“There is nothing noble in being superior to your fellow man; true nobility is being superior to your former self.” ‒ Ernest Hemingway
As Hemingway says, self-improvement is a noble cause. It can help us learning about who we are and this can enable us to strive to be better people in the future. Much of who we are is determined by how we interact with others around us. When we seek to improve ourselves, we can also make our relationships with others better.Advertising
1. The way you view yourself affects how others view you
The way you view yourself affects how others view you. If you have a good self-image, then others are likely to relate to you in a positive way. When looking to better yourself you may wish to build up your self-esteem. If you feel confident, you will radiate poise. When people see a composed and self-assured individual, they are likely to be affected in a positive way. They too may adopt your good feeling, and this can result in a more optimistic and constructive relationship.
2. Aiming For Inner Stability Makes You A More Attractive Friend And Partner
People who radiate inner stability are often liked and admired by others around them. If you sometimes feel that you are internally shaky, you may want to try and strengthen your inner core. You can do this by taking time out during the day for self-reflection. By looking deeply into yourself and examining who you really are you can learn to find what makes you calm and what excites you. By tapping into your calmer self, you can achieve more inner stability.Advertising
3. People like to be around individuals who like and accept themselves
Only once you have accepted who you are can you grow. If you are continuously fighting against yourself, you won’t have the emotional energy you need to better yourself.
If you wish to get on with people better, then you may want to start by accepting yourself. People like to be around individuals who like and accept themselves.Advertising
4. We Attract Who We Are
If you are on a personal trajectory that is going upwards, then you are likely to find a friend or partner who is also seeking to better themselves and their circumstances. Like-minded people attract one another.
5. Relying On Yourself Instead Of Leaning On Your Partner Makes For A Better Relationship
If you are in a relationship maintaining a healthy sense of independence will help to make the relationship strong. If you seek to become more self-reliant then you and your partner will both feel more secure.Advertising
6. When You Improve Yourself, You Minimize Self-Sabotage
When you aim to improve who you are, you steer away from self-sabotage. Focusing on your good qualities and endeavoring to enhance and protect these attributes will not only help you become a better person it will also stop you from undermining yourself. When you stop sabotaging who you are, you are likely to refrain from ruining relationships and this can lead to longer and more meaningful connects with others.
The noble task of self-improvement will not only be good for you but will be also good for those around you. If you work to improve yourself then you will find yourself in more meaningful and stronger relationships with others.
Last Updated on August 16, 2018
10 Ways To Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone And Enjoy Taking Risks
The ability to take risks by stepping outside your comfort zone is the primary way by which we grow. But we are often afraid to take that first step.
In truth, comfort zones are not really about comfort, they are about fear. Break the chains of fear to get outside. Once you do, you will learn to enjoy the process of taking risks and growing in the process.
Here are 10 ways to help you step out of your comfort zone and get closer to success:
1. Become aware of what’s outside of your comfort zone
What are the things that you believe are worth doing but are afraid of doing yourself because of the potential for disappointment or failure?
Draw a circle and write those things down outside the circle. This process will not only allow you to clearly identify your discomforts, but your comforts. Write identified comforts inside the circle.
2. Become clear about what you are aiming to overcome
Take the list of discomforts and go deeper. Remember, the primary emotion you are trying to overcome is fear.
How does this fear apply uniquely to each situation? Be very specific.
Are you afraid of walking up to people and introducing yourself in social situations? Why? Is it because you are insecure about the sound of your voice? Are you insecure about your looks?
Or, are you afraid of being ignored?
3. Get comfortable with discomfort
One way to get outside of your comfort zone is to literally expand it. Make it a goal to avoid running away from discomfort.
Let’s stay with the theme of meeting people in social settings. If you start feeling a little panicked when talking to someone you’ve just met, try to stay with it a little longer than you normally would before retreating to comfort. If you stay long enough and practice often enough, it will start to become less uncomfortable.
4. See failure as a teacher
Many of us are so afraid of failure that we would rather do nothing than take a shot at our dreams.
Begin to treat failure as a teacher. What did you learn from the experience? How can you take that lesson to your next adventure to increase your chance of success?
Many highly successful people failed plenty of times before they succeeded. Here’re some examples:
5. Take baby steps
Don’t try to jump outside your comfort zone, you will likely become overwhelmed and jump right back in.
Take small steps toward the fear you are trying to overcome. If you want to do public speaking, start by taking every opportunity to speak to small groups of people. You can even practice with family and friends.
Take a look at this article on how you can start taking baby steps:
6. Hang out with risk takers
There is no substitute for this step. If you want to become better at something, you must start hanging out with the people who are doing what you want to do and start emulating them. (Here’re 8 Reasons Why Risk Takers Are More Likely To Be Successful).
Almost inevitably, their influence will start have an effect on your behavior.
7. Be honest with yourself when you are trying to make excuses
Don’t say “Oh, I just don’t have the time for this right now.” Instead, be honest and say “I am afraid to do this.”
Don’t make excuses, just be honest. You will be in a better place to confront what is truly bothering you and increase your chance of moving forward.
8. Identify how stepping out will benefit you
What will the ability to engage in public speaking do for your personal and professional growth? Keep these potential benefits in mind as motivations to push through fear.
9. Don’t take yourself too seriously
Learn to laugh at yourself when you make mistakes. Risk taking will inevitably involve failure and setbacks that will sometimes make you look foolish to others. Be happy to roll with the punches when others poke fun.
If you aren’t convinced yet, check out these 6 Reasons Not to Take Life So Seriously.
10. Focus on the fun
Enjoy the process of stepping outside your safe boundaries. Enjoy the fun of discovering things about yourself that you may not have been aware of previously.
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