Dating is like a litmus test for love. This feel-out process of two people sharing dinner, watching a movie, or simply spending time together is critical to see if both are compatible to go all in. If their dates don’t pan out, then they move on the next person to go out with until they find someone whom they feel they can spend their lives with.
Most importantly, dating is all about yourself.
You have your quirks and flaws, just as much as others do. Therefore, dating is about finding a person who will accept you wholeheartedly, just as much you can accept his or her strangeness.
Because it is virtually impossible to date a person whom you can’t feel yourself with. You cannot go out with a person who looks for something in you that you do not have. You cannot force yourself to change just so your date will like you.
This is not how dating works.
Therefore, by embracing the fact that you are perfect just the way you are, you need to date a person who makes you stronger as an individual.
Date someone who encourages you to become the best version of yourself possible.
The funny thing about the truth is that, no matter how hard you try to suppress, it will always find its way out in the open.
Imprisoning yourself by pretending to be someone you’re not will only lead to heartbreak and sorrow.
Some people are left to abandon their originality due to the pressures of conformity, or when they’re dating someone whose approval they want so bad. Instead of letting their true colors shine, they hide them away and act the way their date wants them to be.
Date someone whom you can be truly honest with so you don’t have to feel like judged because your upbringing and personalities are different from the norm. Go out with a person with whom you can share your deepest secrets with and who will do the same with you.
A great date would truly believe you’re awesome.
Conformity is overrated – the more people strive to look more beautiful and act a certain way due to social pressures, the more people become just like everyone else. It takes away the very essence that makes you who you truly are. Your identity becomes a casualty killed by the overwhelming clamor for sameness and compromise.
Dating someone who fights for your individuality and embraces your weirdness that separates you from the sea of sameness allows you to swim against the mainstream and find your ocean where both of you can be an island together.
If you have one already, never let him/her go.
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