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6 Fashion Hacks For Introverts

6 Fashion Hacks For Introverts

There are those of us who prefer a quiet movie at home to a packed show in a stadium, or a nice cup of coffee with a friend to drinks at a club. It’s not that we hate people, or social interaction. But, we can only take so much of it, and then we need time by ourselves to recuperate. Sometimes, we have to venture out into the world when we’re not really feeling it, and for those times, there are actually some “fashion hacks” that can make the process more bearable.

1. Wear Sunglasses

Who cares if it’s sunny out? A big, dark pair of shades means you don’t have to make eye contact with anyone, at all. Eye contact, that first sign that we may have to interact with a stranger, that thing that makes the heart start beating a little faster and the sweat start to creep down. It’s no longer a problem in a good pair of shades, and the best part is, you don’t have to worry about any of those old fashioned rules about square sunglasses for  round face and round frame for a square face: as long as you feel comfortable and confident when you look in the mirror, you’ve got the right pair.

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2. Don A Big Hat

When it’s just too dark out for sunglasses, a hat with a nice wide brim can help alleviate those pesky incidences of eye contact. The bigger the brim, the better. A baseball cap is a great option, as they’re fairly common and go with a lot of different outfits and style profiles. A cowboy hat or straw sun hat can also do the trick, just be careful that it’s not too snazzy. Anything terribly unique that could be considered a “statement piece” is more likely to draw attention that repel it.

3. Wear Drab Colors

In a study conducted by librarians about how to be more approachable, researchers found that blue was the most approachable color when it comes to clothing. While blue is a fairly common (and calming) color that holds a place in many wardrobes, it may be best to avoid it if you are looking to avoid people. Greens, blue-greens, teal, tan, and peachy-orange are also colors considered the most friendly and approachable, so going with a drab grey, black, or white is your best bet to blend in and appear neutral.

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4. Sport A Hooded Coat Or Sweatshirt

For me, there’s nothing more comfortable than a good hoodie. The bonus is, you can always put the hood up to make yourself appear instantly more closed off. I’m not sure what it is, but there’s just something about a person who’s standing there with their hands in their pockets and their hood over their head that says, “don’t talk to me.”

5. Headphones

These days, it’s becoming more and more acceptable to walk around just about anywhere with a pair of headphones in. If you’ve got a pair of buds in, people are less likely to bug you, and will only try and get your attention if they have to. Plus, it’s a great excuse to pretend like you didn’t hear someone, say that person you haven’t seen since high school that is trying to wave you down in the grocery store…

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6. Be Comfortable And Happy

It’s important to remember that comfortable clothing is always key, whether it’s a first date or just a trip to the corner store. If your shoes are pinching your toes, you’re constantly pulling your shirt down, or you’re afraid to sit because your skirt will bunch too far up, you’re going to start out nervous and uncomfortable, which can exacerbate any social anxiety you are trying to tamp down.

If you are simply in a bad mood and really don’t want to be doing whatever it is you’re doing, try putting on something that makes you feel happy. In a study about how clothing affects emotions, researchers found that clothing choice does influence mood, and you can uplift your spirits simply by wearing something that brings a smile to your face. All in all, you want your unwanted outing to go as smoothly as possible, and starting off in a bad mood can definitely hinder that.

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Good Luck!

Us introverts don’t always have it easy, but we get by. There are lots of ways to be a happy introvert, and hopefully these tips can make your next outing a little more comfortable and serene.

Featured photo credit: Photo by Unsplash via pixabay.com

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12 Benefits of Meditation That Improve Your Body And Mind

12 Benefits of Meditation That Improve Your Body And Mind

As a mediation teacher, I am constantly confronted with these two questions regarding the benefits of meditation:

1. Why can’t I enjoy the benefits of meditation continuously?

I ask back: Is it maybe because you see mediation as a technique, performance, or some exclusive activity? The answer is: yes!

Or, because your mind is constantly evolving on the past negative attachments and traditional habits? After careful thinking they answer: yes, probably!

Although meditation is very simple and challenging at the same time, in the above mentioned case, it’s not easy to benefit from meditation, especially when approached with the idea that it has to be learned, studied, or applied. Meditation is to be seen as a natural, mental cleansing process that happens on a basis of awareness on a moment-to-moment experience. When that takes place, the benefits of meditation are continuous.

2. What is the purpose of meditation?

The purpose of meditation is to accomplish a level of consciousness for mastering the mind and uniting with the finest, deepest, and subtlest part of yourself as a being.

It is a conscious process of observation of the mind—helping the meditator to understand the structure of its mind and the quality of its content. During this process, countless benefits of a physical, mental, and spiritual/philosophical nature arise for the meditator.

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Meditation as a Fixer and Benefactor

In this article we’ll have a look at the primary and the ultimate benefits of mediation, which improve your body and mind at the same time. For the sake of clarity, readability, and tangible experience, I have separated the benefits into three groups.

You can change just about anything you don’t like about yourself (psychologically, as well as physically) through meditation. However, this is only possible with a specific approach, when your brain allows the benefits of meditation to do their work.

This means not to interrupt the benefit with other thoughts, but to let their effect implement itself in your body and mind. This approach is crucial.

The following exercises will make you feel the benefits of meditation instantly, but the continuity of the benefits of meditation on your body and mind depend on the discipline of your brain, how you manage external stimuli and your thoughts.

Less Physical, More Psychological

Even though the practice of meditation is more psychological and less physical, the first benefit we’re going to experience is both physical as well as mental.

