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20 Things to Remember When Society Says You Aren’t Bikini Ready

20 Things to Remember When Society Says You Aren’t Bikini Ready

Yes, it’s that time again, and with summer comes societies constant reminders that you are not bikini ready.

Did you not stick to your new year’s resolution about hitting the gym?

Have you had a few too many ‘Netflix and Cheesecake’ evenings?

Did it just not cross your mind until the weather become warmer?

Whatever it is, summer and the holidays are here again.

So that means (in society eyes) “focus on being insecure, we want to fat shame you!”

But although you are being constantly pumped with these awful messages you are also responsible. “How, why, what!?” I hear you scream but like it or not, you are.

You are the one in control of your mind and internal environment, so when outside messages upset and annoy you, it’s an indication that you are out-of-control from your internal environment.

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Advertisers know this and they know that people who have no control over their internal environment are heavily affected by the environment that surrounds them.

Hence the reason why phrases like ‘fat shaming’, ‘body shaming’, ‘beach ready’ even exist. These phrases stem from negative situations that the individual has failed to control within themselves.

So, what are you and your extra body bits supposed to do?

20 Things to Remember When Society Says You Aren’t Bikini Ready

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                                          I know that a few images with uplifting words is only the tip of the iceberg when you don’t feel that your body is bikini ready.

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                                          You need to know how to use these messages too so it makes a difference in your life. What you need to break through is your subconscious mind and the messages it’s secretly telling you. You can do this by replacing the repeated messages it already has, with messages you actually want inside your mind.

                                          1. Start by choosing 1 or 2 of the messages from above that resonate with you.
                                          2. Repeat this message to yourself several times first thing in the morning and last thing before you go to sleep (10-20 times).
                                          3. Write it down repeatedly every day. The more the better (minimum 10 times a day)
                                          4. Look in the mirror and repeat your special message to yourself whilst looking at the parts of your body you hate
                                          5. HIGHLY IMPORTANT: Without this last step none of this will work for you. If you do not use #6 you are wasting your time!
                                          6. Before you repeat any words or write anything down it is crucial to get yourself into a real state of ‘feeling’ of achievement. Take 2 – 5 minutes and close your eyes, breath slowly and feel that you already achieved the goal you want, which is self acceptance. Feel that you have already accepted you amazing body, know that you are one of those body confident people. Fill your body with the happy feeling that self loving people truly feel.

                                          So, if you were worried about those extra jiggle bits you need to accept that they are part of your beautiful body. Have you ever considered that the more you try to alter your natural state the more you are subliminally telling yourself that you are not good enough?

                                          This painful ‘hamster wheel’ cycle only keeps you in a state of unhappiness. What’s life without happiness?

                                          Accept and love yourself because you are 1 in 7 billion. Being 1 in 7 billion should be a sign that we were not designed to look, act, or be like anyone else which is why you only find sadness when you try to do so.

                                          Thanks for reading.

                                          If you know someone who would make use of these body booster tips, then you can make a difference today.

                                          Share this post and pass it along.

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                                          Last Updated on February 15, 2019

                                          Why Is Goal Setting Important to a Truly Fulfilling Life?

                                          Why Is Goal Setting Important to a Truly Fulfilling Life?

                                          In Personal Development-speak, we are always talking about goals, outcomes, success, desires and dreams. In other words, all the stuff we want to do, achieve and create in our world.

                                          And while it’s important for us to know what we want to achieve (our goal), it’s also important for us to understand why we want to achieve it; the reason behind the goal or some would say, our real goal.

                                          Why is goal setting important?

                                          1. Your needs and desire will be fulfilled.

                                          Sometimes when we explore our “why”, (why we want to achieve a certain thing) we realize that our “what” (our goal) might not actually deliver us the thing (feeling, emotion, internal state) we’re really seeking.

                                          For example, the person who has a goal to lose weight in the belief that weight loss will bring them happiness, security, fulfillment, attention, popularity and the partner of their dreams. In this instance, their “what” is weight-loss and their “why” is happiness (etc.) and a partner.

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                                          Six months later, they have lost the weight (achieved their goal) but as is often the case, they’re not happier, not more secure, not more confident, not more fulfilled and in keeping with their miserable state, they have failed to attract their dream partner.

                                          After all, who wants to be with someone who’s miserable? They achieved their practical goal but still failed to have their needs met.

                                          So they set a goal to lose another ten pounds. And then another. And maybe just ten more. With the destructive and erroneous belief that if they can get thin enough, they’ll find their own personal nirvana. And we all know how that story ends.

                                          2. You’ll find out what truly motivates you

                                          The important thing in the process of constructing our best life is not necessarily what goals we set (what we think we want) but what motivates us towards those goals (what we really want).

                                          The sooner we begin to explore, identify and understand what motivates us towards certain achievements, acquisitions or outcomes (that is, we begin moving towards greater consciousness and self awareness), the sooner we will make better decisions for our life, set more intelligent (and dare I say, enlightened) goals and experience more fulfilment and less frustration.

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                                          We all know people who have achieved what they set out to, only to end up in the same place or worse (emotionally, psychologically, sociologically) because what they were chasing wasn’t really what they were needing.

                                          What we think we want will rarely provide us with what we actually need.

                                          3. Your state of mind will be a lot healthier

                                          We all set specific goals to achieve/acquire certain things (a job, a car, a partner, a better body, a bank balance, a title, a victory) because at some level, most of us believe (consciously or not) that the achievement of those goals will bring us what we really seek; joy, fulfilment, happiness, safety, peace, recognition, love, acceptance, respect, connection.

                                          Of course, setting practical, material and financial goals is an intelligent thing to do considering the world we live in and how that world works.

                                          But setting goals with an expectation that the achievement of certain things in our external, physical world will automatically create an internal state of peace, contentment, joy and total happiness is an unhealthy and unrealistic mindset to inhabit.

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                                          What you truly want and need

                                          Sometimes we need to look beyond the obvious (superficial) goals to discover and secure what we really want.

                                          Sadly, we live in a collective mindset which teaches that the prettiest and the wealthiest are the most successful.

                                          Some self-help frauds even teach this message. If you’re rich or pretty, you’re happy. If you’re both, you’re very happy. Pretty isn’t what we really want; it’s what we believe pretty will bring us. Same goes with money.

                                          When we cut through the hype, the jargon and the self-help mumbo jumbo, we all have the same basic goals, desires and needs:

                                          Joy, fulfilment, happiness, safety, peace, recognition, love, acceptance, respect, connection.

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                                          Nobody needs a mansion or a sport’s car but we all need love.

                                          Nobody needs massive pecs, six percent body-fat, a face lift or bigger breasts but we all need connection, acceptance and understanding.

                                          Nobody needs to be famous but we all need peace, calm, balance and happiness.

                                          The problem is, we live in a culture which teaches that one equals the other. If only we lived in a culture which taught that real success is far more about what’s happening in our internal environment, than our external one.

                                          It’s a commonly-held belief that we’re all very different and we all have different goals — whether short term or long term goals. But in many ways we’re not, and we don’t; we all want essentially the same things.

                                          Now all you have to do is see past the fraud and deception and find the right path.

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