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How Blogging can Help You Find Your True Purpose in Life

How Blogging can Help You Find Your True Purpose in Life

Coming of age is a gentle concept. We rush to the ocean, dye our hair blue and welcome the morning with bright eyes. Soon enough, colors start to wear thin, and what used to be ecstatic beauty of existence slowly turns into itchy uncertainty. Everything we knew becomes crooked, and we now stand on the crossroads. Our growing sorrows explode with confusion, our confusion demands answers, and those answers pursuit purpose. We no longer want the world, but inner silence and a piece of sky to call our own. And above all, we need meaning.

A Note to Ourselves

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    So, you too have lived with no regrets. Eventually, you grew tired and decided to stay home. Tuesdays are gloomy now, the edgy bands you once rocked out to are mellow, and you can’t help but feeling disillusioned and nostalgic. There are some pages to be red, duties to be met and hard, hard choices to be made. Your friends have all set off, but that’s okay anyway, for the days of unending, flickering conversations are long gone. You now seek peace of art and self-reflection. “In order to write about life first you must live it.” Now that you’ve experienced it all, the time is right to make a new diary entry.

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    Virtual Thoughts

    You can’t stain it with coffee circles and damp it with tears, but a blog is still much more than a diary – you can share it. There’s comfort in connecting with others that share your newfound interests and struggles, and relief in touching their equally wearisome minds. Besides, you certainly have a lot to express, and you feel you’re not gifted enough. Well, there’s the beauty of writing for you! For writing, you don’t need any particular talents, only thoughts (and you already have legions of those) and a cup of black tea or coffee. Through written words, those thoughts get crystallized and the soul gets lighter.

    As a form of virtual self-expression, blogging offers an opportunity of voicing your opinions, reaching out to like-minded people and getting their feedback. The process of exchanging ideas is enlightening – it makes you dive deep into your soul and discover what makes you truly fascinated, inspired and happy. Here’s how.

    Creative Juices

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      Besides being a blank piece of paper for you to fill with your words of Weltschmerz, a blog offers plenty of barren space for all of your other unrivaled talents. Just think about how much time has passed since you’ve last had crayons in your hands! Well, building a personal blog is just like tinting a coloring book – revisit your inner child while creating a logo, designing a background and finding the perfect photo to symbolize your personality and mood. And that’s only the beginning! Whatever you choose to articulate through your blog, there’s someone out there looking to find it.

      If you’re feeling blue, publish a photography series of the ocean, sky and denim. If you’re feeling ingenious, film a short movie and ask for some creative output. When the day is dull and rainy, write about your love for mottled umbrellas. Consider your blog as your own, personal tabula rasa, and be daring enough to explore anything you currently feel passionate about. Sensing a new, tingling outburst of creativity will heal your messy mind.

      Exploring the Depth

      We do have a lot on our minds during the bumpy ride through our twenties. Our parents are getting weak and old, the migration crisis is a mess, and David Bowie had just died. Expressing our emotions and opinions is the only way to stay healthy and outgrow the overwhelming fuddle of our thoughts. But being a personal notebook of ideas, a blog is also a public meeting place. Every opinion you do shout will entice a response, and it may happen that some of them will not be well-minded. Nonetheless, it is a splendid opportunity for a discussion with yourself. While self-expressing is always mending, it becomes purposeful (and we all strive toward discovering our purpose) only when carefully thought-through.

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      So, before you share your statements with the world, take a second and really think about them. Explore the real meaning of the problem that’s been rocking your boat, read more about it and brainstorm constructive solutions. That way, writing a blog can help you develop your debate skills and learn more about the world that perplexes us more with each day. It’s a process of spiritual and empiric empowerment and self-improvement.

      A World of Possibilities

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        You may not be tortured by your unyielding mind, but you must be lost in your soul-searching feat. Opening the new chapter in your life means reshaping your old interests and finding a solid ground. Discovering your place under the sun is possibly the hardest adventure you’ll embark on, but luckily, you’ll find that the world of possibilities awaits, and the only thing you’ll have to do is to pick one. Through blogging, you can tip your toes in all of them, and eventually, stick with the one that suites you the most. Now, you can keep pursuing your chosen field of interest and with that improve your knowledge and skills and develop your unique outlook. But, if you still haven’t found any, why not try them all?

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        If your mind is set on heart-shaped purses and lacy bralettes, start a fashion blog; if you can’t keep crying while watching The Perks of Being a Wallflower, explore your dilettante interest in cinematography; if the only place in the world you want to be in is a cafe in Montmartre, start writing about the joy of travelling. Running a blog allows you to be anyone you wish you were, to stumble upon new fascinating notions you haven’t considered before and – why not – recognize your true calling.

