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7 Things You’ll Only Understand If You Have A Much Older Sibling

7 Things You’ll Only Understand If You Have A Much Older Sibling

Many of us have older siblings, and we can probably come up with more reasons to hate them than love them. From being forced to wear their hand-me-downs at school to accepting their authority just because they’re a few years older than us, our siblings can often be a source of annoyance. But, despite that, our siblings are also our greatest sources of strength and are always there for us, whenever we need them. And having an elder sibling has its fair share of perks. Here are just a few!

1. You know songs that don’t belong to your generation at all.

When your classmates are busy fan-girling over Justin Bieber’s latest album or arguing who is the hottest Jonas Brother, you are more likely to be listening to some amazing retro love songs, and what most would argue was ‘real’ music—be it Bon Jovi or Guns n Roses. Or perhaps when your friends talk about how amazing Green Day’s new music is, you reminisce about their pre-American Idiot and Dookie days and think how awesome those old rock anthems still are.

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2. You have a tutor pretty much all the time.

You were able to cut down on tuition expenses, because your big brother was always there to help you with algebra homework or your science projects. From making presentations to lessons in history, studies were always a tad easier for you, because your elder sibling was always there to correct your mistakes and explain the tough stuff.

3. You can talk to people much older than you smoothly.

I bet you didn’t realize fighting with your elder sister 24×7 would give you a crash course in developing your interpersonal relationship skills. You not only got to know how older people think and act, but also knew the best ways to charm them in case you need something.

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4. It was like always having another parent.

It’s literally like having a third parent without the whole ‘generation gap’ issue thrown in. From looking out for you, teaching important life lessons and even scolding you when you were in the wrong, you always have a real flesh-and-blood and sometimes exasperated guardian angel to take care of you and have half-decent conversations with, most of the time.

5. You’re always previewing your far future by referring to him/her.

Because they’re so intrinsic to your life, you can’t ever imagine a future without them. You always think of your life in relation to theirs. No matter what your aspirations or goals are, your life 20 years down the line is bound to include them.

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6. You get really useful dating advice for free.

You don’t make those same mistakes in love, because they’ve already done it. You’ve seen them flounder with their first high school romance, helped them dress up for prom night, cheered with them after their first date, comforted them after their first break-up and now you pretty much know enough about dating to become a relationship counselor. Plus, you tend to be a pretty good judge of people just from watching your older sibling’s relationships. And when you make your own mistakes, you have someone who has been there and can give you great comfort. Plus when it was your turn for love, there was no way you could keep it a secret from them.

7. You ALWAYS had a role model to look up to.

Your older sibling was always your greatest inspiration. At times, their reputation would precede you at school and sometimes you’d be sick of being compared to them, but deep in your heart, they were your perfect role models and you aspired to be like them.

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Having an older sibling may initially come off as a mixed blessing but in the long run, you will wonder how you could have ever managed if they weren’t by your side. Because being the baby always has its fair share of benefits.

Featured photo credit: Fede Racchi via imcreator.com

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Last Updated on February 13, 2019

10 Things Happy People Do Differently

10 Things Happy People Do Differently

Think being happy is something that happens as a result of luck, circumstance, having money, etc.? Think again.

Happiness is a mindset. And if you’re looking to improve your ability to find happiness, then check out these 10 things happy people do differently.

Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions. -Dalai Lama

1. Happy people find balance in their lives.

Folks who are happy have this in common: they’re content with what they have, and don’t waste a whole lot of time worrying and stressing over things they don’t. Unhappy people do the opposite: they spend too much time thinking about what they don’t have. Happy people lead balanced lives. This means they make time for all the things that are important to them, whether it’s family, friends, career, health, religion, etc.

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2. Happy people abide by the golden rule.

You know that saying you heard when you were a kid, “Do unto others as you would have them do to you.” Well, happy people truly embody this principle. They treat others with respect. They’re sensitive to the thoughts and feelings of other people. They’re compassionate. And they get treated this way (most of the time) in return.

3. Happy people don’t sweat the small stuff.

One of the biggest things happy people do differently compared to unhappy people is they let stuff go. Bad things happen to good people sometimes. Happy people realize this, are able to take things in stride, and move on. Unhappy people tend to dwell on minor inconveniences and issues, which can perpetuate feelings of sadness, guilt, resentment, greed, and anger.

4. Happy people take responsibility for their actions.

Happy people aren’t perfect, and they’re well aware of that. When they screw up, they admit it. They recognize their faults and work to improve on them. Unhappy people tend to blame others and always find an excuse why things aren’t going their way. Happy people, on the other hand, live by the mantra:

“There are two types of people in the world: those that do and those that make excuses why they don’t.”

5. Happy people surround themselves with other happy people.

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    One defining characteristic of happy people is they tend to hang out with other happy people. Misery loves company, and unhappy people gravitate toward others who share their negative sentiments. If you’re struggling with a bout of sadness, depression, worry, or anger, spend more time with your happiest friends or family members. Chances are, you’ll find that their positive attitude rubs off on you.

    6. Happy people are honest with themselves and others.

    People who are happy often exhibit the virtues of honesty and trustworthiness. They would rather give you candid feedback, even when the truth hurts, and they expect the same in return. Happy people respect people who give them an honest opinion.

    7. Happy people show signs of happiness.

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      This one may sound obvious but it’s a key differentiator between happy and unhappy people. Think about your happiest friends. Chances are, the mental image you form is of them smiling, laughing, and appearing genuinely happy. On the flip side, those who aren’t happy tend to look the part. Their posture may be slouched and you may perceive a lack of confidence.

      8. Happy people are passionate.

      Another thing happy people have in common is their ability to find their passions in life and pursue those passions to the fullest. Happy people have found what they’re looking for, and they spend their time doing what they love.

      9. Happy people see challenges as opportunities.

      Folks who are happy accept challenges and use them as opportunities to learn and grow. They turn negatives into positives and make the best out of seemingly bad situations. They don’t dwell on things that are out of their control; rather, they seek solutions and creative ways of overcoming obstacles.

      10. Happy people live in the present.

      While unhappy people tend to dwell on the past and worry about the future, happy people live in the moment. They are grateful for “the now” and focus their efforts on living life to the fullest in the present. Their philosophy is:

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      There’s a reason it’s called “the present.” Because life is a gift.

      So if you’d like to bring a little more happiness into your life, think about the 10 principles above and how you can use them to make yourself better.

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