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Things You Would Only Understand if You Have a Substance Abuse Disorder

Things You Would Only Understand if You Have a Substance Abuse Disorder

If you or someone you love suffers from a substance abuse disorder, you are definitely not alone. As a matter of fact, the Partnership for Drug-Free Kids (PFDK), over 200 million people use drugs globally.  But it is a complicated and difficult disease. Here are some things that you only truly understand if you have a substance abuse disorder:

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    You Can Have Problems with More than Just Alcohol and Drugs

    Use of drugs or alcohol is usually secondary to other serious chronic conditions or mental health issues such as anxiety, depression, bipolar disorder or post-traumatic stress disorder.  This can complicate the treatment process because these other health issues must be treated in order to help treat the addiction itself.  This is why rehabilitation often includes emotional counselling.

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    You did not Become an Addict Overnight

    Addiction is not a problem that pops up suddenly: often, it comes on slowly over a period of time.  Often, it happens as you build up a tolerance to a certain drug and eventually need more and more of it to get the same effect. Also, you can sometimes go from using “milder” drugs like alcohol or marijuana and then eventually go on to harder drugs such as cocaine or heroin.

    You have Many Reasons for Using

    The stereotype is that many drug abusers use just for the fun of it or to entertain themselves or for the pleasure of getting high. While some people do use recreationally, the reasons that lie behind use are often much more complicated.  You can use in order to help deal with stress or anxiety, to cope with traumatic life experiences or even to help you study better, lose weight or perform better in sports. This variety of reasons makes the treatment for complicated.

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      You Feel Like Your Life Centers Around Your Habit

      If you are addicted to alcohol or drugs, you often begin to feel like your entire life centers around your habit. Things that you enjoyed before — like sports or school or just being with friends or family — can suffer from your habit, but you feel like you will never be able to give it up even if it hurts the ones you love. Sometimes, all you can think about is where you can get your next hit.

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        You Feel Ashamed and Guilty — but Don’t Feel Like You can Quit

        When you abuse alcohol or drugs, this behavior can often go along with feelings of guilt or shame — but these feelings aren’t enough to make you stop your habit.  They can, however, be a source of great emotional distress — and this, in turn, can make the problem even worse.

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        You Don’t Know if You Can Handle Rehab

        While rehabilitation is the best way to break an addiction, it is also an incredibly stressful process, both emotionally and physically. One of the most difficult parts is the detoxification process, which seeks to clean the body of the drugs. During this process, the body reacts to the withdrawal of substances it has become used to and this reaction can be severe and involve reactions like headaches and body aches, joint pain, restlessness, sleep and appetite disturbances, nausea and vomiting and even more severe symptoms like seizures, hallucinations and even heart attacks or strokes.  This is why the process needs to take place under medical supervision.

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          You are Putting Your Body at Serious Risk

          Even apart from the potential for a fatal overdose, you are putting your body at serious risk when you use drugs, especially over a long period of time.  Drugs can damage the heart and kidneys as well as the brain and other parts of the central nervous system. It can also lead to malnutrition, which in turn can cause secondary problems like anemia or osteoporosis. Knowing this, however, is not always enough motivation to seek help.

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          In short, when you have a substance abuse disorder, you are suffering from a complicated disease with many potential causes — as well as many potential dangers, both emotional and physical. The good news is that rehab, with its combination of physical, emotional and mental treatment, can help you detoxify, get clean and stay clean in order to get back to a normal, healthy life.

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          Last Updated on July 10, 2020

          How to Take Control of Your Life with Better Boundaries

          How to Take Control of Your Life with Better Boundaries

          We all have them—those hurtful, frustrating, offensive, manipulative people in our lives. No matter how hard we try to surround ourselves with positive and kind people, there will always be those who will disrespect, insult, berate, and misuse you if we allow them to.

          We may, for a variety of reasons, not be able to avoid them, but we can determine how we interact with them and how we allow them to interact with us.

          So, how to take control of your life and stop being pushed around?

          Learning to set clear firm boundaries with the people in our lives at work and in our personal lives is the best way to protect ourselves from the negative effects of this kind of behavior.

          What Boundaries Are (And What They’re Not)

          Boundaries are limits

          —they are not threats or ultimatums. Boundaries inform or teach. They are not a form of punishment.

          Boundaries are firm lines—determined by you—which cannot be crossed by those around you. They are guidelines for how you will allow others to treat you and what kind of behaviors you will expect.

