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We are characters from the Legend of the Titanic

We are characters from the Legend of the Titanic

A legend has many faces. The story of the Titanic reflects in our society today. When the Titanic sunk on April 14th, 1912, there were three ships in the vicinity.

The first one was Samson

She was the closest, being less than ten miles from the sinking Passenger liner. They had seen lanterns of the Titanic and their cry for help. They had also seen the lights dimming out as she was going down. However, they were fishing illegally for Seals in territorial waters. If caught, they could have been prosecuted.

They turned around and fled. While the crew of the Titanic was succumbing to the extreme cold and ruthless waves, they wanted to get as far away as possible.

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Some of us are like the Samson. They will run as far away from trouble as possible. They are so concerned about saving their own ends that they seldom care about others. They are often prepared to go to great lengths to ensure small gains, even at the cost of great misery to others. This seems justified to them.

The second ship was the SS Californian

The Californian was about 20 miles from the Titanic at the time. She was surrounded by thick pack ice. The Captain had decided to stop for the night. They tried signalling the Titanic that they had stopped due to thick ice all over.

Throughout the night the second and third officers of the Californian saw distress flares from the Titanic repeatedly. Each officer individually informed Captain Stanley Lord of the Californian, who kept asking them to signal the vessel using Morse lights and wait for an acknowledgement.

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Given that The Titanic was sinking, there was no one to see or acknowledge the morse signals. They kept sending out distress flares frantically, each one sighted by the Californian. Captain Lord decided to go to sleep and see if he could do anything in the morning. The Titanic sank at 03:40, leaving 1523 dead. Some of the people died in despair, while watching the lights of a ship not many miles away which simply decided not to approach and save them.

When the Californian master Captain Lord woke up, he decided to tread through the ice and approach, but in vain. The only thing that remained was wreckage.

Some of us are like the Californian. We excuse ourselves thinking that although we have honest intentions, we are bound by circumstances and simply cannot help. We think we shall dive in when the situation is favorable. What we fail to realize, just like Captain Lord of the Californian, is that our best is usually enough, and if we really give it, we can often pull people out of the wreckage.

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The last of the ships was the RMS Carpathia

The Carpathia was the farthest at the time, about 58 miles away. Capt Arthur Henry Rostron had picked up the ordeal of the Titanic on radio telephony. He did not wait.

He ordered full sea speed to arrive at the site, while praying for the wellbeing of the Passengers of the Titanic. The ship achieved a top speed which was 3.5-knots higher than the maximum speed ever achieved by her before and arrived on the scene in four hours. The Titanic has remained afloat only for two hours and had sunk before the Carpathia arrived. But it was because of this ship’s valor and courage that 703 passengers and crew were saved that day.

It is said that the Rocket flares which the Carpathia had shot into the sky to let the survivors know that help was coming, greatly assisted in keeping more people alive, who decided not to give up till their last breath.

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Being a mariner myself, I know how much that last bit of hope can do to help you survive.

Some are like the Carpathia. There are those who would not think twice before jumping into a problem for others. We see them every day. They would go to great lengths to pull out another person from the pit.

Can we save the Titanic?

When we have a burning issue affecting other people, some run, some hide and some give excuses. These people are like the Samson or the Californian. I personally know many such Samsons and Californians amongst us. No matter how successful they are in life, their story ends when they leave.

The only people who live on after they are gone are the Carpathians like Captain Rostron. Are you one of them?

Featured photo credit: Joseph Barrientos via images.unsplash.com

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What Your Fear of Being Alone Is Really About and How to Get over It

What Your Fear of Being Alone Is Really About and How to Get over It

Are you afraid of being alone?  Do you worry about your physical safety or do you fear loneliness? These are strong negative feelings that can impact your health.

One study found that when older people are socially isolated, there is an increased risk of an earlier death,[1] by as much as 26%.

If you experience loneliness and are worried about your fear of being alone, study these 6 ways to help you find your comfort zone.

But first, the good news!

How many times have you said to yourself, ‘I just can’t wait to be alone’? This might be after a day’s work, an argument with your partner or after a noisy dinner with friends. You need time to be yourself, gather your thoughts, relish the silence and just totally chill out. These are precious moments and are very important for your own peace of mind and mental refreshment.

But for many people, this feeling is not often present and loneliness takes over. As Joss Whedon once said,

‘Loneliness is about the scariest thing out there’.

Read on and discover how you can exploit being alone to your own advantage and how you can defeat loneliness.

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1. Embrace loneliness

When you are alone, it is important to embrace it and enjoy it to the full.

Wallow in the feeling that you do not have to be accountable for anything you do. Pursue your interests and hobbies. Take up new ones. Learn new skills. Lie on the couch. Leave the kitchen in a mess. The list can go on and on, but finding the right balance is crucial.

There will be times when being on your own is perfect, but then there will be a creeping feeling that you should not be so isolated.

When you start to enjoy being alone, these 10 amazing things will happen.

Once you start feeling loneliness, then it is time to take action.

2. Facebook is not the answer

Have you noticed how people seek virtual contacts instead of a live, face-to-face interaction? It is true that social networking can provide an initial contact, but the chances of that becoming a real life personal contact is pretty slim.

Being wrapped up in a cloud of sharing, liking and commenting (and insulting!) can only increase loneliness.

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When you really want company, no one on Facebook will phone you to invite you out.

3. Stop tolerating unhappy relationships

It is a cruel fact of life that people are so scared of loneliness that they often opt into a relationship with the wrong person.

There is enormous pressure from peers, family and society in general to get married or to be in a stable, long-term relationship. When this happens, people start making wrong decisions, such as:

  • hanging out with toxic company such as dishonest or untrustworthy people;
  • getting involved with unsuitable partners because of the fear of being alone or lonesome;
  • accepting inappropriate behavior just because of loneliness;
  • seeking a temporary remedy instead of making a long-term decision.

The main problem is that you need to pause, reflect and get advice. Recognize that your fear of being alone is taking over. A rash decision now could lead to endless unhappiness.

4. Go out and meet people

It was the poet John Donne (1572 – 1631) who wrote:

‘No man is an island, entire of itself, every man is a piece of the continent’.

Human contact is essential to surviving in this world. Instead of wallowing in boredom and sadness, you need to get out as much as possible and seek contacts.

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Being a member of a group, however tenuous, is a great way. So when you are in the gym, at church or simply at a club meeting, exploit these contacts to enlarge your social circle.

There is no point in staying at home all the time. You will not meet any new people there!

Social contacts are rather like delicate plants. You have to look after them. That means telephoning, using Skype and being there when needed.

Take a look at this guide on How to Meet New People and Make Friends with The Best.

5. Reach out to help someone in need

A burden shared is a burden halved.

Dag Hammarskjold was keenly aware of this fact when he said:

‘What makes loneliness an anguish is not that I have no one to share my burden but this: I have only my own burden to bear’.

Simply put, it is a two-way street. Helping others actually helps yourself, here’s why.

Reach out to help and people will be there when you need them.

6. Be grateful and count your blessings

Study after study shows that if people show gratitude, they will reap a bountiful harvest. These include a stronger immune system, better health, more positive energy and most important of all, feeling less lonely and isolated.

If you do not believe me, watch the video below, ‘What good is gratitude?’  Now here is the path to hope and happiness:

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