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Life Doesn’t End After Divorce

Life Doesn’t End After Divorce

When I hear people talk about divorce, I often have somewhat mixed feelings on the entire matter. Of course, divorce is a painful experience; however, more often than not it is mentioned not as an experience but rather as an end of the line, like the terminal station of a broken and failed life. It is always sad to see people that are still full of life stay so firmly in the past and write off their future.

A good friend of mine got divorced two years ago. I witnessed the entire process of this vicious disease, so to speak. I saw how his marriage was slowly but steadily turning into a living hell. I saw how he was getting more and more reluctant to even mention his wife. I also saw how unpleasant (to say the least) the legal battle that ensued was.

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For a long time, my friend was in the throes of a mother of all depressions. He felt the way most people feel after a divorce: that his life was ruined and could never be the same again. He felt that something went badly off-track, and he would never be able to get all the pieces back together.

However, about half a year later something clicked. My friend stopped talking about his failed marriage and started showing new interest in life. Ar first, he dedicated all possible attention to work, in order to occupy all the free time he suddenly had. Then he slowly got more comfortable in other areas of life as well. When I saw him a year after the divorce, he told me, rather musingly, that he was glad things went the way they did. Sometimes a divorce is just another step in your life, that may lead to bigger and better things.

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Yes, it was painful at the moment, but sometimes you have to cut off a diseased limb lest the entire body gets infected. Actually, he was glad. Now, I wouldn’t go as far as to say he was “happy”, but he followed through with it when he did. When compared with the possibility of spending all this time in a marriage that would have deteriorated even more, suffering through a short burst of pain was certainly a better alternative.

So, why am I talking about all of this? Perhaps it’s to demonstrate; yet another time, a rather hackneyed yet still relevant maxim: things are what we make them to be. Even if right now divorce seems to be the end of the line for you, you should never think of it that way. After all, sometimes a divorce is a much better alternative than years upon years spent in the atmosphere of mutual hatred and resentment.

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Bad things happen, and you can do nothing about it, but divorce is just one of many bad things that we encounter throughout our lives. We should treat it just like all the other bad things. That is to say, learn the lesson they teach us, move on, and do our best not to repeat the same mistakes twice. As long as you remain true to yourself, don’t hold grudges, and don’t allow the past to determine your present and your future, a divorce cannot beat you down. That is, if you don’t allow it to do so.

Holocaust survivor Viktor Frankl said in one of his books that the only thing we have full control of is our attitude in any given set of circumstances. In comparison with what a man must have endured through Nazi concentration camps, such a thing as divorce looks more than bearable.

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10 Reasons Why You Should Get Naked More Often

10 Reasons Why You Should Get Naked More Often

Getting naked is often thought of as an act that should only be reserved for intimacy—and even then some get squirmy! Many people are more comfortable believing that the more clothes you are wearing the better. However, getting naked more often can have great benefits for you. Here are 10 great reasons to get naked more often:

1. It burns more fat.

Your body’s main supply of brown adipose tissue (BAT), or good fat cells, are located around your shoulder blades and neck. When your body is exposed to the elements and is cooler, the BAT proliferates and essentially kills the white adipose tissue, aka bad fat cells. So, not wearing any clothes helps promote this and makes you healthier.

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2. You’ll become comfortable with who you are.

Self-acceptance is hard to come by today. Ask anyone you know and see if they are happy with themselves. Chances are they will say they are too fat, not pretty, and find all of the flaws that they can. In reality, others do not see this. They see that you are beautiful. When you begin to get naked, you learn to appreciate your body and realize how beautiful you really are.

3. It saves you money.

Being naked more often saves on buying new clothing since you are wearing nothing a lot of the time. Be careful when you are in public, though—you may have to put on some clothes!

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4. It increases your immune system.

Being naked and getting exposure to the sun’s rays actually increases your body’s vitamin D levels. Vitamin D is directly related to your immune system. When you have optimal levels of vitamin D, your body’s immune system is impeccable, and you will be better equipped to ward off viruses, including the common cold and flu. So go lay outside naked on your private balcony or in your yard.

5. It makes you face your fears head on.

People cringe today when you mention the words “get naked.” They are so afraid of it—and today’s children are so ingrained with this—that they must wear layer upon layer to deal with their body image. However, when you are naked, you face your fears of body image and self-acceptance, experiencing some of the best moments of your life.

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6. You will feel better in your clothes.

When you do wear clothes (because not everyone has yet accepted being naked in public), you will start to choose clothing that accentuates the parts of your body that you love. You will begin to notice that maybe that muumuu does not flatter your beautiful curves and start wearing clothes that you love.

7. You will embrace vulnerability.

When you put yourself out there, it is a natural reaction to have fear and worry. However, this is an opportunity to embrace being vulnerable. It allows you to think and get down to the core of what really matters and what is of importance to you. When you strip away all of the excess, you are 100% you and willing to take on anything that comes your way.

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8. You will show the world the real you.

Today, we have many ways of altering our appearance from our true body image when we wear clothing. Some people alter their image so much that they fear getting naked with the person they love. It seems crazy that this could even happen; however, the rise in use of breast-enhancing bras and Spanx products has put this idea into people’s minds. This all goes back to being comfortable with your true body image. If a person really does love you, then they should not love you based upon your image. If they do, then you may even decide that the ever-so-uncomfortable leggings that go up above your waist to hold in all of the imperfections may not be worth it after all.

9. You will have fun.

Well, this could go in all sorts of directions. But when you are comfortable with your naked body and see it as being flattering, then life is more fun. You start realizing that you are beautiful and are willing to do more things that you probably would not have done otherwise—with and without your clothes on.

10. You can have intercourse with the lights on.

Many people are self-conscious about the way they look and decide that the less lighting the better when they are intimate with their partner. It’s nothing new. If you survey your best friends, you will probably come to this conclusion too. They may say that it even gets awkward, because they are more concerned with what their partner thinks of their body than just having and enjoying amazing intercourse. When you love the way you look naked, you will also want to have your partner see you at your best.

What are you waiting for? Start spending more time in the buff today and begin to change the way you think about your body.

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