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Why People Who Have Much Younger Siblings Are Amazing Friends

Why People Who Have Much Younger Siblings Are Amazing Friends

Do you have younger siblings? Do you remember growing up having to put aside what you wanted to do because you needed to help your parents out? Sure, as a child that may have been frustrating, but as an adult you must have found that having younger siblings taught you valuable lessons from an early start.

Often, those who have younger siblings assume a parental role early on in life. Younger siblings view older siblings as an authority figure in just about everything. Personally, being an older sister has afforded me many valuable life lessons from an early age, and have benefited me into my adult years.

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Here are a few common characteristics of people who have much younger siblings:

They Take Pride In Taking Care Of Others

Having a younger sibling affords the older sibling a duty to take care of others from an early beginning. This transpires into their adult lives. Friends who have younger siblings naturally come to the rescue when someone they know needs help. It has become their second nature, and they take pride in their ability to take this initiative.

They Are More Mature Than Their Peers

I know this first hand. I have two younger siblings, and I can recall memories from my childhood where my friends would call me “boring” or “not fun” because I would often become critical of immature behaviour. Being an older sister required me to put aside childlike tendencies, and assume a more mature role. This trait has continued to resonate in my adult life, although I feel my peers are finally catching up at this point!

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People with younger siblings are molded into a role that requests that they lead by example and demonstrate responsible decision making.

They Are More Responsible

When you have a younger sibling or two, maybe even three, your parents have probably asked you to take on more responsibility when you were younger. Whether it would be caring for your younger siblings by watching them, playing with them, or teaching them, you were trained at an early age to assume the leading role. Often, people with younger siblings are more responsible in their adult lives, because they were ingrained with this sense of duty.

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They’re Natural Leaders

People who have younger siblings have natural tendencies to act like parents. They tend to look out for others, offer guidance, and generally lead. Because of these traits, those with younger siblings tend to be that friend that can act a little maternal at times.

They Have Keen Self-Awareness

Often when you assume the role of a caregiver at an early age, it requires that you have keen awareness. Meaning, you have awareness of others that you serve, but you’re also mindful and completely aware of what you need as well. Because of this keen self-awareness, those who have younger siblings can be the type of people you’ll often want to call upon when life gets tough.

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They Are Considerate

Being an older sibling requires that you be considerate of others and this starts at a very early age. It isn’t always about you, and those with younger siblings know this first hand. When it comes to friendships, those who have had to put others in front of themselves make great friends, since they learned to be considerate and compassionate from a young age.

Conclusion

If you have younger siblings, or have a friend that has younger siblings, you will likely notice them having the traits listed above. These traits are what help an individual become more reliable and a better lifelong friend. You will definitely want to keep someone like this around!

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5 Smart Reasons to Start Journal Writing Today

5 Smart Reasons to Start Journal Writing Today

Here’s the truth: your effectiveness at life is not what it could be. You’re missing out.

Each day passes by and you have nothing to prove that it even happened. Did you achieve something? Go on a date? Have an emotional breakthrough? Who knows?

But what you do know is that you don’t want to make the same mistakes that you’ve made in the past.

Our lives are full of hidden gems of knowledge and insight, and the most recent events in our lives contain the most useful gems of all. Do you know why? It’s simple, those hidden lessons are the most up to date, meaning they have the largest impact on what we’re doing right now.

But the question is, how do you get those lessons? There’s a simple way to do it, and it doesn’t involve time machines:

Journal writing.

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Improved mental clarity, the ability to see our lives in the big picture, as well as serving as a piece of evidence cataloguing every success we’ve ever had; we are provided all of the above and more by doing some journal writing.

Journal writing is a useful and flexible tool to help shed light on achieving your goals.

Here’s 5 smart reasons why you should do journal writing:

1. Journals Help You Have a Better Connection with Your Values, Emotions, and Goals

By journaling about what you believe in, why you believe it, how you feel, and what your goals are, you understand your relationships with these things better. This is because you must sort through the mental clutter and provide details on why you do what you do and feel what you feel.

Consider this:

Perhaps you’ve spent the last year or so working at a job you don’t like. It would be easy to just suck it up and keep working with your head down, going on as if it’s supposed to be normal to not like your job. Nobody else is complaining, so why should you, right?

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But a little journal writing will set things straight for you. You don’t like your job. You feel like it’s robbing you of happiness and satisfaction, and you don’t see yourself better there in the future.

The other workers? Maybe they don’t know, maybe they don’t care. But you do, you know and care enough to do something about it. And you’re capable of fixing this problem because your journal writing allows you to finally be honest with yourself about it.

2. Journals Improve Mental Clarity and Help Improve Your Focus

If there’s one thing journal writing is good for, it’s clearing the mental clutter.

How does it work? Simply, whenever you have a problem and write about it in a journal, you transfer the problem from your head to the paper. This empties the mind, allowing allocation of precious resources to problem-solving rather than problem-storing.

Let’s say you’ve been juggling several tasks at work. You’ve got data entry, testing, e-mails, problems with the boss, and so on—enough to overwhelm you—but as you start journal writing, things become clearer and easier to understand: Data entry can actually wait till Thursday; Bill kindly offered earlier to do my testing; For e-mails, I can check them now; the boss is just upset because Becky called in sick, etc.

You become better able to focus and reason your tasks out, and this is an indispensable and useful skill to have.

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3. Journals Improve Insight and Understanding

As a positive consequence of improving your mental clarity, you become more open to insights you may have missed before. As you write your notes out, you’re essentially having a dialogue with yourself. This draws out insights that you would have missed otherwise; it’s almost as if two people are working together to better understand each other. This kind of insight is only available to the person who has taken the time to connect with and understand themselves in the form of writing.

Once you’ve gotten a few entries written down, new insights can be gleaned from reading over them. What themes do you see in your life? Do you keep switching goals halfway through? Are you constantly dating the same type of people who aren’t good for you? Have you slowly but surely pushed people out of your life for fear of being hurt?

All of these questions can be answered by simply self-reflecting, but you can only discover the answers if you’ve captured them in writing. These questions are going to be tough to answer without a journal of your actions and experiences.

4. Journals Track Your Overall Development

Life happens, and it can happen fast. Sometimes we don’t take the time to stop and look around at what’s happening to us at each moment. We don’t get to see the step-by-step progress that we’re making in our own lives. So what happens? One day it’s the future, and you have no idea how you’ve gotten there.

Journal writing allows you to see how you’ve changed over time, so you can see where you did things right, and you can see where you took a misstep and fell.

The great thing about journals is that you’ll know what that misstep was, and you can make sure it doesn’t happen again—all because you made sure to log it, allowing yourself to learn from your mistakes.

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5. Journals Facilitate Personal Growth

The best thing about journal writing is that no matter what you end up writing about, it’s hard to not grow from it. You can’t just look at a past entry in which you acted shamefully and say “that was dumb, anyway!” No, we say “I will never make a dumb choice like that again!”

It’s impossible not to grow when it comes to journal writing. That’s what makes journal writing such a powerful tool, whether it’s about achieving goals, becoming a better person, or just general personal-development. No matter what you use it for, you’ll eventually see yourself growing as a person.

Kickstart Journaling

How can journaling best be of use to you? To vent your emotions? To help achieve your goals? To help clear your mind? What do you think makes journaling such a useful life skill?

Know the answer? Then it’s about time you reap the benefits of journal writing and start putting pen to paper.

Here’s what you can do to start journaling:

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