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8 Great Gift Ideas To Amaze Your Man For His Birthday

8 Great Gift Ideas To Amaze Your Man For His Birthday

A lot is expected of men in the 21st century, and I know for sure how they struggle to find their place in the world. It’s been quite a subject online and offline — how to be a sensitive guy that will hear out his partner and offer her useful advice, and on the other hand to be the strong mysterious man of her dreams — and the bottom line is that these men need guidance.

As far as I’m concerned, it’s a pretty great idea to do this subtly, and what better way to provide your special man with guidelines than to put them in a box and place a bow on them? Behind every successful man and accomplished gentleman, there’s a woman who has his back, so let’s see what kind of a birthday surprise can help you support him.

1. Tie And Cufflinks

    A gentleman dresses to impress. Sure, not all men see themselves wearing a suit on daily basis, nor should they, but having a classy outfit with the appropriate accessories to complete the look is a smart investment he probably won’t ever make by himself.

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    Getting a whole suit may not be a good idea because you may end up spending a lot of money on something he won’t like. However, surprising him with a classic tie and cufflinks set will do the trick.

    2. Travel

    A gentleman is well educated. Considering the fact that most of us find the usual ways of learning (through textbooks) a bit dull, you should perhaps explore new ones. As far as I’m concerned, traveling is the most exciting and effective way to learn about new cultures, history, and geography, so you should get a couple of tickets and set off to a beautiful place, like Singapore perhaps, or Petra, or Madagascar.

    3. Lingerie

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      Speaking of pleasant surprises, gentlemen like to have their fun, and a birthday is always a great opportunity to do something fresh in the bedroom — and you know for sure he’ll appreciate it. A surefire tactic is to get new lingerie. That way, you both have some birthday fun and you both get a nice present.

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      4. Gadgets

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        A gentleman is efficient. Probably the best way to increase your man’s work performance is through toys — boys love their toys, and work won’t seem like work if it’s fun. You should make your selection depending on your man’s area of expertise. There are many very useful gadgets out there, but make sure you do your research so you don’t end up paying a lot of money for something he doesn’t really need.

        5. Tool Set

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          A gentleman is handy. I know you can change a lightbulb and do stuff around the house, but you should leave it to him to get it done sometimes – that way, he’ll feel good about himself and his role in your life. There’s a nice way for you to let him know you appreciate his handyman abilities — by getting him a nice tool set. It may be a good idea to browse through his toolbox and see what’s missing first, so you can complete it.

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          6. Gym Equipment

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            A gentleman takes care of his body. Men can easily get lazy and put on some weight, but there’s nothing to be alarmed about really — they just need a reminder. Anything from a set of weights to new sneakers will do. If your special man already has a favorite workout, then my suggestion is to get him something that will enrich his experience. For example, if he’s into biking, I’m positive he’ll appreciate any useful accessory you might get him.

            7. Games

            A gentleman plays. Hard working boys deserve their time off, and what better way to let him know he’s been good than getting him that board game he’s been wanting, a new PC or console game, or a chess board, perhaps. If he’s into something that requires a bit more physical activity, you should definitely consider something like a portable table tennis set. It all depends on what he’s into, so pick carefully.

            8. Beer Basket

            This one is a classic that can’t really fail, since a gentleman loves his beer. If you’re in a long relationship and you’ve already gotten him practically everything he needs, getting him a beer basket is always a great option. This set will consist of beers from different countries, so I’m sure you two will have a good time deciding what you like the most. If you’re feeling generous, you can get him a great follow-up gift perfect for any man cave: a beer cap map. With it, he’ll be able to widen his knowledge about his favorite beverage and have fun collecting them all.

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            The secret in getting him a great gift is finding something that has a background story. That way, you’ll get him something he’ll actually like and he’ll know you care about his interests. One last piece of advice: take your time to figure out what to get so you don’t end up wasting a lot of money on a last-minute purchase that he may not like.

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            How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

            How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

            For all our social media bravado, we live in a society where communication is seen less as an art, and more as a perfunctory exercise. We spend so much time with people, yet we struggle with how to meaningfully communicate.

            If you believe you have mastered effective communication, scan the list below and see whether you can see yourself in any of the examples:

            Example 1

            You are uncomfortable with a person’s actions or comments, and rather than telling the individual immediately, you sidestep the issue and attempt to move on as though the offending behavior or comment never happened.

            You move on with the relationship and develop a pattern of not addressing challenging situations. Before long, the person with whom you are in relationship will say or do something that pushes you over the top and predictably, you explode or withdraw completely from the relationship.

            In this example, hard-to-speak truths become never- expressed truths that turn into resentment and anger.

            Example 2

            You communicate from the head and without emotion. While what you communicate makes perfect sense to you, it comes across as cold because it lacks emotion.

            People do not understand what motivates you to say what you say, and without sharing your feelings and emotions, others experience you as rude, cold or aggressive.

            You will know this is a problem if people shy away from you, ignore your contributions in meetings or tell you your words hurt. You can also know you struggle in this area if you find yourself constantly apologizing for things you have said.

