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How Having A Big, Inexpensive Wedding Gives You A Happy Marriage

How Having A Big, Inexpensive Wedding Gives You A Happy Marriage

Weddings are big business these days and tend to come with a massive pricetag to boot. It seems that to have your dream wedding you need to break the bank — food, drink, venues, flowers, dresses, suits, and even the invitations will set you back.

If you believe you need a big and expensive wedding to lead a happy and healthy marriage, then think again. Research has found that the less expensive your wedding is, the less likely you are to divorce later on down the line. Not only that, but the bigger the wedding the better.

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big wedding that’s not expensive?! This may seem quite crazy to anyone who has tried to plan a wedding and who has had to limit people from the guest list because, well, that’s just one more expensive mouth to feed! More people means a bigger cake, a bigger bar, a bigger venue, and more money coming out of that wedding fund, right? Well, it doesn’t have to be the case.

Less Money Equals Happier Marriages

The study, conducted by economics professors at Emory University in the U.S., used detailed surveys from over 3000 people who are either married or have been married. Their findings showed a definite correlation between the amount of money spent on the wedding and likelihood of divorce.

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    In particular, the study found couples who spent $20,000 or more on their big day were 1.6 times more likely to split compared to couples whose weddings came to $5000-$10,000 in total. An even better result were those who spent $1000 or less.

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    The authors of the study believe it’s down to the wedding industry encouraging people to spend more and more on their wedding and leading us to believe the perfect wedding with all the trimmings means a perfect marriage. It seems couples tend to demonstrate their commitment with cash and pay a much higher price in the long run.

    Surprisingly, the study also found the longer the guest list, the lesser chance of divorcing later on — so inviting those long-lost cousins or random co-workers maybe not be such a bad idea. Having a greater guest list is thought to create a community effect and evokes a sense of support in your wedding day and marriage.

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      Planning How Much To Spend On a Wedding: How To Have A Big Wedding Without The Expense

      When you’re planning how much to spend on a wedding, the key is not to get carried away with what the wedding advertising is telling you. It’s about thinking outside the box without scrimping on quality. So if you need some ideas on how to cut the costs effectively, here are a few tips.

      • You don’t need expensive invitations. Try making your own as people will cherish them more and they will be unique to you!
      • Don’t hire an expensive band or DJ. Instead, make your own playlist. Everyone will have a great time regardless.
      • Consider your venue carefully and don’t get too attached to it being that lavish castle. Look around for more understated places that you can put your own unique stamp on. A friend’s large, back garden with a marquee will do the trick or just places that aren’t usually rented out for weddings. Ask around and see what you can find.
      • Hire your wedding dress or find a site that deals in secondhand dresses. You can find some really beautiful outfits at a fraction of the price. At the end of the day, you will only be wearing it once!
      • Make your own cake or get a baking friend to make one.
      • More people doesn’t have to mean more money — you just need to be smart. Having it at your own inexpensive venue will mean less money to be spent on overpriced meals and drinks. Find a reasonable catering company that won’t charge over the odds.

      Remember, a cheap wedding does not mean it can’t be beautiful. In fact, it will give you a chance to make it truly unique and as quirky as you like. At the end of the day, it’s about being with friends and family and it’s about the two of you. Handing over vasts amounts of money to the overpriced wedding industry won’t make your wedding or marriage any better. So, make it fun, and when deciding how much to spend on a wedding, remember to concentrate on what’s important!

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      Last Updated on January 21, 2020

      How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

      How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

      If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

      Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

      So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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      1. Listen

      Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

      2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

      Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

      “Why do you want to do that?”

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      “What makes you so excited about it?”

      “How long has that been your dream?”

      You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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      3. Encourage

      This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

      4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

      After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

      5. Dream

      This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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      6. Ask How You Can Help

      Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

      7. Follow Up

      Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

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      By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

      Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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