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Here’s What No One Tells You About Being An Extroverted Introvert

Here’s What No One Tells You About Being An Extroverted Introvert

Are people confused whether you’re an extrovert or introvert? When you’re out enjoying your social life the world buzzes around you. You have fun and you do what excited and stimulates you with friends. Everyone likes to unwind after a long day, but your mind and body require it more than most.

Who is the extroverted introvert? The person who at some point, sooner than later, has to withdraw. An extroverted introvert people need alone time. If you’re an extroverted introvert who examine your life, then you know yourself. You would prefer that the people you interact with, know themselves just as well.

1. You don’t enjoy the spotlight but you appreciate recognition.

Going out for social interactions is like rolling the dice. It’s either great times ahead, you feel withdrawn, or even drained of your energy. So for this reason you become choosy about who you spend your time with.

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When an extroverted introvert hasn’t been hanging out with their friends lately, it’s likely because they’re overstimulated. They’ve filled their physical environment and mind with what they have the capacity to handle.

2. You enjoy getting to know just one person but you also enjoy a big group of friends.

Your introverted friend who can be the life of the party has to exert more energy than you might think. It’s easy to get this personality type confused with a full on extrovert when they’re being highly sociable. Spend enough time with this person and you’ll learn that some days, they’re withdrawn.

You might be able to spot the extroverted introvert, the one who shies away from small talk. Big ideas and creative conversations might be more comfortable. It’s also more comfortable to hang out with people incrementally.

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3. You really need alone time but you do get lonely sometimes.

You’re an introvert deep down inside, but you tend to attract extroverts. The psychoanalyst Carl Jung believed that this was due to a deep attraction to complete each other’s personality types.

Extroverted introverts are like chameleons, changing as needed in the environment. You could call it having an edge. Watch out for the quiet one, as they say.

4. Sometimes you don’t want to talk, but you can suddenly become talkative.

You’re an extroverted introvert and you don’t want to explain who you are. You don’t feel like having the “it’s not you, it’s me” conversation. No matter how much you love the people you connect with, you still need to be alone at some point.

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Your alone time is an enjoyable fate. After you dazzle your friends in social environments you draw comfortably into your shell. Some people will never understand that the shell is there not to keep others out, but to hold all that is you together.

5. You embrace being an introvert, but sometimes doubt if you should be more extroverted.

As a special breed of extrovert you do quite a bit of self reflection. Thus, you know yourself really well. You’re not quiet because you’re lost, confused, or at a loss for words.

You speak when it’s most important because requires energy from you. In fact, you’re filled with thoughts and it’s only a matter of which you’ll give attention to. You know yourself well and you limit your interactions with others. So, when you do spend time, it’s valuable.

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6. You’re happy some events are canceled, although you’ll have a great time if you go.

Sometimes the mere thought of over-stimulation is enough to make you overstimulated. If you’re feeling like today is a hang out with myself kind of day, you may be reluctant to go out. You’re not anti-social, you just have your moods. Knowing that your mood can change, it’s a likely that you’ll have a great time once you get into the groove of things.

7. You like exploring new sides of an old friend or simply meeting new people.

You may feel that you can always know someone more intimately no matter how many years you’ve known them. You enjoy uncovering the more sophisticated thoughts of your closest friends. It’s also a pleasure to meet completely new people who know nothing about you.

8. You’re comfortable, from being in coffee houses to loud concerts.

Those who try to call you out and say you’re not being yourself just don’t know you very well. Why does your disposition vary so greatly from day to day? You have your moments. Sometimes you feel socially elite. Other days, you seek intense mental stimulation.

Your thoughts may become so intense that it fills your own mental capacity. At these times, small talk feels like chatter and you want to be more respectful to your intellect. You’re not purposefully trying to go against the flow. You just have your own body of water that flows independently.

Some people may not be able to understand how much you can vary from time to time. A person observing your free time at the beginning of the week may find you nestled in working at a coffee shop. Yet, the very next day, you could be shouting with delight at a concert. The key to being able to jump from one situation to the next is being comfortable within yourself.

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Last Updated on September 12, 2019

12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

Even the most charismatic people you know, whether in person or celebrities of some sort, experience days where they feel lost in life and isolated from everyone else.

While it’s good to know we aren’t alone in this feeling, the question still remains:

What should we do when we feel lost and lonely?

Here are 12 things to remember:

1. Recognize That It’s Okay!

The truth is, there are times you need to be alone. If you’ve always been accustomed to being in contact with people, this may prove difficult.

