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Why Can Blogs Be Helpful?

Why Can Blogs Be Helpful?

Why should I start a Blog?

Blogging can get laborious and a longer term objective based site is more common. You want to write as much as a team of writers can, but you just can’t, so you have someone else do it. This is where it gets hard, but mostly people blog alone. Blogging can be therapeutic, and fun. You find perspective and happiness when you craft your world, or body of work. Sharing the creative expression of our personal thoughts has always been a desire, what better way to do it than write it down?

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    Whats the difference?

    The difference is, that’s the only time you will see the word “I”. Some novels are written from the first perspective of self, but this article won’t be, Blogs are like diaries, and vlogs are like a long movies about your life. There must be an objective of your blog, right? Whether you have one specific area of interest, or like to document the intricacies of your everyday life, blogging is the most personal creative writing you can do.

    Everyone does it

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      Industry specific blogs are so popular everyone has one on their site. Here are a List of 50 Successful blogs. There are more than enough people on the internet to drive a significant amount of traffic to your blog, and plenty of ways to do it. You can join communities of bloggers and social media groups, or why not make your own profiles dedicated to Blogging?

      My own experience with blogging

      The first day I started my blog was the most exciting. My followers on Twitter and Facebook wanted a first glance at the site they knew I would be posting about. You can check in my bio to view some of my recent posts. This fledgling blog is still in it’s infancy, but there are so many well established blogs out there with enough staying power for their creator’s to make money. During my own experiences with blogging I’ve found it can be challenging, but who doesn’t enjoy a challenge?

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      Blogging can be therapy for a broken heart, or a way to express a non amorous interest with creative expression, and devotion to certain things. Your cat may have a funny way of telling you that you shouldn’t have glasses that aren’t tipped over, or maybe you enjoy hot yoga. If more than two people enjoy something, you can be assured that there is someone out there blogging about it. If you can’t find a blog about something it is either highly illegal or no one else likes that. If you’re problem is the latter you need to get out more.

      You might be able to help someone special

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        All around the world people are logging in, and kids are growing up with computers now. A young Googler is taking his or her first steps into the web and typing their first words into a search engine. They would like it if they could find something helpful or personally meaningful to them. Kids might not be too mature in some ways but you would be surprised how well they can operate computers, or read your blog. Some of the older generations didn’t have the luxury advancing technology provides our children. Building our world wide networks and massive stores of information is time consuming, but there are billions of people inputting things into sites and your site could find many of them.

        It can be simple

        Blogging can be as short as a poem or as long as you want it to be. It doesn’t have to be something that consumes all of your time, but it can rewarding even if it’s just sharing your hobby with the world.

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        Last Updated on July 8, 2020

        How to Say No When You Say Yes Too Often

        How to Say No When You Say Yes Too Often

        Do you say yes so often that you realize you aren’t really happy about this, wondering how to say no to people?

        For years, I was a serial people pleaser. Known as someone who would step up, I would gladly make time especially when it came to volunteering for certain causes. I proudly carried this role all through grade school, college, even through law school. For years, I thought saying “no” meant I would disappoint a good friend or someone I respected.

        But somewhere along the way, I noticed I wasn’t quite living my life. Instead, I seem to have created a schedule that was a strange combination of meeting the expectations of others, what I thought I should be doing, and some of what I actually wanted to do. The result? I had a packed schedule that left me overwhelmed and unfulfilled.

        It took a long while but I learned the art of saying no. Saying ‘no’ meant I no longer catered fully to everyone else’s needs and could make more room for what I really wanted to do. Instead of cramming too much in, I chose to pursue what really mattered. I started to manage my time more around my own needs and interests. When that happened, I became a lot happier. And guess what? I hardly disappointed anyone.

        The Importance of Saying No

        When you learn the art of saying ‘no,’ you begin to look at the world differently. Rather than seeing all of the things you could or should be doing (and aren’t doing), you start to look at how to say yes to what’s important.

        In other words, you aren’t just reacting to what life throws at you. You seek the opportunities that move you to where you want to be.

        Successful people aren’t afraid to say no. Oprah Winfrey considered one of the most successful women in the world confessed that it was much later in life when she learned how to say no. Even after she had become internationally famous, she felt she had to say yes to virtually everything. It was only when she realized that after years of struggling with saying no, I finally got to this question: “What do I want?”

        Being able to say no also helps you manage your time better.

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        Warren Buffett views no as essential to his success. He said,

        “The difference between successful people and really successful people is that really successful people say no to almost everything.”

        When I made ‘no’ a part of my toolbox, I drove more of my own success focusing on fewer things and doing them well.

        How We Are Pressured to Say Yes

        It’s no wonder a lot of us find it hard to say ‘no.’

        From an early age, we are conditioned to say ‘yes.’ We said yes probably hundreds of time in order to graduate from high school and then get into college. We said yes to find work. We said yes get a promotion. We said yes to find love and then yes again to stay in a relationship. We said yes to find and keep friends.

