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How Having A Big, Inexpensive Wedding Gives You A Happy Marriage

How Having A Big, Inexpensive Wedding Gives You A Happy Marriage

Weddings are big business these days and tend to come with a massive pricetag to boot. It seems that to have your dream wedding you need to break the bank — food, drink, venues, flowers, dresses, suits, and even the invitations will set you back.

If you believe you need a big and expensive wedding to lead a happy and healthy marriage, then think again. Research has found that the less expensive your wedding is, the less likely you are to divorce later on down the line. Not only that, but the bigger the wedding the better.

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big wedding that’s not expensive?! This may seem quite crazy to anyone who has tried to plan a wedding and who has had to limit people from the guest list because, well, that’s just one more expensive mouth to feed! More people means a bigger cake, a bigger bar, a bigger venue, and more money coming out of that wedding fund, right? Well, it doesn’t have to be the case.

Less Money Equals Happier Marriages

The study, conducted by economics professors at Emory University in the U.S., used detailed surveys from over 3000 people who are either married or have been married. Their findings showed a definite correlation between the amount of money spent on the wedding and likelihood of divorce.

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    In particular, the study found couples who spent $20,000 or more on their big day were 1.6 times more likely to split compared to couples whose weddings came to $5000-$10,000 in total. An even better result were those who spent $1000 or less.

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    The authors of the study believe it’s down to the wedding industry encouraging people to spend more and more on their wedding and leading us to believe the perfect wedding with all the trimmings means a perfect marriage. It seems couples tend to demonstrate their commitment with cash and pay a much higher price in the long run.

    Surprisingly, the study also found the longer the guest list, the lesser chance of divorcing later on — so inviting those long-lost cousins or random co-workers maybe not be such a bad idea. Having a greater guest list is thought to create a community effect and evokes a sense of support in your wedding day and marriage.

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      Planning How Much To Spend On a Wedding: How To Have A Big Wedding Without The Expense

      When you’re planning how much to spend on a wedding, the key is not to get carried away with what the wedding advertising is telling you. It’s about thinking outside the box without scrimping on quality. So if you need some ideas on how to cut the costs effectively, here are a few tips.

      • You don’t need expensive invitations. Try making your own as people will cherish them more and they will be unique to you!
      • Don’t hire an expensive band or DJ. Instead, make your own playlist. Everyone will have a great time regardless.
      • Consider your venue carefully and don’t get too attached to it being that lavish castle. Look around for more understated places that you can put your own unique stamp on. A friend’s large, back garden with a marquee will do the trick or just places that aren’t usually rented out for weddings. Ask around and see what you can find.
      • Hire your wedding dress or find a site that deals in secondhand dresses. You can find some really beautiful outfits at a fraction of the price. At the end of the day, you will only be wearing it once!
      • Make your own cake or get a baking friend to make one.
      • More people doesn’t have to mean more money — you just need to be smart. Having it at your own inexpensive venue will mean less money to be spent on overpriced meals and drinks. Find a reasonable catering company that won’t charge over the odds.

      Remember, a cheap wedding does not mean it can’t be beautiful. In fact, it will give you a chance to make it truly unique and as quirky as you like. At the end of the day, it’s about being with friends and family and it’s about the two of you. Handing over vasts amounts of money to the overpriced wedding industry won’t make your wedding or marriage any better. So, make it fun, and when deciding how much to spend on a wedding, remember to concentrate on what’s important!

      Featured photo credit: NGDPhotoworks via pixabay.com

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      Last Updated on November 15, 2018

      Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

      Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

      What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

      As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

      The Success Mindset

      Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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      The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

      The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

      The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

      How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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      How To Create a Success Mindset

      People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

      1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

      How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

      A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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      There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

      2. Look For The Successes

      It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

      3. Eliminate Negativity

      You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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      When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

      4. Create a Vision

      Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

      If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

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      For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

      What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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