“Life takes you to unexpected places, love brings you home.” — Melissa McClone
Owning a home gives a great sense of pride since it marks your independence. It is home where you make most of your happy memories. But home is not something that remains the same forever.
Like everything else, it ages and weathers down. There are always things in and around your beloved home that need continuous improvement for it to be the home you want it to be.
You should definitely spend some time on home improvement projects. We have put together a list of some simple and great DIY ideas for home improvement.
Without a doubt, painting your home comes first on the list of things to do for home improvement. Paint is what makes the home look alive while also keeping it from deteriorating over time.
You’ve got plenty of walls and ceilings to paint with your favorite colors. If painting seems like too tough a job for you, you could also try wallpaper. There are all kinds of wallpapers available on the market that are easy to apply, remove, and reuse.Advertising
Space for storage is never enough in the kitchen, and things seem to constantly add up. Creative use of the space in your kitchen can boost the storage. Take advantage of corners and walls with open shelves to keep spices, dishes, and cookware within easy reach.
Rollouts multiply the storage significantly by using the wasted space inside cabinets to create space for your cutlery, dishes, and everything else. Make it your weekend project to decorate your shelves and cabinetry with the best decorative ideas you have. If you are crafty enough, you can even try building a wine rack.
Having a swimming pool in your yard is great. You can spend some quality time there, but it can also be dangerous — especially if there are little kids in the family. For pool owners, fencing the pool should be on top of the to-do list for home improvement.
Different types of DIY pool fences are available on the market and they can be easily installed without much hassle.
Changing small details can mean big differences in your bathroom. Check the bath fixtures and change them when it feels like they need to be replaced.
Some simple changes you can make to upgrade your bathroom could be changing the faucet or installing a new shower head (perhaps a handheld or a sliding bar shower head to make quick adjustment for different heights, from adults to small children). Try mounting your old CD organizers on the wall to organize your hygiene products, or install an extra shower rod with shower hooks to keep your scrubbers available and within easy reach.
You don’t always have to add or remove things to change the look of your home. Moving things around can give your home a different feel. Start with one room at a time.
Rearrange the bookshelves. Move your chair to a different corner. Move your bed next to the window so you can see the stars at night. You could also try moving the extra table to another room. You’ll be surprised to see how these simple changes can alter your mindset.
Change your doorknobs and cabinet pulls to give them a new look. Changing them all at once might get expensive, so do it one at a time, making it one of your weekend home improvement projects.Advertising
When you install new doorknobs, the old ones needn’t go to waste. Use them in the bathroom as hangers for your robes and towels. All you need is a screwdriver and it’ll be done in no time.
Add details to your entryway to make it inviting. Put a nice welcome mat and keep potted plants on the sides near the entrance. Dress the door with accessories and new hardware, like a grand set of pulls and a caller. Install outdoor lighting to enhance your home’s appeal.
Adding these little details to your entrance gives it a distinct personality and makes a lasting impression on guests.
Your home’s exterior can make up half of what you call home, so it most definitely cannot be neglected. Craft the landscape beautifully to add elegance to your home.
Well-laid turf is always an inviting sight. Plants and flowers make it feel fresh and lively and evergreen screens make your garden and backyard look elegant. Build raised flower beds to plant beautiful flowers. Drought-tolerant plants that last all year round are a good idea rather than using seasonal plants. Routine trimming and cutting are obvious jobs in the garden.Advertising
There is nothing more important than a good, safe, secure home. A home is no home unless it gives you a sense of safety and security. So, home security is as important as anything else on your to-do list for home improvement.
Installing a burglar alarm and surveillance cameras could be a good idea to secure your property. Remember to check the systems routinely and learn how to set them up on your own — just in case.
This is worth your time and money because it will give you a sense of security and allow you sleep peacefully at night with the knowledge that your property is secure.
If there are places in the house where the lighting is not ample, paint these areas with bright colors and install electric lights. If your closets look like they could use some light, set up Christmas lights around the edges of the doors. Install halogen track lights on the walls to add light where you need it. Install lights with dimmer switches to take control of the mood. Lighting up your home properly at nights gives it a distinct personality and creates a lively ambiance.
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Last Updated on July 10, 2020
How to Take Control of Your Life with Better Boundaries
We all have them—those hurtful, frustrating, offensive, manipulative people in our lives. No matter how hard we try to surround ourselves with positive and kind people, there will always be those who will disrespect, insult, berate, and misuse you if we allow them to.
We may, for a variety of reasons, not be able to avoid them, but we can determine how we interact with them and how we allow them to interact with us.
So, how to take control of your life and stop being pushed around?
