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7 Things You Should Start Doing To Make This Your Best Summer Yet

7 Things You Should Start Doing To Make This Your Best Summer Yet

Summer is right around the corner. We want to make sure that we’re fully prepared to have the best few months ahead of us. Most of us are too busy finishing off our work projects or exams to think about what needs to be done beforehand, which usually leaves a lot of opportunities and experiences on the table.

Luckily, we’ve accumulated 7 things you should start doing now to make this your best summer yet.

1. Plan Ahead For Travel

The best prices for summer vacation packages was 2 months ago. But don’t worry, it’s never too late. As long as you’re not leaving in the next week, you can still find a lot of great deals online by taking some time to look.

Check out Hipmunk’s 90-Day price chart, which gives you the round-trip flight prices for your desired locations for the next 90 days.

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     2. Try Out A Foreign Language

    If your goal it to travel to a foreign country, it only makes sense to learn a new language. Whether your goal is to travel to South America, Asia, Europe, etc., your experience can be much more enhanced by being able to communicate with the locals in the city. They can show you hot spots, you can build relationships, and live from the point of view of the locals, instead of depending on what journalists from the media outlets share online.

    Check out this free Learn a Language Challenge, which offers you 10 new most common words in your target language every morning (5 mins/day), or if you want to improve your speaking skills, check out Rype.

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      3. Get Your Finances In Order

      With all this talk of travel, we should naturally discuss getting your personal finances in order, because none of what we want to do in the summer can be done without it.

      If you’ve been going out every night to eat and overspending on things you don’t urgently need, it’s probably time to start saving. This isn’t us trying to sound like naggers, but it’s just reality. If you want to travel, enjoy new experiences, and have the best summer yet, it’s going to take money.

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      Check out Mint.com which integrates all of your bank accounts for you, and gives you a visual analysis of your expenses, income, and investments in one place.

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        4. Get Your Health Right

        Nothing works without your health. If you’ve been putting off getting in shape and eating healthy, it’s time to reconsider.

        One incentive is to be able to hit the beach this summer without shame, but the bigger incentive is to have more energy in your daily life. Energy gives us motivation to take on new challenges, learn new skills, and continue to be active throughout our day, week, and month ahead.

        Check out the 7-minute workout, which helps you go through over a dozen different exercises within a span of 7 minutes. Now everyone has the time to get in shape, no matter how busy you are.

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          5. Make the Most Out of Networking Opportunities

          With summer coming around the corner, the opportunity to network with the people you want to meet is shrinking – at least until the end of summer. It’s likely that whoever you want to meet is also going on vacation or taking time off networking to spend time with family and friends, so you should reach out to whoever you need to beforehand.

          Take 15 minutes a day in the morning, afternoon, or evening to reach out to someone you respect, and ask them for a quick coffee while you still can.

          6. Learn a New Skill

          The best part about summer time is not just rejuvenation, but recreation. Recreation of your goals, your knowledge, and skillsets to increase your chances of advancing your career and becoming more valuable in the marketplace.

          Time is always of the essence, so check out these tips on how to learn faster. In summary, we just have to make sure that we’re not multitasking, modeling the best out there, and being persistent with our daily practice habits.

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          Learning how to code? Code something everyday.
          Learning a new language? Practice everyday with a native speaker.
          Learning how to write? Get up and write everyday.

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            7. Re-Connect With Old Friends

            Even the best experiences can’t be fully enjoyed without friends and family around us. Is there an old friend that you’ve lost touch with due to work constraints and other obligations? It happens to all of us, and there’s nothing to be ashamed of, as long as you can take action.

            Before summer kicks off, message or call up an old friend, and use the next few months to connect together.

            Which of these tips will you take action on to make this the best summer yet?

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            How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

            How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

            For all our social media bravado, we live in a society where communication is seen less as an art, and more as a perfunctory exercise. We spend so much time with people, yet we struggle with how to meaningfully communicate.

            If you believe you have mastered effective communication, scan the list below and see whether you can see yourself in any of the examples:

            Example 1

            You are uncomfortable with a person’s actions or comments, and rather than telling the individual immediately, you sidestep the issue and attempt to move on as though the offending behavior or comment never happened.

            You move on with the relationship and develop a pattern of not addressing challenging situations. Before long, the person with whom you are in relationship will say or do something that pushes you over the top and predictably, you explode or withdraw completely from the relationship.

            In this example, hard-to-speak truths become never- expressed truths that turn into resentment and anger.

            Example 2

            You communicate from the head and without emotion. While what you communicate makes perfect sense to you, it comes across as cold because it lacks emotion.

            People do not understand what motivates you to say what you say, and without sharing your feelings and emotions, others experience you as rude, cold or aggressive.

            You will know this is a problem if people shy away from you, ignore your contributions in meetings or tell you your words hurt. You can also know you struggle in this area if you find yourself constantly apologizing for things you have said.

            Example 3

            You have an issue with one person, but you communicate your problem to an entirely different person.

