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How Being Quirky And Unique Can Improve Your Life

How Being Quirky And Unique Can Improve Your Life

Many people believe that calling someone “quirky” is a derogative term, but it’s not. Being quirky means that you are different, but in a lovable way. Let’s clear up some things right from the start: I’m not here to tell you how you can play the role of a unique, quirky person by giving you acting tips. I’m also not here to talk about weirdness. Being weird is a different thing altogether and it’s a subject for another time.

Being quirky isn’t something reserved for the chosen few, but only some of us allow our inner quirks to surface in everyday social interactions. The reason why most people tend to keep themselves on a “mental leash” is the fear of coming off weird and alienating people around them. This is a genuine concern, considering that one man’s quirks can most certainly be another man’s weirdness.

Still, there are more than a few reasons why you should surpass this fear of being judged and allow your unique personality traits to mark you as the unique human being that you are. Social norms and rules of conduct are all well and fine, but in most cases they are not as restrictive as we perceive them. Here are few ways that your quirks can work to your benefit.

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Quirky people tend to be more confident

    Being unique isn’t easy. Even though most people don’t really have anything against someone being unique, casual humorous jabs at the expense of these traits are quite common, and after a while they can tire a person out, leading to annoyance or insecurity. Furthermore, not everyone will understand how you can be that different from the majority of people around you (in most cases this will be your parents, but it doesn’t just stop there) and they will be uncertain why someone would want to be so different. This can lead to you being pressured to fall in line with everyone else and endure “serious talks” with a final goal of helping you, even though you didn’t ask for it.

    This pressure usually gives counterproductive results and actually leads to a confident person who is at ease with who they are. People who are OK with the unique side of their personality being public are used to having a different perspective than others and will not shy away from making decisions that seem radical to the outside world.

    Your quirks can lead you to unique opportunities

    Quirkiness is reflected in more than a couple of things. It can be the way we talk, what we eat, what hobbies we have, our music taste, our movie taste, and tons of other things. Once we accept the ways we are different than the rest of the world, we usually start focusing on these things a bit more and exploring their depth. Developing this uniqueness usually means research or hands-on experience, which almost always helps us develop skills and acquire knowledge not many people have mastery over. This can lead to finding interesting career paths, networking through alternative channels, working on creative projects, and so on.

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    Your quirks ensure that you are not easily forgotten

    A regular conversation with a person who keeps their quirks in check tends to follow the proposed social norms and rarely strays from this path. Sure, sticking to the norm makes communication a bit more direct, easier, and more predictable, but it also removes all the fun. It can feel as if we are just going through the motions, and this is why these conversations can be easily forgotten.

    A conversation with a person with a couple of loose quirks almost always leaves an impression, and we all know there is no such thing as bad publicity. Even brands are attempting to draw out some quirkiness to get these benefits for their branding process. Quirky people usually don’t follow the proposed best practices for job interviews and will rarely resort to generic answers. This helps them be remembered by the interviewers and increases their chances of getting called back.

    Spotting unique personality traits in others is a lot easier for quirky people

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      Let’s take a seemingly simple situation like choosing a present as an example. Most people are biased by their own wishes when picking out a present for someone, or rely on stereotypes and protocol to make it easier for them. Quirky people choose a different path. They tend to remember small things mentioned in casual conversations that point to a person’s inner passions, which allows them to pick out something that the person really likes and surprise them in the process.

      This perk doesn’t just come in handy in this situation. It has its fair share of benefits in the work environment, relationships, family affairs, and so on. Furthermore, quirky people don’t find differences that confusing. They are very much aware that their lifestyles deviate from the norm. Because of this, they don’t see diversity as strange, but instead as very interesting.

      Thinking outside the box is second nature to quirky people

      Living a bit outside of social norms is something that requires you to make decisions on your own. This means that you need to get creative in order to make your life plan fit into an environment not ideal for it. Creative thinking is essential for the survival of unique points of view. Proving to people that there is a different solution to a common question can only be done by people who see an alternative. Quirky people never let their creative juices rest.

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      Being unique is merely exploring yourself a bit more and finding the unique interests that you are passionate about, then allowing them to surface in everyday interactions. Still, being quirky doesn’t mean you should be pushy. Relax and don’t force things. Be comfortable with who you are and work on yourself. This is easier said than done, but I always find comfort in the realization that everyone is doing this, with more and less success, which means we can all help each other out on that road.

      Featured photo credit: https://pixabay.com/en/users/Unsplash-242387/ via pixabay.com

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      Last Updated on July 15, 2019

      41 Beautiful Pictures That Show What True Love Is All About

      41 Beautiful Pictures That Show What True Love Is All About

      Some things in life are hard to describe, yet we can recognize them when we see them.

      Love is one of those things.

      True love comes in many different forms, but here are some that many of us know well.

      True love means supporting those who can’t support themselves

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          A young man holds his significant other close to him. Image by Brad Fults

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                  selfies

                    A happy couple takes a picture together. Image by Kayla Heineman

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                        Friends take a selfie together. Image by Glenn Scofield Williams

                        It’s all the warm fuzzies

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                          A young man spends time with his dog on a beach. Image by Magdalena Roeseler

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                            A pet owner hugs his dog while on a day trip in San Francisco. Image by Taro the Shiba Inu

                            It means having a friend to photobomb you

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                              A boy makes a funny face as he poses for a picture with his brother. Image by Michael Bentley

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                                family photobomb

                                  Family members photobomb their relatives’ Thanksgiving day family photo. Image by Beth Scupham

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                                    A friend photobombs the photographer and their friend, the woman in the foreground of this photo. Image by Lachlan Hardy

                                    True love means being there even when life gets unbearably hard

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                                      flood dog

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                                        A woman is rescued from flood waters by a resident standing on top of her car during heavy rain in Chalandri suburb north of Athens

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                                                            boyfriend home

                                                              A young  woman hugs her significant other as he returns home for Kuwait. Image by The National Guard

                                                              mother hug

                                                                A mother drops to her knees as she hugs her son on her return home from the Persian Gulf. Image by The National Guard

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                                                                              True love is allowing yourself to show how you really feel

                                                                              date night

                                                                                A young couple kisses in the back of a restaurant in Washington, D.C. Image by Derek Key

                                                                                playing violin

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                                                                                  True love is timeless

                                                                                  old friends

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