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5 Essential Online Dating Tips You Need To Remember

5 Essential Online Dating Tips You Need To Remember

If you enter the dating arena with the right frame of mind and a willingness to just enjoy and embrace each dating experience for what it is, you will soon realize the many benefits that Internet dating has to offer.

Don’t limit yourself to famous dating apps — there are many more quality sites out there to try out. Do your research and don’t overlook the lesser-known sites. Here are some tips to help you make the best of your online dating experience.

1. Be honest with your profile

The most important thing to be considered for successful online dating is creating an honest, attractive profile.

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While choosing a profile picture, don’t use an older picture that makes you appear younger. Try to upload a recent picture and be as natural as possible so that your date will not be disappointed when he or she meets you for the first time. Nobody likes to be played. Exaggerating your achievements or posting only photoshopped pictures is a very short-term strategy, which will not only waste your and your partner’s time but will also probably lead to some embarrassment along the way.

If possible, use pictures taken on a recent vacation or some kind of photos in which you are enjoying a hobby. These kinds of pictures can be helpful for starting a conversation. Have a little brainstorm session with your friends and ask them which of your pictures is the best or ask them to take some photos for you.

2. Use a status line that states your purpose

If you can make it fun and clever, that would be an additional advantage for you. Just ensure that you don’t make your line so clever that the reader needs a decryption algorithm in order to understand what you mean. The status line should encourage potential mates to click on your profile and get to know more about you.

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Select an attractive username. Don’t use a mix of impossible numbers or characters. They don’t mean anything and people will be more drawn to you if they can actually remember your name.

3. Write a good description

In the description, write about 3 or 4 paragraphs. First state who you are and what you are looking for. Again, it is worth restating here, honesty is the best policy. Be creative and unique as much as possible. Don’t share too much of your personal life. Have a limit to how personal you want to get with strangers.

Try to be brief. You can create funny descriptions, but a description that’s too long may bore visitors. Once you are done with the description, read it for a second time and do a spell check.

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4. Ask questions

When writing your first message or email to a person you are interested in, spend more time asking questions than talking about yourself. Try to seem more engaged. You can also give compliments based on their profile like “You have a beautiful smile,” “Your profile is very interesting,” and so on.

5. Train your communication skills

One of the most important online dating tips is to work on your communication skills. Only when you impress a person with your words will you win your first date. Try to be polite and respectful while communicating.

The most common complaint received while online dating is that the person disappeared after a while. This is very disrespectful. If you want to stop talking to a person, be honest and politely state that you don’t wish to continue the relationship further.

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Confidence and honesty are the most important things that you need to have a successful relationship. By following the above online dating tips, you can improve your profile and your chances of finding your perfect partner.

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Last Updated on October 22, 2019

How to Get “I Can’t Do It” Out of Your Vocabulary

How to Get “I Can’t Do It” Out of Your Vocabulary

When someone says, “I can’t do it” . . . I say to myself, “What do you mean you can’t do it?” Maybe you don’t want to do it, but saying you “can’t” do it is a completely different story.

With the right mindset, positive attitude, and a clear vision of what you want to accomplish, the only thing that is holding you back is yourself.

Can’t is a terrible word and it has to be taken out of your vocabulary.

By saying you can’t do something, you’re already doubting yourself, submitting to defeat, and you’re making that barrier around your life tighter.

So today, right now, we are going to remove this word for good.

From now on there is nothing we can’t do.

“Attitude is Tattoo”

Your attitude is everything; it’s your reason, your why and how, your facial expression, emotions, body language, and potentially the end result. How you approach an opportunity, and the result of it, is solely based on you — not your boss or your co-worker or friend.

If you enter a business meeting with a sour attitude, that negative energy can spread like wildfire. People can also feel it — maybe even taste it. This is not an impression you want to leave.

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Now imagine you enter a business meeting with a positive attitude, that whatever happens in here is going to be your result, in your control, not someone else’s. Of course, we can’t always win, but even if the outcome is negative, your attitude and perception can turn it into a positive. The question is: can you do it?

Of course you can, because there is nothing in this world you can’t do.

