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Life Doesn’t End After Divorce

Life Doesn’t End After Divorce

When I hear people talk about divorce, I often have somewhat mixed feelings on the entire matter. Of course, divorce is a painful experience; however, more often than not it is mentioned not as an experience but rather as an end of the line, like the terminal station of a broken and failed life. It is always sad to see people that are still full of life stay so firmly in the past and write off their future.

A good friend of mine got divorced two years ago. I witnessed the entire process of this vicious disease, so to speak. I saw how his marriage was slowly but steadily turning into a living hell. I saw how he was getting more and more reluctant to even mention his wife. I also saw how unpleasant (to say the least) the legal battle that ensued was.

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For a long time, my friend was in the throes of a mother of all depressions. He felt the way most people feel after a divorce: that his life was ruined and could never be the same again. He felt that something went badly off-track, and he would never be able to get all the pieces back together.

However, about half a year later something clicked. My friend stopped talking about his failed marriage and started showing new interest in life. Ar first, he dedicated all possible attention to work, in order to occupy all the free time he suddenly had. Then he slowly got more comfortable in other areas of life as well. When I saw him a year after the divorce, he told me, rather musingly, that he was glad things went the way they did. Sometimes a divorce is just another step in your life, that may lead to bigger and better things.

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Yes, it was painful at the moment, but sometimes you have to cut off a diseased limb lest the entire body gets infected. Actually, he was glad. Now, I wouldn’t go as far as to say he was “happy”, but he followed through with it when he did. When compared with the possibility of spending all this time in a marriage that would have deteriorated even more, suffering through a short burst of pain was certainly a better alternative.

So, why am I talking about all of this? Perhaps it’s to demonstrate; yet another time, a rather hackneyed yet still relevant maxim: things are what we make them to be. Even if right now divorce seems to be the end of the line for you, you should never think of it that way. After all, sometimes a divorce is a much better alternative than years upon years spent in the atmosphere of mutual hatred and resentment.

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Bad things happen, and you can do nothing about it, but divorce is just one of many bad things that we encounter throughout our lives. We should treat it just like all the other bad things. That is to say, learn the lesson they teach us, move on, and do our best not to repeat the same mistakes twice. As long as you remain true to yourself, don’t hold grudges, and don’t allow the past to determine your present and your future, a divorce cannot beat you down. That is, if you don’t allow it to do so.

Holocaust survivor Viktor Frankl said in one of his books that the only thing we have full control of is our attitude in any given set of circumstances. In comparison with what a man must have endured through Nazi concentration camps, such a thing as divorce looks more than bearable.

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Hopefully, you found this article useful for you.

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Last Updated on July 18, 2019

10 Small Changes To Make Your House Feel Like A Home

10 Small Changes To Make Your House Feel Like A Home

Your house is more than just a building that you live in. It should be a home that makes you feel welcome as soon as you open the front door.

Making your house feel like a home is not something that simply happens on its own. You need to make some changes to a house when you move in, to give it that cozy, warm feeling that turns it into a true home. To help you speed the process, follow this guide to 10 small changes to make your house feel like a home.

1. Make the Windows Your Own

When you move into a home, they often come with boring Venetian blinds or less than attractive curtains.

One of the best ways you can instantly warm your home and make it showcase your style is to add some new window dressing. Adding beautiful curtains not only improves your home’s appearance, but it can also help to control the temperature.

2. Put up Some Art

If you have a lot of bare walls in your home, it will seem sterile no matter how beautiful your paint or wallpaper is.

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Hanging art on the walls will instantly give it personality and make it feel like home.

3. Improve the Aroma

A house that is not filled with inviting smells will never feel like a home. There are loads of ways you can make your home smell nice. There are tons of air fresheners on the market you can use.

Incense and scented candles are a nice option as well. Don’t forget that baking in a home is also a great way to fill it with an aroma that instantly smells like home as soon as you open the front door.

4. Put out Lots of Pillows and Throws

A great way to make your home look warm and inviting is to place lots of pillows and throws out on the furniture. It is much better to have too many pillows than not enough.

There is nothing like the feeling of sinking into a cushiony pillow that feels like a cloud to make you feel like you are at home.

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5. Instantly Class up Your Closet

If your closet is filled with wire or plastic hangers, it will never truly feel homey. To instantly make your closet feel classy, change out your old hangers for wooden ones.

Not only do they look great, but they are better for hanging your clothes as well.

6. Improve Your Air Quality

One of the most overlooked ways to make your house feel more like a home is to improve its air quality.

The easiest and best way to upgrade the air quality in your home is to change the old, dirty filters in your furnace regularly. Get some air filters delivered to your home so that you always have some on hand.

7. Fill it with Plants

Another way to improve the air quality in your home is to fill it with plants. You should have plants in every room of your home.

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They help to improve the air quality and they look beautiful. As well as making your home appear homier, plants also help to boost your mood and lower your stress levels.

8. Change the Doorknobs

Most people don’t really give their doorknobs a second thought unless they are broken. That is a shame because changing your doorknobs is an easy way to add personality to your home.

Changing your old, boring doorknobs to new ones that are works of art will instantly brighten your home.

9. Upgrade Your Tub or Shower

There is nothing like luxuriating in a whirlpool bath or steam shower to make the cares of the day melt away. Your family deserves a bit of luxury when they are in their bathroom.

Install a new shower or tub today to make your bathroom worthy of a place in your home.

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10. Fresh Cut Flowers

You can make any room in your house feel homier by placing a vase full of beautiful flowers in it. The gorgeous look and intoxicating aroma of fresh cut flowers will immediately brighten your day when you encounter them.

You don’t have to make all these changes at once. Try one or two a day though, and your house will feel like a home before you know it. The trick is to constantly keep adding these homey touches to make your home a place worthy of its name.

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