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5 Sizzling Summer Dating Tips

5 Sizzling Summer Dating Tips

With summer right around the corner, millions of single people will experience summer flings, romance, and dates. Understanding how to make the most out of these dates is important.

Here are a few tips to get you ready!

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1. Date During Off-Peak Hours

While dinner and a movie starting at 7pm on Friday evening may seem like a good idea, it rarely is. You end up waiting for your table, have to rush through dinner just to make it to the movie, and then end up having to sit in the front row and crane your neck just to see the movie. Not fun!

Here’s a novel idea: Try dating during off-peak hours. Who’s to say an early morning coffee date or late night desert isn’t just as fun? Choosing less popular date times means you can focus less on your surroundings and more on your partner.

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2. Save Some Money

Dates can get pretty expensive if you aren’t careful. No matter who’s paying, just a couple of dates per week over the summer can drain your wallet pretty quickly. Don’t worry. There are plenty of ways to save money without being a cheapskate. Here are some ideas:

  • Maximize happy hour. Almost every bar or restaurant in town has a happy hour. Typically it starts right after standard work hours. Try meeting your date after work to grab some inexpensive drinks.
  • Hit up free events. If you live in an area with a younger demographic, chances are there will be some free events this summer, from outdoor concerts and street markets to art festivals and window shopping.
  • Enjoy a night in. There’s no need to go out all the time. Consider having a cozy backyard bonfire and enjoying a bottle of wine.

There are times to splurge and times to save. During the summer when you may be dating more than usual it’s important to conserve money when you can.

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3.  Enjoy a Picnic

One of the top summer date ideas is to dine al fresco. If there’s one thing that’s better than dining on a restaurant patio, it’s having your very own picnic. Choose a nearby park with lots of good people-watching, and pack a few of your favorite items. You can even pick up food to go if you don’t have time to prepare a meal. If you and your date are active people, consider bringing a Frisbee or soccer ball to play with.

 4. Make Sure You’re on the Same Page

There are differences between casual summer flings and serious, monogamous relationships. Make sure everyone is on the same page. Are you simply interested in having fun and going on casual dates, or are you looking for a serious partner? Depending on where you are in life, this could change. Just make sure you’re up front and honest with your dates.

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 5. Take a Day Trip

It’s hard to really get to know your date when you just spend an hour or two together every other weekend. If you’re interested in developing a deeper relationship with someone, consider going on a day trip. Options include going to the beach, lake, state fair, or a nearby city. By spending an entire day with someone, you’ll begin to learn more about who they really are and what they enjoy doing.  You will also become acquainted with any of their tendencies.

Rock the Summer Dating Scene

There’s no better time for dating than the summer. The weather is warm and there’s always something to do. While everyone has different tastes and ideas, you should try a few of these tips to ensure you make the most out of summer.

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Last Updated on July 16, 2019

7 Ways to Get Rid of Negative Energy and Become Positive

7 Ways to Get Rid of Negative Energy and Become Positive

Negativity affects ourselves and everyone around us. It limits our potential to become something great and live a fulfilling, purposeful life. Negativity has a tangible effect on our health, too. Research has shown that people who cultivate negative energy experience more stress, more sickness, and less opportunity over the course of their lives than those who choose to live positively.

When we make a decision to become positive, and follow that decision up with action, we will begin to encounter situations and people that are also positive. The negative energy gets edged out by all positive experiences. It’s a snowball effect.

Although negative and positive thoughts will always exist, the key to becoming positive is to limit the amount of negativity that we experience by filling ourselves up with more positivity.

Here are some ways to get rid of negativity and become more positive.

1. Become Grateful for Everything

When life is all about us, it’s easy to believe that we deserve what we have. An attitude of entitlement puts us at the center of the universe and sets up the unrealistic expectation that others should cater to us, our needs, and our wants. This vain state of existence is a surefire way to set yourself up for an unfulfilled life of negativity.

People living in this sort of entitlement are “energy suckers”–they are always searching for what they can get out of a situation. People that don’t appreciate the nuances of their lives live in a constant state of lacking. And it’s really difficult to live a positive life this way.