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            The person in whom you confide lacks the authority to resolve the matter troubling you, and while you have vented and expressed frustration, the underlying challenge is unresolved.

            Example 4

            You grew up in a family with destructive communication habits and those habits play out in your current relationships.

            Because you have never stopped to ask why you communicate the way you do and whether your communication style still works, you may lack understanding of how your words impact others and how to implement positive change.

            If you find yourself in any of the situations described above, this article is for you.

            Communication can build or decimate worlds and it is important we get it right. Regardless of your professional aspirations or personal goals, you can improve your communication skills if you:

            • Understand your own communication style
            • Tailor your style depending on the needs of the audience
            • Communicate with precision and care
            • Be mindful of your delivery, timing and messenger

            1. Understand Your Communication Style

            To communicate effectively, you must understand the communication legacy passed down from our parents, grandparents or caregivers. Each of us grew up with spoken and unspoken rules about communication.

            In some families, direct communication is practiced and honored. In other families, family members are encouraged to shy away from difficult conversations. Some families appreciate open and frank dialogue and others do not. Other families practice silence about substantive matters, that is, they seldom or rarely broach difficult conversations at all.

            Before you can appreciate the nuance required in communication, it helps to know the familial patterns you grew up with.

            2. Learn Others Communication Styles

            Communicating effectively requires you to take a step back, assess the intended recipient of your communication and think through how the individual prefers to be communicated with. Once you know this, you can tailor your message in a way that increases the likelihood of being heard. This also prevents you from assuming the way you communicate with one group is appropriate or right for all groups or people.

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            If you are unsure how to determine the styles of the groups or persons with whom you are interacting, you can always ask them:

            “How do you prefer to receive information?”

            This approach requires listening, both to what the individuals say as well as what is unspoken. Virgin Group CEO Richard Branson noted that the best communicators are also great listeners.

            To communicate effectively from relationship to relationship and situation to situation, you must understand the communication needs of others.

            3. Exercise Precision and Care

            A recent engagement underscored for me the importance of exercising care when communicating.

            On a recent trip to Ohio, I decided to meet up with an old friend to go for a walk. As we strolled through the soccer park, my friend gently announced that he had something to talk about, he was upset with me. His introduction to the problem allowed me to mentally shift gears and prepare for the conversation.

            Shortly after introducing the shift in conversation, my friend asked me why I didn’t invite him to the launch party for my business. He lives in Ohio and I live in the D.C. area.

            I explained that the event snuck up on me, and I only started planning the invite list three weeks before the event. Due to the last-minute nature of the gathering, I opted to invite people in the DMV area versus my friends from outside the area – I didn’t want to be disrespectful by asking them to travel on such short notice.

            I also noted that I didn’t want to be disappointed if he and others declined to come to the event. So I played it safe in terms of inviting people who were local.

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            In the moment, I felt the conversation went very well. I also checked in with my friend a few days after our walk, affirmed my appreciation for his willingness to communicate his upset and our ability to work through it.

            The way this conversation unfolded exemplified effective communication. My friend approached me with grace and vulnerability. He approached me with a level of curiosity that didn’t put me on my heels — I was able to really listen to what he was saying, apologize for how my decision impacted him and vow that going forward, I would always ask rather than making decisions for him and others.

            Our relationship is intact, and I now have information that will help me become a better friend to him and others.

            4. Be Mindful of Delivery, Timing and Messenger

            Communicating effectively also requires thinking through the delivery of the message one intends to communicate as well as the appropriate time for the discussion.

            In an Entrepreneur.com column, VIP Contributor Deep Patel, noted that persons interested in communicating well need to master the art of timing. Patel noted,[1]

            “Great comedians, like all great communicators, are able to feel out their audience to determine when to move on to a new topic or when to reiterate an idea.”

            Communicating effectively also requires thoughtfulness about the messenger. A person prone to dramatic, angry outbursts should never be called upon to deliver constructive feedback, especially to people whom they do not know. The immediate aftermath of a mass shooting is not the ideal time to talk about the importance of the Second Amendment rights.

            Like everyone else, I must work to ensure my communication is layered with precision and care.

            It requires precision because words must be carefully tailored to the person with whom you are speaking.

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            It requires intentionality because before one communicates, one should think about the audience and what the audience needs in order to hear your message the way you intended it to be communicated.

            It requires active listening which is about hearing verbal and nonverbal messages.

            Even though we may be right in what we say, how we say it could derail the impact of the message and the other parties’ ability to hear the message.

            Communicating with care is also about saying things that the people in our life need to hear and doing so with love.

            The Bottom Line

            When I left the meeting with my dear friend, I wondered if I was replicating or modeling this level of openness and transparency in the rest of my relationships.

            I was intrigued and appreciative. He’d clearly thought about what he wanted to say to me, picked the appropriate time to share his feedback and then delivered it with care. He hit the ball out of the park and I’m hopeful we all do the same.

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