        Getting To Know the New You

        We grow up so suddenly and change so much that sometimes, it’s impossible to recognize the person looking back from the window reflection. There’s a whole new universe to discover, and on our path to personal fulfillment, it’s so easy to get stranded. A walk down the beach might help, but the summer is nowhere in sight and we are left alone with decisions, choices and commitments. With no one but yourself to keep you company, you’ll need to silence the clamor down and listen to your inner voice. There is, of course, a number of things to ease your restlessness, and believe it or not, all of them can be acquired through blogging.

        For starters, whatever you passionately blog about will reward you with inspiration that will rekindle your spirit and keep you motivated. While writing, you’ll ask important questions and come up with meaningful answers. Among your readers, you’ll find new, fascinating people that share your interests, challenge your thoughts and offer empathy and support. You can nurture your life calling or discover new ideas to feel enthusiastic about.

        A blog is your personal ocean now, and it’s full of opportunities. Whether you’re feeling blue or excited, avoiding a big decision or simply passing your time, don’t spend a minute more on meaningless online procrastination. Blogging can actually lead you towards your true purpose, and if in the meantime you have some fun and enjoy meeting the person you’ve become, all the better!

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        7 Questions to Ask in a Job Interview That Will Impress the Interviewer

        7 Questions to Ask in a Job Interview That Will Impress the Interviewer

        Recruiters might hold thousands of interviews in their careers and a lot of them are reporting the same thing—that most candidates play it safe with the questions they ask, or have no questions to ask in a job interview at all.

        For job applicants, this approach is crazy! This is a job that you’re going to dedicate a lot of hours to and that might have a huge impact on your future career. Don’t throw away the chance to figure out if the position is perfect for you.

        Here are 7 killer questions to ask in a job interview that will both impress your counterpart and give you some really useful insights into whether this job will be a dream … or a nightmare.

        1. What are some challenges I might come up against this role?

        A lesser candidate might ask, “what does a typical day look like in this role?” While this is a perfectly reasonable question to ask in an interview, focusing on potential challenges takes you much further because it indicates that you already are visualizing yourself in the role.

        It’s impressive because it shows that you are not afraid of challenges, and you are prepared to strategize a game plan upfront to make sure you succeed if you get the job.

        It can also open up a conversation about how you’ve solved problems in the past which can be a reassuring exercise for both you and the hiring manager.

        How it helps you:

        If you ask the interviewer to describe a typical day, you may get a vibrant picture of all the lovely things you’ll get to do in this job and all the lovely people you’ll get to do them with.

        Asking about potential roadblocks means you hear the other side of the story—dysfunctional teams, internal politics, difficult clients, bootstrap budgets and so on. This can help you decide if you’re up for the challenge or whether, for the sake of your sanity, you should respectfully decline the job offer.

        2. What are the qualities of really successful people in this role?

        Employers don’t want to hire someone who goes through the motions; they want to hire someone who will excel.

        Asking this question shows that you care about success, too. How could they not hire you with a dragon-slayer attitude like that?

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        How it helps you:

        Interviewers hire people who are great people to work with, but the definition of “great people” differs from person to person.

        Does this company hire and promote people with a specific attitude, approach, worth ethic or communication style? Are the most successful people in this role strong extroverts who love to talk and socialize when you are studious and reserved? Does the company reward those who work insane hours when you’re happiest in a more relaxed environment?

        If so, then this may not be the right match for you.

        Whatever the answer is, you can decide whether you have what it takes for the manager to be happy with your performance in this role. And if the interviewer has no idea what success looks like for this position, this is a sign to proceed with extreme caution.

        3. From the research I did on your company, I noticed the culture really supports XYZ. Can you tell me more about that element of the culture and how it impacts this job role?

        Of course, you could just ask “what is the culture like here? ” but then you would miss a great opportunity to show that you’ve done your research!

        Interviewers give BIG bonus point to those who read up and pay attention, and you’ve just pointed out that (a) you’re diligent in your research (b) you care about the company culture and (c) you’re committed to finding a great cultural fit.

        How it helps you:

        This question is so useful because it lets you pick an element of the culture that you really care about and that will have the most impact on whether you are happy with the organization.

        For example, if training and development is important to you, then you need to know what’s on offer so you don’t end up in a dead-end job with no learning opportunities.

        Companies often talk a good talk, and their press releases may be full of shiny CSR initiatives and all the headline-grabbing diversity programs they’re putting in place. This is your opportunity to look under the hood and see if the company lives its values on the ground.

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        A company that says it is committed to doing the right thing by customers should not judge success by the number of up-sells an employee makes, for instance. Look for consistency, so you aren’t in for a culture shock after you start.

        4. What is the promotion path for this role, and how would my performance on that path be measured?

        To be clear, you are not asking when you will get promoted. Don’t go there—it’s presumptuous, and it indicates that you think you are better than the role you have applied for.

