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If You Like To Work Out, You Might Get That From Your Mom

If You Like To Work Out, You Might Get That From Your Mom

How close are you and your mother? Do you ever find yourself saying the same things, dressing the same way – or perhaps even acting the same way? This could have a perfectly rational explanation, so don’t worry!

If you have certain character traits, such as working out, studies are showing that this could be genetically linked to our mothers. The research has shown a number of things that connect our behaviours to our mothers – particularly things that were conducted during pregnancy, and which have had a lasting effect on us after we are born. So if you like to work out, if you enjoy running sessions, heading to the gym, or simply dancing vigorously, look no further as to where that comes from – the reason might have been right there in front of you all along!

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You Might Get It From Your Mom

The Federation of American Societies for Experimental Biology experimented with mice and weight loss to determine results in pregnant mothers who did and did not exercise. And while they did not see any change or effect for weight loss in the offspring of mice whose mothers did not run, the mothers who did run while pregnant saw a loss of fat in their babies after birth. In other words, science is linking the state of the mother during pregnancy to the state of the child after birth. If the mother exercised during pregnancy the child is said to experience weight loss, similar to if the mother had less fat or ate less fat during the pregnancy, the child would be more inclined to lose weight or have the tendency to eat less fat. So next time you think about exercise (or happily head to the gym) thank your mothers and the yards of effort they put in during your development!

In other words, science is linking the state of the mother during pregnancy to the state of the child after birth. If the mother exercised during pregnancy the child is said to experience weight loss, similar to if the mother had less fat or ate less fat during the pregnancy, the child would be more inclined to lose weight or have the tendency to eat less fat. So next time you think about exercise (or happily head to the gym) thank your mothers and the yards of effort they put in during your development!

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Similar Exercise Habits

The same goes for exercise. If your mother exercised during pregnancy, the FASEB state that the child is more likely to develop these habits also. So if you enjoy working out, it could be because your mother was working out while pregnant with you!

Researchers say that there are direct results linked to fat loss within children whose mothers were running during the pregnancy. Although mice are a far cry from humans, it is possible that these attributes are similarly being passed on to our children. Children whose parents are active and move around them and with them a lot are more likely to develop similar patterns, just as children whose parents are inactive and lack motivation are likely to have similar attitudes and thoughts toward exercise. Developmental Programming is the theory that a baby’s body and DNA are influenced by the experiences it has while being in the womb, and also after being born. The idea is that these influences and prenatal experiences have long-lasting effect after the birth, and not just int terms of exercise. The theory states that this also can be true of weaker organs or effected immune systems,

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The idea is that these influences and prenatal experiences have long-lasting effect after the birth, and not just int terms of exercise. The theory states that this also can be true of weaker organs or affected immune systems, though breastfeeding is also said to improve a baby’s immune system.

The Positives

The studies show how this can potentially assist in the global fight against obesity. Over 600 million people were documented as being obese in 2014, with enormous levels of inactivity and poor diets in western culture. If we can associate positive exercise and diet habits with genetics, we can have awareness about healthier lifestyles for our children and their development. If our dietary habits while pregnant are resulting in higher likeliness of obesity with our children, we can take efforts to care for our bodies for both our children’s sake and for our own.

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Last Updated on July 10, 2020

How to Take Control of Your Life with Better Boundaries

How to Take Control of Your Life with Better Boundaries

We all have them—those hurtful, frustrating, offensive, manipulative people in our lives. No matter how hard we try to surround ourselves with positive and kind people, there will always be those who will disrespect, insult, berate, and misuse you if we allow them to.

We may, for a variety of reasons, not be able to avoid them, but we can determine how we interact with them and how we allow them to interact with us.

So, how to take control of your life and stop being pushed around?

Learning to set clear firm boundaries with the people in our lives at work and in our personal lives is the best way to protect ourselves from the negative effects of this kind of behavior.

What Boundaries Are (And What They’re Not)

Boundaries are limits

—they are not threats or ultimatums. Boundaries inform or teach. They are not a form of punishment.

Boundaries are firm lines—determined by you—which cannot be crossed by those around you. They are guidelines for how you will allow others to treat you and what kind of behaviors you will expect.

