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How You Can Enjoy A Relationship By Dating Someone You Don’t Have To Impress

How You Can Enjoy A Relationship By Dating Someone You Don’t Have To Impress

Being in a relationship can be a fulfilling, loving experience – or it can be the total opposite. Some relationships can be stressful and upsetting, especially if you are going out with someone who you feel like you need to impress.
The best relationships are the ones where neither partner feels like they need to impress each other, as they love each other for who they are. Here are 6 things that happen when you are in a relationship with someone you don’t have to impress.

1. You Can Always Be Honest

Date someone who doesn’t make you want to lie. Date someone who won’t laugh at your embarrassing secrets. Date someone who wants to hear all of the stories from your childhood. Date someone who is interested in finding out your dreams and fears. Date someone who listens to you without judging you, someone who understands that everyone make mistakes. Date someone who can comfort you when you tell them sad stories from your past.

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2. They Will Still Want To Be In A Relationship With You When You’re Having A Bad Day

Date someone who wants to give you a hug after a hard day, instead of someone who doesn’t like to be around you when you’re in a bad mood. Date someone who supports you through both the good and bad times. Date someone who tells you that you can be yourself and still be loved and cared for. Date someone who still thinks you are amazing, even on your worst days.

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3. You Can Be Silly Together

Date someone who you are happy to be silly with. Date someone who embraces your silly side, rather than someone who makes you feel childish or stupid. Date someone who chooses to be silly with you, as it makes them just as happy as it makes you. Date someone who doesn’t expect you to behave in a certain way. Date someone who makes you cry with laughter. Date someone who can always put a smile on your face.

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4. They Won’t Care About Status Or Reputation

Date someone who doesn’t worry about what others think of them. Date someone who doesn’t care about impressing other people, because they are too busy having fun and enjoying their life. Date someone who doesn’t care about job titles or status. Date someone who is humble and grateful for what they already have. Date someone who doesn’t try to impress you. Date someone who doesn’t think of people as trophies to be collected.

5. They Will Always Think You Look Beautiful

Date someone who thinks you are truly beautiful, even when you’re tired, ill and pale. Date someone who doesn’t expect you to always make an effort with your appearance. Date someone who regularly compliments you, rather than someone who tries to put you down. Date someone who doesn’t compare you to other people, to make you feel less attractive or undesirable. Date someone who doesn’t think that beauty is the most important trait in a partner, and instead loves you for your personality.

6. They Will Accept You For Who You Are

Most importantly, date someone who accepts you for who you are. Date someone who loves every part of you, even your flaws. Date someone who doesn’t make you feel like you’re losing a race. Date someone who always gives you love and attention, so that you don’t feel like you need to compete for their affections. Date someone who accepts all of your flaws, and loves them. Date someone who tells you that you are perfect as you are. Date someone who doesn’t want to play games, because they are very happy with what they have already have.

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Last Updated on March 5, 2021

Science Says People Who Talk To Themselves Are Geniuses

Science Says People Who Talk To Themselves Are Geniuses

I talk a lot to myself. It helps me to keep my concentration on the activity on hand, makes me focus more on my studies, and gives me some pretty brilliant ideas while chattering to myself; more importantly, I produce better works. For example, right now, as I am typing, I am constantly mumbling to myself. Do you talk to yourself? Don’t get embarrassed admitting it because science has discovered that those who talk to themselves are actually geniuses… and not crazy!

Research Background

Psychologist-researcher Gary Lupyan conducted an experiment where 20 volunteers were shown objects, in a supermarket, and were asked to remember them. Half of them were told to repeat the objects, for example, banana, and the other half remained silent. In the end, the result shown that self-directed speech aided people to find the objects faster, by 50 to 100 milliseconds, compared to the silent ones.

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“I’ll often mutter to myself when searching for something in the refrigerator or the supermarket shelves,” said Gary Lupyan.

This personal experience actually made him conduct this experiment. Lupyan, together with another psychologist, Daniel Swigley, came up with the outcomes that those to talk to oneself are geniuses. Here are the reasons:

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It stimulates your memory

When you are talking to yourself, your sensory mechanism gets activated. It gets easier on your memory since you can visualize the word, and you can act accordingly.[1]

It helps stay focused

When you are saying it loud, you stay focused on your task,[2] and it helps you recognise that stuff immediately. Of course, this only helps if you know what the object you are searching looks like. For example, a banana is yellow in colour, and you know how a banana looks like. So when you are saying it loud, your brain immediately pictures the image on your mind. But if you don’t know what banana looks like, then there is no effect of saying it loud.

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It helps you clarify your thoughts

Every one of us tends to have various types of thoughts. Most make sense, while the others don’t. Suppose you are furious at someone and you feel like killing that person. Now for this issue you won’t run to a therapist, will you? No, what you do is lock yourself in a room and mutter to yourself. You are letting go off the anger by talking to yourself, the pros and cons of killing that person, and eventually you calm down. This is a silly thought that you have and are unable to share it with any other person. Psychologist Linda Sapadin said,[3]

“It helps you clarify your thoughts, tend to what’s important and firm up any decisions you are contemplating.”

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