        A career-minded candidate, on the other hand, usually has a plan that she’s working towards. This question shows you have a great drive toward growth and advancement and an intention to stick with the company beyond your current state.

        How it helps you:

        One word: hierarchy.

        All organizations have levels of work and authority—executives, upper managers, line managers, the workforce, and so on. Understanding the hierarchical structure gives you power, because you can decide if you can work within it and are capable of climbing through its ranks, or whether it will be endlessly frustrating to you.

        In a traditional pyramid hierarchy, for example, the people at the bottom tend to have very little autonomy to make decisions. This gets better as you rise up through the pyramid, but even middle managers have little power to create policy; they are more concerned with enforcing the rules the top leaders make.

        If having a high degree of autonomy and accountability is important to you, you may do better in a flat hierarchy where work teams can design their own way of achieving the corporate goals.

        5. What’s the most important thing the successful candidate could accomplish in their first 3 months/6 months/year?

        Of all the questions to ask in a job interview, this one is impressive because it shows that you identify with and want to be a successful performer, and not just an average one.

        Here, you’re drilling down into what the company needs, and needs quite urgently, proving that you’re all about adding value to the organization and not just about what’s in it for you.

        How it helps you:

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        Most job descriptions come with 8, 10 or 12 different job responsibilities and a lot of them with be boilerplate or responsibilities that someone in HR thinks are associated with this role. This question gives you a better sense of which responsibilities are the most important—and they may not be what initially attracted you to the role.

        If you like the idea of training juniors, for example, but success is judged purely on your sales figures, then is this really the job you thought you were applying for?

        This question will also give you an idea of what kind of learning curve you’re expected to have and whether you’ll get any ramp-up time before getting down to business. If you’re the type of person who likes to jump right in and get things done, for instance, you may not be thrilled to hear that you’re going to spend the first three months shadowing a peer.

        6. What do you like about working here?

        This simple question is all about building rapport with the interviewer. People like to talk about themselves, and the interviewer will be flattered that you’re interested in her opinions.

        Hopefully, you’ll find some great connection points that the two of you share. What similar things drive you head into the office each day? How will you fit into the culture?

        How it helps you:

        You can learn a lot from this question. Someone who genuinely enjoys his job will be able to list several things they like, and their answers will sound passionate and sincere. If not….well, you might consider that a red flag.

        Since you potentially can learn a lot about the company culture from this question, it’s a good idea to figure out upfront what’s important to you. Maybe you’re looking for a hands-off boss who values independent thought and creativity? Maybe you work better in environments that move at a rapid, exciting pace?

        Whatever’s important to you, listen carefully and see if you can find any common ground.

        7. Based on this interview, do you have any questions or concerns about my qualifications for the role?

        What a great closing question to ask in a job interview! It shows that you’re not afraid of feedback—in fact, you are inviting it. Not being able to take criticism is a red flag for employers, who need to know that you’ll act on any “coaching moments” with a good heart.

        As a bonus, asking this question shows that you are really interested in the position and wish to clear up anything that may be holding the company back from hiring you.

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        How it helps you:

        What a devious beast this question is! On the surface, it looks straightforward, but it’s actually giving you four key pieces of information.

        First, is the manager capable of giving you feedback when put on the spot like this? Some managers are scared of giving feedback, or don’t think it’s important enough to bother outside of a formal performance appraisal. Do you want to work for a boss like that? How will you improve if no one is telling you what you did wrong?

        Second, can the manager give feedback in a constructive way without being too pillowy or too confrontational? It’s unfair to expect the interviewer to have figured out your preferred way of receiving feedback in the space of an interview, but if she come back with a machine-gun fire of shortcomings or one of those corporate feedback “sandwiches” (the doozy slipped between two slices of compliment), then you need to ask yourself, can you work with someone who gives feedback like that?

        Third, you get to learn the things the hiring manager is concerned about before you leave the interview. This gives you the chance to make a final, tailored sales pitch so you can convince the interviewer that she should not be worried about those things.

        Fourth, you get to learn the things the hiring manager is concerned about period. If turnover is keeping him up at night, then your frequent job hopping might get a lot of additional scrutiny. If he’s facing some issues with conflict or communication, then he might raise concerns regarding your performance in this area.

        Listen carefully: the concerns that are being raised about you might actually be a proxy for problems in the wider organization.

        Making Your Interview Work for You

        Interviews are a two-way street. While it is important to differentiate yourself from every other candidate, understand that convincing the interviewer you’re the right person for the role goes hand-in-hand with figuring out if the job is the right fit for you.

        Would you feel happy in a work environment where the people, priorities, culture and management style were completely at odds with the way you work? Didn’t think so!

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