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How Having A Big, Inexpensive Wedding Gives You A Happy Marriage

How Having A Big, Inexpensive Wedding Gives You A Happy Marriage

Weddings are big business these days and tend to come with a massive pricetag to boot. It seems that to have your dream wedding you need to break the bank — food, drink, venues, flowers, dresses, suits, and even the invitations will set you back.

If you believe you need a big and expensive wedding to lead a happy and healthy marriage, then think again. Research has found that the less expensive your wedding is, the less likely you are to divorce later on down the line. Not only that, but the bigger the wedding the better.

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big wedding that’s not expensive?! This may seem quite crazy to anyone who has tried to plan a wedding and who has had to limit people from the guest list because, well, that’s just one more expensive mouth to feed! More people means a bigger cake, a bigger bar, a bigger venue, and more money coming out of that wedding fund, right? Well, it doesn’t have to be the case.

Less Money Equals Happier Marriages

The study, conducted by economics professors at Emory University in the U.S., used detailed surveys from over 3000 people who are either married or have been married. Their findings showed a definite correlation between the amount of money spent on the wedding and likelihood of divorce.

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    In particular, the study found couples who spent $20,000 or more on their big day were 1.6 times more likely to split compared to couples whose weddings came to $5000-$10,000 in total. An even better result were those who spent $1000 or less.

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    The authors of the study believe it’s down to the wedding industry encouraging people to spend more and more on their wedding and leading us to believe the perfect wedding with all the trimmings means a perfect marriage. It seems couples tend to demonstrate their commitment with cash and pay a much higher price in the long run.

    Surprisingly, the study also found the longer the guest list, the lesser chance of divorcing later on — so inviting those long-lost cousins or random co-workers maybe not be such a bad idea. Having a greater guest list is thought to create a community effect and evokes a sense of support in your wedding day and marriage.

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      Planning How Much To Spend On a Wedding: How To Have A Big Wedding Without The Expense

      When you’re planning how much to spend on a wedding, the key is not to get carried away with what the wedding advertising is telling you. It’s about thinking outside the box without scrimping on quality. So if you need some ideas on how to cut the costs effectively, here are a few tips.

      • You don’t need expensive invitations. Try making your own as people will cherish them more and they will be unique to you!
      • Don’t hire an expensive band or DJ. Instead, make your own playlist. Everyone will have a great time regardless.
      • Consider your venue carefully and don’t get too attached to it being that lavish castle. Look around for more understated places that you can put your own unique stamp on. A friend’s large, back garden with a marquee will do the trick or just places that aren’t usually rented out for weddings. Ask around and see what you can find.
      • Hire your wedding dress or find a site that deals in secondhand dresses. You can find some really beautiful outfits at a fraction of the price. At the end of the day, you will only be wearing it once!
      • Make your own cake or get a baking friend to make one.
      • More people doesn’t have to mean more money — you just need to be smart. Having it at your own inexpensive venue will mean less money to be spent on overpriced meals and drinks. Find a reasonable catering company that won’t charge over the odds.

      Remember, a cheap wedding does not mean it can’t be beautiful. In fact, it will give you a chance to make it truly unique and as quirky as you like. At the end of the day, it’s about being with friends and family and it’s about the two of you. Handing over vasts amounts of money to the overpriced wedding industry won’t make your wedding or marriage any better. So, make it fun, and when deciding how much to spend on a wedding, remember to concentrate on what’s important!

      Featured photo credit: NGDPhotoworks via pixabay.com

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      Last Updated on January 18, 2019

      7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

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      Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

      But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

      If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

      1. Limit the time you spend with them.

      First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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      In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

      Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

      2. Speak up for yourself.

      Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

      3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

      This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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      But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

      4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

      Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

      This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

      Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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      5. Change the subject.

      When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

      Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

      6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

      Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

      I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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      You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

      Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

      7. Leave them behind.

      Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

      If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

      That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

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