However, learning how to be alone and comfortable in your own skin will give you confidence and a sense of self reliance.

We cheat ourselves out of the opportunity to become self reliant when we look for constant companionship.

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2. Use Your Lost and Loneliness as a Self-Directing Guide

You’ve most likely heard the expression: “You have to know where you’ve been to know where you’re going.”

Loneliness also serves as a life signal to indicate you’re in search of something. It’s when we’re in the midst of solitude that answers come from true soul searching.

Remember, there is more to life than what you’re feeling.

3. Realize Loneliness Helps You Face the Truth

Being in the constant company of others, although comforting sometimes, can often serve as a distraction when we need to face the reality of a situation.

Solitude cuts straight to the chase and forces you to deal with the problem at hand. See it as a blessing that can serve as a catalyst to set things right!

4. Be Aware That You Have More Control Than You Think

Typically, when we see ourselves as being lost or lonely, it gives us an excuse to view everything we come in contact with in a negative light. It lends itself to putting ourselves in the victim mode, when the truth of the matter is that you choose your attitude in every situation.

No one can force a feeling upon you! It is YOU who has the ultimate say as to how you choose to react.

5. Embrace the Freedom That the Feeling of Being Alone Can Offer

Instead of wallowing in self pity, which many are prone to do because of loneliness, try looking at your circumstance as a new-found freedom.

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Most people are in constant need of approval of their viewpoints. Try enjoying the fact that  you don’t need everyone you care about to support your decisions.

6. Acknowledge the Person You Are Now

Perhaps you feel a sense of loneliness and confusion because your life circumstances have taken you away from the persona that others know to be you.

Perhaps the new you differs radically from the old. Realize that life is about change and how we react to that change. It’s okay that you’re not who you used to be.

Take a look at this article and learn to accept your imperfect self: Accept Yourself (Flaws and All): 7 Benefits of Being Vulnerable

7. Keep Striving to Do Your Best

Often those who are feeling isolated and unto themselves will develop a defeatist attitude. They’ll do substandard work because their self esteem is low and they don’t care.

Never let this feeling take away your sense of worth! Do your best always and when you come through this dark time, others will admire how you stayed determined in spite of the obstacles you had to overcome.

And to live your best life, you must do this ONE thing: step out of your comfort zone.

8. Don’t Forget That Time Is Precious

When we’re lost in a sea of loneliness and depression, it’s all too easy to reflect on regrets of past life events. This does nothing but feed negativity and perpetuate the situation.

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Instead of falling prey to this common pitfall, put one foot in front of the other and acknowledge every positive step you take. By doing this, you can celebrate the struggles you overcome at the end of the day.

9. Remember, Things Happen for a Reason

Every circumstance we encounter in our life is designed to teach us and that lesson is in turn passed on to others.

Sometimes we’re fortunate enough to figure out the lesson to be learned, while other times, we simply need to have faith that if the lesson wasn’t meant directly for us to learn from, how we handled it was observed by someone who needed to learn.

Your solitude and feeling of lost, in this instance, although painful possibly, may be teaching someone else.

10. Journal During This Time

Record your thoughts when you’re at the height of loneliness and feeling lost. You’ll be amazed when you reflect back at how you viewed things at the time and how far you’ve come later.

This time (if recorded) can give you a keen insight into who you are and what makes you feel the way you feel.

11. Remember You Aren’t the First to Feel This Way

It’s quite common to feel as if we’re alone and no one else has ever felt this way before. We think this because at the time of our distress, we’re silently observing others around us who are seemingly fine in every way.

The truth is, we can’t possibly know the struggles of those around us unless they elect to share them. We ALL have known this pain!

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Try confiding in someone you trust and ask them how they deal with these feelings when they experienced it. You may be surprised at what you learn.

12. Ask for Help If the Problem Persists

The feeling of being lost and lonely is common to everyone, but typically it will last for a relatively short period of time.

Most people will confess to, at one time or another, being in a “funk.” But if the problem persists longer than you feel it should, don’t ignore it.

When your ability to reason and consider things rationally becomes impaired, do not poo poo the problem away and think it isn’t worthy of attention. Seek medical help.

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Final Thoughts

Loneliness and a sense of feeling lost can in many ways be extremely painful and difficult to deal with at best. However, these feelings can also serve as a catalyst for change in our lives if we acknowledge them and act.

Above anything, cherish your mental well being and don’t underestimate its worth. Seek professional guidance if you’re unable to distinguish between a sense of freedom for yourself and a sense of despair.

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