Advertising
Advertising

How Being Quirky And Unique Can Improve Your Life

How Being Quirky And Unique Can Improve Your Life

Many people believe that calling someone “quirky” is a derogative term, but it’s not. Being quirky means that you are different, but in a lovable way. Let’s clear up some things right from the start: I’m not here to tell you how you can play the role of a unique, quirky person by giving you acting tips. I’m also not here to talk about weirdness. Being weird is a different thing altogether and it’s a subject for another time.

Being quirky isn’t something reserved for the chosen few, but only some of us allow our inner quirks to surface in everyday social interactions. The reason why most people tend to keep themselves on a “mental leash” is the fear of coming off weird and alienating people around them. This is a genuine concern, considering that one man’s quirks can most certainly be another man’s weirdness.

Still, there are more than a few reasons why you should surpass this fear of being judged and allow your unique personality traits to mark you as the unique human being that you are. Social norms and rules of conduct are all well and fine, but in most cases they are not as restrictive as we perceive them. Here are few ways that your quirks can work to your benefit.

Advertising

Quirky people tend to be more confident

    Being unique isn’t easy. Even though most people don’t really have anything against someone being unique, casual humorous jabs at the expense of these traits are quite common, and after a while they can tire a person out, leading to annoyance or insecurity. Furthermore, not everyone will understand how you can be that different from the majority of people around you (in most cases this will be your parents, but it doesn’t just stop there) and they will be uncertain why someone would want to be so different. This can lead to you being pressured to fall in line with everyone else and endure “serious talks” with a final goal of helping you, even though you didn’t ask for it.

    This pressure usually gives counterproductive results and actually leads to a confident person who is at ease with who they are. People who are OK with the unique side of their personality being public are used to having a different perspective than others and will not shy away from making decisions that seem radical to the outside world.

    Your quirks can lead you to unique opportunities

    Quirkiness is reflected in more than a couple of things. It can be the way we talk, what we eat, what hobbies we have, our music taste, our movie taste, and tons of other things. Once we accept the ways we are different than the rest of the world, we usually start focusing on these things a bit more and exploring their depth. Developing this uniqueness usually means research or hands-on experience, which almost always helps us develop skills and acquire knowledge not many people have mastery over. This can lead to finding interesting career paths, networking through alternative channels, working on creative projects, and so on.

    Advertising

    Your quirks ensure that you are not easily forgotten

    A regular conversation with a person who keeps their quirks in check tends to follow the proposed social norms and rarely strays from this path. Sure, sticking to the norm makes communication a bit more direct, easier, and more predictable, but it also removes all the fun. It can feel as if we are just going through the motions, and this is why these conversations can be easily forgotten.

    A conversation with a person with a couple of loose quirks almost always leaves an impression, and we all know there is no such thing as bad publicity. Even brands are attempting to draw out some quirkiness to get these benefits for their branding process. Quirky people usually don’t follow the proposed best practices for job interviews and will rarely resort to generic answers. This helps them be remembered by the interviewers and increases their chances of getting called back.

    Spotting unique personality traits in others is a lot easier for quirky people

    Advertising

    image02

      Let’s take a seemingly simple situation like choosing a present as an example. Most people are biased by their own wishes when picking out a present for someone, or rely on stereotypes and protocol to make it easier for them. Quirky people choose a different path. They tend to remember small things mentioned in casual conversations that point to a person’s inner passions, which allows them to pick out something that the person really likes and surprise them in the process.

      This perk doesn’t just come in handy in this situation. It has its fair share of benefits in the work environment, relationships, family affairs, and so on. Furthermore, quirky people don’t find differences that confusing. They are very much aware that their lifestyles deviate from the norm. Because of this, they don’t see diversity as strange, but instead as very interesting.

      Thinking outside the box is second nature to quirky people

      Living a bit outside of social norms is something that requires you to make decisions on your own. This means that you need to get creative in order to make your life plan fit into an environment not ideal for it. Creative thinking is essential for the survival of unique points of view. Proving to people that there is a different solution to a common question can only be done by people who see an alternative. Quirky people never let their creative juices rest.

      Advertising

      Being unique is merely exploring yourself a bit more and finding the unique interests that you are passionate about, then allowing them to surface in everyday interactions. Still, being quirky doesn’t mean you should be pushy. Relax and don’t force things. Be comfortable with who you are and work on yourself. This is easier said than done, but I always find comfort in the realization that everyone is doing this, with more and less success, which means we can all help each other out on that road.

