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How Blogging can Help You Find Your True Purpose in Life

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How Blogging can Help You Find Your True Purpose in Life

Coming of age is a gentle concept. We rush to the ocean, dye our hair blue and welcome the morning with bright eyes. Soon enough, colors start to wear thin, and what used to be ecstatic beauty of existence slowly turns into itchy uncertainty. Everything we knew becomes crooked, and we now stand on the crossroads. Our growing sorrows explode with confusion, our confusion demands answers, and those answers pursuit purpose. We no longer want the world, but inner silence and a piece of sky to call our own. And above all, we need meaning.

A Note to Ourselves

A writers desk with coffee

    So, you too have lived with no regrets. Eventually, you grew tired and decided to stay home. Tuesdays are gloomy now, the edgy bands you once rocked out to are mellow, and you can’t help but feeling disillusioned and nostalgic. There are some pages to be red, duties to be met and hard, hard choices to be made. Your friends have all set off, but that’s okay anyway, for the days of unending, flickering conversations are long gone. You now seek peace of art and self-reflection. “In order to write about life first you must live it.” Now that you’ve experienced it all, the time is right to make a new diary entry.

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    Virtual Thoughts

    You can’t stain it with coffee circles and damp it with tears, but a blog is still much more than a diary – you can share it. There’s comfort in connecting with others that share your newfound interests and struggles, and relief in touching their equally wearisome minds. Besides, you certainly have a lot to express, and you feel you’re not gifted enough. Well, there’s the beauty of writing for you! For writing, you don’t need any particular talents, only thoughts (and you already have legions of those) and a cup of black tea or coffee. Through written words, those thoughts get crystallized and the soul gets lighter.

    As a form of virtual self-expression, blogging offers an opportunity of voicing your opinions, reaching out to like-minded people and getting their feedback. The process of exchanging ideas is enlightening – it makes you dive deep into your soul and discover what makes you truly fascinated, inspired and happy. Here’s how.

    Creative Juices

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    Sharpened pencil

      Besides being a blank piece of paper for you to fill with your words of Weltschmerz, a blog offers plenty of barren space for all of your other unrivaled talents. Just think about how much time has passed since you’ve last had crayons in your hands! Well, building a personal blog is just like tinting a coloring book – revisit your inner child while creating a logo, designing a background and finding the perfect photo to symbolize your personality and mood. And that’s only the beginning! Whatever you choose to articulate through your blog, there’s someone out there looking to find it.

      If you’re feeling blue, publish a photography series of the ocean, sky and denim. If you’re feeling ingenious, film a short movie and ask for some creative output. When the day is dull and rainy, write about your love for mottled umbrellas. Consider your blog as your own, personal tabula rasa, and be daring enough to explore anything you currently feel passionate about. Sensing a new, tingling outburst of creativity will heal your messy mind.

      Exploring the Depth

      We do have a lot on our minds during the bumpy ride through our twenties. Our parents are getting weak and old, the migration crisis is a mess, and David Bowie had just died. Expressing our emotions and opinions is the only way to stay healthy and outgrow the overwhelming fuddle of our thoughts. But being a personal notebook of ideas, a blog is also a public meeting place. Every opinion you do shout will entice a response, and it may happen that some of them will not be well-minded. Nonetheless, it is a splendid opportunity for a discussion with yourself. While self-expressing is always mending, it becomes purposeful (and we all strive toward discovering our purpose) only when carefully thought-through.

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      So, before you share your statements with the world, take a second and really think about them. Explore the real meaning of the problem that’s been rocking your boat, read more about it and brainstorm constructive solutions. That way, writing a blog can help you develop your debate skills and learn more about the world that perplexes us more with each day. It’s a process of spiritual and empiric empowerment and self-improvement.

