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5 Hacks For Travelling With Children

5 Hacks For Travelling With Children

When you were younger, you probably had that flight with kids — the wonderful flight where you were stuck next to some crying infant for three hours and ended up fantasizing about punting the child off the plane.

Well, now you have children and are worried about inflicting that experience on other passengers. And even if you are not flying, a several-hour car ride with children can be a frustrating experience without preparation.

Here are five methods which any parent can use to ensure that a long trip becomes an unmemorable, ordinary trip where your children don’t find new ways to surprise you.

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1. Prepare in advance

If you are taking a long trip, it does not matter how you get there. Every minute you waste trying to find a flight or hotel room or gas station is a minute more your child spends in transportation and a minute more where they get crankier.

Book your flight and hotel room in advance instead of driving around at 8 PM trying to find the next decent hotel. If you are driving, plan your rest stops in advance and liven things up by finding a park or roadside attraction so the kids will be entertained by visiting someplace new.

2. Don’t pack sugar

You will want snacks for your children to keep them occupied. Lifehacker recommends that you should offer milk, juice, or gummy worms to small children during the beginning and end of a flight to relieve them of the discomfort of changing air pressure. Older children can chew gum.

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But sugar means active kids, and you don’t want your kids to be hyper whether they are sitting in a plane or car. Cheerios are a good snack choice, as is fruit or crackers. Try to give your children their own containers so there are no conflicts over sharing.

3. Be mindful of airport security

The above notice on bringing milk and juice on a flight may be confusing given TSA regulations on liquids. But the TSA website does note that “formula, breast milk and juice for infants or toddlers are permitted through the security checkpoint.” In order to get it through, notify a TSA officer in advance and they will screen your child’s drinks with an X-ray.

Also, make sure that children are aware they need to go through security, and treat it like a little game to keep them interested. Children under 12 can keep shoes and light jackets on, but their toys and favorite items must be placed on the X-ray belt, and no toiletries, like soaps and shampoos, are allowed through most airport security checks. Make sure your child understands they can get their teddy bear back in just a bit so that they do not throw a tantrum upon being separated. If your child cannot walk, then you will need to hold them as you walk through the metal detector.

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Perhaps most important of all is to make sure that your children understand that making “I have a gun” jokes towards airport security is never acceptable. Make it clear that such a joke could see their vacation delayed or even outright cancelled, as a parent could pay a fine for the child’s mistake.

4. Keep them entertained

Obviously, you want to bring some toys, coloring books, or other items to keep the kids distracted during the trip. But there are things you can do to ensure they stay occupied and quiet over the next few hours.

If you have multiple children, try to have enough distractions for everyone. For example, multiple small coloring pencil packs is better than one large set, because it will make it less likely that your kids will fight over one particular color.

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An iPad or tablet can have plenty of apps or games which can keep the kids distracted for a while, but don’t depend on that or DVDs alone. Make sure they have non-technological pursuits as well, and keep the entertainment varied so your child can move from one form of entertainment to the next.

5. Do NOT drug your children

I think it is ridiculous that I even need to write this section, but there are a growing number of parents who believe that sedating their children before a long flight is acceptable. It is not.

Over-the-counter medicines such as Benadryl can have unpredictable and dangerous effects when used on very young children. As the BBC notes, the chair of the American Academy on Pediatricians observed that many of the drugs used to sedate kids are not actually designed to do so, but do it as a side effect.

If you do intend to use drugs, at least test it on your child before using it on the plane. The last thing you want is to give your child a new drug, only for the child to have an adverse reaction while you are thousands of feet up in the air.

Featured photo credit: David D via flickr.com

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Published on September 21, 2018

11 Smart Pieces of Advice to Help You Thrive as a Single Mother

11 Smart Pieces of Advice to Help You Thrive as a Single Mother

Becoming a mother is one of the most difficult challenges a woman can take on in her life. Whether this happens the “natural” way, with the help of science, or through adoption, being in charge of nurturing another human being is a herculean task to take on.

Typically, when we think about parenthood, we imagine two parents sharing the responsibility and having each other to lean on. However, according to the 2016 U.S. Census Bureau, 1 in 4 children under the age of 18 are being raised by a single mother.[1] This is a significant portion of the population that often gets overlooked.

If you are one of these mothers raising your children on your own, you are undoubtedly aware of the additional challenges that motherhood has placed upon you, including the constant struggle to find sufficient time, energy, money, and support.

For single mothers who find themselves bogged down by their daily responsibilities and struggle to stay afloat, don’t be fooled by the belief that you have to do all. It is possible to thrive and live as a single mother if you take advantage of all available resources and adjust your priorities based on your situation.

1. Find your community and ask for help

As the sole caretaker of your kids, going through the successes and struggles of parenthood can feel isolating and lonely. You have probably developed a strong sense of independence because you’ve had to go at it alone.

Being self-reliant is necessary in many situations that you have to face, but do not fool yourself into thinking that you don’t need support from others. If you have family nearby, strengthen your relationship with them by visiting and talking more often. Find time to catch up with old friends or co-workers, and don’t assume they don’t want to hang out if they are not parents themselves.

Would you prefer finding mom friends[2] who have more in common with you? Use resources like apps, Facebook groups, and community events to meet local moms in your area.

After you have established a support group that you can depend on, don’t be afraid to ask for help. It is NOT a sign of weakness or incompetency to admit you can’t do it all, and others are probably more willing to lend a hand than you think.

If you feel uncomfortable burdening others, suggest trading favors such as taking turns babysitting. Because after all, helping is each other is what community is all about.