This benefit happens literally immediately, right at the moment of meditation. It is the essence of mediation basically.

The First Benefit of Meditation

The first benefit of meditation is twofold:

  1. Improving inward attention (sharpening the mind)
  2. Relaxation of the body

Let’s do it right now. This benefit consists of only one step, and it is very simple to perform. It goes like this:

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Sit still and pay attention to your exhalation.

That’s it! Technically, the whole journey into the world of mediation begins here and nowhere else. And right here, you benefit from this step in the following way:

When you pay attention to the flow of your exhalation (gentle, deep, effortless exhalation), your body begins with the process of relaxation instantly (your heart rate slows down, your nervous system calms, and tension in your muscles is relieved).

When the nervous system calms, your mind calms down, and, more specifically, less thoughts are produced by your mind. How, exactly? By applying one of the most valuable mental skills—attention—the mind follows the breathing and has no space and time to generate any other thoughts. Only when the attention goes off the breath, other thoughts are constructed, and the mind is accelerating with thought production again.

Keeping the First Benefit Effective and Ongoing

Here you apply the approach of not letting the relaxation and attention process get interrupted; rather let the effects of these benefits implant in your body and mind as deeply as possible.

This is to say, the instant relaxation and inward attention happen at the same time when you follow the flow of your breath. Repeating this process—creating a constant rhythm out of the breathing and the attention—you create a process of meditation.

Keep your attention on the flow of your breath and see how the calmness of body and mind begin to rule your present moment. The longer you stay connected to your breathing, the stronger you’ll feel the benefit. Start with 3-5 minutes at a time without doing anything else, and increase to 10-20 minutes and onwards.

Can you think of a better, simpler and quicker exercise that can relax the body and improve attention in this way, at this speed?

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This benefit takes you to the second one.

The Second Benefit of Meditation

While still working with the first benefit of mediation, you slowly start to see the second benefit of mediation, which is fourfold. I call it the major value of mediation:

  1. Energy (physical and mental strength)
  2. Observance
  3. Peacefulness (stillness, and space of mind for deeper observation)
  4. Patience

Peacefulness is the source of a blissful life. The energy is the fuel to express that blissfulness. Whatever we want to accomplish in life we need: 1) Physical and mental strength, 2) Observance of that energy, 3) Peacefulness—the calmness and stillness that creates space for freedom of being and creative thinking, and 4) Patience for the process of accomplishment.

You can only get creative in thinking and boosted with physical and mental energy when you get in touch with the deepest levels of yourself—when you harmonize your mental and physiological activities. How do you do that? Let’s try it right now:

This step involves the observation of the two separate movements of your breath. After paying attention on your exhalation, you have prepared your body and mind to really see and feel what true peacefulness and true energy means.

1. Energy

Keep your attention on your inhalation (inhaling gently, deeply and lightly) and feel the new energy (new oxygen) flowing in your body. The inhalation is the symbol for aliveness and vitality. It is the the primary act that connects the baby’s body with the outside world after coming out of the womb[1]. Each inhalation is a new opportunity for your body to revive, regenerate, and renew itself.

2. Observance

The observance comes during the process of meditation, enabling you to see the physiological benefits of introducing new energy to your body. Use that benefit by utilizing its effects, and create deeper observation into yourself. With every single inhalation, this observation will enable you to generate even more energy, mentally and physically.

3. Peacefulness

Keep your attention on your exhalation, and feel how, out of the relaxation, peacefulness is spreading throughout your whole body. The exhalation is the symbol for relaxation and peacefulness. Only through meditation can you realize what absolute peacefulness means.

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4. Patience

The meditation delivers the previous benefits to you immediately and opens up the possibility for many other benefits and great virtues. A specific one to mention, which is essential for reaching the ultimate benefits of meditation, is patience. If you have experienced the aforementioned benefits, it means that you have invested a certain amount of patience into mastering yourself and your mind.

The Ultimate Benefits of Meditation

Patience is a key quality when it comes to the ultimate benefits of meditation.

Since the mind is the tool that reveals everything, mediation is the method for the proper utility of the tool.

The above mentioned benefits of mediation lead to the ultimate benefits of mediation—qualities that depict what makes a human being human. As you dwell in a meditative state of being, the following benefits begin to emanate:

  • Diligence: the persistence for righteous effort to reach an intrinsic value; inner strength.
  • Temperance: to express self-control and show excellence in managing the physio-biological and mental necessities
  • Courage: using righteous effort and braveness to look into the weaknesses of yourself and at the hardship of your life, endure it and patiently overcome the obstacles
  • Loving kindness and Compassion – a capacity to care, understand, and tolerate other people’s state of being, wishing them freedom from suffering.
  • Wisdom: the moment when you feel that mediation gives you the feeling and the knowledge that what you do relating to life and practical affairs is just.
  • Equanimity: that puts you in a state of composure, and you experience an ongoing blissful state of being.

These are the 6 ultimate benefits of meditation that put your body and mind in a state of health and balance.

Final Thoughts

Mediation exists to put order in your mind and awaken the best of you, to reconnect you to your goodness and your inborn intelligent capabilities.

Meditation is the window to your true Self. It gives you a panoramic view of your heart’s greatness. It shows you the true meaning of love, freeing you from the dungeons of ignorance and despair. The power of meditation dismantles the evil that’s trying to cloud the beauty of your heart.

Your heart, body, and soul are the bridge over which the challenges of life frequently carry their heavy load. Meditation is the support of that bridge. Make use of that support.

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Reference

[1] Medline Plus: Changes in the newborn at birth

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