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4 Things Your Boss Doesn’t Want To Hear (And What To Say Instead)

4 Things Your Boss Doesn’t Want To Hear (And What To Say Instead)

Even though we’re seeing impressive recovery from the Great Recession, many companies are still on edge, considering low profits and nerve wracking bottom lines. For those who want to keep their jobs and advance up the promotional ladder, communicating carefully to the higher ups is crucial. Business always try to attract top talent, but ultimately it’s up to you to make it happen. Here are four things your boss absolutely does not want to hear from you, and what you should say instead.

I don’t have enough time

Since well before the recession officially started, companies have been downsizing, consolidating, and making the employees who are left take on more and more tasks. None of us have enough time, and that almost certainly includes your boss.

Instead of sounding cranky and frustrated, try out:

“I would love to take that on. Can we sit down and discuss prioritizing that with the other tasks I have?”

The key here is that you don’t want to just say yes, especially if you’re already busy. You’ll end up overwhelmed and overworked, and that’s not fun or fair. But at the same time, you need to appear willing. By implying to your boss that something else is going to have to fall off your plate if you add this on, they (should) get the hint to make sure that they’re asking you to do something business crucial. Sometimes, going an extra mile counts a lot in the long run.

It’s all Someone Else’s fault

This is just as annoying as its cousin, It’s Not My Fault. Blaming someone else is not the way an adult manages a situation. Even if it isn’t your fault, pointing the finger makes you sound like a spoiled child who let the dog eat their homework. If the problem really was your fault, just apologize, tell your boss what you’re going to do to make sure it doesn’t happen again, and then make sure it doesn’t happen again.

If it actually was all someone else’s fault, try:

“I understand your concern. I agree that this situation did not play out in a way that was positive for the company. I’d like to sit down with both you and [whoever is at fault] to better understand what went wrong and how to manage this better next time.” 

I can’t do that

There are two things that “I can’t” might mean. The first is that you actually can’t, in which case there are more business positive ways to phrase things. The second is that you won’t, in which case you’re better off stating the source of your objection from the beginning. If you really and truly can’t – when your boss is asking you to draw two red lines in blue ink, for example – then you could try “I’m sorry, I’m a little confused. Are you asking me to…” And then restate their request. This usually clears up any confusion and gets their respect, and if not, it’s the beginning of a dialogue to make sure clarity is reached.

If what you mean is you won’t, then try:

“There’s a lot of potential here, but I see some challenges. Our mission statement says that we prioritize customer satisfaction at all costs, so it seems like raising prices while lowering services might be contradictory with that?”

I’m so hungover

Or “My spouse is so aggravating,” or “Jane in accounting is so mean,” or intimate details of your Friday night date. Your boss is not your best friend, or if they are, talk about those things outside of work, not inside the building.

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You need to be careful whenever you share personal information in a work setting. While all sorts of discrimination are technically illegal, proving discrimination is much more difficult than it looks on paper, and many employees choose to keep a strict separation between their private and personal lives, just in case.

Know your boss; some managers understand and embrace the fact that their employees have lives outside of work, and really mean it when they ask how you’re doing. Others just take surveys from employees to get feedback, and are less open to these sorts of conversations.

If you really are hungover – well, maybe avoid drinking so much on work nights. If your boss asks how you’re doing because you’re clearly unwell, try:

“I apologize, I’m really not at my best. I’m going to get a cup of coffee and focus in on (whatever project you have at the top of your to-do list).”

The key here is to show your boss that even though you’re at work and obviously not feeling well, you’re still focused on work and going to do your best.

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How to Achieve Goals and Increase Your Chance of Success

How to Achieve Goals and Increase Your Chance of Success

Does it ever feel like the things you want to accomplish always end up on the back burner? If the answer to that question is “yes,” you’re not alone. Only about 33% of people consistently work toward their goals. In some cases, their goals may seem too lofty to accomplish, or else they aren’t sure how to make a plan for them.

If you don’t come up with concrete steps to take toward your goals, they’ll remain dreams. There’s nothing wrong with being a dreamer, but being able to turn your dreams into goals you can realize will help you lead a happier and more fulfilling life.

Luckily, you can realize almost any dream when you harness the right goal-setting methods.

In this article, I’ll show you how to achieve goals and get closer you success.

1. Break your dreams down into specific and measurable steps

We couldn’t talk about goal-setting without mentioning SMART goals.

SMART goals are specific, measurable, assignable, realistic, and time-related.

Specific and measurable steps are so important because if we don’t know what our target it, how can we ever hit it?

Take all those beautiful dreams you have for yourself and make them into things you can actually do. If you want to be an entrepreneur, for example, a step toward realizing your dream might be researching what you’ll need to start your business.

Find out more tips about utilizing SMART goals here:

How to Use SMART Goal to Become Highly Successful in Life

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2. Have at least one clearly defined goal for every interest and role in your life

It’s so easy to become complacent or stagnate. We often think that our careers are the only places where we need to set goals, but we aren’t only what we do.

