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7 Ways Meditation Can Improve Your Love Life

7 Ways Meditation Can Improve Your Love Life

No longer seen as a “hippy dippy” practice that involves sitting in silence on a yoga mat, meditation is now practiced by millions of people across the United States. And with new studies coming out every year, the benefits of meditation seem to be endless. In fact, meditation is now a recognized mental and physical rehabilitation tool. One of these benefits has a lot of heart. All puns aside, meditation might just be what’s missing from your soul mate search. Here’s how spending 30 minutes a day like a hippy on a yoga mat, can open your heart to love or strengthen a long-term relationship.

1. Know yourself to learn to love

If you’re looking to find love, the best place to start looking is your subconscious and that’s exactly where meditation comes in. Daily meditation provides you with the opportunity to really get to know yourself. The ability to visualize your role in a happy and healthy romantic relationship is vital to improving your love life. Happiness, whether romantic or not, starts with you. Before you can love someone else you must love yourself.

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2. Elevates health benefits

Studies have shown that mediation is not only good for the soul but it’s also good for the body. In addition to reducing blood pressure and the risk of heart disease, meditation also helps reduce stress. So if you’re feeling too achy or stressed out to resolve an issue with your spouse or go on that blind date, set aside some time to meditate.

3. Allows you to make time for reflection

The more you meditate the more improvement you’ll see in your day-to-day life. Meditation will also let you contemplate and celebrate how far you’ve come in your journey to self-actualization. Reflection is an important part of moving forward. For all of you singles out there, reflection is exactly what will keep you from making the same romantic mistakes over and over again. It will also give you the chance to make corrections in your life in order to gain perspective and find the right person for you.

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4. Elevates empathy and compassion

If you’re looking to put the swing back into your love life, look no further than “Metta.” Metta or “loving-kindness” is a word used in Buddhist traditions to describe a kind of meditation focused on developing a deep sense of benevolence and care towards all living beings. Empathy is a major part of communication and without these two things, your relationships are doomed to fail. So the next time your significant other is in a bad mood think of “Metta.”

5. Boosts brain function

Being single for a long stretch of time can put you in a funk. Focus and optimism are just a few things that go when you’re feeling the single blues. Luckily, spending thirty minutes a day meditating reduces the brain’s sense of loneliness.

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6. Enhances energy

If you’re looking for a relationships or in a long-term relationship, you need to have enough energy to go out there and be romantic. Relationships require a lot of work. If you do not have the time or energy to dedicate to another person, you might need to take more time meditating on what it is you want. If you are ready to take the romantic plunge, focus on your breathing. Studies show that deep breathing meditation gives your body the extra oxygen bump it needs to keep going.

7. Increases positivity

Love isn’t easy; there are about 100 songs that attest to that. But when it comes to love and life, it’s how you face adversity that will determine your character. So when the going gets tough, don’t take the easy way out. Remain calm and stay positive! Use all of your resources, including meditation, to find a solution to your romantic problems and then implement it.

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Last Updated on September 10, 2019

7 Morning Rituals to Empower Your Day And Change Your Life

7 Morning Rituals to Empower Your Day And Change Your Life

Most of your reality is not a given. It is shaped by your expectations, beliefs and thoughts you have formed about it. A big chunk of these beliefs and expectations are encoded into habits you integrate in your daily life.

Yes, some of these habits are formed unconsciously and can be counter-productive or limiting but conversely, you can consciously form positive habits that will transform and empower your life significantly.

This is a powerful point of departure that more and more people are becoming aware of. The most common trait of highly successful people is the recognition of the power they have in co-creating their reality through changing the way they think, believe or expect their reality to be.

One of the most effective ways of changing our belief patterns is through practising and maintaining daily rituals. Ancient traditions had clearly understood the power of rituals in reinforcing habits and changing the way we see and create our reality a long, long time ago.

Once again, if you look into the life history of any highly successful individual, you will find some form of ritual in their daily routine. Some of these rituals may seem banal or eccentric but don’t be deceived by appearances. Rituals are one of the most effective self-empowering tools freely available at the practitioner’s disposal – that is, you!

Below are some the easiest yet life-changing morning rituals you can do every day. Of course, you can have your own afternoon or bed-time rituals but morning rituals are extremely effective in empowering your day since they help you charge yourself before it all starts.

1. Gratitude

Feeling gratitude and appreciation for those little signs and moments of joy happening in your life is probably one of the most overlooked or underestimated rituals. It is a perfect morning ritual to start your day on a very positive key.

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The real power of gratitude is that it makes you pick out and focus on what is working in your life – what is in tune with your being as a whole. It is selectively positive. It reinforces happiness and positivity by shedding light on those awesome things, small or big, that grace your everyday living.

Quite often, we just pick out the pain points, the problems, the bottle necks, whatever it is that is not working in our life and causing friction, anxiety and unhappiness. This is like constantly rewriting the script of your life with a negative or tragic overtone. Your subconscious mind follows faithfully that script you write whether it is a negative or positive one.

