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5 Rules To Find Your Dream Partner Without Even Looking

5 Rules To Find Your Dream Partner Without Even Looking

Thousands of single men and women around the world all dream of the day they meet that special person. Someone who excites us, makes us smile and brings vibrant colour to their lives. For some, this leads to feelings of loneliness, desperation or even hopelessness. Yet, there is absolutely no use in letting this get the better of you.

Searching for secret methods nor secret locations of where they may be hiding is fruitless. The best approach is to open your life and allow the man/woman of your dreams to enter, using these five simple rules:

Rule #1 – Stop Searching For “The One”

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    That’s right, you must stop looking in order to find them… Unfortunately, desperately seeking out your perfect partner just doesn’t work. In almost all cases, these special people enter our lives completely unintentionally. But when they do, you will  know it!

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    Also, if you dedicate yourself to finding someone now, you’re likely to settle for less. While prowling out on the town is fun, let’s be honest, it’s highly unlikely you will hunt down “the one”!

    While you call off the search, you must always remain open to receiving them.

    Rule #2 – Focus on Yourself

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      Now you are no longer focused on finding another, transfer this energy into working on yourself. Occupying yourself with personal improvement will have three huge benefits:

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      1. You will be happier, more confident and independent. Incidentally, this will magnetize others
      2. You will be the best possible version of yourself for when you do meet someone special
      3. Staying productive will prevent loneliness, desperation or negative feelings of lacking

      Follow your individual calling, it may include a number of the following aspects:

      • Building a business or career
      • Improving health/fitness
      • Pursuing interests/hobby’s
      • Competing in events or competitions
      • Travelling and exploring new places

      During this process, you may just stumble across someone special, so keep your eyes open!

      Rule #3 – Compliment Not Complete

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        Now that you are well-focused and independent, you will no longer feel you a partner to complete you. Instead, focus on identifying someone who compliments you perfectly, and you to them.

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        If either person needs the other to bring happiness, balance or peace to their life, it is often a recipe for disaster. In most cases this will result in an unstable relationship, far from the dream boat ride you hoped for!

        Rule #4 – Be Social and Outgoing

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          For those who still think this rule is corny, have you heard of the six degrees of separation? It’s an incredible theory that we are all only six steps or fewer away from any other person you will ever meet. So that “a friend of a friend” chain between you and your dream partner is only six steps or less!

          Go out and mingle at events, festivals, parties, or gatherings. Make sure you chose something that interests you, or simply go for fun with your friends! You’re bound to meet lots of new interesting people, possibly even cross paths with someone special.

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          Rule #5 – Be Bold – Act On Your Intuition

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            While you are not actively searching for your dream partner, you cannot assume that they are going to simply fall straight onto your lap! You need to trust your intuition to tell you when to act.

            When you meet someone who resonates with you deeply, don’t let them slip away! It’s up to you to control your destiny, to act and explore life’s many possibilities. Harness the power of the butterfly effect, small actions can change your entire life.

            It may be as simple as exchanging smiles with a beautiful stranger. Even just walking over to casually introduce yourself could reveal the amazing discovery you were always longing for!

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            Last Updated on January 18, 2019

            7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

            7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

            Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

            But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

            If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

            1. Limit the time you spend with them.

            First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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            In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

            Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

            2. Speak up for yourself.

            Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

            3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

            This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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            But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

            4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

            Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

            This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

            Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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            5. Change the subject.

            When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

            Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

            6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

            Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

            I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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            You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

            Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

            7. Leave them behind.

            Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

            If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

            That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

            You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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