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5 Essential Online Dating Tips You Need To Remember

5 Essential Online Dating Tips You Need To Remember

If you enter the dating arena with the right frame of mind and a willingness to just enjoy and embrace each dating experience for what it is, you will soon realize the many benefits that Internet dating has to offer.

Don’t limit yourself to famous dating apps — there are many more quality sites out there to try out. Do your research and don’t overlook the lesser-known sites. Here are some tips to help you make the best of your online dating experience.

1. Be honest with your profile

The most important thing to be considered for successful online dating is creating an honest, attractive profile.

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While choosing a profile picture, don’t use an older picture that makes you appear younger. Try to upload a recent picture and be as natural as possible so that your date will not be disappointed when he or she meets you for the first time. Nobody likes to be played. Exaggerating your achievements or posting only photoshopped pictures is a very short-term strategy, which will not only waste your and your partner’s time but will also probably lead to some embarrassment along the way.

If possible, use pictures taken on a recent vacation or some kind of photos in which you are enjoying a hobby. These kinds of pictures can be helpful for starting a conversation. Have a little brainstorm session with your friends and ask them which of your pictures is the best or ask them to take some photos for you.

2. Use a status line that states your purpose

If you can make it fun and clever, that would be an additional advantage for you. Just ensure that you don’t make your line so clever that the reader needs a decryption algorithm in order to understand what you mean. The status line should encourage potential mates to click on your profile and get to know more about you.

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Select an attractive username. Don’t use a mix of impossible numbers or characters. They don’t mean anything and people will be more drawn to you if they can actually remember your name.

3. Write a good description

In the description, write about 3 or 4 paragraphs. First state who you are and what you are looking for. Again, it is worth restating here, honesty is the best policy. Be creative and unique as much as possible. Don’t share too much of your personal life. Have a limit to how personal you want to get with strangers.

Try to be brief. You can create funny descriptions, but a description that’s too long may bore visitors. Once you are done with the description, read it for a second time and do a spell check.

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4. Ask questions

When writing your first message or email to a person you are interested in, spend more time asking questions than talking about yourself. Try to seem more engaged. You can also give compliments based on their profile like “You have a beautiful smile,” “Your profile is very interesting,” and so on.

5. Train your communication skills

One of the most important online dating tips is to work on your communication skills. Only when you impress a person with your words will you win your first date. Try to be polite and respectful while communicating.

The most common complaint received while online dating is that the person disappeared after a while. This is very disrespectful. If you want to stop talking to a person, be honest and politely state that you don’t wish to continue the relationship further.

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Confidence and honesty are the most important things that you need to have a successful relationship. By following the above online dating tips, you can improve your profile and your chances of finding your perfect partner.

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Last Updated on June 19, 2019

6 Ways to Be a Successful Risk Taker and Take More Chances

6 Ways to Be a Successful Risk Taker and Take More Chances

I’ve stood on the edge of my own personal cliffs many times. Each time I jumped, something different happened. There were risks that started off great, but eventually faded. There were risks that left me falling until I hit the ground. There were risks that started slow, but built into massive successes.

Every risk is different, but every risk is the same. You need to have some fundamentals ready before you jump, but not too many.

It wouldn’t be a risk if you knew everything that was about to happen, would it? Here’re 6 ways to be a successful risk taker.

1. Understand That Failure Is Going to Happen a Lot

It’s part of life. Everything we do has failure attached to it. All successful people have stories of massive failure attached to them. Thinking that your risk is going to be pain free and run as smooth as silk is insane.

Expect some pain and failure. Actually, expect a lot of it. Expect the sleepless nights with crazy thoughts of insecurity that leave you trembling under the covers. It’s going to happen, no matter how positive you are about the risk you are about to take.

When failure hits, the only options are to keep going or quit. If you expect falling into a meadow of flowers and frolicking unicorns, then you’re going to immediately quit once you realize that getting to that meadow requires you to go through a rock filled cave filled with hungry bats.

