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Here’s What No One Tells You About Being An Extroverted Introvert

Here’s What No One Tells You About Being An Extroverted Introvert

Are people confused whether you’re an extrovert or introvert? When you’re out enjoying your social life the world buzzes around you. You have fun and you do what excited and stimulates you with friends. Everyone likes to unwind after a long day, but your mind and body require it more than most.

Who is the extroverted introvert? The person who at some point, sooner than later, has to withdraw. An extroverted introvert people need alone time. If you’re an extroverted introvert who examine your life, then you know yourself. You would prefer that the people you interact with, know themselves just as well.

1. You don’t enjoy the spotlight but you appreciate recognition.

Going out for social interactions is like rolling the dice. It’s either great times ahead, you feel withdrawn, or even drained of your energy. So for this reason you become choosy about who you spend your time with.

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When an extroverted introvert hasn’t been hanging out with their friends lately, it’s likely because they’re overstimulated. They’ve filled their physical environment and mind with what they have the capacity to handle.

2. You enjoy getting to know just one person but you also enjoy a big group of friends.

Your introverted friend who can be the life of the party has to exert more energy than you might think. It’s easy to get this personality type confused with a full on extrovert when they’re being highly sociable. Spend enough time with this person and you’ll learn that some days, they’re withdrawn.

You might be able to spot the extroverted introvert, the one who shies away from small talk. Big ideas and creative conversations might be more comfortable. It’s also more comfortable to hang out with people incrementally.

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3. You really need alone time but you do get lonely sometimes.

You’re an introvert deep down inside, but you tend to attract extroverts. The psychoanalyst Carl Jung believed that this was due to a deep attraction to complete each other’s personality types.

Extroverted introverts are like chameleons, changing as needed in the environment. You could call it having an edge. Watch out for the quiet one, as they say.

4. Sometimes you don’t want to talk, but you can suddenly become talkative.

You’re an extroverted introvert and you don’t want to explain who you are. You don’t feel like having the “it’s not you, it’s me” conversation. No matter how much you love the people you connect with, you still need to be alone at some point.

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Your alone time is an enjoyable fate. After you dazzle your friends in social environments you draw comfortably into your shell. Some people will never understand that the shell is there not to keep others out, but to hold all that is you together.

5. You embrace being an introvert, but sometimes doubt if you should be more extroverted.

As a special breed of extrovert you do quite a bit of self reflection. Thus, you know yourself really well. You’re not quiet because you’re lost, confused, or at a loss for words.

You speak when it’s most important because requires energy from you. In fact, you’re filled with thoughts and it’s only a matter of which you’ll give attention to. You know yourself well and you limit your interactions with others. So, when you do spend time, it’s valuable.

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6. You’re happy some events are canceled, although you’ll have a great time if you go.

Sometimes the mere thought of over-stimulation is enough to make you overstimulated. If you’re feeling like today is a hang out with myself kind of day, you may be reluctant to go out. You’re not anti-social, you just have your moods. Knowing that your mood can change, it’s a likely that you’ll have a great time once you get into the groove of things.

7. You like exploring new sides of an old friend or simply meeting new people.

You may feel that you can always know someone more intimately no matter how many years you’ve known them. You enjoy uncovering the more sophisticated thoughts of your closest friends. It’s also a pleasure to meet completely new people who know nothing about you.

8. You’re comfortable, from being in coffee houses to loud concerts.

Those who try to call you out and say you’re not being yourself just don’t know you very well. Why does your disposition vary so greatly from day to day? You have your moments. Sometimes you feel socially elite. Other days, you seek intense mental stimulation.

Your thoughts may become so intense that it fills your own mental capacity. At these times, small talk feels like chatter and you want to be more respectful to your intellect. You’re not purposefully trying to go against the flow. You just have your own body of water that flows independently.

Some people may not be able to understand how much you can vary from time to time. A person observing your free time at the beginning of the week may find you nestled in working at a coffee shop. Yet, the very next day, you could be shouting with delight at a concert. The key to being able to jump from one situation to the next is being comfortable within yourself.

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Last Updated on July 16, 2019

7 Ways to Get Rid of Negative Energy and Become Positive

7 Ways to Get Rid of Negative Energy and Become Positive

Negativity affects ourselves and everyone around us. It limits our potential to become something great and live a fulfilling, purposeful life. Negativity has a tangible effect on our health, too. Research has shown that people who cultivate negative energy experience more stress, more sickness, and less opportunity over the course of their lives than those who choose to live positively.

When we make a decision to become positive, and follow that decision up with action, we will begin to encounter situations and people that are also positive. The negative energy gets edged out by all positive experiences. It’s a snowball effect.

Although negative and positive thoughts will always exist, the key to becoming positive is to limit the amount of negativity that we experience by filling ourselves up with more positivity.