            Example 3

            You have an issue with one person, but you communicate your problem to an entirely different person.

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            The person in whom you confide lacks the authority to resolve the matter troubling you, and while you have vented and expressed frustration, the underlying challenge is unresolved.

            Example 4

            You grew up in a family with destructive communication habits and those habits play out in your current relationships.

            Because you have never stopped to ask why you communicate the way you do and whether your communication style still works, you may lack understanding of how your words impact others and how to implement positive change.

            If you find yourself in any of the situations described above, this article is for you.

            Communication can build or decimate worlds and it is important we get it right. Regardless of your professional aspirations or personal goals, you can improve your communication skills if you:

            • Understand your own communication style
            • Tailor your style depending on the needs of the audience
            • Communicate with precision and care
            • Be mindful of your delivery, timing and messenger

            1. Understand Your Communication Style

            To communicate effectively, you must understand the communication legacy passed down from our parents, grandparents or caregivers. Each of us grew up with spoken and unspoken rules about communication.

            In some families, direct communication is practiced and honored. In other families, family members are encouraged to shy away from difficult conversations. Some families appreciate open and frank dialogue and others do not. Other families practice silence about substantive matters, that is, they seldom or rarely broach difficult conversations at all.

            Before you can appreciate the nuance required in communication, it helps to know the familial patterns you grew up with.

            2. Learn Others Communication Styles

            Communicating effectively requires you to take a step back, assess the intended recipient of your communication and think through how the individual prefers to be communicated with. Once you know this, you can tailor your message in a way that increases the likelihood of being heard. This also prevents you from assuming the way you communicate with one group is appropriate or right for all groups or people.

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            If you are unsure how to determine the styles of the groups or persons with whom you are interacting, you can always ask them:

            “How do you prefer to receive information?”

            This approach requires listening, both to what the individuals say as well as what is unspoken. Virgin Group CEO Richard Branson noted that the best communicators are also great listeners.

            To communicate effectively from relationship to relationship and situation to situation, you must understand the communication needs of others.

            3. Exercise Precision and Care

            A recent engagement underscored for me the importance of exercising care when communicating.

            On a recent trip to Ohio, I decided to meet up with an old friend to go for a walk. As we strolled through the soccer park, my friend gently announced that he had something to talk about, he was upset with me. His introduction to the problem allowed me to mentally shift gears and prepare for the conversation.

            Shortly after introducing the shift in conversation, my friend asked me why I didn’t invite him to the launch party for my business. He lives in Ohio and I live in the D.C. area.

            I explained that the event snuck up on me, and I only started planning the invite list three weeks before the event. Due to the last-minute nature of the gathering, I opted to invite people in the DMV area versus my friends from outside the area – I didn’t want to be disrespectful by asking them to travel on such short notice.

            I also noted that I didn’t want to be disappointed if he and others declined to come to the event. So I played it safe in terms of inviting people who were local.

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            In the moment, I felt the conversation went very well. I also checked in with my friend a few days after our walk, affirmed my appreciation for his willingness to communicate his upset and our ability to work through it.

            The way this conversation unfolded exemplified effective communication. My friend approached me with grace and vulnerability. He approached me with a level of curiosity that didn’t put me on my heels — I was able to really listen to what he was saying, apologize for how my decision impacted him and vow that going forward, I would always ask rather than making decisions for him and others.

            Our relationship is intact, and I now have information that will help me become a better friend to him and others.

            4. Be Mindful of Delivery, Timing and Messenger

            Communicating effectively also requires thinking through the delivery of the message one intends to communicate as well as the appropriate time for the discussion.

            In an Entrepreneur.com column, VIP Contributor Deep Patel, noted that persons interested in communicating well need to master the art of timing. Patel noted,[1]

            “Great comedians, like all great communicators, are able to feel out their audience to determine when to move on to a new topic or when to reiterate an idea.”

            Communicating effectively also requires thoughtfulness about the messenger. A person prone to dramatic, angry outbursts should never be called upon to deliver constructive feedback, especially to people whom they do not know. The immediate aftermath of a mass shooting is not the ideal time to talk about the importance of the Second Amendment rights.

            Like everyone else, I must work to ensure my communication is layered with precision and care.

            It requires precision because words must be carefully tailored to the person with whom you are speaking.

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            It requires intentionality because before one communicates, one should think about the audience and what the audience needs in order to hear your message the way you intended it to be communicated.

            It requires active listening which is about hearing verbal and nonverbal messages.

            Even though we may be right in what we say, how we say it could derail the impact of the message and the other parties’ ability to hear the message.

            Communicating with care is also about saying things that the people in our life need to hear and doing so with love.

            The Bottom Line

            When I left the meeting with my dear friend, I wondered if I was replicating or modeling this level of openness and transparency in the rest of my relationships.

            I was intrigued and appreciative. He’d clearly thought about what he wanted to say to me, picked the appropriate time to share his feedback and then delivered it with care. He hit the ball out of the park and I’m hopeful we all do the same.

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