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Here’s What No One Tells You About Being An Extroverted Introvert

Here’s What No One Tells You About Being An Extroverted Introvert

Are people confused whether you’re an extrovert or introvert? When you’re out enjoying your social life the world buzzes around you. You have fun and you do what excited and stimulates you with friends. Everyone likes to unwind after a long day, but your mind and body require it more than most.

Who is the extroverted introvert? The person who at some point, sooner than later, has to withdraw. An extroverted introvert people need alone time. If you’re an extroverted introvert who examine your life, then you know yourself. You would prefer that the people you interact with, know themselves just as well.

1. You don’t enjoy the spotlight but you appreciate recognition.

Going out for social interactions is like rolling the dice. It’s either great times ahead, you feel withdrawn, or even drained of your energy. So for this reason you become choosy about who you spend your time with.

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When an extroverted introvert hasn’t been hanging out with their friends lately, it’s likely because they’re overstimulated. They’ve filled their physical environment and mind with what they have the capacity to handle.

2. You enjoy getting to know just one person but you also enjoy a big group of friends.

Your introverted friend who can be the life of the party has to exert more energy than you might think. It’s easy to get this personality type confused with a full on extrovert when they’re being highly sociable. Spend enough time with this person and you’ll learn that some days, they’re withdrawn.

You might be able to spot the extroverted introvert, the one who shies away from small talk. Big ideas and creative conversations might be more comfortable. It’s also more comfortable to hang out with people incrementally.

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3. You really need alone time but you do get lonely sometimes.

You’re an introvert deep down inside, but you tend to attract extroverts. The psychoanalyst Carl Jung believed that this was due to a deep attraction to complete each other’s personality types.

Extroverted introverts are like chameleons, changing as needed in the environment. You could call it having an edge. Watch out for the quiet one, as they say.

4. Sometimes you don’t want to talk, but you can suddenly become talkative.

You’re an extroverted introvert and you don’t want to explain who you are. You don’t feel like having the “it’s not you, it’s me” conversation. No matter how much you love the people you connect with, you still need to be alone at some point.

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Your alone time is an enjoyable fate. After you dazzle your friends in social environments you draw comfortably into your shell. Some people will never understand that the shell is there not to keep others out, but to hold all that is you together.

5. You embrace being an introvert, but sometimes doubt if you should be more extroverted.

As a special breed of extrovert you do quite a bit of self reflection. Thus, you know yourself really well. You’re not quiet because you’re lost, confused, or at a loss for words.

You speak when it’s most important because requires energy from you. In fact, you’re filled with thoughts and it’s only a matter of which you’ll give attention to. You know yourself well and you limit your interactions with others. So, when you do spend time, it’s valuable.

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6. You’re happy some events are canceled, although you’ll have a great time if you go.

Sometimes the mere thought of over-stimulation is enough to make you overstimulated. If you’re feeling like today is a hang out with myself kind of day, you may be reluctant to go out. You’re not anti-social, you just have your moods. Knowing that your mood can change, it’s a likely that you’ll have a great time once you get into the groove of things.

7. You like exploring new sides of an old friend or simply meeting new people.

You may feel that you can always know someone more intimately no matter how many years you’ve known them. You enjoy uncovering the more sophisticated thoughts of your closest friends. It’s also a pleasure to meet completely new people who know nothing about you.

8. You’re comfortable, from being in coffee houses to loud concerts.

Those who try to call you out and say you’re not being yourself just don’t know you very well. Why does your disposition vary so greatly from day to day? You have your moments. Sometimes you feel socially elite. Other days, you seek intense mental stimulation.

Your thoughts may become so intense that it fills your own mental capacity. At these times, small talk feels like chatter and you want to be more respectful to your intellect. You’re not purposefully trying to go against the flow. You just have your own body of water that flows independently.

Some people may not be able to understand how much you can vary from time to time. A person observing your free time at the beginning of the week may find you nestled in working at a coffee shop. Yet, the very next day, you could be shouting with delight at a concert. The key to being able to jump from one situation to the next is being comfortable within yourself.

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Last Updated on March 5, 2021

Science Says People Who Talk To Themselves Are Geniuses

Science Says People Who Talk To Themselves Are Geniuses

I talk a lot to myself. It helps me to keep my concentration on the activity on hand, makes me focus more on my studies, and gives me some pretty brilliant ideas while chattering to myself; more importantly, I produce better works. For example, right now, as I am typing, I am constantly mumbling to myself. Do you talk to yourself? Don’t get embarrassed admitting it because science has discovered that those who talk to themselves are actually geniuses… and not crazy!

Research Background

Psychologist-researcher Gary Lupyan conducted an experiment where 20 volunteers were shown objects, in a supermarket, and were asked to remember them. Half of them were told to repeat the objects, for example, banana, and the other half remained silent. In the end, the result shown that self-directed speech aided people to find the objects faster, by 50 to 100 milliseconds, compared to the silent ones.

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“I’ll often mutter to myself when searching for something in the refrigerator or the supermarket shelves,” said Gary Lupyan.

This personal experience actually made him conduct this experiment. Lupyan, together with another psychologist, Daniel Swigley, came up with the outcomes that those to talk to oneself are geniuses. Here are the reasons:

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It stimulates your memory

When you are talking to yourself, your sensory mechanism gets activated. It gets easier on your memory since you can visualize the word, and you can act accordingly.[1]

It helps stay focused

When you are saying it loud, you stay focused on your task,[2] and it helps you recognise that stuff immediately. Of course, this only helps if you know what the object you are searching looks like. For example, a banana is yellow in colour, and you know how a banana looks like. So when you are saying it loud, your brain immediately pictures the image on your mind. But if you don’t know what banana looks like, then there is no effect of saying it loud.

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It helps you clarify your thoughts

Every one of us tends to have various types of thoughts. Most make sense, while the others don’t. Suppose you are furious at someone and you feel like killing that person. Now for this issue you won’t run to a therapist, will you? No, what you do is lock yourself in a room and mutter to yourself. You are letting go off the anger by talking to yourself, the pros and cons of killing that person, and eventually you calm down. This is a silly thought that you have and are unable to share it with any other person. Psychologist Linda Sapadin said,[3]

“It helps you clarify your thoughts, tend to what’s important and firm up any decisions you are contemplating.”

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