After a long winter, I bet many of us are excited about the summer sun and the ability to get that light tan we have always wanted. Summer is a time for patio coffees and garden parties. This means we tend to plan our weekends and weekdays around the weather. The sun brings a smile to our faces. However, things change when the weather takes a turn.
Imagine this: it’s a sunny morning and you’re all ready to have fun in the sun. You have your books ready, your summer dress on, and your peep-toe platforms covering the soles of your feet. However, the bright sky turns dark and sully all of a sudden. All you can do is watch through your window as it begins to pour cats and dogs.
What do you do? Here are a few ways to cozy up and make that rainy day an amazing day.
1. Stock up on interesting TV series.
This may be an obvious one, but this may just be the only time where you’re uninterrupted and can blame a lack of productivity on the bad weather. House of Cards and Game of Thrones could be your saviors for the dull day ahead, or you could opt for a classic series like Friends or the all-time favorite Fresh Prince of Bel Air.
The poor weather offers you an opportunity to calm down and indulge in something that has nothing to do with your everyday responsibilities. It’s a healthy way to divert your mind and spend some time with a loved one. Add a thick blanket and a glass of wine and you’re good to go for an evening of self-indulgence and pampering.
2. Take up a cooking project.
Cooking is a fun activity for a rainy evening because it’s a chance to relax and treat yourself. For those who love cooking, it could be a time to experiment. The simple dicing of onions and sizzling of a pan can be incredibly satisfying.
Those who aren’t so passionate about cooking might find it a challenge. However, they might also discover a hidden side to their personality that they might not have explored if weren’t for the rain. Discovering your inner chef is something everyone should experience. It can give you a new level of confidence.
3. Contact your loved ones.
As we grow older, we begin to gather more and more responsibility. Our lives become a routine or an adventure where we are focused on our next goal. We forget to keep in touch with the past. We remember and reminisce, yet we fail to keep in touch. We forget that even our loved ones age.
Take advantage of a rainy day to ring up your parents and have a long conversation with them. This call might be something you remember forever. A rainy day with no plans is a perfect time to share your stories and listen to their stories, which they would probably love to share.
4. Sleep it off.
We all love sleeping. It’s the one time where our mind and body are truly at peace. It’s the moment where the worries of tomorrow stay in the future. However, in today’s busy world, we are all lacking sleep. We are up at the break of dawn. We make our coffee and start creating the checklist for the day as soon as we rise. The truth is that we all hate leaving our warm beds and forcing ourselves into the shower.
This rainy day might just be your day to catch up on your well-deserved sleep. In my opinion, a rainy day sleep is the best sleep one can get. Just cozy up under your blankets with a pillow and block reality from your mind. Close your eyes and head towards dreamland.
Having high self-esteem is important if you are aiming for personal or professional success. Interestingly, most people will high levels of self-esteem act in similar ways. That’s why it’s often easy to pick them out in a crowd. There’s something about the way they hold themselves and speak, isn’t there?
We all have different hopes, dreams, experiences, and paths, but confidence has its own universal language. This list will present some of the things you won’t find yourself doing if you have high self-esteem.
1. Compare Yourself to Others
People with low self-esteem are constantly comparing their situation to others. On the other hand, people with higher self-esteem show empathy and compassion while also protecting their own sanity. They know how much they can handle and when they can offer a helping hand.
In the age of social media, however, social comparisons are nearly ubiquitous. One study found that “participants who used Facebook most often had poorer trait self-esteem, and this was mediated by greater exposure to upward social comparisons on social media”. Basically, you will feel worse about yourself if you are constantly getting glimpses into lives that you consider to be better than yours.
Try to limit your time on social media. Also, when you do start scrolling, keep in mind that each profile is carefully crafted to create the appearance of a perfect life. Check yourself when you find yourself wishing for greener grass.
2. Be Mean-Spirited
People with low self-esteem bully others. They take pleasure in putting other people down. People with positive self-esteem see no need to down other people, choosing instead to encourage and celebrate successes.
If you find that you feel the need to put others down, analyze where that’s coming from. If they’ve had success in life, help them feel good about that achievement. They may do the same for you one day.
