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Happiness -The key to abundance -10 happiness tips

Happiness -The key to abundance -10 happiness tips

It is often in our search for happiness that we find ourselves to be at our unhappiest. So many people equate happiness to material wealth, relationships and financial success. While many of us aspire to find love, success and abundance, if we are preoccupied with the search we may miss out on witnessing the many opportunities the universe presents us to fill ourselves and our lives with happiness.

If you think that the key to happiness lies in finding your soul mate or achieving fame and fortune, think again. The energy you waste, the enormous struggle that can accompany the waiting and the wanting, can often lead to great frustration and unhappiness. It is not how much you have, but how much you enjoy and celebrate the present that creates real happiness. If you let go of anxiety and uncertainty about the future and instead focus your attention on the now and all of the blessings that are currently in your life, you will discover enough happiness to fill your heart for a lifetime.

Happiness is good for your health and improves your quality of life. The energy associated with happiness raises your vibration, and when your energy is high, miracles can happen. Happiness creates a ripple effect. Positive energy is contagious; if you choose happiness, you will spread happiness.

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These 10 tips will help to fill your heart with happiness instantly:

1. Count your blessings

If you are surrounded by loved ones and are warm, healthy, and not hungry, acknowledge your blessings and give thanks. The source of happiness is love and peace.

2. Simplify life

What do you really need? We come into this world with nothing and we leave with nothing. You can’t take your worldly possessions with you, so fill your life with experiences. Find joy in the simple things and let go of the things that weigh heavy on your heart.

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3. Find what lifts you up

You might feel exhilarated when you run, dance, hike, paint, sing, meditate. Whatever is good for your soul, do more of that!

4. Connect with people who are happy

Both positive and negative energy is contagious, so choose to surround yourself with people who bring real happiness into your life. Spending too much time with people who drain you for all the wrong reasons will deplete your valuable energy. Make a concerted effort to share space with people who are happy and are willing to spread joy freely.

5. Let go of what your life should look like

Nothing good ever comes from comparing your life to anyone else’s. Whether we are comparing the size of our houses, our finances, physical features or any number of measurable and even unmeasurable things, so many of us are guilty of doing it. Your life is yours. It is your journey; focusing your energy on all that is wonderful in your world is a much better way to create a happy life. How your life measures up against others holds absolutely no importance.

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6. Practice mindfulness

Mindfulness improves our health; it reduces stress levels and helps us feel more relaxed. It involves us bringing our attention to the here and now. Mindfulness is about really connecting with ourselves and appreciating the sheer joy of every moment. It is a profound way to experience happiness.

7. Be yourself

Sometimes you just need to realize that you don’t have to become a different person to change your life. You actually just need to be yourself. You were born to be real. Believe in yourself. You are your own source of happiness.

8. A positive mindset

The power of a positive mindset can quite literally change your life. Make it a habit to practice positivity. Ask yourself “What kind of day am I going to have?” Are you going to have a good day or a great day? You create your mindset for the whole day by making a choice. By choosing to have an amazing day, you will flood your whole body, mind and spirit with happiness.

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9. Happiness comes from giving

Invest some time and energy and give generously from your ability to be kind. Kindness and generosity of spirit will literally open up the floodgates to happiness. Don’t believe me? I promise you it will change your life and the lives of so many around you. Give from your heart. It will fill you up like nothing else you have ever experienced. The kind of energy associated with giving from the heart generates pure happiness.

10. Nourish your mind body and spirit

Invest in your own wellness and practice self-care daily. We all need to nurture ourselves emotionally, physically, spiritually and mentally. Feeling well and healthy naturally supports happiness.You have to take ownership of your journey, whether that be with your diet, your overall wellness, your fitness or just life in general. Self-care and making better choices in all areas of your wellness is empowering. If you want to feel real happiness, real joy, real energy, then take care of you.

It is your birth right to be happy. You deserve to be happy and, quite literally, you can choose to be happy. There is always something to be happy about, even in our darkest of moments. We can always choose to look for the light. Right now, find something to be happy about. This is the very first step in ensuring that you participate in the sheer joy of happiness.

Today, I choose happiness.

Featured photo credit: Eflon via flickr.com

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Jo Ettles is a published self help author, international writer, speaker and extremely gifted intuitive life coach.

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Last Updated on November 28, 2018

Why Do I Have Bad Luck? 2 Simple Things to Change Your Destiny

Why Do I Have Bad Luck? 2 Simple Things to Change Your Destiny

Are you one of those people who are always suffering setbacks? Does little ever seem to go right for you? Do you sometimes feel that the universe is out to get you? Do you wonder:

Why do I have bad luck? Is bad luck real?

A couple of months ago, I met up with an old friend of mine who I hadn’t seen since last year. Over lunch, we talked about all kinds of things, including our careers, relationships and hobbies.

My friend told me his job had become dull and uninteresting to him, and despite applying for promotion – he’d been turned down. His personal life wasn’t great either, as he told me that he’d recently separated from his long-term girlfriend.

When I asked him why things had seemingly gone wrong at home and work, he paused for a moment, and then replied:

“I’m having a run of bad luck.”

