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Date Someone Who Makes You Feel Like You’re The Best Version Of Yourself

Date Someone Who Makes You Feel Like You’re The Best Version Of Yourself

Dating is like a litmus test for love. This feel-out process of two people sharing dinner, watching a movie, or simply spending time together is critical to see if both are compatible to go all in. If their dates don’t pan out, then they move on the next person to go out with until they find someone whom they feel they can spend their lives with.

Most importantly, dating is all about yourself.

You have your quirks and flaws, just as much as others do. Therefore, dating is about finding a person who will accept you wholeheartedly, just as much you can accept his or her strangeness.

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Because it is virtually impossible to date a person whom you can’t feel yourself with. You cannot go out with a person who looks for something in you that you do not have. You cannot force yourself to change just so your date will like you.

This is not how dating works.

Therefore, by embracing the fact that you are perfect just the way you are, you need to date a person who makes you stronger as an individual.

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Date someone who encourages you to become the best version of yourself possible.

The funny thing about the truth is that, no matter how hard you try to suppress, it will always find its way out in the open.

Imprisoning yourself by pretending to be someone you’re not will only lead to heartbreak and sorrow.

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Some people are left to abandon their originality due to the pressures of conformity, or when they’re dating someone whose approval they want so bad. Instead of letting their true colors shine, they hide them away and act the way their date wants them to be.

Date someone whom you can be truly honest with so you don’t have to feel like judged because your upbringing and personalities are different from the norm. Go out with a person with whom you can share your deepest secrets with and who will do the same with you.

A great date would truly believe you’re awesome.

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Conformity is overrated – the more people strive to look more beautiful and act a certain way due to social pressures, the more people become just like everyone else. It takes away the very essence that makes you who you truly are. Your identity becomes a casualty killed by the overwhelming clamor for sameness and compromise.

Dating someone who fights for your individuality and embraces your weirdness that separates you from the sea of sameness allows you to swim against the mainstream and find your ocean where both of you can be an island together.

If you have one already, never let him/her go.

Featured photo credit: Puung via facebook.com

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Last Updated on October 15, 2018

Why Helping Others Actually Helps Yourself

Why Helping Others Actually Helps Yourself

Helping others: it’s a fundamental part of humanity, bonding together and helping a fellow man or woman. In times of tragedy, the stories of those who help others are inspiring, such as helping the nation recover from national disasters and terrorist attacks. Some men and women even devote their lives to helping others, from the police force that protects our cities, to the fire departments who run into burning buildings, to the service men and women who risk their lives for the common good.

“No one has ever become poor by giving.” ― Anne Frank, diary of Anne Frank

But helping others isn’t limited to these grand gestures or times of tribulation. Helping others can be done each and every day. And contrary to what you may have heard, helping others doesn’t always have to be a selfless act. It’s important to understand that helping others can actually help yourself. No matter what the motivation, getting out and helping others is the key. So in that spirit of motivation, here are 5 reasons why helping others actually helps yourself.

1. Quid Pro Quo

When you help someone, they will be more likely to help you. This is the basic, unspoken agreement that fuels nearly every move. I’ll spend my entire day lugging boxes, but you owe me. It’s much easier to find help when someone knows you’d do the same for them. They may not always live up to their end of the bargin, and you may not either. But if you help enough people and do many good deeds, it will be given back when needed.

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2. Karma goes both ways.

All too often, the idea of Karma is described in a negative way. If you do bad, bad will come find you. But it works the other way too. When you are a good person and help people, good things seem to happen. And while you may not believe in an inter-connected universe that rewards good deeds, there is something to be said about how helping others changes your perspective. When you’re helping others, you will often feel better about yourself, increasing the likelihood that your next experience will be a positive one, rather than a negative one.

3. Doing good feels good.

It’s maybe the most cited benefit of doing good: you’ll feel great. Helping others is a great way to feel better about yourself. Seeing a smile or even tears of joy makes it all worth it. It’s as simple as that.

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4. Good publicity is the best publicity.

People notice when you’re doing good. It may not be the reason you help out, but someone is always watching. Even the simplest gesture can make an awesome impression.

When I was in college, I had a class that helped out at a school for a full day. I worked with a small group of high school students who were incredibly interested in writing, and I had a great time. I asked the teacher if I could come back on my own time and work with these students to finish this project we were working on, to which she agreed.

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I went two more times that week, thinking nothing more about it. Fast forward a few weeks: I received a letter in the mail stating I had been chosen as a Presidential Grant Recipient for the summer and received a $2,000 stipend to work with a group of students and professors on a research project over the summer. I was floored, as I hadn’t even applied. I was nominated by that teacher who appreciated the work I did with her students. It wasn’t expected, but helping others ended up opening a door I never would have known was even available.

5. Helping others looks good on a resume or application.

Is your resume looking a little thin? Does your college application need a bit of pizzaz? Volunteering your time and energy to help others makes your resume and applications look as good as it makes you feel. Hiring managers look favorably on volunteer work and many acceptance committees use it to separate similar candidates. So read to some first graders, volunteer at the homeless shelter, and volunteer at your local Boys and Girl Club. Your resume will thank you.

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