To make the most of your life, take the approach that you’re always learning and growing in everything you do. Anything worth doing is worth doing well after all.

Set goals whether you’re sponsoring an activity for your child, taking up guitar lessons or trying to prove your worth at work.

You’ll notice that this approach forces you to constantly develop new skills. It can also be fulfilling to put more focus and value into all areas of your life— not just the ones related to our careers.

3. Align your goals with your life’s mission, purpose and passion

Take the opportunity to do some soul-searching. What is it that you want to do with this precious life of yours?

Anything that conflicts with your life’s purpose is bound to cause discontent. Staying in a bad relationship, doing a job that goes against your values, or maintaining the status quo just because it’s comfortable are not options for you.

Thinking about your goals in this way can help you eliminate things in your life that don’t serve you. This frees up mental space that you can use to do the things you care about the most.

Many of us struggle to find the time to work on our goals, but this strategy enables you to make more time.

4. Create goals that ignite your spirit and inspire you to take action

If you can’t be fired up about your goals from the start, they might not be good goals for you.

The road to success is often tough. You’re going to have times when you might feel tired or discouraged.

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You need to feel inspired enough that you’ll be able to overcome obstacles as you encounter them.

If what you’re doing motivates you to be the greatest version of yourself, you’ll be much more resilient.

5. Write down all your goals in specific, measurable detail

This is your road map for what success will look like. The more you define what you want the finished product to be, the greater the chance that you’ll reach that vision.

When you write down your goals, you’re creating a document that you can revisit to make sure you’re on track.

When you’re in the middle of trying to achieve a big goal, it can be hard to see what’s working for you. The things you write in this step will help you stay on-message as you take your goals out of your mind and into the real world.

Don’t just write down your goals and stash them away in a folder somewhere. Take the extra step to put them somewhere where you’ll see them.[1]

If you have too many goals to post on your desk, write a summary or choose one or two steps to work on for the day. Just seeing them will keep them in the front of your mind.

6. Commit to hitting each of your targets without exception

You wouldn’t have created the target if you didn’t think it was necessary. Hold yourself accountable for taking the steps to succeed.

You can always adapt your strategy or break your targets into smaller steps if you find that they aren’t attainable as you originally wrote them.

Hitting even the smallest target is cause for a celebration. It’s a step in the positive direction. Your success will make you crave more success.

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We often make excuses when we get tired or overwhelmed. Take away the option to make excuses. You will only be satisfied with the best effort from yourself.

7. Share your goals with others to motivate each other

There’s something so powerful about people sharing their goals and dreams with one another. Doing so gives voice to some part of us that could remain hidden (and therefore never be accomplished).

When other people know about your goals, they can cheer you on and hold you accountable. When people share their vision with you, you can do the same for them.

This strategy is particularly beneficial when you’re trying to develop healthy habits. Post about your workout on social media, or do a healthy eating challenge with your best friend. You’ll be less likely to slack when temptation arises, and you’ll probably encourage someone else to reach for their goals too.

8. Set a series of daily, weekly and long-term goals, complete with starting times and deadlines

Many goals never reach realization simply because the goal-setter doesn’t check their progress. People tend to forget what they set out to do, or their goal gets crowded out by other obligations.

Forcing yourself to revisit your goals at regular intervals breaks them into smaller steps and it reminds you to think about them.

Giving yourself regular deadlines for smaller tasks related to your goals also helps you reflect on your strategy. You’ll figure out what works for you, whether your timeline is realistic, and whether or not you need additional help to stay on track.

In addition, celebrating small wins helps you stay motivated. Here’s how:

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9. Take 10 minutes every day to imagine how great it will feel to achieve your goals

Visualization is such a powerful tool. Some of the most successful athletes, celebrities and business people take time each day to think about how success looks and feels for them.[2] Imagining that feeling of satisfaction can be a great motivator.

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When you do meet your goals, take some time to be grateful. Thank yourself for showing up and doing the work. Be grateful when the stars align properly to help you advance to the next step.

It’s not just getting to the destination of your goals that matters. How you take the journey is important too.

10. Take an action step toward reaching your goals every day

Your goals can easily get buried in the hustle and the bustle. Even the smallest step in the right direction is still moving you forward.

Keep chipping away at the work every day and before long, you’ll start to see those dreams come to life.

Maybe you didn’t start your business today but you designed the logo that’s going to go on your website and business cards. Doing that task well is going to help you so much in the long run.

Concrete actions day by day draw your dreams out of obscurity and into the realm of possibility.

Change begins today

Dreams can inspire and overwhelm us. By turning our dreams into goals that we can work toward, we increase our chances of success. Things that once seemed impossible are suddenly within reach.

It’s time to start turning your dreams into goals and your goals into realities.

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