Here are some ways to get rid of negativity and become more positive.

1. Become Grateful for Everything

When life is all about us, it’s easy to believe that we deserve what we have. An attitude of entitlement puts us at the center of the universe and sets up the unrealistic expectation that others should cater to us, our needs, and our wants. This vain state of existence is a surefire way to set yourself up for an unfulfilled life of negativity.

People living in this sort of entitlement are “energy suckers”–they are always searching for what they can get out of a situation. People that don’t appreciate the nuances of their lives live in a constant state of lacking. And it’s really difficult to live a positive life this way.

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When we begin to be grateful and appreciate everything in our lives–from the small struggles that make us better, to the car that gets us from A to B every day–we shift our attitude from one of selfishness, to one of appreciation. This appreciation gets noticed by others, and a positive harmony begins to form in our relationships.

We begin to receive more of that which we are grateful for, because we’ve opened ourselves up to the idea of receiving, instead of taking. This will make your life more fulfilling, and more positive.

2. Laugh More, Especially at Yourself

Life gets busy, our schedules fill up, we get into relationships, and work can feel task oriented and routine-driven at times. Being human can feel more like being a robot. But having this work-driven, serious attitude often results in negative and performance oriented thinking.

Becoming positive means taking life less seriously and letting yourself off the hook. This is the only life that you get to live, why not lighten up your mood?

Laughter helps us become positive by lightening our mood and reminding us not to take life so seriously. Are you sensitive to light sarcasm? Do you have trouble laughing at jokes? Usually, people who are stressed out and overly serious get most offended by sarcasm because their life is all work and no play.

If we can learn to laugh at ourselves and our mistakes, life will become more of an experiment in finding out what makes us happy. And finding happiness means finding positivity.

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3. Help Others

Negativity goes hand in hand with selfishness. People that live only for themselves have no higher purpose in their lives. If the whole point of this world is only to take care of yourself and no one else, the road to a long-term fulfillment and purpose is going to be a long one.

Positivity accompanies purpose. The most basic way to create purpose and positivity in your life is to begin doing things for others. Start small; open the door for the person in front of you at Starbucks or ask someone how their day was before telling them about yours.

Helping others will give you an intangible sense of value that will translate into positivity. And people might just appreciate you in the process.

4. Change Your Thinking

We can either be our best coach or our best enemy. Change starts from within. If you want to become more positive, change the wording of your thoughts. We are the hardest on ourselves, and a stream of negative self talk is corrosive to a positive life.

The next time you have a negative thought, write it down and rephrase it with a positive spin. For example, change a thought like, “I can’t believe I did so horribly on the test–I suck.” to “I didn’t do as well as I hoped to on this test. But I know I’m capable and I’ll do better next time.”

Changing our self-talk is powerful.

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5. Surround Yourself with Positive People

We become most like the people that we surround ourselves with. If our friend group is full of negative energy-suckers and drama queens, we will emulate that behavior and become like them. It is very difficult to become more positive when the people around us don’t support or demonstrate positive behavior.

As you become more positive, you’ll find that your existing friends will either appreciate the new you or they will become resistant to your positive changes. This is a natural response.

Change is scary; but cutting out the negative people in your life is a huge step to becoming more positive. Positive people reflect and bounce their perspectives onto one another. Positivity is a step-by-step process when you do it solo, but a positive group of friends can be an escalator.

6. Get into Action

Negative thoughts can be overwhelming and challenging to navigate. Negativity is usually accompanied by a “freak-out” response, especially when tied to relationships, people and to worrying about the future. This is debilitating to becoming positive and usually snowballs into more worry, more stress and more freak-outs.

Turn the negative stress into positive action. The next time you’re in one of these situations, walk away and take a break. With your eyes closed, take a few deep breaths. Once you’re calm, approach the situation or problem with a pen and pad of paper. Write out four or five actions or solutions to begin solving the problem.

Taking yourself out of the emotionally charged negative by moving into the action-oriented positive will help you solve more problems rationally and live in positivity

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7. Take Full Responsibility, Stop Being the Victim

You are responsible for your thoughts.

People that consistently believe that things happen to them handicap themselves to a victim mentality. This is a subtle and deceptive negative thought pattern. Phrases like “I have to work” or “I can’t believe he did that to me” are indicators of a victim mentality. Blaming circumstances and blaming others only handicaps our decision to change something negative into something positive.

Taking full responsibility for your life, your thoughts and your actions is one of the biggest steps in creating a more positive life. We have unlimited potential within to create our own reality, change our life, and change our thoughts. When we begin to really internalize this, we discover that no one can make us feel or do anything. We choose our emotional and behavioral response to people and circumstances.

Make positive choices in favor of yourself.

“Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions; they become habit. Watch your habits; they become character. Watch your character; it becomes your destiny” ― Lao Tzu

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