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How To Use Your Intuition To Find Your Soulmate

How To Use Your Intuition To Find Your Soulmate

Our society trains us to ignore our instincts, mocking those who “trust their gut”, when the reality is that in your day to day life, your intuition is a powerful force. It represents millions of years of evolution, which warned our ancestors what was and was not dangerous, even if we could not reason it out at the time.

Unfortunately, you don’t have the time to reason about every single decision you make through the course of a day. Some things you handle by routine, but other times, you need to trust your gut and take a leap of faith.

All of this is especially true when it comes to romance and finding your soulmate. When you first meet another guy (or girl), you can chat and reason with them all you want, but you don’t truly know them. All you can do is trust your intuition, feel the vibe that you may have with that person, and proceed from there.

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If you’re confused about what to do, here are some key tips which anyone can use to find “the one” with the power of your intuition.

Nonverbal communication and vibes

It is stated that 93 percent of all communication is nonverbal. However, the study which came up with that number was flawed. Even if the exact number is not accurate, nonverbal communication is the primary method through which we get a vibe about what a person is like.

The moment that you see another person, they communicate with you through their clothes, hair, posture, and so on. From there, you can get a first impression, and will get a vibe one way or the other.

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You have to be careful about vibes. You may feel a rush of blood to your face and your nerves tingling when you meet some other person, but that does not guarantee you have met your soulmate. It can mean other things and could even signal that your intuition is warning you that they could be dangerous.

Given these mixed signs, it can be difficult to figure out what your intuition is and what your desires are upon meeting someone. One of my favorite tricks for figuring what my intuition is truly telling me is flipping a coin. The point is not what side the coin lands on, the key point is that when the coin is in the air, you will find yourself hoping that it will land on one side or the other. It’s at that moment, you will know what the right decision is. Follow your heart from there, and it will lead to good results.

This is not just a trick to force yourself to make a decision. The idea of a soulmate (or a soul split in two) reaches far into history, known by the Greeks as Plato’s concept of twin flame separation. These ancient traditions believed thought, logic, and reasoning were an obstacle to being reunited with your soulmate. Pressuring yourself to make a decision forces you to abandon logic and reasoning by trusting your gut.

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Sit down and think

So, you have a good night or date out with someone, and you find yourself wondering if you are in love with them, or if you are just in lust, or if there is something else you are feeling?

A good way to emote out your feelings is to sit down and write. As Lynn Robinson points out, sit down with a piece of paper and a pencil and just write out everything you feel about your date. Do you want to be close with them all of the time, or do you just want to sleep with him at times?

The key point is to write down the first thing that comes to your mind, no matter how embarrassing or ridiculous it might be. By writing down your thoughts as they pop into your brain, you can record them. From there, you can settle into a course of action about what you want to do. That said, do NOT plan out your actions. The goal is to find out what your intuition is and do what it tells you to do.

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Listen to the danger voice

Animals and humans developed instincts primarily to avoid danger. If an animal sees a piece of meat in a strange position, its instinct might tell them that something is wrong. If it is careful, it may realize that there is a trap.

The same principle applies with relationships. If you are meeting a great, swell, guy, but your inner-voice is telling you that there is something off with him, listen to it.

Obviously, don’t go telling that guy, “Hey, there’s something off with you.” What you should do is take a step back and think about everything that has happened. Often, your intuition will pick up something about him that you have missed. However, if you spend enough time going over what just happened, you should be able to figure out what is odd.

Conclusion

We like to think of instincts as something feral that is not part of our reasoning, but that is backwards. Our instincts and intuition arrive when our brain has noticed something, but our reasoning has not caught up to it.

Trust your brain and your heart, and you will be able to find someone with whom you can have a great relationship.

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Last Updated on November 5, 2018

8 Powerful Reasons to Love Your Enemies

8 Powerful Reasons to Love Your Enemies

We’ve all got our enemies; people who take pleasure in causing us pain and misery. Sometimes, the development of an enemy is due to certain differences in your characters and events have led to that. Other times, some people end up hating you for apparently no reason at all.

Regardless of how you got this enemy, as opposed to the paradigm of fighting fire with fire, consider the following reasons and see why you should actually appreciate your enemies. This article will show you not only how to not be bothered by your enemies, but how to actually foster love for them.

Read on to learn the secret.

1. It’s a practical lesson in anger management

To be honest, your enemies are the best people to help you understand your sense of anger management. When it might be true that your enemies have a way of bringing out the worst in you as regards anger, it is also true that they can help you in your quest to have that anger managed. You can’t get truly angry at someone you love and it is only in that time when you get truly annoyed that you learn how to manage it.

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Anger management is more effective when it is in practice and not in theory

Your enemies are like the therapists who you need, but actually don’t want. Inasmuch as you might want to hate them, they provide you an opportunity to control the anger impulse that you have.

2. It’s an opportunity for healthy competition

You might not know it, but your enemies make for great rivals as they help harness the competitor in you (sometimes, you might not even know or bee conversant with this competitive side until you come across an adversary). You get the right motivation to compete and this can go a long way to spur you to victory.

However, while doing so, it is also essential that you remember not to become a worse version of yourself while competing. Working against an adversary is tricky, and you need to ensure that you don’t cause harm to yourself or your morals in the process. Healthy competition is all you need to get out of this.

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3. Their negative comments can help you make a breakthrough

It is true that your enemies never really have much good to say about you. However, in as much as they might be talking out of a place of hate, there might be some truth to what they’re saying.

To wit, whenever you hear something mean or nasty from an enemy, you might want to take a step back and evaluate yourself. There is a chance that what this enemy is saying is true and coming to face that fact is a major step in helping you to become a better person overall. This is another testament to the fact that enemies can be therapists in their own way.

4. Enemies can also be powerful allies

Loving your enemies can also mean making an effort to interact and make peace with them. In the end, if you are able to establish some common ground and patch things up, you’ll have succeeded in making another friend. And who doesn’t need friends?

This can also help you in working with people in the long run. You get to hone your inter-personal skills, and that can be a big plus to your ledger.

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5. It gives you the ability to realize positivity

In a multitude of negativity, a speck of positivity always seems to find its way through.

Sometimes, a knowledge of the fact that you have enemies will also help you to focus on the many positives and good things that are in your life. A lot of times, we neglect what really matters in life. This can be due to being overly concerned with the enemies we have.

However, it is also possible for this acknowledgement to spur you to take a step back and appreciate the goo things (and people who surround you).

6. There might just be a misunderstanding

Sometimes, the reason why you have an enemy might be something very innocuous. You might not have known the cause of this fractured relationship and your enemy will help complete the picture.

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Simply approaching them will help you to understand the reason for the fracture. This, in turn, can help you to work towards healing your relationship moving forward. Misunderstandings happen, and you need to be able to work around them.

7. You learn to appreciate love as well

A constant reminder of the fact that there are enemies will also help you not to take those who love you for granted. Love and hate are two opposing emotions and it is possible for one to momentarily overshadow the other.

However, while you’ll always have enemies, there will also always be people who love you. These people need to be appreciated for what they do for you. Never let the hate projected to you from your enemies take the place of that.

8. Do you really need the hate?

The truth is that enemies bring only toxic emotions and generate bad reactions from you. If you’re truly to live a prosperous life, you can’t really be carrying all this baggage around.

Hate is bad and you should try all you can to get rid of it. It is a well-known fact that nobody can get really far in life while carrying a lot of emotional baggage. Well, hate is the biggest form of emotional baggage there is.

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