It’s much better to be known for your positive attitude — your poise, your energy, the reason why things go so well because you are able to maintain such character. A negative attitude is easy. It’s easy to complain, it’s easy to be mad, and it’s even easier to do nothing to change it.

When I say your “attitude is tattoo”, it sounds permanent. Tattoos can be removed, but that’s not the point. Your attitude is like a tattoo because you wear it. People can see it and sometimes, they will judge you on it. If you maintain a negative attitude, then it is permanent until you change it.

Change your attitude and I guarantee the results change as well.

Believe You Can Do It

Do you know why most people say “can’t” and doubt themselves before trying anything?

It’s our lack of self-confidence and fear on many different levels. The one thing we have to purge from ourselves is fear — fear of bad results, fear of change, fear of denial, fear of loss, the fear that makes us worry and lose sleep. Worrying is the same as going outside with an umbrella, waiting for rain to hit it. Stop worrying and move on.

Confidence is fragile: It builds up slowly, but can shatter like glass. Project your confidence and energy into believing in yourself. This is a very important and groundbreaking step — one that is usually the hardest to take. Start telling yourself you can do something, anything, and you will do it the best to your ability. Remove doubt, remove fear, and stick with positive energy.

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Embrace Failure

Do not fear failure. Do not run away from it. Face it, learn from it, grow, and take action. Just remember: You will never know success if you have never failed.

Your confidence will bolster after embracing these facts. You will be immune to demoralizing results, and instead you will find ways to fix it, improve upon it, and make it better than before. You will learn to never say “can’t,” and will realize how many more opportunities you can create by removing that one word.

Don’t let one simple and ugly word plague your confidence. You’re better and stronger than that.

Start Making the Change

But to actually start the process of change is very challenging.

Why is that?

Fear? Time? Don’t know how — or where — to start?

It’s hard because what we’re doing is unlearning what we know. We are used to doing things a certain way, and chances are we’ve been doing them for years.

So here are some ways that I avoid using the word “can’t”, and actually take the steps to put forth the change that I wish to see. I hope you can incorporate these methods into your life.

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Write down What You Want to Change

Write it on post-its, notecards, whatever makes you comfortable — something you will always see. I usually write mine on post-its and put them all over the wall behind my monitor so I always see them.

Tell a Friend and Talk About It

Discussing your goals, what you want to change, is very effective when you say it out loud and tell another person other than yourself. It’s almost like saying, hey, I bet I can do it — watch me.

When you fulfill that goal and tell your friend, it feels rewarding and will motivate you to do it again in a different aspect. Who knows? Maybe your friend adopts the same mindset as you.

Stop Yourself from Saying the Forbidden Word

Sometimes,I can’t control myself in public when I’m with friends, so I have to be careful with the words I use so I don’t embarrass or insult anyone.

Treat the word “can’t” as the worst word you can possibly use. Stop yourself from saying it, mid-sentence if you must, and turn your whole perspective around — you can do it, you will do it, and nothing is impossible!

Repetition, Repetition, Repetition

You think this change will be overnight? No way. This is a practice. Something you’re going to be doing for the rest of your life from now until forever.

As I said earlier, you are unlearning what you know. You know how easy it is to say you can’t do something, so by unlearning this easy practice, you’re self-disciplining yourself to live without boundaries.

Practice this everyday, a little at a time, and before you know it, the word can’t will not be part of your language.

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Do Anything That Can Relieve Your Uncertainty

When I catch myself saying I can’t do something or I don’t know something, looking up information on that action or subject, doing research, educating yourself, relieves that uncertainty.

Sometimes, we think we can’t do something because the whole idea of it seems too large. We skip the small steps in our head and only focus on the end.

Before you say you can’t do something, rewind and slow down a little bit. Focus on what the first step is, then the next. Take it a step at a time, and before you know it you will have done something you previously thought you couldn’t do.

Final Thoughts

You know what you must do. The first step is right now. Once you begin this habit, and really start noticing some change, you’ll realize the door to opportunity is everywhere.

The funny thing is: Those doors have always been there. The evil word that we no longer use put a veil over our eyes because that’s how powerful that word is.

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