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Healthy personal boundaries help protect you from physical or emotional pain. You may also need to set firm boundaries at work to ensure you and your time are not disrespected. Don’t allow others to take advantage of your kindness and generosity.

Clear boundaries communicate to others that you demand respect and consideration—that you are willing to stand up for yourself and that you will not be a doormat for anyone. They are a “no trespassing” sign that makes it very clear when a line has been crossed and that there will be consequences for doing so.

Boundaries are not set with the intention of changing other people. They may change how people interact with you, but they are more about enforcing your needs than attempting to change the general behavior and attitude of others.

How to Establish Boundaries and Take Control of Your Life

Here are some ways that you can establish boundaries and take control of your life.

1. Self-Awareness Comes First

Before you can establish boundaries with others, you first need to understand what your needs are.

You are entitled to respect. You have the right to protect yourself from inappropriate or offensive behavior. Setting boundaries is a way of honoring your needs.

To set appropriate boundaries, you need to be clear about what healthy behaviors look like—what healthy relationships look like.

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You first have to become more aware of your feelings and honest with yourself about your expectations and what you feel is appropriate behavior:

  • Where do you need to establish better boundaries?
  • When do you feel disrespected?
  • When do you feel violated, frustrated, or angered by the behavior of others?
  • In what situations do you feel you are being mistreated or taken advantage of?
  • When do you want to be alone?
  • How much space do you need?

You need to honor your own needs and boundaries before you can expect others to honor them. This allows you to take control of your life.

2. Clear Communication Is Essential

Inform others clearly and directly what your expectations are. It is essential to have clear communication if you want others to respect your boundaries. Explain in an honest and respectful tone what you find offensive or unacceptable.

Many people simply aren’t aware that they are behaving inappropriately. They may never have been taught proper manners or consideration for others.

3. Be Specific but Don’t Blame

Taking a blaming or punishing attitude automatically puts people on the defensive. People will not listen when they feel attacked. It’s part of human nature.

That said, you do not need to overexplain or defend yourself. Boundaries are not open to compromise.

Sample language:

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  • “You may not…yell or raise your voice to me…”
  • “I need…to be treated with respect…”
  • “It’s not okay when…you take things from my desk without asking…”
  • “I won’t…do your work…cover for you anymore…”
  • “It’s not acceptable when…you ridicule or insult me…”
  • “I am uncomfortable when…you use offensive language”
  • “I will no longer be able to…lend you money…”

Being able to communicate these without sounding accusatory is essential if you want others to respect your boundaries so you can take control of your life.

4. Consequences Are Often Necessary

Determine what the appropriate consequences will be when boundaries are crossed. If it’s appropriate, be clear about those consequences upfront when communicating those boundaries to others.

Follow through. People won’t respect your boundaries if you don’t enforce them.

Standing our ground and forcing consequences doesn’t come easily to us. We want to be nice. We want people to like us, but we shouldn’t have to trade our self-respect to gain friends or to achieve success.

We may be tempted to let minor disrespect slide to avoid conflict, but as the familiar saying goes, “if you give people an inch, they’ll take a mile.”

It’s much easier to address offensive or inappropriate behavior now than to wait until that behavior has gotten completely out of hand.

It’s also important to remember that positive reinforcement is even more powerful than negative consequences. When people do alter the way they treat you, acknowledge it. Let people know that you notice and appreciate their efforts.

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Final Thoughts

Respect is always a valid reason for setting a boundary. Don’t defend yourself or your needs. Boundaries are often necessary to protect your time, your space, and your feelings. And these are essential if you want to take control of your life.

Start with the easiest boundaries first. Setting boundaries is a skill that needs to be practiced. Enlist support from others if necessary. Inform people immediately when they have crossed the line.

Don’t wait. Communicate politely and directly. Be clear about the consequences and follow them through.

The better you become at setting your own boundaries, the better you become at recognizing and respecting the boundaries of others.

Remember that establishing boundaries is your right. You are entitled to respect. You can’t control how other people behave, but you do have control over the way you allow people to treat you.

Learning to set boundaries is not always easy, but with time, it will become more comfortable. You may eventually find that boundaries become automatic and you no longer need to consciously set them.

They will simply become a natural extension of your self-respect.

Featured photo credit: Thomas Kelley via unsplash.com

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