Learning to set clear firm boundaries with the people in our lives at work and in our personal lives is the best way to protect ourselves from the negative effects of this kind of behavior.
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What Boundaries Are (And What They’re Not)
Boundaries are limits
—they are not threats or ultimatums. Boundaries inform or teach. They are not a form of punishment.
Boundaries are firm lines—determined by you—which cannot be crossed by those around you. They are guidelines for how you will allow others to treat you and what kind of behaviors you will expect.
Healthy personal boundaries help protect you from physical or emotional pain. You may also need to set firm boundaries at work to ensure you and your time are not disrespected. Don’t allow others to take advantage of your kindness and generosity.
Clear boundaries communicate to others that you demand respect and consideration—that you are willing to stand up for yourself and that you will not be a doormat for anyone. They are a “no trespassing” sign that makes it very clear when a line has been crossed and that there will be consequences for doing so.
Boundaries are not set with the intention of changing other people. They may change how people interact with you, but they are more about enforcing your needs than attempting to change the general behavior and attitude of others.
How to Establish Boundaries and Take Control of Your Life
Here are some ways that you can establish boundaries and take control of your life.
1. Self-Awareness Comes First
Before you can establish boundaries with others, you first need to understand what your needs are.
You are entitled to respect. You have the right to protect yourself from inappropriate or offensive behavior. Setting boundaries is a way of honoring your needs.
To set appropriate boundaries, you need to be clear about what healthy behaviors look like—what healthy relationships look like.
You first have to become more aware of your feelings and honest with yourself about your expectations and what you feel is appropriate behavior:
- Where do you need to establish better boundaries?
- When do you feel disrespected?
- When do you feel violated, frustrated, or angered by the behavior of others?
- In what situations do you feel you are being mistreated or taken advantage of?
- When do you want to be alone?
- How much space do you need?
You need to honor your own needs and boundaries before you can expect others to honor them. This allows you to take control of your life.
2. Clear Communication Is Essential
Inform others clearly and directly what your expectations are. It is essential to have clear communication if you want others to respect your boundaries. Explain in an honest and respectful tone what you find offensive or unacceptable.
Many people simply aren’t aware that they are behaving inappropriately. They may never have been taught proper manners or consideration for others.
3. Be Specific but Don’t Blame
Taking a blaming or punishing attitude automatically puts people on the defensive. People will not listen when they feel attacked. It’s part of human nature.
That said, you do not need to overexplain or defend yourself. Boundaries are not open to compromise.
- “You may not…yell or raise your voice to me…”
- “I need…to be treated with respect…”
- “It’s not okay when…you take things from my desk without asking…”
- “I won’t…do your work…cover for you anymore…”
- “It’s not acceptable when…you ridicule or insult me…”
- “I am uncomfortable when…you use offensive language”
- “I will no longer be able to…lend you money…”
Being able to communicate these without sounding accusatory is essential if you want others to respect your boundaries so you can take control of your life.
4. Consequences Are Often Necessary
Determine what the appropriate consequences will be when boundaries are crossed. If it’s appropriate, be clear about those consequences upfront when communicating those boundaries to others.
Follow through. People won’t respect your boundaries if you don’t enforce them.
Standing our ground and forcing consequences doesn’t come easily to us. We want to be nice. We want people to like us, but we shouldn’t have to trade our self-respect to gain friends or to achieve success.
We may be tempted to let minor disrespect slide to avoid conflict, but as the familiar saying goes, “if you give people an inch, they’ll take a mile.”
It’s much easier to address offensive or inappropriate behavior now than to wait until that behavior has gotten completely out of hand.
It’s also important to remember that positive reinforcement is even more powerful than negative consequences. When people do alter the way they treat you, acknowledge it. Let people know that you notice and appreciate their efforts.
Respect is always a valid reason for setting a boundary. Don’t defend yourself or your needs. Boundaries are often necessary to protect your time, your space, and your feelings. And these are essential if you want to take control of your life.
Start with the easiest boundaries first. Setting boundaries is a skill that needs to be practiced. Enlist support from others if necessary. Inform people immediately when they have crossed the line.
Don’t wait. Communicate politely and directly. Be clear about the consequences and follow them through.
The better you become at setting your own boundaries, the better you become at recognizing and respecting the boundaries of others.
Remember that establishing boundaries is your right. You are entitled to respect. You can’t control how other people behave, but you do have control over the way you allow people to treat you.
Learning to set boundaries is not always easy, but with time, it will become more comfortable. You may eventually find that boundaries become automatic and you no longer need to consciously set them.
They will simply become a natural extension of your self-respect.
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