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8 Things That Are So True For People With Phone Anxiety

8 Things That Are So True For People With Phone Anxiety

Your phone starts ringing and the first emotion you feel isn’t excitement at the thought of having a conversation with someone, but instead it’s dread. It’s not even that you don’t like the person calling you or that you’re not capable of having a perfectly normal phone conversation, but you just hate the thought of talking to anyone on the phone. Where this developed from, who knows because talking in person is no problem for you but having the same conversation on the phone – no thanks!

If this is you then you might be having phone anxiety and will probably identify with these key phone anxiety-induced actions.

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1. You Always Let The Call End

No matter who is calling you, you feel the panic start and your conscience kicks in. “Oh no, someone’s calling! Should I answer it? I should answer it. But I don’t want to answer it! I could be really busy. I’m not, but I could be! It’s too late now, I’ll just let it ring out…”

You now feel relief as the ringtone finally stops but that dread creeps back when you know you’ll probably have to ring them back at some point.

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2. You Always Wait A While To Call Back

If you know you need to call the person back and texting just won’t be enough, you always wait a while before calling back. You literally hate the thought of hitting that number, hearing it ring, waiting for the person to pick up and then having to speak on the phone. You will gladly wait an hour or so before returning the call but you do only because you know you have to.

3. You Always Use The Same Excuse For Missing The Call

You probably have that one excuse you use every time to explain the reason for your lack of picking up the phone. It’s usually something along the lines of “my phone was charging in the other room” or “I didn’t have my phone on me”. You know full well this is a lie and so do they since your phone is always surgically attached to your hand.

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4. You Always Put Your Ringtone On Silent

Putting your phone on silent isn’t always out of curtesy to those around you but to help you ignore further the fact that someone is calling you. Having your phone on silent not only allows you to pretend to yourself that you didn’t hear it (and therefore it didn’t happen) but it also stops the situation of everyone around you quite obviously noting to themselves that you’re choosing to ignore your call and outing you as a weird human being.

5. Your Missed Call List Is Longer Than Your Received

While most people will have a huge list of received calls from friends and family, if you have phone anxiety you’re more likely to have a much longer missed call list compared to your received calls. In fact, your received call list is non-existent. Missing calls so much adds up so you probably erase them every now and then to make yourself feel better.

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6. Your Friends Constantly Comment On Your Inability To Answer The Phone

Do your friends constantly moan at you about your lack of ability to answer their calls? You apologise and give your excuse but deep down you have this sense of guilt that you know you pretty much ignore every call on purpose. You don’t really care though, being reprimanded for your poor phone-picking-up abilities is much better than actually having the conversation on the phone in the first place!

7. Your Call ID Is Your Best Friend

You don’t know how you coped before caller ID. Screening the number is handy for you despite the fact that you’re not going to pick up anyway. Just knowing who you’re ignoring is important, not because you’re picking and choosing or don’t like the person calling you, but just knowing who you should be texting back later with excuse in hand.

8. You Will Always Choose Texting Over Calling

If you have phone anxiety then texting is your go-to mode of communication. You will always send a text rather than make that phone call because it’s much easier and much less awkward. Even when getting back to someone who’s call you missed, you’ll opt for that quick text to avoid actually speaking to them. Thank goodness for texting!

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Last Updated on December 10, 2019

5 Smart Reasons to Start Journal Writing Today

5 Smart Reasons to Start Journal Writing Today

Here’s the truth: your effectiveness at life is not what it could be. You’re missing out.

Each day passes by and you have nothing to prove that it even happened. Did you achieve something? Go on a date? Have an emotional breakthrough? Who knows?

But what you do know is that you don’t want to make the same mistakes that you’ve made in the past.

Our lives are full of hidden gems of knowledge and insight, and the most recent events in our lives contain the most useful gems of all. Do you know why? It’s simple, those hidden lessons are the most up to date, meaning they have the largest impact on what we’re doing right now.

But the question is, how do you get those lessons? There’s a simple way to do it, and it doesn’t involve time machines:

Journal writing.

