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7 Things You’ll Only Understand If You Have A Much Older Sibling

7 Things You’ll Only Understand If You Have A Much Older Sibling

Many of us have older siblings, and we can probably come up with more reasons to hate them than love them. From being forced to wear their hand-me-downs at school to accepting their authority just because they’re a few years older than us, our siblings can often be a source of annoyance. But, despite that, our siblings are also our greatest sources of strength and are always there for us, whenever we need them. And having an elder sibling has its fair share of perks. Here are just a few!

1. You know songs that don’t belong to your generation at all.

When your classmates are busy fan-girling over Justin Bieber’s latest album or arguing who is the hottest Jonas Brother, you are more likely to be listening to some amazing retro love songs, and what most would argue was ‘real’ music—be it Bon Jovi or Guns n Roses. Or perhaps when your friends talk about how amazing Green Day’s new music is, you reminisce about their pre-American Idiot and Dookie days and think how awesome those old rock anthems still are.

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2. You have a tutor pretty much all the time.

You were able to cut down on tuition expenses, because your big brother was always there to help you with algebra homework or your science projects. From making presentations to lessons in history, studies were always a tad easier for you, because your elder sibling was always there to correct your mistakes and explain the tough stuff.

3. You can talk to people much older than you smoothly.

I bet you didn’t realize fighting with your elder sister 24×7 would give you a crash course in developing your interpersonal relationship skills. You not only got to know how older people think and act, but also knew the best ways to charm them in case you need something.

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4. It was like always having another parent.

It’s literally like having a third parent without the whole ‘generation gap’ issue thrown in. From looking out for you, teaching important life lessons and even scolding you when you were in the wrong, you always have a real flesh-and-blood and sometimes exasperated guardian angel to take care of you and have half-decent conversations with, most of the time.

5. You’re always previewing your far future by referring to him/her.

Because they’re so intrinsic to your life, you can’t ever imagine a future without them. You always think of your life in relation to theirs. No matter what your aspirations or goals are, your life 20 years down the line is bound to include them.

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6. You get really useful dating advice for free.

You don’t make those same mistakes in love, because they’ve already done it. You’ve seen them flounder with their first high school romance, helped them dress up for prom night, cheered with them after their first date, comforted them after their first break-up and now you pretty much know enough about dating to become a relationship counselor. Plus, you tend to be a pretty good judge of people just from watching your older sibling’s relationships. And when you make your own mistakes, you have someone who has been there and can give you great comfort. Plus when it was your turn for love, there was no way you could keep it a secret from them.

7. You ALWAYS had a role model to look up to.

Your older sibling was always your greatest inspiration. At times, their reputation would precede you at school and sometimes you’d be sick of being compared to them, but deep in your heart, they were your perfect role models and you aspired to be like them.

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Having an older sibling may initially come off as a mixed blessing but in the long run, you will wonder how you could have ever managed if they weren’t by your side. Because being the baby always has its fair share of benefits.

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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