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8 Things That Are So True For People With Phone Anxiety

8 Things That Are So True For People With Phone Anxiety

Your phone starts ringing and the first emotion you feel isn’t excitement at the thought of having a conversation with someone, but instead it’s dread. It’s not even that you don’t like the person calling you or that you’re not capable of having a perfectly normal phone conversation, but you just hate the thought of talking to anyone on the phone. Where this developed from, who knows because talking in person is no problem for you but having the same conversation on the phone – no thanks!

If this is you then you might be having phone anxiety and will probably identify with these key phone anxiety-induced actions.

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1. You Always Let The Call End

No matter who is calling you, you feel the panic start and your conscience kicks in. “Oh no, someone’s calling! Should I answer it? I should answer it. But I don’t want to answer it! I could be really busy. I’m not, but I could be! It’s too late now, I’ll just let it ring out…”

You now feel relief as the ringtone finally stops but that dread creeps back when you know you’ll probably have to ring them back at some point.

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2. You Always Wait A While To Call Back

If you know you need to call the person back and texting just won’t be enough, you always wait a while before calling back. You literally hate the thought of hitting that number, hearing it ring, waiting for the person to pick up and then having to speak on the phone. You will gladly wait an hour or so before returning the call but you do only because you know you have to.

3. You Always Use The Same Excuse For Missing The Call

You probably have that one excuse you use every time to explain the reason for your lack of picking up the phone. It’s usually something along the lines of “my phone was charging in the other room” or “I didn’t have my phone on me”. You know full well this is a lie and so do they since your phone is always surgically attached to your hand.

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4. You Always Put Your Ringtone On Silent

Putting your phone on silent isn’t always out of curtesy to those around you but to help you ignore further the fact that someone is calling you. Having your phone on silent not only allows you to pretend to yourself that you didn’t hear it (and therefore it didn’t happen) but it also stops the situation of everyone around you quite obviously noting to themselves that you’re choosing to ignore your call and outing you as a weird human being.

5. Your Missed Call List Is Longer Than Your Received

While most people will have a huge list of received calls from friends and family, if you have phone anxiety you’re more likely to have a much longer missed call list compared to your received calls. In fact, your received call list is non-existent. Missing calls so much adds up so you probably erase them every now and then to make yourself feel better.

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6. Your Friends Constantly Comment On Your Inability To Answer The Phone

Do your friends constantly moan at you about your lack of ability to answer their calls? You apologise and give your excuse but deep down you have this sense of guilt that you know you pretty much ignore every call on purpose. You don’t really care though, being reprimanded for your poor phone-picking-up abilities is much better than actually having the conversation on the phone in the first place!

7. Your Call ID Is Your Best Friend

You don’t know how you coped before caller ID. Screening the number is handy for you despite the fact that you’re not going to pick up anyway. Just knowing who you’re ignoring is important, not because you’re picking and choosing or don’t like the person calling you, but just knowing who you should be texting back later with excuse in hand.

8. You Will Always Choose Texting Over Calling

If you have phone anxiety then texting is your go-to mode of communication. You will always send a text rather than make that phone call because it’s much easier and much less awkward. Even when getting back to someone who’s call you missed, you’ll opt for that quick text to avoid actually speaking to them. Thank goodness for texting!

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Last Updated on August 16, 2018

10 Ways To Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone And Enjoy Taking Risks

10 Ways To Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone And Enjoy Taking Risks

The ability to take risks by stepping outside your comfort zone is the primary way by which we grow. But we are often afraid to take that first step.

In truth, comfort zones are not really about comfort, they are about fear. Break the chains of fear to get outside. Once you do, you will learn to enjoy the process of taking risks and growing in the process.

Here are 10 ways to help you step out of your comfort zone and get closer to success:

1. Become aware of what’s outside of your comfort zone

What are the things that you believe are worth doing but are afraid of doing yourself because of the potential for disappointment or failure?

Draw a circle and write those things down outside the circle. This process will not only allow you to clearly identify your discomforts, but your comforts. Write identified comforts inside the circle.

2. Become clear about what you are aiming to overcome

Take the list of discomforts and go deeper. Remember, the primary emotion you are trying to overcome is fear.

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How does this fear apply uniquely to each situation? Be very specific.

Are you afraid of walking up to people and introducing yourself in social situations? Why? Is it because you are insecure about the sound of your voice? Are you insecure about your looks?

Or, are you afraid of being ignored?

3. Get comfortable with discomfort

One way to get outside of your comfort zone is to literally expand it. Make it a goal to avoid running away from discomfort.

Let’s stay with the theme of meeting people in social settings. If you start feeling a little panicked when talking to someone you’ve just met, try to stay with it a little longer than you normally would before retreating to comfort. If you stay long enough and practice often enough, it will start to become less uncomfortable.

4. See failure as a teacher

Many of us are so afraid of failure that we would rather do nothing than take a shot at our dreams.

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Begin to treat failure as a teacher. What did you learn from the experience? How can you take that lesson to your next adventure to increase your chance of success?

Many highly successful people failed plenty of times before they succeeded. Here’re some examples:

10 Famous Failures to Success Stories That Will Inspire You to Carry On

5. Take baby steps

Don’t try to jump outside your comfort zone, you will likely become overwhelmed and jump right back in.

Take small steps toward the fear you are trying to overcome. If you want to do public speaking, start by taking every opportunity to speak to small groups of people. You can even practice with family and friends.

Take a look at this article on how you can start taking baby steps:

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The Number One Secret to Life Success: Baby Steps

6. Hang out with risk takers

There is no substitute for this step. If you want to become better at something, you must start hanging out with the people who are doing what you want to do and start emulating them. (Here’re 8 Reasons Why Risk Takers Are More Likely To Be Successful).

Almost inevitably, their influence will start have an effect on your behavior.

7. Be honest with yourself when you are trying to make excuses

Don’t say “Oh, I just don’t have the time for this right now.” Instead, be honest and say “I am afraid to do this.”

Don’t make excuses, just be honest. You will be in a better place to confront what is truly bothering you and increase your chance of moving forward.

8. Identify how stepping out will benefit you

What will the ability to engage in public speaking do for your personal and professional growth? Keep these potential benefits in mind as motivations to push through fear.

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9. Don’t take yourself too seriously

Learn to laugh at yourself when you make mistakes. Risk taking will inevitably involve failure and setbacks that will sometimes make you look foolish to others. Be happy to roll with the punches when others poke fun.

If you aren’t convinced yet, check out these 6 Reasons Not to Take Life So Seriously.

10. Focus on the fun

Enjoy the process of stepping outside your safe boundaries. Enjoy the fun of discovering things about yourself that you may not have been aware of previously.

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