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2. Make peace with the past

Before you can move forward, you must make peace with your past and not let it define you or rule your life. Whether your journey to single motherhood was through divorce, death, or never having a relationship the father, it is crucial that you leave behind the feelings of abandonment or betrayal you may be struggling with.

You cannot change the past and the hurt you had to endure, but you can use the strength that you gained from overcoming those obstacles to work towards making the best life for yourself and your child. Learn from the past but live in the present and look towards the future.

3. Make plans and set goals

The daily repetition of trying to balance work and home life can make you feel like you are on operating on autopilot. However, it is imperative to set goals for yourself and to keep working towards self-improvement.

In your personal life, you can set a fitness goal (train for a 5k), a reading goal (read 20 books in a year), or a travel goal (take a trip to Europe). At your job, you can set career goals such as gain leadership experience, get a promotion, or earn a degree or certificate.

Spend time creating a realistic plan to on how you can go about achieving these goals. Not only will working towards these goals make you a more well-rounded and successful person, they will bring more purpose and fulfillment to your life.

4. Look for role models

A great way to jump start your plans for the future is to find a role model or mentor who is further along in their life or career experience. This person can be a great resource when you need guidance on what types of goals to set for yourself and how to achieve them.

It’s also important to have people to turn to for encouragement during difficult seasons of life. Someone who has been through it before can provide the most genuine reassurance that tough times will get better and that staying positive is best approach.

5. Rethink your priorities

Single parents have twice as many responsibilities to take care of, so priorities and expectations must be adjusted accordingly.

Know that you are not superwoman and striving for a perfectly clean home, no dirty laundry, and home-cooked meals for your kids every day is not a reasonable expectation. It’s okay to take shortcuts sometimes, like serving your kids cereal for dinner or waiting until the next day to wash the dishes.

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Don’t compare yourself to anyone else and let go of the guilt that you feel for being the only parent that your kids can count on. Give yourself a break and don’t sweat the small stuff.

6. Make time for me time

Even though it can be difficult to find, making time for yourself is critical to maintaining your sanity and well-being. Without a built-in partner to take over, finding time to be away from the kids must be done intentionally and planned in advance.

If you are sharing custody, use the time away from your kids not only doing productive things but also making sure you are taking care of yourself. Sleep, exercise, and balanced diet are not things that can get pushed to the bottom of the priority list. Also make time for fun activities, such as hobbies and creative outlets.

Even though being a mother is the most important job you have, don’t let it be the only thing that defines you. Time for yourself is more difficult to find if you are the sole caretaker of your kids.

Use the resources that you have to devote time to self-care, and you and your kids will thank you for it in the long run.

7. Stay organized

With so many things to juggle, great organizational skills are an absolute must in order to keep everything moving smoothly. Use apps such as Mint for your finances, Mealime for meal planning, and Cozi as a family organizer for everything from appointments and shopping lists to after school activities.

Maintain constant contact if you are sharing custody so that it is clearly communicated who will be responsible for what when it comes to your kids. Follow consistent routines in the morning and nighttime so that your kids also know what to expect on a daily basis.

8. Be flexible (Don’t be a control freak)

Although it is important to be prepared and stay organized, things don’t always go according to plan.

When kids get sick and have to stay home or babysitters cancel at the last minute, allow for flexibility by having a contingency plan for childcare and with your employer.

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For example, make a list of people you can call when you need last minute childcare, or talk to your boss in advance about working from home when emergencies come up.

Most of all, don’t let unexpected changes stress you out and ruin your day.

9. Learn to say no (Don’t feel guilty)

Single mothers have limitations in time, energy and resources that families with two parents wouldn’t be able to understand. Because of these circumstances, it’s important you let go of feelings of guilt and stop trying to do everything and be everywhere.

You don’t have to say yes to every single birthday party your child is invited to. Your kids don’t have to be involved in sports and extracurricular activities every night of the week.

Limit the things you do to only the ones that are the most enjoyable and meaningful for you and your family. Doing more things does not make you a better mother; simply a more tired one.

10. Live within your means

When you have to raise your family on a single income, budgeting and spending within your means becomes more important than ever.

If you have outstanding debt that is accruing interest, make it a priority to pay those off as soon as possible. Outlining a budget is the best way to visualize how much money is being spent every month on various things and what is left over.

Find ways to save money on the necessities by looking for sales at the grocery store, buying some things secondhand, planning out meals.

After the necessary bills are paid, determine how much can be spent on luxury items such as eating out, vacations, and going to the movies.

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Don’t let finances be a source of anxiety for you and your family. Keep your bank account in good shape while teaching your kids how to spend money responsibly at the same time.

11. Spend quality time with your kids

The time you spend with your kids is so precious and much more limited as a single mother. Make the time that you spend with your kids count.

Rather than sitting in front of the TV, take them on fun and budget-friendly outings to the park, the playground, or a museum. Use meal times as the perfect excuse to ask them about what they are learning in school and the friends they spend time with.

When your kids ask you to play with them, look at it as a privilege and an opportunity to bond with them, rather than a distraction or waste of time. Be present when you are with them, with no work or multitasking on your mind. Your relationship with your kids will absolutely reap the benefits.

Final thoughts

Being a single mother is not an easy job. That’s why it’s important to use all the resources available to you in order to make this job a little bit easier.

Using technology, an organization system and a supportive community are just a few examples of things you should utilize to your benefit. It’s also important to shift your mindset and be more practical when it comes to things like priorities and finances.

Most of all, don’t forget about your own self care. Only when you take care of yourself can you best take care of the people you love.

Single mothers are some of the most hard-working people out there, and you deserve to have a happy and fulfilling life.

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