      A World of Possibilities

      Travel van ready to go

        You may not be tortured by your unyielding mind, but you must be lost in your soul-searching feat. Opening the new chapter in your life means reshaping your old interests and finding a solid ground. Discovering your place under the sun is possibly the hardest adventure you’ll embark on, but luckily, you’ll find that the world of possibilities awaits, and the only thing you’ll have to do is to pick one. Through blogging, you can tip your toes in all of them, and eventually, stick with the one that suites you the most. Now, you can keep pursuing your chosen field of interest and with that improve your knowledge and skills and develop your unique outlook. But, if you still haven’t found any, why not try them all?

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        If your mind is set on heart-shaped purses and lacy bralettes, start a fashion blog; if you can’t keep crying while watching The Perks of Being a Wallflower, explore your dilettante interest in cinematography; if the only place in the world you want to be in is a cafe in Montmartre, start writing about the joy of travelling. Running a blog allows you to be anyone you wish you were, to stumble upon new fascinating notions you haven’t considered before and – why not – recognize your true calling.

        Getting To Know the New You

        We grow up so suddenly and change so much that sometimes, it’s impossible to recognize the person looking back from the window reflection. There’s a whole new universe to discover, and on our path to personal fulfillment, it’s so easy to get stranded. A walk down the beach might help, but the summer is nowhere in sight and we are left alone with decisions, choices and commitments. With no one but yourself to keep you company, you’ll need to silence the clamor down and listen to your inner voice. There is, of course, a number of things to ease your restlessness, and believe it or not, all of them can be acquired through blogging.

        For starters, whatever you passionately blog about will reward you with inspiration that will rekindle your spirit and keep you motivated. While writing, you’ll ask important questions and come up with meaningful answers. Among your readers, you’ll find new, fascinating people that share your interests, challenge your thoughts and offer empathy and support. You can nurture your life calling or discover new ideas to feel enthusiastic about.

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        A blog is your personal ocean now, and it’s full of opportunities. Whether you’re feeling blue or excited, avoiding a big decision or simply passing your time, don’t spend a minute more on meaningless online procrastination. Blogging can actually lead you towards your true purpose, and if in the meantime you have some fun and enjoy meeting the person you’ve become, all the better!

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        10 Proven Ways to Judge a Person’s Character

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        10 Proven Ways to Judge a Person’s Character

        We all fall into the trap of judging a person’s character by their appearance. How wrong we are! All too often, the real character of the person only appears when some negative event hits them or you. Then you may see a toxic person emerging from the ruins and it is often a shock.

        A truly frightening example is revealed in the book by O’Toole in Bowman called Dangerous Instincts: How Gut Instincts Betray Us. A perfectly respectable, charming, well dressed neighbor was found to have installed a torture chamber in his garage where he was systematically abusing kidnapped women. This is an extreme example, but it does show how we can be totally deceived by a person’s physical appearance, manners and behavior.

        So, what can you do? You want to be able to assess personal qualities when you come into contact with colleagues, fresh acquaintances and new friends who might even become lifelong partners. You want to know if they are:

        • honest
        • reliable
        • competent
        • kind and compassionate
        • capable of taking the blame
        • able to persevere
        • modest and humble
        • pacific and can control anger.

        The secret is to reserve judgment and take your time. Observe them in certain situations; look at how they react. Listen to them talking, joking, laughing, explaining, complaining, blaming, praising, ranting, and preaching. Only then will you be able to judge their character. This is not foolproof, but if you follow the 10 ways below, you have a pretty good chance of not ending up in an abusive relationship.

        1. Is anger a frequent occurrence?

        All too often, angry reactions which may seem to be excessive are a sign that there are underlying issues. Do not think that every person who just snaps and throws his/her weight around mentally and physically is just reacting normally. Everyone has an occasional angry outburst when driving or when things go pear-shaped.

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        But if this is almost a daily occurrence, then you need to discover why and maybe avoid that person. Too often, anger will escalate to violent and aggressive behavior. You do not want to be near someone who thinks violence can solve personal or global problems.

