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5 Signs You Have The Weirdest Bestie Ever

5 Signs You Have The Weirdest Bestie Ever

Besties. Sometimes that person who hold this special title is a little bit crazy. Consider that the reason why they’re on the top of the best friend food chain is because they’re bold enough to get weird and stay that way.

They have their own way of doing things, most likely not conventional

Sometime your bestie does the most peculiar things that have grown to be lovable and laughable. If they’ve done something weird enough to make you say, “I can’t believe they would do that in front of me”, they’re awesome and you know it. Your bestie may not eat some commons foods or have a ritualistic way that they eat or wind down from a long day.

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You know the best friend that makes a bonfire to mark new beginnings and endings. The best friend that successfully eats spaghetti and drives at the same time. The one that tells you visiting the nude beach will increase your levels of vitamin D.

They do what they think and feel is right regardless of what others think

Your best friend became your best friend because they encourage you to be you. You also return the favor. Since you make them feel comfortable, they tend to do whatever they feel like doing around you.

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They may dye their hair (regardless of where it is) or dye their clothes. Regardless if it’s unconventional, they take the road they want to travel whether it’s crowded or not.

They make you realize that you’re weird too

What is weird anyway? It’s not normal. Where along your journey did you begin to strive to be normal? Through a strange process of osmosis, you notice yourself getting weirder with your bestie and you like it. You’ve gone further towards one end of the spectrum. You start to notice that you have your own unconventional ways.

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It could be that you become strangely tactful in some areas of life or you’ve decided to let it hang loose. You knowingly become more weird because you know you’re being yourself. Unraveling your personality until you reach the core is best done with a weirdo. Everyone else is likely to encourage your normality.

They piss you off but you still want to hang out

You get so frustrated and can even clash, but you both have an unspoken agreement. No one is going anywhere. You’re still going to continue to be there for each other. So, it’s healthy to air out your negative feelings instead of letting them fester.

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Better to let your bestie know sooner than later that their driving terrifies you or some other habit has grown to be annoying. Besides, if you got another bestie they might be too normal.

Doing silly things in public is normal

Public? What is that? Your bestie lives inside a bubble where they can perfectly be themselves no matter where they are. Their inner child lives on and if they feel the need to bust a move in the grocery store, they will. They’re not afraid to ask questions or make statements. There is a filter on what they will say and do, it’s just that the filter is hardly there.

Some of the best moments in life are when your bestie does funny things and you’re stricken with laughter. Not just any chuckle either. The kind of memorable laughter that you talk about for years and it never loses its luster. You laugh about the things you’ll never tell your children about. It takes a certain level of boldness to be weird. Your learn from your bestie every time they do something out of the norm to continue being your weird self.

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The Gentle Art of Saying No

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No!

It’s a simple fact that you can never be productive if you take on too many commitments — you simply spread yourself too thin and will not be able to get anything done, at least not well or on time.

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But requests for your time are coming in all the time — through phone, email, IM or in person. To stay productive, and minimize stress, you have to learn the Gentle Art of Saying No — an art that many people have problems with.

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What’s so hard about saying no? Well, to start with, it can hurt, anger or disappoint the person you’re saying “no” to, and that’s not usually a fun task. Second, if you hope to work with that person in the future, you’ll want to continue to have a good relationship with that person, and saying “no” in the wrong way can jeopardize that.

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But it doesn’t have to be difficult or hard on your relationship. Here are the Top 10 tips for learning the Gentle Art of Saying No:

  1. Value your time. Know your commitments, and how valuable your precious time is. Then, when someone asks you to dedicate some of your time to a new commitment, you’ll know that you simply cannot do it. And tell them that: “I just can’t right now … my plate is overloaded as it is.”
  2. Know your priorities. Even if you do have some extra time (which for many of us is rare), is this new commitment really the way you want to spend that time? For myself, I know that more commitments means less time with my wife and kids, who are more important to me than anything.
  3. Practice saying no. Practice makes perfect. Saying “no” as often as you can is a great way to get better at it and more comfortable with saying the word. And sometimes, repeating the word is the only way to get a message through to extremely persistent people. When they keep insisting, just keep saying no. Eventually, they’ll get the message.
  4. Don’t apologize. A common way to start out is “I’m sorry but …” as people think that it sounds more polite. While politeness is important, apologizing just makes it sound weaker. You need to be firm, and unapologetic about guarding your time.
  5. Stop being nice. Again, it’s important to be polite, but being nice by saying yes all the time only hurts you. When you make it easy for people to grab your time (or money), they will continue to do it. But if you erect a wall, they will look for easier targets. Show them that your time is well guarded by being firm and turning down as many requests (that are not on your top priority list) as possible.
  6. Say no to your boss. Sometimes we feel that we have to say yes to our boss — they’re our boss, right? And if we say “no” then we look like we can’t handle the work — at least, that’s the common reasoning. But in fact, it’s the opposite — explain to your boss that by taking on too many commitments, you are weakening your productivity and jeopardizing your existing commitments. If your boss insists that you take on the project, go over your project or task list and ask him/her to re-prioritize, explaining that there’s only so much you can take on at one time.
  7. Pre-empting. It’s often much easier to pre-empt requests than to say “no” to them after the request has been made. If you know that requests are likely to be made, perhaps in a meeting, just say to everyone as soon as you come into the meeting, “Look guys, just to let you know, my week is booked full with some urgent projects and I won’t be able to take on any new requests.”
  8. Get back to you. Instead of providing an answer then and there, it’s often better to tell the person you’ll give their request some thought and get back to them. This will allow you to give it some consideration, and check your commitments and priorities. Then, if you can’t take on the request, simply tell them: “After giving this some thought, and checking my commitments, I won’t be able to accommodate the request at this time.” At least you gave it some consideration.
  9. Maybe later. If this is an option that you’d like to keep open, instead of just shutting the door on the person, it’s often better to just say, “This sounds like an interesting opportunity, but I just don’t have the time at the moment. Perhaps you could check back with me in [give a time frame].” Next time, when they check back with you, you might have some free time on your hands.
  10. It’s not you, it’s me. This classic dating rejection can work in other situations. Don’t be insincere about it, though. Often the person or project is a good one, but it’s just not right for you, at least not at this time. Simply say so — you can compliment the idea, the project, the person, the organization … but say that it’s not the right fit, or it’s not what you’re looking for at this time. Only say this if it’s true — people can sense insincerity.

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