I was surprised by his response as I’d never thought of him as someone who thought that luck controlled his life. He always appeared to be someone who knew what he wanted – and went after it with gusto.

He told me he did believe in bad luck because of everything happened to me.

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It was at this point, that I shared my opinion on luck and destiny:

While chance events certainly occur, they are purely random in nature. In other words, good luck and bad luck don’t exist in the way that people believe. And more importantly, even if random negative events do come along, our perspective and reaction can turn them into positive things.

Your luck is no worse—and no better—than anyone else’s. It just feels that way. Better still, there are two simple things you can do which will reverse your feelings of being unlucky and change your luck.

1. Stop believing that what happens in life is out of your control.

Stop believing that what happens in your life is down to the vagaries of luck, destiny, supernatural forces, malevolent other people, or anything else outside yourself.

Psychologists call this “external locus of control.” It’s a kind of fatalism, where people believe that they can do little or nothing personally to change their lives.

Because of this, they either merely hope for the best, focus on trying to change their luck by various kinds of superstition, or submit passively to whatever comes—while complaining that it doesn’t match their hopes.

Most successful people take the opposite view. They have “internal locus of control.” They believe that what happens in their life is nearly all down to them; and that even when chance events occur, what is important is not the event itself, but how you respond to it.

This makes them pro-active, engaged, ready to try new things, and keen to find the means to change whatever in their lives they don’t like.

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They aren’t fatalistic and they don’t blame bad luck for what isn’t right in their world. They look for a way to make things better.

Are they luckier than the others? Of course not.

Luck is random—that’s what chance means—so they are just as likely to suffer setbacks as anyone else.

What’s different is their response. When things go wrong, they quickly look for ways to put them right. They don’t whine, pity themselves, or complain about “bad luck.” They try to learn from what happened to avoid or correct it next time and get on with living their life as best they can. They have this Motivation Engine, which most people lack, to keep them going.

No one is habitually luckier or unluckier than anyone else. It may seem so, over the short term (Random events often come in groups, just as random numbers often lie close together for several instances—which is why gamblers tend to see patterns where none exist).

When you take a longer perspective, random chance is just . . . random. Yet those who feel that they are less lucky, typically pay far more attention to short-term instances of bad luck, convincing themselves of the correctness of their belief.

Your locus of control isn’t genetic. You learned it somehow. If it isn’t working for you, change it.

2. Remember that whatever you pay attention to grows in your mind.

If you focus on what’s going wrong in your life—especially if you see it as “bad luck” you can do nothing about—it will seem blacker and more malevolent.

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In a short time, you’ll become so convinced that everything is against you that you’ll notice more and more instances where this appears to be true. As a result, you will drown yourself in negative energy and almost certainly stop trying, convinced that nothing you can do will improve your prospects.

Not long ago, a reader (I’ll call her Kelly) has shared with me about how frustrated she felt and how unlucky she was. Kelly’s an aspiring entrepreneur. She had been trying to find investors to invest in her project. It hadn’t been going well as she was always rejected by the potential investors. And at her most stressful time, her boyfriend broke up with her. And the day after her breakup, she missed an important opportunity to meet an interested investor. She was about to give up because she felt that she’d not be lucky enough to build her business successfully.

It definitely wasn’t an easy time for her. She was stressful and tired. But it wasn’t bad luck that was playing the role.

Fatalism feeds on itself until people become passive “victims” of life’s blows. The “losers” in life are those who are convinced they will fail before they start anything; sure that their “bad luck” will ruin any prospects of success.

They rarely notice that the true reasons for their failure are ignorance, laziness, lack of skill, lack of forethought, or just plain foolishness—all of which they could do something to correct, if only they would stop blaming other people or “bad luck” for their personal deficiencies.

Your attention is under your control. Send it where you want it to go. Starve the negative thoughts until they die.

I explained to Kelly that to improve her fortune and have “good luck”, first decide that what happens is nearly always down to her; then try to focus on what works and what turns out well, not the bad stuff.

Then Kelly tried to review her current situation objectively. She realized that she only needed a short break for herself — from work and her just broken-up relationship. She really needed some time to clear up her mind before moving on with her work and life. When she got her emotions settled down from her heartbreak, she started to work on improving her business’ selling points and looked for new investors that are more suitable.

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A few months later, she told me that she finally found two investors who were really interested in her project and would like to work with her to grow the business. I was really glad that she could take back control of her destiny and achieved what she wanted.

Your “fate” really does depend on the choices that you make. When random events happen, as they always will, do you choose to try to turn them to your advantage or just complain about them?

What’s Next?

Now that you’ve learned the 2 simple things you can do to take control of your fate and create your own luck. But this isn’t it! These simple techniques you’ve learned here are just part of the essential 7 Cornerstone Skills — a skillset that will give you the power to create permanent solutions to big problems in life — any problem in any area of your life!

If you think you’re “suffering from bad luck”, you can really change things up and start life over with these 7 Cornerstone Skills. It may even be a lot easier than you thought:

How to Start Over and Reboot Your Life When It Seems Too Late

Thomas Jefferson is said to have used these words:

“I’m a great believer in luck and I find the harder I work, the more I have of it.”

Your luck, in the end, is pretty much what you choose it to be.

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