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8 Things That Are So True For People With Phone Anxiety

8 Things That Are So True For People With Phone Anxiety

Your phone starts ringing and the first emotion you feel isn’t excitement at the thought of having a conversation with someone, but instead it’s dread. It’s not even that you don’t like the person calling you or that you’re not capable of having a perfectly normal phone conversation, but you just hate the thought of talking to anyone on the phone. Where this developed from, who knows because talking in person is no problem for you but having the same conversation on the phone – no thanks!

If this is you then you might be having phone anxiety and will probably identify with these key phone anxiety-induced actions.

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1. You Always Let The Call End

No matter who is calling you, you feel the panic start and your conscience kicks in. “Oh no, someone’s calling! Should I answer it? I should answer it. But I don’t want to answer it! I could be really busy. I’m not, but I could be! It’s too late now, I’ll just let it ring out…”

You now feel relief as the ringtone finally stops but that dread creeps back when you know you’ll probably have to ring them back at some point.

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2. You Always Wait A While To Call Back

If you know you need to call the person back and texting just won’t be enough, you always wait a while before calling back. You literally hate the thought of hitting that number, hearing it ring, waiting for the person to pick up and then having to speak on the phone. You will gladly wait an hour or so before returning the call but you do only because you know you have to.

3. You Always Use The Same Excuse For Missing The Call

You probably have that one excuse you use every time to explain the reason for your lack of picking up the phone. It’s usually something along the lines of “my phone was charging in the other room” or “I didn’t have my phone on me”. You know full well this is a lie and so do they since your phone is always surgically attached to your hand.

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4. You Always Put Your Ringtone On Silent

Putting your phone on silent isn’t always out of curtesy to those around you but to help you ignore further the fact that someone is calling you. Having your phone on silent not only allows you to pretend to yourself that you didn’t hear it (and therefore it didn’t happen) but it also stops the situation of everyone around you quite obviously noting to themselves that you’re choosing to ignore your call and outing you as a weird human being.

5. Your Missed Call List Is Longer Than Your Received

While most people will have a huge list of received calls from friends and family, if you have phone anxiety you’re more likely to have a much longer missed call list compared to your received calls. In fact, your received call list is non-existent. Missing calls so much adds up so you probably erase them every now and then to make yourself feel better.

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6. Your Friends Constantly Comment On Your Inability To Answer The Phone

Do your friends constantly moan at you about your lack of ability to answer their calls? You apologise and give your excuse but deep down you have this sense of guilt that you know you pretty much ignore every call on purpose. You don’t really care though, being reprimanded for your poor phone-picking-up abilities is much better than actually having the conversation on the phone in the first place!

7. Your Call ID Is Your Best Friend

You don’t know how you coped before caller ID. Screening the number is handy for you despite the fact that you’re not going to pick up anyway. Just knowing who you’re ignoring is important, not because you’re picking and choosing or don’t like the person calling you, but just knowing who you should be texting back later with excuse in hand.

8. You Will Always Choose Texting Over Calling

If you have phone anxiety then texting is your go-to mode of communication. You will always send a text rather than make that phone call because it’s much easier and much less awkward. Even when getting back to someone who’s call you missed, you’ll opt for that quick text to avoid actually speaking to them. Thank goodness for texting!

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Last Updated on October 16, 2019

5 Powerful Ways for Building Fulfilling Relationships

5 Powerful Ways for Building Fulfilling Relationships

We all have relationships. We have acquaintances, relatives, colleagues, neighbors and friends. However, for a large percentage of us, many of these relationships are not fulfilling.

They are unfulfilling because they lack real strength; and they lack real strength because they lack real depth.

Unfortunately, in today’s society, we tend to have shallow, superficial relationships with others, and it’s extremely hard for this kind of relationships to provide anything more than faint satisfaction.

I’d like to show you, based on my experience as a communication and confidence coach, how you can add a significant amount of depth, and thus strength, to your relationships and make your social life a whole lot more meaningful.

Here’re 5 simple yet powerful ways for meaningful relationships building:

1. Meet More People

This is an apparent paradox, but the quality of the people you meet has considerably to do with the quantity of people you meet.

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If you don’t know a lot of people and you barely meet one or two new people every season of the year, considering the variety of individuals out there, you won’t meet very often people who are a good match with you in terms of personality, interests and values.

And since this natural match plays a huge part in building strong relationships, you’ll just as seldom have the opportunity to develop strong relationships.

Conversely, if you go out a lot, you meet a lot of new people and you constantly expand your social circle, you’re much more likely to meet people you match up well with, and these people have a tremendous potential to become good friends, reliable partners, etc.

This is why it’s important to meet more people.

2. Talk about the Things That Matter To You

A relationship becomes the strongest when two people discover they believe in the same things and have similar interests. It’s these commonalities regarding values and interests that create the strongest emotional connection.

I’ve noticed that many people keep conversations shallow. They talk about trivial stuff such as the weather, what’s on TV, the lives of various movie stars, but they rarely talk about what really matters to them in life. This is a mistake from my perspective, because it’s the perfect method for a relationship to not develop.

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Talk about the things that truly matter to you and give others a chance to know what you care about and what you believe in. If they believe in the same things and they care about the same things, they’ll eagerly let you know. Thus you’ll find meaningful common ground and you’ll feel more connected.

3. Express Vulnerability

Many people try to come off as perfect. They don’t talk about their failures, they hide their shortcomings and they never say anything that could embarrass them.

This is all just a facade though. You may appear perfect to some, but you know you’re not perfect and they know that too. You’re only human and humans have flaws.

However, by hiding your flaws, what you do succeed in is appearing cold and impersonal. You seem like a marble statue rather than a real person. And this makes it very hard for anyone to connect with you emotionally.

Humans connect with other humans, not with ideals. Keep this in mind and don’t be afraid to let your vulnerability and your humanity show. This is what takes a relationship to the next level.

Take a look at this article and find out Why Showing Vulnerability Actually Proves Your Strength.

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4. Have Integrity

Integrity, as I see it, is the alignment between your thoughts, your words and your actions. When you say what you think and you do what you said you’ll do, you have integrity.

This is a crucial trait because if you have integrity, people can trust you. They can trust you to give them an honest feedback, even when it’s hard to shallow, and they can trust you to keep your promises.

This trust is one of the central pillars of a strong relationship, both in your personal and your professional life. So, as challenging as it can be sometimes, always try to have integrity.

Be honest with the people around you, even when this will initially hurt them. It’s more important for them to trust you than to not feel hurt. And always do what you promised. Even better, think twice before you promise anything, and only promise what you really can and you are willing to do.

5. Be There for Others

Another central pillar of strong relationships is support. Connections between people grow sturdy if they can rely on each other for support when it’s needed, whether that support means a few kind words or several massive actions.

Of course, you can’t be there for everybody, all the time. Your time, energy and other resources are limited. But what you can do is identify the genuinely important people in your life and then seek to be there as much as possible, at least for them.

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Your support will help them practically, and it will comfort them emotionally; which makes one hell of a difference in a relationship.

The Bottom Line

With the right mindset and the right behavior, you can strengthen a wide range of relationships in your life and advance them as far as they can be advanced.

And with strong relationships, not only that you feel more fulfilled, but you feel more connected to the entire world. You feel that your life has real value, you have more fun and you live in the moment. An entire world of opportunities opens up in front of you.

Then your task is to simply walk through the open doors.

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