greatly in your stages of growth. But having that background, and with more control, you’re a stronger person because of it.

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You could be easily stimulated by the environment

Video games were great, but the great outdoors inspired you more than a flashing screen. Fresh air fueled your adventures. Fresh green leaves, bright blue water in the ocean, the sounds of waves crashing against the rocks; these were the greatest stimulants in your childhood. People remained in the periphery, when the facts of nature were involved. Animals, plant life, the smells of the wild: all these factors were boosts to the energy levels, especially if the majority of your time was confined to a big city.

You were eager to try new things and do things yourself

Reliance is overrated. Your independence grew from trying new things yourself. Dive right in and see what the consequences were. You didn’t need a teacher to hold your hand, or a parent to watch you; often, it was even better without a friend over your shoulder. Spirited children test their limits and boundaries from a young age, so by the time they reach the teenage years (and adult life) they have a greater understanding of themselves. They walk tall in any situation, reliant on their own abilities.

If you were a spirited child, these 7 signs will resonate. They are the greater positives of being a kid, and they involved fantastic attributes that continue to be a part of your make-up today. Think back to all those memories, and know your life was more full due to your renegade lifestyle.

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Last Updated on August 6, 2020

6 Reasons Why You Should Think Before You Speak

6 Reasons Why You Should Think Before You Speak

We’ve all done it. That moment when a series of words slithers from your mouth and the instant regret manifests through blushing and profuse apologies. If you could just think before you speak! It doesn’t have to be like this, and with a bit of practice, it’s actually quite easy to prevent.

“Think twice before you speak, because your words and influence will plant the seed of either success or failure in the mind of another.” – Napolean Hill

Are we speaking the same language?

My mum recently left me a note thanking me for looking after her dog. She’d signed it with “LOL.” In my world, this means “laugh out loud,” and in her world it means “lots of love.” My kids tell me things are “sick” when they’re good, and ”manck” when they’re bad (when I say “bad,” I don’t mean good!). It’s amazing that we manage to communicate at all.

When speaking, we tend to color our language with words and phrases that have become personal to us, things we’ve picked up from our friends, families and even memes from the internet. These colloquialisms become normal, and we expect the listener (or reader) to understand “what we mean.” If you really want the listener to understand your meaning, try to use words and phrases that they might use.

Am I being lazy?

When you’ve been in a relationship for a while, a strange metamorphosis takes place. People tend to become lazier in the way that they communicate with each other, with less thought for the feelings of their partner. There’s no malice intended; we just reach a “comfort zone” and know that our partners “know what we mean.”

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Here’s an exchange from Psychology Today to demonstrate what I mean:

Early in the relationship:

“Honey, I don’t want you to take this wrong, but I’m noticing that your hair is getting a little thin on top. I know guys are sensitive about losing their hair, but I don’t want someone else to embarrass you without your expecting it.”

When the relationship is established:

“Did you know that you’re losing a lot of hair on the back of your head? You’re combing it funny and it doesn’t help. Wear a baseball cap or something if you feel weird about it. Lots of guys get thin on top. It’s no big deal.”

It’s pretty clear which of these statements is more empathetic and more likely to be received well. Recognizing when we do this can be tricky, but with a little practice it becomes easy.

Have I actually got anything to say?

When I was a kid, my gran used to say to me that if I didn’t have anything good to say, I shouldn’t say anything at all. My gran couldn’t stand gossip, so this makes total sense, but you can take this statement a little further and modify it: “If you don’t have anything to say, then don’t say anything at all.”

A lot of the time, people speak to fill “uncomfortable silences,” or because they believe that saying something, anything, is better than staying quiet. It can even be a cause of anxiety for some people.

When somebody else is speaking, listen. Don’t wait to speak. Listen. Actually hear what that person is saying, think about it, and respond if necessary.

Am I painting an accurate picture?

One of the most common forms of miscommunication is the lack of a “referential index,” a type of generalization that fails to refer to specific nouns. As an example, look at these two simple phrases: “Can you pass me that?” and “Pass me that thing over there!”. How often have you said something similar?

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How is the listener supposed to know what you mean? The person that you’re talking to will start to fill in the gaps with something that may very well be completely different to what you mean. You’re thinking “pass me the salt,” but you get passed the pepper. This can be infuriating for the listener, and more importantly, can create a lack of understanding and ultimately produce conflict.

Before you speak, try to label people, places and objects in a way that it is easy for any listeners to understand.

What words am I using?

It’s well known that our use of nouns and verbs (or lack of them) gives an insight into where we grew up, our education, our thoughts and our feelings.

Less well known is that the use of pronouns offers a critical insight into how we emotionally code our sentences. James Pennebaker’s research in the 1990’s concluded that function words are important keys to someone’s psychological state and reveal much more than content words do.

Starting a sentence with “I think…” demonstrates self-focus rather than empathy with the speaker, whereas asking the speaker to elaborate or quantify what they’re saying clearly shows that you’re listening and have respect even if you disagree.

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Is the map really the territory?

Before speaking, we sometimes construct a scenario that makes us act in a way that isn’t necessarily reflective of the actual situation.

A while ago, John promised to help me out in a big way with a project that I was working on. After an initial meeting and some big promises, we put together a plan and set off on its execution. A week or so went by, and I tried to get a hold of John to see how things were going. After voice mails and emails with no reply and general silence, I tried again a week later and still got no response.

I was frustrated and started to get more than a bit vexed. The project obviously meant more to me than it did to him, and I started to construct all manner of crazy scenarios. I finally got through to John and immediately started a mild rant about making promises you can’t keep. He stopped me in my tracks with the news that his brother had died. If I’d have just thought before I spoke…

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