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5 Rules To Find Your Dream Partner Without Even Looking

5 Rules To Find Your Dream Partner Without Even Looking

Thousands of single men and women around the world all dream of the day they meet that special person. Someone who excites us, makes us smile and brings vibrant colour to their lives. For some, this leads to feelings of loneliness, desperation or even hopelessness. Yet, there is absolutely no use in letting this get the better of you.

Searching for secret methods nor secret locations of where they may be hiding is fruitless. The best approach is to open your life and allow the man/woman of your dreams to enter, using these five simple rules:

Rule #1 – Stop Searching For “The One”

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    That’s right, you must stop looking in order to find them… Unfortunately, desperately seeking out your perfect partner just doesn’t work. In almost all cases, these special people enter our lives completely unintentionally. But when they do, you will  know it!

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    Also, if you dedicate yourself to finding someone now, you’re likely to settle for less. While prowling out on the town is fun, let’s be honest, it’s highly unlikely you will hunt down “the one”!

    While you call off the search, you must always remain open to receiving them.

    Rule #2 – Focus on Yourself

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      Now you are no longer focused on finding another, transfer this energy into working on yourself. Occupying yourself with personal improvement will have three huge benefits:

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      1. You will be happier, more confident and independent. Incidentally, this will magnetize others
      2. You will be the best possible version of yourself for when you do meet someone special
      3. Staying productive will prevent loneliness, desperation or negative feelings of lacking

      Follow your individual calling, it may include a number of the following aspects:

      • Building a business or career
      • Improving health/fitness
      • Pursuing interests/hobby’s
      • Competing in events or competitions
      • Travelling and exploring new places

      During this process, you may just stumble across someone special, so keep your eyes open!

      Rule #3 – Compliment Not Complete

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        Now that you are well-focused and independent, you will no longer feel you a partner to complete you. Instead, focus on identifying someone who compliments you perfectly, and you to them.

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        If either person needs the other to bring happiness, balance or peace to their life, it is often a recipe for disaster. In most cases this will result in an unstable relationship, far from the dream boat ride you hoped for!

        Rule #4 – Be Social and Outgoing

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          For those who still think this rule is corny, have you heard of the six degrees of separation? It’s an incredible theory that we are all only six steps or fewer away from any other person you will ever meet. So that “a friend of a friend” chain between you and your dream partner is only six steps or less!

          Go out and mingle at events, festivals, parties, or gatherings. Make sure you chose something that interests you, or simply go for fun with your friends! You’re bound to meet lots of new interesting people, possibly even cross paths with someone special.

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          Rule #5 – Be Bold – Act On Your Intuition

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            While you are not actively searching for your dream partner, you cannot assume that they are going to simply fall straight onto your lap! You need to trust your intuition to tell you when to act.

            When you meet someone who resonates with you deeply, don’t let them slip away! It’s up to you to control your destiny, to act and explore life’s many possibilities. Harness the power of the butterfly effect, small actions can change your entire life.

            It may be as simple as exchanging smiles with a beautiful stranger. Even just walking over to casually introduce yourself could reveal the amazing discovery you were always longing for!

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            Last Updated on January 21, 2020

            How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

            How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

            If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

            Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

            So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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            1. Listen

            Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

            2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

            Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

            “Why do you want to do that?”

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            “What makes you so excited about it?”

            “How long has that been your dream?”

            You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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            3. Encourage

            This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

            4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

            After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

            5. Dream

            This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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            6. Ask How You Can Help

            Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

            7. Follow Up

            Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

            Final Thoughts

            By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

            Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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