        We say yes because it feels better to help someone. We say yes because it can seem like the right thing to do. We say yes because we think that is key to success. And we say yes because the request might come from someone who is hard to resist like the boss.

        And that’s not all. The pressure to say yes doesn’t just come from others. We put a lot of pressure on ourselves. At work, we say yes because we compare ourselves to others who seem to be doing more than we are. Outside of work, we say yes because we feel guilty we aren’t doing enough to spend time with family or friends.

        The message no matter where we turn is nearly always, “You really could be doing more.” The result? When people ask us for our time, we are heavily conditioned to say yes.

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        How to Say No Without Feeling Guilty

        Deciding to add the word ‘no’ to your toolbox is no small thing. Perhaps you already say ‘no’ but not as much as you would like. Maybe you have an instinct that if you were to learn the art of ‘no’ that you could finally create more time for things you care about. But let’s be honest, using the word ‘no’ doesn’t come easily for many people.

        The 3 Rules of Thumbs for Saying No

        1. You Need to Get Out of Your Comfort Zone

        Let’s face it. It is hard to say no. Setting boundaries around your time especially you haven’t done it much in the past will feel awkward.

        2. You Are the Air Traffic Controller of Your Time

        Remember that you are the only one who understands the demands for your time. Think about it, who else knows about all of the demands on your time? No one. Only you are at the center of all of these requests. are the only one that understands what time you really have.

        3. Saying ‘No’ Means Saying ‘Yes’ to Something That Matters

        When we decide not to do something, it means we can say yes to something else. You have a unique opportunity to decide how you spend your precious time.

        6 Ways to Start Saying No

        Incorporating that little word ‘no’ into your life can be transformational. Turning some things down will mean you can open doors to what really matters. Here are some essential tips to learn the art of no:

        1. Check in With Your Obligation Meter

        One of the biggest challenges to saying ‘no’ is a feeling of obligation. Do you feel you have a responsibility to say yes and worry that saying no reflect poorly on you?

        Ask yourself whether you truly have the duty to say yes. Check your assumptions or beliefs about whether you carry the responsibility to say yes. Turn it around and instead ask what duty you owe to yourself.

        2. Resist the Fear of Missing out (FOMO)

        Do you have a fear of missing out (FOMO)? FOMO can follow us around in so many ways. At work, we volunteer our time because we fear we won’t move ahead. In our personal lives, we agree to join the crowd because FOMO even while we ourselves aren’t enjoying the fun.

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        Check in with yourself. Are you saying yes because of FOMO or because you really want to say yes? More often than not, running after fear doesn’t make us feel better.

        3. Check Your Assumptions About What It Means to Say ‘No’

        Do you dread the reaction you will get if you say no? Often, we say ‘yes’ because we worry about how others will respond or the consequences of saying no or because of the consequences. We may be afraid to disappoint others or think we will lose respect from others. We often forget how much we are disappointing ourselves along the way.

        Keep in mind that saying ‘no’ can be exactly what is needed to send the right message that you have limited time. In the tips below, you will see how to communicate your no in a gentle and loving way. You might disappoint someone initially but drawing a boundary can bring you the freedom you need so that you can give freely of yourself when you truly want to.

        4. When the Request Comes In, Sit on It

        Sometimes, when we are in the moment, we instinctively agree. The request might make sense at first. Or we typically have said yes to this request in the past.

        Give yourself a little time to reflect on whether you really have the time, or can do the task properly. You may decide the best option is to say ‘no.’ There is no harm in giving yourself the time to decide.

        5. Communicate Your ‘No’ with Transparency and Kindness

        When you are ready to tell someone no, communicate your decision clearly. The message can be open and honest to ensure the recipient that your reasons have to do with your limited time.

        Resist the temptation not to respond or communicate all. But do not feel obligated to provide a lengthy account about why you are saying no.

        A clear communication with a short explanation is all that is needed. I have found it useful to tell people that I have many demands and need to be careful with how I allocate my time. I will sometimes say I really appreciate that they came to me and for them to check in again if the opportunity arises another time.

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        6. Consider How to Use a Modified ‘No’

        If you are under pressure to say yes but want to say no, you may want to consider downgrading a “yes” to a “yes but…” giving you an opportunity to condition your agreement to what works best for you.

        Sometimes, the condition can be to do the task but not in the time frame that was originally requested. Or perhaps you can do part of what has been asked.

        Final Thoughts

        Beginning right now, you can change how you respond to requests for your time. When the request comes in, take yourself off autopilot where you might normally say yes.

        Use the request as a fresh request to draw a healthy boundary around your time. Pay particular attention to when you place certain demands on yourself. If you are the one placing the demand on yourself, try to evaluate the demand as if it were coming from somewhere else.

        Try it now. Say no to a friend who continues to take advantage of your goodwill. Or, draw the line with a workaholic colleague and tell them you will complete the project but not by working all weekend. Or, tell someone in your family you can’t loan them money again because they never paid you back the last time. You’ll find yourself much happier.

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