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7 Things You’ll Only Understand If You Have A Much Older Sibling

7 Things You’ll Only Understand If You Have A Much Older Sibling

Many of us have older siblings, and we can probably come up with more reasons to hate them than love them. From being forced to wear their hand-me-downs at school to accepting their authority just because they’re a few years older than us, our siblings can often be a source of annoyance. But, despite that, our siblings are also our greatest sources of strength and are always there for us, whenever we need them. And having an elder sibling has its fair share of perks. Here are just a few!

1. You know songs that don’t belong to your generation at all.

When your classmates are busy fan-girling over Justin Bieber’s latest album or arguing who is the hottest Jonas Brother, you are more likely to be listening to some amazing retro love songs, and what most would argue was ‘real’ music—be it Bon Jovi or Guns n Roses. Or perhaps when your friends talk about how amazing Green Day’s new music is, you reminisce about their pre-American Idiot and Dookie days and think how awesome those old rock anthems still are.

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2. You have a tutor pretty much all the time.

You were able to cut down on tuition expenses, because your big brother was always there to help you with algebra homework or your science projects. From making presentations to lessons in history, studies were always a tad easier for you, because your elder sibling was always there to correct your mistakes and explain the tough stuff.

3. You can talk to people much older than you smoothly.

I bet you didn’t realize fighting with your elder sister 24×7 would give you a crash course in developing your interpersonal relationship skills. You not only got to know how older people think and act, but also knew the best ways to charm them in case you need something.

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4. It was like always having another parent.

It’s literally like having a third parent without the whole ‘generation gap’ issue thrown in. From looking out for you, teaching important life lessons and even scolding you when you were in the wrong, you always have a real flesh-and-blood and sometimes exasperated guardian angel to take care of you and have half-decent conversations with, most of the time.

5. You’re always previewing your far future by referring to him/her.

Because they’re so intrinsic to your life, you can’t ever imagine a future without them. You always think of your life in relation to theirs. No matter what your aspirations or goals are, your life 20 years down the line is bound to include them.

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6. You get really useful dating advice for free.

You don’t make those same mistakes in love, because they’ve already done it. You’ve seen them flounder with their first high school romance, helped them dress up for prom night, cheered with them after their first date, comforted them after their first break-up and now you pretty much know enough about dating to become a relationship counselor. Plus, you tend to be a pretty good judge of people just from watching your older sibling’s relationships. And when you make your own mistakes, you have someone who has been there and can give you great comfort. Plus when it was your turn for love, there was no way you could keep it a secret from them.

7. You ALWAYS had a role model to look up to.

Your older sibling was always your greatest inspiration. At times, their reputation would precede you at school and sometimes you’d be sick of being compared to them, but deep in your heart, they were your perfect role models and you aspired to be like them.

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Having an older sibling may initially come off as a mixed blessing but in the long run, you will wonder how you could have ever managed if they weren’t by your side. Because being the baby always has its fair share of benefits.

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Last Updated on August 16, 2018

10 Ways To Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone And Enjoy Taking Risks

10 Ways To Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone And Enjoy Taking Risks

The ability to take risks by stepping outside your comfort zone is the primary way by which we grow. But we are often afraid to take that first step.

In truth, comfort zones are not really about comfort, they are about fear. Break the chains of fear to get outside. Once you do, you will learn to enjoy the process of taking risks and growing in the process.

Here are 10 ways to help you step out of your comfort zone and get closer to success:

1. Become aware of what’s outside of your comfort zone

What are the things that you believe are worth doing but are afraid of doing yourself because of the potential for disappointment or failure?

Draw a circle and write those things down outside the circle. This process will not only allow you to clearly identify your discomforts, but your comforts. Write identified comforts inside the circle.

2. Become clear about what you are aiming to overcome

Take the list of discomforts and go deeper. Remember, the primary emotion you are trying to overcome is fear.

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How does this fear apply uniquely to each situation? Be very specific.

Are you afraid of walking up to people and introducing yourself in social situations? Why? Is it because you are insecure about the sound of your voice? Are you insecure about your looks?

Or, are you afraid of being ignored?

3. Get comfortable with discomfort

One way to get outside of your comfort zone is to literally expand it. Make it a goal to avoid running away from discomfort.

Let’s stay with the theme of meeting people in social settings. If you start feeling a little panicked when talking to someone you’ve just met, try to stay with it a little longer than you normally would before retreating to comfort. If you stay long enough and practice often enough, it will start to become less uncomfortable.

4. See failure as a teacher

Many of us are so afraid of failure that we would rather do nothing than take a shot at our dreams.

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Begin to treat failure as a teacher. What did you learn from the experience? How can you take that lesson to your next adventure to increase your chance of success?

Many highly successful people failed plenty of times before they succeeded. Here’re some examples:

10 Famous Failures to Success Stories That Will Inspire You to Carry On

5. Take baby steps

Don’t try to jump outside your comfort zone, you will likely become overwhelmed and jump right back in.

Take small steps toward the fear you are trying to overcome. If you want to do public speaking, start by taking every opportunity to speak to small groups of people. You can even practice with family and friends.

Take a look at this article on how you can start taking baby steps:

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The Number One Secret to Life Success: Baby Steps

6. Hang out with risk takers

There is no substitute for this step. If you want to become better at something, you must start hanging out with the people who are doing what you want to do and start emulating them. (Here’re 8 Reasons Why Risk Takers Are More Likely To Be Successful).

Almost inevitably, their influence will start have an effect on your behavior.

7. Be honest with yourself when you are trying to make excuses

Don’t say “Oh, I just don’t have the time for this right now.” Instead, be honest and say “I am afraid to do this.”

Don’t make excuses, just be honest. You will be in a better place to confront what is truly bothering you and increase your chance of moving forward.

8. Identify how stepping out will benefit you

What will the ability to engage in public speaking do for your personal and professional growth? Keep these potential benefits in mind as motivations to push through fear.

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9. Don’t take yourself too seriously

Learn to laugh at yourself when you make mistakes. Risk taking will inevitably involve failure and setbacks that will sometimes make you look foolish to others. Be happy to roll with the punches when others poke fun.

If you aren’t convinced yet, check out these 6 Reasons Not to Take Life So Seriously.

10. Focus on the fun

Enjoy the process of stepping outside your safe boundaries. Enjoy the fun of discovering things about yourself that you may not have been aware of previously.

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