      Featured photo credit: https://pixabay.com/en/users/Unsplash-242387/ via pixabay.com

      More by this author

      Aleksandar Ilic

      Blogger, Social Media Butterfly, Guitarist

      How to Stop Snoring Immediately: 3 Practical Ways To Get Back Your Peace How to Spend Hours at the Computer and Still Stay Healthy 3 Wonderfully Inspiring Lessons Learned from Classic Literature 5 Must-Have Apps for Students Struggling with Productivity 4 Fun Ways to Skyrocket Your Motivation and Confidence

      Trending in Communication

      1 7 Powerful Questions To Find Out What You Want To Do With Your Life 2 10 Famous Failures to Success Stories That Will Inspire You to Carry On 3 What Is Your Destiny in Life? How to Mindfully Achieve Your Purpose 4 7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck 5 10 Things You Can Do Now to Change Your Life Forever

      Read Next

      Advertising
      Advertising

      Last Updated on September 20, 2018

      7 Powerful Questions To Find Out What You Want To Do With Your Life

      7 Powerful Questions To Find Out What You Want To Do With Your Life

      What do I want to do with my life? It’s a question all of us think about at one point or another.

      For some, the answer comes easily. For others, it takes a lifetime to figure out.

      It’s easy to just go through the motions and continue to do what’s comfortable and familiar. But for those of you who seek fulfillment, who want to do more, these questions will help you paint a clearer picture of what you want to do with your life.

      1. What are the things I’m most passionate about?

      The first step to living a more fulfilling life is to think about the things that you’re passionate about.

      What do you love? What fulfills you? What “work” do you do that doesn’t feel like work? Maybe you enjoy writing, maybe you love working with animals or maybe you have a knack for photography.

      The point is, figure out what you love doing, then do more of it.

      Advertising

      2. What are my greatest accomplishments in life so far?

      Think about your past experiences and the things in your life you’re most proud of.

      How did those accomplishments make you feel? Pretty darn good, right? So why not try and emulate those experiences and feelings?

      If you ran a marathon once and loved the feeling you had afterwards, start training for another one. If your child grew up to be a star athlete or musician because of your teachings, then be a coach or mentor for other kids.

      Continue to do the things that have been most fulfilling for you.

      3. If my life had absolutely no limits, what would I choose to have and what would I choose to do?

      Here’s a cool exercise: Think about what you would do if you had no limits.

      If you had all the money and time in the world, where would you go? What would you do? Who would you spend time with?

      Advertising

      These answers can help you figure out what you want to do with your life. It doesn’t mean you need millions of dollars to be happy though.

      What it does mean is answering these questions will help you set goals to reach certain milestones and create a path toward happiness and fulfillment. Which leads to our next question …

      4. What are my goals in life?

      Goals are a necessary component to set you up for a happy future. So answer these questions:

      Once you figure out the answers to each of these, you’ll have a much better idea of what you should do with your life.

      5. Whom do I admire most in the world?

      Following the path of successful people can set you up for success.

      Think about the people you respect and admire most. What are their best qualities? Why do you respect them? What can you learn from them?

      Advertising

      You’re the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with.[1] So don’t waste your time with people who hold you back from achieving your dreams.

      Spend more time with happy, successful, optimistic people and you’ll become one of them.

      6. What do I not like to do?

      An important part of figuring out what you want to do with your life is honestly assessing what you don’t want to do.

      What are the things you despise? What bugs you the most about your current job?

      Maybe you hate meetings even though you sit through 6 hours of them every day. If that’s the case, find a job where you can work more independently.

      The point is, if you want something to change in your life, you need to take action. Which leads to our final question …

      Advertising

      7. How hard am I willing to work to get what I want?

      Great accomplishments never come easy. If you want to do great things with your life, you’re going to have to make a great effort. That will probably mean putting in more hours the average person, getting outside your comfort zone and learning as much as you can to achieve as much as you can.

      But here’s the cool part: it’s often the journey that is the most fulfilling part. It’s during these seemingly small, insignificant moments that you’ll often find that “aha” moments that helps you answer the question,

      “What do I want to do with my life?”

      So take the first step toward improving your life. You won’t regret it.

      Featured photo credit: Andrew Ly via unsplash.com

      Reference

      Read Next