2. Trust the Muse

Writing a story isn’t a big risk. It’s really just a risk on my time. So when I start writing a story, I’m scared it will be time wasted. Of course, it never really is. Even if the story doesn’t turn out fabulous, I still practiced.

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When I’ve taken risks in my life, the successful ones always seemed to happen when I followed the muse. Steven Pressfield describes the muse,

“The Muse demands depth. Shallow does not work for her. If we’re seeking her help, we can’t stay in the kiddie end. When we work, we have to go hard and go deep.”

The muse is a goddess who wants our attention and wants us to work on our passion.

If you’re taking a risk in anything, it’s assumed that there is some passion built up behind that risk. That passion, deep inside you, is the muse. Trust it, focus on it, listen to it.

The most successful articles and stories I write are the ones I’ve focused all my attention on. There were no interruptions during their creative development. I didn’t check my phone or go watch my Twitter feed. I was fully engaged in my work.

Trust the muse, focus your attention on your risk, let the ideas and path develop themselves, and leave the distractions at the side of the road.

3. Remember to Be Authentic

Taking a risk and then turning into something you’re not, is only going to lead to disaster. Whether you are risking a new relationship or new opportunity, you must be yourself throughout the entire process.

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How many times have you acted like you loved something just because the men or woman you just started going out with loved it?

For example, I’m not an office worker. I have an incredibly hard time working in a confined timeline (ie. 9-5). That’s why I write. I can do it whenever the mood strikes, I don’t have somebody breathing down my neck, telling me that I’m five minutes late, or missed a comma somewhere. I don’t have to walk on eggshells wondering if what I’m writing will get me fired or make me lose a promotion. I can just be myself, period.

One girlfriend didn’t understand that. She believed solely in the 9-5 motto, specifically something in human resources because that was a very stable job. I was scared for my future, but I stuck with the relationship because of my own insecurities and acted like I would do it to make her happy.

Here’s a tip: NEVER take away from your happiness to make somebody else satisfied (note I didn’t say happy).

Making somebody else happy will make you happy. Doing something to satisfy somebody is murder on your soul.

4. Don’t Take Any Risks While You’re Not Clearheaded

I’d been considering the risk for a couple weeks. It all sounded good. I was 22 and I could be rich in a couple of years. That’s what they were selling me, anyways.

One night, while at a house party with some friends, I found myself at a computer. A couple of my friends were standing nearby and asked me what I was doing. I told them I was considering starting my own business and it was only going to cost me $1,500.

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Of course, when a bunch of drunk people are surrounded by more drunk people, things get enthusiastic. It sounded like the best business venture in the world to everybody, including me. So I signed up and gave them my credit card number.

A few painful months and close to $4,000 dollars lost later, I quit the business. I was young and fell into the pyramid scheme trap. It was an expensive drunk decision.

Drinking heavily and making decisions has a proven track record of failure. So when you have something important to decide, don’t let your emotions take over your brain.

5. Fully Understand What You’re Risking

It was the start of my baseball comeback. I got a tryout with a professional scout and killed it. After the tryout, he talked to my girlfriend and myself, making sure we understood I would be gone for up to 6 months at a time. That strain on the relationship could be tough.

We understood. I left to play ball, chose to stay in the city I played in, and a year later we broke up. Not because of baseball, see point 3 above. Taking big risks can have massive impacts on everything in your life from relationships to money. Know what you’re risking before you take the risk.

If you believe the risk will be worth it or you have the support you need from your family, then go ahead and make the leap.

You can get more guidance on how to take calculated risks from this article: How to Take Calculated Risk to Achieve More and Become Successful

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6. Remember This Is Your One Shot Only

As far as we know officially, this is our one shot at life, so why not take some risks?

The top thing people are saddened by on their deathbeds are these regrets. They wish they did more, asked that girl in the coffee shop out, spoke out when they should have, or did what they were passionate about.

Don’t regret. Learn and experience. Live. Take the risks you believe in. Be yourself and make the world a better place.

Now go ahead, take that risk and be successful at it!

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