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When we begin to be grateful and appreciate everything in our lives–from the small struggles that make us better, to the car that gets us from A to B every day–we shift our attitude from one of selfishness, to one of appreciation. This appreciation gets noticed by others, and a positive harmony begins to form in our relationships.

We begin to receive more of that which we are grateful for, because we’ve opened ourselves up to the idea of receiving, instead of taking. This will make your life more fulfilling, and more positive.

2. Laugh More, Especially at Yourself

Life gets busy, our schedules fill up, we get into relationships, and work can feel task oriented and routine-driven at times. Being human can feel more like being a robot. But having this work-driven, serious attitude often results in negative and performance oriented thinking.

Becoming positive means taking life less seriously and letting yourself off the hook. This is the only life that you get to live, why not lighten up your mood?

Laughter helps us become positive by lightening our mood and reminding us not to take life so seriously. Are you sensitive to light sarcasm? Do you have trouble laughing at jokes? Usually, people who are stressed out and overly serious get most offended by sarcasm because their life is all work and no play.

If we can learn to laugh at ourselves and our mistakes, life will become more of an experiment in finding out what makes us happy. And finding happiness means finding positivity.

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3. Help Others

Negativity goes hand in hand with selfishness. People that live only for themselves have no higher purpose in their lives. If the whole point of this world is only to take care of yourself and no one else, the road to a long-term fulfillment and purpose is going to be a long one.

Positivity accompanies purpose. The most basic way to create purpose and positivity in your life is to begin doing things for others. Start small; open the door for the person in front of you at Starbucks or ask someone how their day was before telling them about yours.

Helping others will give you an intangible sense of value that will translate into positivity. And people might just appreciate you in the process.

4. Change Your Thinking

We can either be our best coach or our best enemy. Change starts from within. If you want to become more positive, change the wording of your thoughts. We are the hardest on ourselves, and a stream of negative self talk is corrosive to a positive life.

The next time you have a negative thought, write it down and rephrase it with a positive spin. For example, change a thought like, “I can’t believe I did so horribly on the test–I suck.” to “I didn’t do as well as I hoped to on this test. But I know I’m capable and I’ll do better next time.”

Changing our self-talk is powerful.

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5. Surround Yourself with Positive People

We become most like the people that we surround ourselves with. If our friend group is full of negative energy-suckers and drama queens, we will emulate that behavior and become like them. It is very difficult to become more positive when the people around us don’t support or demonstrate positive behavior.

As you become more positive, you’ll find that your existing friends will either appreciate the new you or they will become resistant to your positive changes. This is a natural response.

Change is scary; but cutting out the negative people in your life is a huge step to becoming more positive. Positive people reflect and bounce their perspectives onto one another. Positivity is a step-by-step process when you do it solo, but a positive group of friends can be an escalator.

6. Get into Action

Negative thoughts can be overwhelming and challenging to navigate. Negativity is usually accompanied by a “freak-out” response, especially when tied to relationships, people and to worrying about the future. This is debilitating to becoming positive and usually snowballs into more worry, more stress and more freak-outs.

Turn the negative stress into positive action. The next time you’re in one of these situations, walk away and take a break. With your eyes closed, take a few deep breaths. Once you’re calm, approach the situation or problem with a pen and pad of paper. Write out four or five actions or solutions to begin solving the problem.

Taking yourself out of the emotionally charged negative by moving into the action-oriented positive will help you solve more problems rationally and live in positivity

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7. Take Full Responsibility, Stop Being the Victim

You are responsible for your thoughts.

People that consistently believe that things happen to them handicap themselves to a victim mentality. This is a subtle and deceptive negative thought pattern. Phrases like “I have to work” or “I can’t believe he did that to me” are indicators of a victim mentality. Blaming circumstances and blaming others only handicaps our decision to change something negative into something positive.

Taking full responsibility for your life, your thoughts and your actions is one of the biggest steps in creating a more positive life. We have unlimited potential within to create our own reality, change our life, and change our thoughts. When we begin to really internalize this, we discover that no one can make us feel or do anything. We choose our emotional and behavioral response to people and circumstances.

Make positive choices in favor of yourself.

“Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions; they become habit. Watch your habits; they become character. Watch your character; it becomes your destiny” ― Lao Tzu

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