3. Let Imperfection Ruin Your Day
Perfectionism isn’t necessarily a bad thing, but obsessing over making everything perfect is a sign that you have low self-esteem and can lead to never-ending negative thoughts. This can turn into an inability to solve problems creatively, which will only make self-esteem issues worse.
Those with high self-esteem disconnect from the results and do their best without expecting perfection.
People with that kind of confidence understand that messing up is a part of life and that each time they aim and miss success, they’ll at least learn something along the way.
If you miss the mark, or if your plan doesn’t work out exactly as you would have liked, take a deep breath and see if you can pivot in order to do better next time.
4. Dwell on Failure
It’s common to hear people dwelling on all the ways things will go wrong. They are positive that their every failure signals an impossible task or an innate inability to do something. People with healthy self-esteem discover why they failed and try again.
People with higher levels of confidence also tend to adopt a growth mindset. This type of thinking supports the idea that most of your abilities can be improved and altered, as opposed to being fixed.
For example, instead of saying, “I’m just not good at math; that’s why I did bad on the test,” someone with a growth mindset would say, “Math is difficult for me, so I’ll have to put in some more practice to improve next time.”
Next time you experience a failure, check out this video to help you believe in yourself again:
5. Devalue Your Self-Esteem
People with high self-esteem value their own perception of themselves – they understand that they come first and don’t feel guilty about taking care of themselves. They believe charity starts within, and if they don’t believe that, they’ll never have a healthy self-image.
Self-care is often top of the priority list for people with self-esteem. For some ways to practice self-care, check out this article.
6. Try to Please Others
They can’t please all the people all the time, so confident people first focus on doing what will make them feel fulfilled and happy. While they will politely listen to others’ thoughts and advice, they know that their goals and dreams have to be completed on their own terms.
7. Close Yourself off
Confident people have the ability to be vulnerable. It’s those with poor self-esteem that hide all the best parts of themselves behind an emotional wall. Instead of keeping the real you a secret, be open and honest in all your dealings.
As Brené Brown, author of Daring Greatly, points out, “Vulnerability is about showing up and being seen”. When you embrace each facet of who you are and allow others to see them as well, it will create deeper, more meaningful connections in your life. When that happens, you’ll realize that perfection doesn’t lead to people liking you more.
You can learn more about the power of vulnerability in this TED talk with Brené Brown:
8. Follow and Avoiding Leading
People with low self-esteem don’t believe they can lead, so they end up following others, sometimes into unhealthy situations. Rather than seeking a sense of belonging, people with high self-esteem walk their own paths and create social circles that build them up.
9. Fish for Compliments
If you’re constantly seeking compliments, you’re not confident. People with high self-esteem always do their best (and go out of their way to do good deeds) because it’s what they want to do, not because they’re seeking recognition. If you need to hear compliments, say them to yourself in the mirror.
You can even try some positive affirmations if you need a confidence boost. Check out these affirmations to get started.
10. Be Lazy
People work harder when they have high self-esteem because they’re not bogged down by doubts and complaints. Those with low self-esteem end up procrastinating and wasting their energy thinking about all the work they have to do rather than rolling up their sleeves and just getting it done.
This may also bounce off perfectionism. Perfectionists often feel intimidated by certain projects if they fear that they won’t be able to complete them perfectly. Tap into your confidence and simply do your best without worrying about a perfect outcome.
11. Shy Away from Risks
When you trust yourself, you’ll be willing to participate more in life. People with low self-esteem are always on the sidelines, waiting for the perfect moment to jump in. Instead of letting life pass you by, have confidence in your success and take the risks necessary to succeed.
People with low self-esteem are always in other peoples’ business – they’re more interested in what everyone else is doing than themselves. People with high self-esteem are more interested in their own life and stay out of others’ affairs.
Instead of participating in idle gossip, talk about some positive news you heard recently, or that fascinating book you just finished. There’s plenty to talk about beyond what this or that person did wrong in their life.
The Bottom Line
Self-esteem is to success in life. People who maintain a healthy level of self-esteem believe in themselves and push themselves to succeed, while those with low confidence feel a sense of entitlement.
If you need a boost in your self-image and mental health, avoid negative self-talk and the other mistakes of people with low self-esteem. You’ll be amazed at the difference it makes.