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Why People Who Focus On Improving Themselves Have Better Relationships

Why People Who Focus On Improving Themselves Have Better Relationships

“There is nothing noble in being superior to your fellow man; true nobility is being superior to your former self.” ‒ Ernest Hemingway

As Hemingway says, self-improvement is a noble cause. It can help us learning about who we are and this can enable us to strive to be better people in the future. Much of who we are is determined by how we interact with others around us. When we seek to improve ourselves, we can also make our relationships with others better.

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1. The way you view yourself affects how others view you

The way you view yourself affects how others view you. If you have a good self-image, then others are likely to relate to you in a positive way. When looking to better yourself you may wish to build up your self-esteem. If you feel confident, you will radiate poise. When people see a composed and self-assured individual, they are likely to be affected in a positive way. They too may adopt your good feeling, and this can result in a more optimistic and constructive relationship.

2. Aiming For Inner Stability Makes You A More Attractive Friend And Partner

People who radiate inner stability are often liked and admired by others around them. If you sometimes feel that you are internally shaky, you may want to try and strengthen your inner core. You can do this by taking time out during the day for self-reflection. By looking deeply into yourself and examining who you really are you can learn to find what makes you calm and what excites you. By tapping into your calmer self, you can achieve more inner stability.

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3. People like to be around individuals who like and accept themselves

Only once you have accepted who you are can you grow. If you are continuously fighting against yourself, you won’t have the emotional energy you need to better yourself.

If you wish to get on with people better, then you may want to start by accepting yourself. People like to be around individuals who like and accept themselves.

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4. We Attract Who We Are

If you are on a personal trajectory that is going upwards, then you are likely to find a friend or partner who is also seeking to better themselves and their circumstances. Like-minded people attract one another.

5. Relying On Yourself Instead Of Leaning On Your Partner Makes For A Better Relationship

If you are in a relationship maintaining a healthy sense of independence will help to make the relationship strong. If you seek to become more self-reliant then you and your partner will both feel more secure.

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6. When You Improve Yourself, You Minimize Self-Sabotage

When you aim to improve who you are, you steer away from self-sabotage. Focusing on your good qualities and endeavoring to enhance and protect these attributes will not only help you become a better person it will also stop you from undermining yourself. When you stop sabotaging who you are, you are likely to refrain from ruining relationships and this can lead to longer and more meaningful connects with others.

The noble task of self-improvement will not only be good for you but will be also good for those around you. If you work to improve yourself then you will find yourself in more meaningful and stronger relationships with others.

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Rebecca Beris

Rebecca is a wellness and lifestyle writer at Lifehack.

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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