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Improved mental clarity, the ability to see our lives in the big picture, as well as serving as a piece of evidence cataloguing every success we’ve ever had; we are provided all of the above and more by doing some journal writing.

Journal writing is a useful and flexible tool to help shed light on achieving your goals.

Here’s 5 smart reasons why you should do journal writing:

1. Journals Help You Have a Better Connection with Your Values, Emotions, and Goals

By journaling about what you believe in, why you believe it, how you feel, and what your goals are, you understand your relationships with these things better. This is because you must sort through the mental clutter and provide details on why you do what you do and feel what you feel.

Consider this:

Perhaps you’ve spent the last year or so working at a job you don’t like. It would be easy to just suck it up and keep working with your head down, going on as if it’s supposed to be normal to not like your job. Nobody else is complaining, so why should you, right?

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But a little journal writing will set things straight for you. You don’t like your job. You feel like it’s robbing you of happiness and satisfaction, and you don’t see yourself better there in the future.

The other workers? Maybe they don’t know, maybe they don’t care. But you do, you know and care enough to do something about it. And you’re capable of fixing this problem because your journal writing allows you to finally be honest with yourself about it.

2. Journals Improve Mental Clarity and Help Improve Your Focus

If there’s one thing journal writing is good for, it’s clearing the mental clutter.

How does it work? Simply, whenever you have a problem and write about it in a journal, you transfer the problem from your head to the paper. This empties the mind, allowing allocation of precious resources to problem-solving rather than problem-storing.

Let’s say you’ve been juggling several tasks at work. You’ve got data entry, testing, e-mails, problems with the boss, and so on—enough to overwhelm you—but as you start journal writing, things become clearer and easier to understand: Data entry can actually wait till Thursday; Bill kindly offered earlier to do my testing; For e-mails, I can check them now; the boss is just upset because Becky called in sick, etc.

You become better able to focus and reason your tasks out, and this is an indispensable and useful skill to have.

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3. Journals Improve Insight and Understanding

As a positive consequence of improving your mental clarity, you become more open to insights you may have missed before. As you write your notes out, you’re essentially having a dialogue with yourself. This draws out insights that you would have missed otherwise; it’s almost as if two people are working together to better understand each other. This kind of insight is only available to the person who has taken the time to connect with and understand themselves in the form of writing.

Once you’ve gotten a few entries written down, new insights can be gleaned from reading over them. What themes do you see in your life? Do you keep switching goals halfway through? Are you constantly dating the same type of people who aren’t good for you? Have you slowly but surely pushed people out of your life for fear of being hurt?

All of these questions can be answered by simply self-reflecting, but you can only discover the answers if you’ve captured them in writing. These questions are going to be tough to answer without a journal of your actions and experiences.

4. Journals Track Your Overall Development

Life happens, and it can happen fast. Sometimes we don’t take the time to stop and look around at what’s happening to us at each moment. We don’t get to see the step-by-step progress that we’re making in our own lives. So what happens? One day it’s the future, and you have no idea how you’ve gotten there.

Journal writing allows you to see how you’ve changed over time, so you can see where you did things right, and you can see where you took a misstep and fell.

The great thing about journals is that you’ll know what that misstep was, and you can make sure it doesn’t happen again—all because you made sure to log it, allowing yourself to learn from your mistakes.

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5. Journals Facilitate Personal Growth

The best thing about journal writing is that no matter what you end up writing about, it’s hard to not grow from it. You can’t just look at a past entry in which you acted shamefully and say “that was dumb, anyway!” No, we say “I will never make a dumb choice like that again!”

It’s impossible not to grow when it comes to journal writing. That’s what makes journal writing such a powerful tool, whether it’s about achieving goals, becoming a better person, or just general personal-development. No matter what you use it for, you’ll eventually see yourself growing as a person.

Kickstart Journaling

How can journaling best be of use to you? To vent your emotions? To help achieve your goals? To help clear your mind? What do you think makes journaling such a useful life skill?

Know the answer? Then it’s about time you reap the benefits of journal writing and start putting pen to paper.

Here’s what you can do to start journaling:

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