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          Healthy personal boundaries help protect you from physical or emotional pain. You may also need to set firm boundaries at work to ensure you and your time are not disrespected. Don’t allow others to take advantage of your kindness and generosity.

          Clear boundaries communicate to others that you demand respect and consideration—that you are willing to stand up for yourself and that you will not be a doormat for anyone. They are a “no trespassing” sign that makes it very clear when a line has been crossed and that there will be consequences for doing so.

          Boundaries are not set with the intention of changing other people. They may change how people interact with you, but they are more about enforcing your needs than attempting to change the general behavior and attitude of others.

          How to Establish Boundaries and Take Control of Your Life

          Here are some ways that you can establish boundaries and take control of your life.

          1. Self-Awareness Comes First

          Before you can establish boundaries with others, you first need to understand what your needs are.

          You are entitled to respect. You have the right to protect yourself from inappropriate or offensive behavior. Setting boundaries is a way of honoring your needs.

          To set appropriate boundaries, you need to be clear about what healthy behaviors look like—what healthy relationships look like.

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          You first have to become more aware of your feelings and honest with yourself about your expectations and what you feel is appropriate behavior:

          • Where do you need to establish better boundaries?
          • When do you feel disrespected?
          • When do you feel violated, frustrated, or angered by the behavior of others?
          • In what situations do you feel you are being mistreated or taken advantage of?
          • When do you want to be alone?
          • How much space do you need?

          You need to honor your own needs and boundaries before you can expect others to honor them. This allows you to take control of your life.

          2. Clear Communication Is Essential

          Inform others clearly and directly what your expectations are. It is essential to have clear communication if you want others to respect your boundaries. Explain in an honest and respectful tone what you find offensive or unacceptable.

          Many people simply aren’t aware that they are behaving inappropriately. They may never have been taught proper manners or consideration for others.

          3. Be Specific but Don’t Blame

          Taking a blaming or punishing attitude automatically puts people on the defensive. People will not listen when they feel attacked. It’s part of human nature.

          That said, you do not need to overexplain or defend yourself. Boundaries are not open to compromise.

          Sample language:

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          • “You may not…yell or raise your voice to me…”
          • “I need…to be treated with respect…”
          • “It’s not okay when…you take things from my desk without asking…”
          • “I won’t…do your work…cover for you anymore…”
          • “It’s not acceptable when…you ridicule or insult me…”
          • “I am uncomfortable when…you use offensive language”
          • “I will no longer be able to…lend you money…”

          Being able to communicate these without sounding accusatory is essential if you want others to respect your boundaries so you can take control of your life.

          4. Consequences Are Often Necessary

          Determine what the appropriate consequences will be when boundaries are crossed. If it’s appropriate, be clear about those consequences upfront when communicating those boundaries to others.

          Follow through. People won’t respect your boundaries if you don’t enforce them.

          Standing our ground and forcing consequences doesn’t come easily to us. We want to be nice. We want people to like us, but we shouldn’t have to trade our self-respect to gain friends or to achieve success.

          We may be tempted to let minor disrespect slide to avoid conflict, but as the familiar saying goes, “if you give people an inch, they’ll take a mile.”

          It’s much easier to address offensive or inappropriate behavior now than to wait until that behavior has gotten completely out of hand.

          It’s also important to remember that positive reinforcement is even more powerful than negative consequences. When people do alter the way they treat you, acknowledge it. Let people know that you notice and appreciate their efforts.

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          Final Thoughts

          Respect is always a valid reason for setting a boundary. Don’t defend yourself or your needs. Boundaries are often necessary to protect your time, your space, and your feelings. And these are essential if you want to take control of your life.

          Start with the easiest boundaries first. Setting boundaries is a skill that needs to be practiced. Enlist support from others if necessary. Inform people immediately when they have crossed the line.

          Don’t wait. Communicate politely and directly. Be clear about the consequences and follow them through.

          The better you become at setting your own boundaries, the better you become at recognizing and respecting the boundaries of others.

          Remember that establishing boundaries is your right. You are entitled to respect. You can’t control how other people behave, but you do have control over the way you allow people to treat you.

          Learning to set boundaries is not always easy, but with time, it will become more comfortable. You may eventually find that boundaries become automatic and you no longer need to consciously set them.

          They will simply become a natural extension of your self-respect.

          Featured photo credit: Thomas Kelley via unsplash.com

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