“The joy of life comes from our encounters with new experiences, and hence there is no greater joy than to have an endlessly changing horizon, for each day to have a new and different sun.” — Christopher McCandless
Think about how you last felt when you stumbled out of bed on a winter morning and made your way out into the cold? Were you feeling happy? Approachable? Now, think about how you felt on a summer morning, the sun shining through your window, the day inviting and heavenly? Did you suddenly feel like saying hello to people, getting out into the community, and letting someone else have the last biscuit at the coffee shop? Did you feel like today might be a “yes” kind of day?Advertising
Studies have shown that human beings are much happier being approached on sunny days than on cloudy winter days. From our brain patterns to our warmed hearts, we are more willing and open to possibilities and ideas when the sun’s rays find us, and research has revealed there might just be some science behind “summer love.” Read ahead to better understand why taking advantage of these happy fair-weather moods can help you get ahead in life.
People Want To Help Each Other Out
Recent studies indicate that in the warmer months, people are more helpful to each other. An experiment was conducted with hitchhikers in France to ascertain if the weather affected choices such as this. Hitchhikers posed on overcast days and then on sunny days, and the difference was enormous! Perhaps it was a feeling of safety, or perhaps drivers were just in a more relaxed and happy mood, but the sun shining allowed many more people to stop and give strangers assistance.Advertising
People Are More Open To Romance
Studies also showed that people are more open to love when the sun is shining. It is similar to the feeling we have in regards to S.A.D. — when we are in the throes of spring, we feel fine, but when winter comes, we tend to get a little blue. We have lost all the prettiness of spring, the visual stimuli that surrounds us and sends happy signals from our brains. We instinctively believe that the sun makes us happier, but we also feel it. The sun allows vitamin D to shoot into our skin via ultraviolet rays, and when we have high levels of vitamin D we have higher levels of serotonin, the neurotransmitter that is connected with our positive mood.
So if you are looking for love, there are plenty of reasons that a sunny day will up your chances. You will be feeling more positive and hopeful, and the people you meet will also have higher levels of happiness, goodwill, laughter, and openness. They don’t call it a “spring fling” for nothing.Advertising
People Tend To Splash Their Cash
Studies report that during the summer months people are willing to spend their cash more freely. This goes for the spring too. When the sun is out, people want to leave their homes, they want to bring in the light, they want to be done with the grey and gloom of winter!
Researchers investigated the idea of spending on warmer days compared to cooler ones. They took data from stores over a period of years and conducted separate tests to investigate people’s willingness to pay for different products in different environments (for example, an airplane ticket, a gym membership, tropical juice, a newspaper). The results all indicated that humans were more likely to spend during the warmer times of the year when they were not hibernating and bunkering down. When the summer months arrived, they wanted to get cracking on life, on fitness, on lending a hand to their neighbor – even on love!Advertising
“If you want to shine like a sun, first burn like a sun.” — A. P. J. Abdul Kalam
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Last Updated on January 18, 2019
7 Ways To Deal With Negative People
Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.
But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.
If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.
1. Limit the time you spend with them.
First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.
In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.
Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.
2. Speak up for yourself.
Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.
3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”
This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.
But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.
4. Don’t make their problems your problems.
Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.
This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.
Why else would they be sharing this with you?
5. Change the subject.
When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.
Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.
6. Talk about solutions, not problems.
Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.
I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.
You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”
Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.
7. Leave them behind.
Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.
If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.
That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.
You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.