        2. Can you witness acts of kindness?

        How often do you see this person being kind and considerate? Do they give money to beggars, donate to charity, do voluntary work or in some simple way show that they are willing to share the planet with about 7 billion other people?

        I was shocked when a guest of mine never showed any kindness to the weak and disadvantaged people in our town. She was ostensibly a religious person, but I began to doubt the sincerity of her beliefs.

        “The best index to a person’s character is how he treats people who can’t do him any good, and how he treats people who can’t fight back.”

        Abigail Van Buren

        3. How does this person take the blame?

        Maybe you know that s/he is responsible for a screw-up in the office or even in not turning up on time for a date. Look at their reaction. If they start blaming other colleagues or the traffic, well, this is an indication that they are not willing to take responsibility for their mistakes.

        4. Don’t use Facebook as an indicator.

        You will be relieved to know that graphology (the study of that forgotten skill of handwriting) is no longer considered a reliable test of a person’s character. Neither is Facebook stalking, fortunately. A study showed that Facebook use of foul language, sexual innuendo and gossip were not reliable indicators of a candidate’s character or future performance in the workplace.

        5. Read their emails.

        Now a much better idea is to read the person’s emails. Studies show that the use of the following can indicate certain personality traits:

        • Too many exclamation points may reveal a sunny disposition
        • Frequent errors may indicate apathy
        • Use of smileys is the only way a person can smile at you
        • Use of the third person may reveal a certain formality
        • Too many question marks can show anger
        • Overuse of capital letters is regarded as shouting. They are a definite no-no in netiquette, yet a surprising number of  people still use them.

        6. Watch out for the show offs.

        Listen to people as they talk. How often do they mention their achievements, promotions, awards and successes? If this happens a lot, it is a sure indication that this person has an over-inflated view of his/her achievements. They are unlikely to be modest or show humility. What a pity!  Another person to avoid.

        7. Look for evidence of perseverance.

        A powerful indicator of grit and tenacity is when a person persists and never gives up when they really want to achieve a life goal. Look for evidence of them keeping going in spite of enormous difficulties.

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        Great achievements by scientists and inventors all bear the hallmark of perseverance. We only have to think of Einstein, Edison (who failed thousands of times) and Nelson Mandela to get inspiration. The US Department of Education is in no doubt about how grit, tenacity and perseverance will be key success factors for youth in the 21st century.

        8. Their empathy score is high.

        Listen to how they talk about the less fortunate members of our society such as the poor, immigrants and the disabled. Do you notice that they talk in a compassionate way about these people? The fact that they even mention them is a strong indicator of empathy.

        People with zero empathy will never talk about the disadvantaged. They will rarely ask you a question about a difficult time or relationship. They will usually steer the conversation back to themselves. These people have zero empathy and in extreme cases, they are psychopaths who never show any feelings towards their victims.

        9. Learn how to be socially interactive.

        We are social animals and this is what makes us so uniquely human. If a person is isolated or a loner, this may be a negative indicator of their character. You want to meet a person who knows about trust, honesty and loyalty. The only way to practice these great qualities is to actually interact socially. The great advantage is that you can share problems and celebrate success and joy together.

        “One can acquire everything in solitude, except character.”

        Stendhal

         10. Avoid toxic people.

        These people are trying to control others and often are failing to come to terms with their own failures. Typical behavior and conversations may concern:

        • Envy or jealousy
        • Criticism of partners, colleagues and friends
        • Complaining about their own lack of success
        • Blaming others for their own bad luck or failure
        • Obsession with themselves and their problems

        Listen to these people talk and you will quickly discover that you need to avoid them at all costs because their negativity will drag you down. In addition, as much as you would like to help them, you are not qualified to do so.

        Now, having looked at some of the best ways to judge a person, what about yourself? How do others see you? Why not take Dr. Phil’s quiz and find out. Can you bear it?

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