So feeling gratitude is undoubtedly an immensely empowering ritual. Start your day by being thankful for those positive things that happened the previous day or throughout the week. It could be something really petty and small. It doesn’t matter. You might be grateful for an unexpected visit from an old friend, a beautiful encounter with a kind stranger, a new opportunity or whatever it is that shines your way. Do it every morning and see what happens during the day.

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    2. Writing Down Your Most Important Tasks

    This is a very practical ritual. Start your day by identifying and writing down from one to three of the most important tasks you need to complete during that day. These tasks are ones which support important long term goals that are aligned to your purpose, passion or general direction in life.

    For example, if writing a book or building an online community are important long term goals which are aligned to your personal growth, then an important task for the day might be finishing off a particular page or two of the book or coming up with fresh content ideas for the online community.

    What is important with this ritual is that you identify these tasks and complete them as early in the day as possible. Of course, you will have other tasks apart from the ones you will write down but, these are tasks which can be tackled later or batched up and carried out in one go.

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    Writing down your most important tasks in the morning helps you focus your day and life according to what is essential. It helps you prioritize and manage your time better. As a result, you simplify your life by applying your focus and energy on what really counts for your overall life progress.

    3. Affirm Your Goals in Writing or Drawing

    This is similar to the previous idea but different in its application and purpose. Writing down your most important tasks of the day is a way to have a concrete structure of action to follow. Affirming your goals, on the other hand, is a very powerful way of crystallizing your vision and goals in life into your everyday mental space.

    Writing down or doodling your goals on a piece of paper helps you externalize those goals by giving them form. In return, they are reflected back in your subconscious mind and thus, reinforcing them and integrating them more wholly.

    An example of this would be writing down “I am achieving greater success in my career” or “I am becoming healthier and stronger through my exercise.” Notice the present tense being used as a way to tell yourself you are in the process already. Remember the life script we subconsciously follow? You are basically modifying the script to be applied now in the present.

    Drawing or doodling can be equally, or even more, effective  (if you are more of a visual person) as it summarizes a graphical representation of your goals. For example, if your goal is to build a new house or live in another country, you can draw the house or draw things that symbolise the country you want to live in.

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      4. Practice Qi Gong Exercises

      According to Chinese philosophy, Qi (pronounced ‘Chee’) means the life force or energy inherent in all things;[1] and Qi Gong is the practice to cultivate and circulate that energy in your body. This may sound esoteric or complicated but actually, Qi Gong is really a set of simple exercises aimed at increasing your health and vitality.

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      There are numerous forms and practices available for free through the online media. As a morning ritual, I recommend following these simple exercises by Qi Gong master Lee Holden:

      5. Drink Hot Water with Lemon

      Simply add a slice of lemon in a glass of hot water and drink one every morning. This is a very simple ritual I follow faithfully every morning.

      Apart from being a good source of vitamin C and a great way of flushing out toxins in the morning, it balances and maintains the PH levels in the body, reduces pain and inflammation in joints and knees and helps nourishing brain and nerve cells. Here are some more benefits of drinking hot water with lemon.

      6. Rise Earlier

      The practical advantages of waking up early are obvious.

      For example, you gain more time for doing exercise such as walking, cycling or Qi Gong as suggested above. You gain more time to be with yourself to reflect, meditate or, more importantly, carry out the other morning rituals.

      So rising early can be seen as a foundation for all the other morning rituals. Many, like myself, find that they are more productive in the early hours of the day.

      Also, various studies have shown that there are many other benefits from waking up an hour or two earlier in the morning. Sleeping early and waking up early helps the body attune with the earth’s circadian rhythms thus, promoting more restorative sleep. Other curious results from such studies show, for instance, that early risers tend to be more optimistic and can anticipate and solve problems more efficiently than the norm.[2]

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      7. Listen to Uplifting Music

      Uplifting music can have a direct impact on our mood, especially in the morning. It charges us emotionally and tunes us into a more positive outlook of the day ahead.

      Most people wake up to music or listen to music as they commute to work. Very often, however, they tune in to a radio or randomly pick a playlist from their device. Being more selective and conscious of the music you listen to in the morning can have a great impact on your day and life in general.

      It’s funny how we try to choose music according to our mood. For example if you are feeling down or disappointed by something, you are more prone to listen to music that reflects that mood – for instance blues, sad songs or downtempo music. This has the effect of reinforcing that mood. What you need to do is the exact opposite and retune your mood by listening to music that beats to a different tune than that mood.

      Try to listen to more uplifting music in the morning even if, or especially if, your mood does not dictate so.

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      Reference

      [1] Live Science: What Is Qi Gong
      [2] Harvard Business Review: Defend Your Research: The Early Bird Really Does Get the Worm

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